Name: 6 個跡象表明你不是創傷 "獨立"，而是你的創傷 (6 Signs You’re Not Trauma “Independent”, It’s Your Trauma)
Uploaded: 2025-08-05T18:45:33.000Z
Duration: 5 min 28 s

Traumatic experiences can have a profound impact on an individual's psyche and coping mechanisms.

創傷經歷會對個人的心理和應對機制產生深遠影響。

While some people may display visible signs of distress or seek support from others, others may develop a hyper-independent attitude as a trauma response.

有些人可能會表現出明顯的痛苦跡象或尋求他人的支持，而有些人則可能會發展出一種過度獨立的態度，作為一種創傷反應。

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Psychologist Dr. Amy Marshall explains that this hyper-independence is a coping mechanism that emerges from the need to protect oneself from further pain and vulnerability.

心理學家艾米-馬歇爾博士（Dr. Amy Marshall）解釋說，這種過度依賴是一種應對機制，是為了保護自己免受進一步的痛苦和傷害。

And while independence is generally seen as a positive trait, hyper-independence can lead to isolation and emotional detachment, hindering the healing process.

雖然獨立通常被視為一種積極的特質，但過度獨立會導致孤立和情感疏離，阻礙康復過程。

So with that said, here's how we can find out whether our hyper-independence is actually a trauma response.

是以，我們可以通過以下方法來了解我們的過度依賴是否真的是一種創傷反應。

Reluctance to Seek Help According to counselor Dr. Joanne Frederick, traumatic experiences can lead to a belief that relying on others makes one vulnerable to further pain and disappointment, which often results in a strong reluctance to seek help.

不願尋求幫助 根據心理諮詢師喬安妮-弗雷德裡克博士的觀點，創傷經歷會讓人相信，依賴他人會讓自己更容易遭受痛苦和失望，這通常會導致人們極不願意尋求幫助。

If you have hyper-independence, you may distance yourself from others and avoid asking for help because you believe that you can handle everything on your own.

如果你過度獨立，你可能會疏遠他人，避免尋求幫助，因為你相信自己可以獨自處理所有事情。

This tendency to be overly self-reliant, however, exacerbates feelings of isolation and intensifies the trauma's emotional burden.

然而，這種過度自立的傾向會加劇孤獨感，加重創傷帶來的情感負擔。

Refusal to Accept Help Similar to our earlier point, even when offered genuine help or support, hyper-independent individuals often struggle to accept it, says Dr. Amy Marshall.

拒絕接受幫助 艾米-馬歇爾博士（Dr. Amy Marshall）說，與我們前面提到的觀點類似，即使得到了真正的幫助或支持，過度獨立的人往往也很難接受。

They may feel uncomfortable or even undeserving of it, as their trauma response convinces them that accepting help equates to weakness.

他們可能會覺得不舒服，甚至不值得幫助，因為他們的創傷反應讓他們相信接受幫助等同於軟弱。

Hyper-independent individuals often feel the need to be self-reliant to an extreme degree and may go to great lengths to prove that they can handle any challenge without assistance, even if it means neglecting their own well-being.

過度獨立的人常常覺得自己需要自力更生，甚至到了極端的程度，他們可能會不遺餘力地證明自己可以在沒有幫助的情況下應對任何挑戰，即使這意味著要忽視自己的幸福。

But these behaviors can quickly lead to loneliness, burnout, and emotional exhaustion.

但這些行為很快就會導致孤獨、倦怠和情感衰竭。

Difficulty Expressing Vulnerability Do you find it difficult to share your feelings and open up to others?

難以表達脆弱 你是否覺得難以分享自己的感受和向他人敞開心扉？

Does it make you feel weak and uncomfortable to show and express emotional vulnerability?

展示和表達情感的脆弱會讓你感到軟弱和不自在嗎？

People with hyper-independence, explains clinician Dr. Trish Kahawida, tend to have a protective barrier around their feelings, potentially caused by past experiences of abandonment, broken trust, or betrayal.

臨床醫生 Trish Kahawida 博士解釋說，過度獨立的人往往會在自己的感情周圍設置一道保護屏障，這可能是由過去被遺棄、失信或背叛的經歷造成的。

These negative experiences cause them to fear that opening up and allowing themselves to be vulnerable will only lead to judgment and rejection, and that they're better off suppressing their emotions instead.

這些負面經歷讓他們擔心，敞開心扉、允許自己脆弱只會招致評判和拒絕，與其這樣，還不如壓抑自己的情緒。

Emotional Self-Neglect Another telltale sign that you struggle with hyper-independence is if you become so focused on staying strong and self-sufficient that it leads you to neglect your own emotional needs.

情感上的自我忽視 你患上過度獨立症的另一個徵兆是，如果你過於專注於保持強大和自給自足，以至於忽視了自己的情感需求。

According to Dr. Marshall, this is usually the reason why people with hyper-independence suffer from chronic stress and burnout, because they tend to downplay their emotional needs in favor of prioritizing tasks, accomplishments, or helping others.

馬歇爾博士認為，這通常是過度獨立的人長期承受壓力和職業倦怠的原因，因為他們傾向於淡化自己的情感需求，而優先考慮任務、成就或幫助他人。

Examples of this behavior include not seeking emotional support, avoiding conversations about one's feelings, refusing to acknowledge one's own pain and struggles, and burying feelings deep inside, leading to emotional numbness and disconnection.

這種行為的例子包括不尋求情感支持、避免談論自己的感受、拒絕承認自己的痛苦和掙扎，以及將感受深埋於內心，從而導致情感麻木和斷裂。

Fear of Intimacy, Insecure Attachment Hyper-independence can also manifest as a fear of intimacy and deep emotional connections, says psychologist Dr. Annie Tennessergarn.

心理學家安妮-滕內瑟加恩（Annie Tennessergarn）博士說，對親密關係的恐懼、不安全的依戀 過度獨立也可能表現為對親密關係和深層情感聯繫的恐懼。

Forming close bonds with others requires vulnerability and trust, which can be daunting for someone who's experienced trauma.

與他人建立緊密的聯繫需要脆弱和信任，這對於經歷過創傷的人來說可能會很困難。

You may feel better keeping people at an emotional distance, to shield yourself from potential pain, but such guardedness hinders our ability to form meaningful connections with others and reinforces our need to rely solely on ourselves for support and validation.

與人保持情感上的距離，讓自己免受潛在的痛苦，你可能會感覺好一些，但這種戒備心理會阻礙我們與他人建立有意義的聯繫，強化我們僅靠自己來獲得支持和肯定的需要。

Constant Need for Control According to Dr. Marshall, if you've learned to cope with your trauma through hyper-independence, you probably dislike needing other people and having them need you too.

馬歇爾博士認為，如果你學會了通過過度獨立來應對創傷，那麼你可能不喜歡需要別人，也不喜歡別人也需要你。

You're of the firm belief that the only person we can trust and rely on completely is ourselves and expect others to feel the exact same way.

你堅信，我們唯一可以完全信任和依靠的人就是自己，並希望別人也有同樣的感覺。

As a result, you exhibit a strong need for control over your own life, which stems from a fear of unpredictability and vulnerability.

是以，你對控制自己的生活表現出強烈的需求，這種需求源於對不可預測性和脆弱性的恐懼。

You want to make all your choices on your own, you struggle to accept the input of others, and don't delegate tasks or collaborate well, for fear of failure or disappointment.

你希望自己做出所有選擇，你很難接受他人的意見，也不善於委派任務或合作，因為你害怕失敗或失望。

If you enjoyed this video, we also have a video on 5 ways trauma is keeping you single.

如果您喜歡這段視頻，我們還為您準備了一段視頻，內容是 "創傷讓您單身的 5 種方式"。

Recognizing its signs of hyper-independence is the first step to breaking free.

認識到其過度依賴的跡象是擺脫困境的第一步。

Seeking help from trauma-trained professionals facilitates the journey towards self-compassion and healthier relationships.

向受過心理創傷訓練的專業人士尋求幫助，有助於走向自我同情和更健康的人際關係。

Remember, healing from trauma is a courageous and transformative process, and no one should have to go through it alone.

請記住，治癒創傷是一個勇敢和轉變的過程，任何人都不應該獨自經歷這個過程。

Vulnerability is not a weakness, but a testament to human strength and resilience in facing life's challenges.

脆弱不是弱點，而是人類面對生活挑戰時的力量和韌性的證明。

So ask yourself, how can embracing vulnerability and seeking support from others empower you to heal and grow beyond your traumas?

是以，問問自己，擁抱脆弱，尋求他人的支持，如何才能讓自己癒合創傷，超越創傷，不斷成長？