Name: 你可能沒意識到的情感虐待！(該怎麼辦？) (Emotional Abuse You Didn’t Realize Was Happening (What To Do))
Uploaded: 2026-01-10T18:27:00.000Z
Duration: 7 min 16 s

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You're talking with someone you care about when they slip in a comment that hits a little too hard.

當你和關心的人哈拉時，他們不小心說了一句讓你覺得有點太過分的話。

大家都在笑，所以你也跟著笑。

這常常就是 emotional abuse 的開端。

Not with yelling or obvious cruelty, but with small moments that make you question yourself.

不是用吼叫或明顯的殘酷，而是用讓你質疑自己的小時刻。

A comment that leaves you doubting what you felt.

Most people brush these things off, but when they start, they can subtly and gradually wear you down.

但大多數人會覺得這些小事沒什麼，但當它們開始出現時，就會不知不覺地一點一滴地把你磨垮。

They chip away at your confidence, your boundaries, and even how you see yourself.

它們會一點一點地侵蝕你的 confidence、你的 boundaries，甚至你對自己的看法。

If you've been feeling drained or unsure around certain people, this video will help you understand what's going on and how to notice the early signs before they grow into something harder to escape.

如果你在某些人身邊感到 drained 或 unsure，這支影片會幫助你瞭解發生了什麼事，以及如何在這些 early signs 變成更難擺脫的事情之前就注意到它們。

So what are the signs that these moments are not just one offs?

那麼，要怎麼判斷這些時刻不是隻是 one offs 呢？

Here are the subtle warning signs many people miss.

這裡有一些許多人會忽略的 subtle warning signs。

Most people expect emotional abuse to be loud and dramatic Someone yelling, insulting you, or making threats.

大多數人認為 emotional abuse 應該是很大聲、很戲劇化的，像是有人在吼叫、侮辱你或威脅你。

But the truth is, emotional abuse is often quiet.

但事實上，emotional abuse 常常是很安靜的。

It can be any harmful words or behaviors meant to exert power and control over you.

任何意圖對你 exert power 和 control 的 harmful words 或 behaviors 都可能算。

Here are some examples of red flags people often Helpful criticism that is not actually helpful.

這裡有一些 red flags，人們常常會把不是真的 helpful criticism 當成 helpful criticism。

Do they disguise hurtful comments as jokes or honesty?

他們會把 hurtful comments 包裝成開玩笑或誠實話嗎？

Your choices, hobbies, friends or appearance?

你的選擇、興趣、朋友或外表？

But if you react, rush to tell you relax because they're just kidding.

但如果你有反應，他們又會急著跟你說放鬆點，因為他們只是在開玩笑。

It's a way to tear you down while pretending they didn't mean to hurt you.

這是一種在假裝沒想傷害你的同時，把你 chip away 的方式。

他們甜言蜜語，直到他們不是。

They give you affection, compliments or support, but

他們會給你關愛、稱讚或支持，但

only when it benefits them or keeps you attached or dependent on them.

只有在對他們有利，或是讓你依賴他們的時候。

One day they're warm and attentive, the next they're cold or irritable and you have no idea why.

有一天他們很熱情、很關心你，隔天就變得冷淡或易怒，而你完全不知道為什麼。

You start overthinking everything, trying harder and harder to keep the peace.

你開始過度思考所有事情，努力想維持和平。

Even though they never tell you what you supposedly did wrong, you feel like you're always walking on eggshells.

即使他們從來沒告訴你到底做錯了什麼，你卻覺得自己總是在小心翼翼。

They punish you with silence, distance, or coldness.

他們用沉默、距離或冷淡來懲罰你。

Their attention becomes a reward you get only when you behave the way they want.

他們的關注變成了一種獎勵，只有在你照他們想要的方式表現時才能得到。

Sometimes it's disguised as a joke, a teasing comment, or a moment where they didn't mean to embarrass you.

有時候，這偽裝成一個玩笑、一句開玩笑的評論，或是他們無意間讓你難堪的時刻。

Maybe they make fun of your insecurities in front of other people or mock your feelings when you open up.

也許他們在別人面前嘲笑你的不安全感，或是在你敞開心扉時嘲弄你的感受。

Either way, when someone repeatedly puts you down, even subtly, they can chip away at your sense of self worth, making you easier to control.

不管怎樣，當有人不斷地貶低你，即使是巧妙地，他們也會一點一滴地侵蝕你的自我價值感，讓你更容易被控制。

This one can be confusing because at first glance, it sounds like normal conflict.

這點可能讓人搞不清楚，因為乍看之下，聽起來就像一般的爭執。

But what makes it abusive is the pattern and the intention behind it.

但讓它變成情感虐待的是這種模式和背後的意圖。

If someone constantly threatens to leave whenever you don't obey, agree, or give in, that's not communication.

如果有人在你沒有順從、同意或讓步時，就一直威脅要離開，那不是溝通。

These signs may seem small on their own, but emotional abuse is about patterns, not isolated incidents.

這些跡象單獨來看可能很小，但情感虐待是關於模式，而不是孤立的事件。

One of the hardest truths to accept is most people don't ignore emotional abuse because they're weak.

最難接受的真相之一是，大多數人不是因為軟弱而忽略情感虐待。

They ignore it because the brain is wired to protect what feels familiar, even when that familiarity hurts.

他們會忽略，是因為我們的大腦天生就會保護那些感覺熟悉的事物，即使那份熟悉感會帶來傷害。

emotional abuse 常常是從很細微的地方開始的。

Maybe the first comment felt like a joke.

也許一開始那句話聽起來像個玩笑。

Maybe the first silent treatment felt like space.

也許一開始的冷戰只是覺得需要空間。

Maybe the first lie felt like a misunderstanding.

也許一開始的謊言只是個誤會。

So instead of calling it abuse, you explained it away.

所以你沒有把它看成是虐待，而是替對方找藉口。

他們只是壓力大，他們只是很累。

Your brain looks for the safest explanation.

我們的大腦會尋找最安全的解釋。

Psychologists call this cognitive dissonance.

心理學家稱這種現象為認知失調。

When what you're experiencing doesn't match what you want to believe, then to reduce the discomfort, you twist your reality until it feels survivable.

當你經歷的和你想要相信的不符時，為了減輕不舒服，你會扭曲現實，直到感覺可以承受。

Or cling to the good moments to justify the painful ones.

或是緊抓著美好的時光，來合理化痛苦的時刻。

The cycle keeps you too confused to leave and too hopeful to let go.

這個循環讓你太困惑而無法離開，又太抱希望而無法放手。

If you've ever stayed longer than you should have, please hear this.

如果你曾經待得比該待的時間還久，請聽我說。

It doesn't mean you're broken, and it means you're human.

這不代表你壞掉了，這代表你是個人。

Your brain was trying to protect you the only way it knew how, by holding on.

你的大腦試圖用牠唯一知道的方式保護你，那就是緊抓不放。

But if you're starting to see things, you're already taking the first brave step, acknowledging that something is wrong.

但如果你開始看清事實，這就代表你已經踏出了勇敢的第一步，承認事情不對勁了。

Emotional abuse thrives in confusion and silence.

emotional abuse 在混亂和沉默中滋長。

Awareness creates distance, and distance helps you think more clearly.

覺察能產生距離，距離能讓你思考得更清楚。

You can express your feelings, but you can't convince someone to stop abusing you.

你可以表達你的感受，但你無法說服別人停止虐待你。

Protect your energy instead of trying to win their understanding.

與其試圖贏得他們的理解，不如保護你的能量。

A real boundary is not a request, it is an action.

真正的界線不是請求，而是行動。

Instead of don't talk to me like that, say if you talk to me like that, I will leave the conversation and 5 focus on strengthening yourself, not on saving them.

與其說「不要這樣跟我說話」，不如說「如果你這樣跟我說話，我會離開對話」，並專注於強化自己，而不是拯救他們。

You can't control their choices, their actions, or the way they treat you, but

你無法控制他們的選擇、他們的行為，或他們對待你的方式，但

you can control the care, protection and compassion you give to yourself.

你可以控制你給予自己的關懷、保護和同情。

When you pour energy back into your own resilience, boundaries and self worth, you slowly build a sense of safety that does not depend on anyone else.

當你將能量重新注入自己的韌性、界線和自我價值時，你會慢慢建立起一種不依賴任何人的安全感。