Name: 虐待的 5 個階段，第 3 階段最危險 (5 Stages of Abuse, 3 Is The Most Dangerous)
Uploaded: 2025-05-08T02:54:47.000Z
Duration: 7 min 9 s

情態副詞

If someone in your life makes you doubt your memory, reactions, or even your own worth, it's probably not just in your head.

如果生活中有人讓你懷疑自己的記憶力、反應力，甚至懷疑自己的價值，那可能不僅僅是你的想法。

Sometimes it hides behind charm, affection, and love.

有時，它隱藏在魅力、親情和愛的背後。

At Psych2Go, we're here to support you on your healing journey.

在 Psych2Go，我們將在您的康復之路上為您提供支持。

Our mission is to offer insight and tools to help you feel seen, heard, and empowered, whether you're navigating trauma or seeking emotional clarity.

我們的使命是提供洞察力和工具，幫助你感受到被看見、被傾聽、被賦權，無論你是在經歷創傷還是在尋求情感上的清晰。

You're not alone, and we're here with you every step of the way.

你並不孤單，每一步我們都與你同在。

This video breaks down the five stages of abuse, including the most dangerous one, so you can stop blaming yourself and start seeing the pattern clearly.

這段視頻分解了虐待的五個階段，包括最危險的一個階段，讓你不再自責，開始看清虐待的模式。

Because once you can name it, you can begin to break it.

因為一旦你能說出它的名字，你就能開始打破它。

In 1979, psychologist Dr. Lenore Walker interviewed hundreds of survivors of domestic violence and discovered a repeating emotional pattern in abusive relationships aren't always linear, but they tend to repeat in loops.

1979 年，心理學家萊諾爾-沃克博士採訪了數百名家庭暴力倖存者，發現虐待關係中存在一種重複的情感模式，這種模式並不總是線性的，但往往會循環往復。

Emotional, psychological, verbal, financial, and physical abuse all show up in this cycle.

情感、心理、言語、經濟和身體上的虐待都會在這個循環中顯現出來。

Once you understand it, you can begin to see through the confusion and reclaim your power.

一旦你理解了它，你就能開始看穿困惑，重新獲得力量。

In the beginning, everything feels perfect.

They shower you with love, attention, compliments, even gifts.

他們會給你關愛、關注、讚美，甚至禮物。

You feel seen, chosen, and deeply wanted during a vulnerable time in your life.

在你生命中脆弱的時刻，你會感到自己被看見、被選擇、被深深需要。

You're grieving, burnt out, or just feeling unseen.

你在悲傷、焦慮，或者只是覺得自己被忽視了。

And this person seems to offer comfort, stability, and devotion.

而這個人似乎能提供安慰、穩定和奉獻。

The intensity is designed to bond you to them quickly.

這種強度的設計是為了讓你迅速與它們建立聯繫。

So when things shift, you'll cling to what you thought the relationship was.

是以，當事情發生變化時，你會堅持你所認為的關係。

You feel like you're walking on eggshells.

Their tone sharpens, their patience shortens.

他們的語氣變得尖銳，他們的耐心變得短暫。

You begin adjusting your behavior to avoid setting them off.

你開始調整自己的行為，以避免觸發它們。

Sarcastic remarks, dismissive jokes, or sudden coldness leave you unsettled.

諷刺性的話語、輕蔑的玩笑或突然的冷淡都會讓你感到不安。

You blame yourself, thinking maybe you're the problem.

你責怪自己，認為問題可能出在自己身上。

This is your body responding to emotional instability.

這是你的身體對情緒不穩定的反應。

If you cared about me, you'd do what I asked.

如果你關心我，你就會照我說的做。

These comments slowly erode your self-trust, and they prepare you to doubt your instincts when the real harm begins.

這些評論會慢慢侵蝕你的自我信任，讓你在真正受到傷害時懷疑自己的直覺。

Stage three, the incident, the most dangerous stage.

第三階段，事件，最危險的階段。

This is where the tension erupts into harm.

這就是緊張局勢爆發為傷害的地方。

It can look like verbal abuse, name-calling, threats, yelling, emotional abuse, silent treatment, withdrawal, isolation, financial abuse, taking or controlling your money, physical violence, throwing objects, slamming doors, hitting, or psychological abuse, guilt-tripping, manipulation, gaslighting.

它可能表現為辱罵、罵人、威脅、吼叫、情感虐待、沉默對待、退縮、孤立、經濟虐待、拿走或控制你的錢、身體暴力、扔東西、摔門、打人，或者心理虐待、內疚、操縱、煤氣燈。

Gaslighting especially is designed to sever your connection to your inner truth.

尤其是 "毒氣療法"，其目的是切斷你與內心真相的聯繫。

If you stand up for yourself, they'll twist your words, deny what happened, or make you feel irrational.

如果你站出來為自己說話，他們就會扭曲你的話，否認所發生的一切，或讓你覺得自己無理取鬧。

It stands for deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender.

它代表否認、攻擊以及受害者和犯罪者的反向。

It's a manipulation tactic where someone denies their harmful behavior, attacks the person pointing it out, and then shifts the blame onto the victim, making them seem like the wrongdoer.

這是一種操縱策略，即某人否認自己的有害行為，攻擊指出其有害行為的人，然後將責任推給受害者，讓他們看起來像是不法行為者。

This is often used to avoid accountability and confuse the situation.

這往往被用來逃避責任，混淆視聽。

You might start thinking, maybe I did overreact.

你可能會想，也許我確實反應過度了。

Gaslighting is meant to break your trust in yourself, and that damage doesn't heal overnight, but healing is possible.

煤氣燈是為了打破你對自己的信任，這種傷害不會在一夜之間痊癒，但痊癒是可能的。

It's just buried under layers of survival.

This stage is the most dangerous because it's when the abuse escalates and you lose yourself and your self-trust, which binds you to the abuser.

這個階段是最危險的，因為這時虐待會升級，你會失去自我，失去自我信任，從而與施虐者捆綁在一起。

But even when part of you can see the manipulation and unfairness and wants to leave, this next stage makes it difficult because of stage four, reconciliation.

但是，即使你的一部分意識到了操縱和不公平，想要離開，下一階段也會因為第四階段--和解--而變得困難重重。

After the incident, the abuser often becomes affectionate again, apologizing, crying, or blaming stress.

事件發生後，施虐者往往會再次變得親暱、道歉、哭泣或責怪壓力。

你可能會聽到，你知道我愛你。

他們的善意可能會讓人感到欣慰。

The highs and lows become emotionally addictive.

That's trauma bonding, when the brain links affection to relief after pain.

這就是創傷聯結，當大腦將親情與痛苦後的解脫聯繫在一起時。

You start craving their love to heal the harm they caused, but this isn't love.

你開始渴望得到他們的愛，以治癒他們造成的傷害，但這不是愛。

And once you understand that, the illusion starts to crack.

一旦你明白了這一點，幻覺就會開始破滅。

They may act attentive again, or at least stop the harm.

他們可能會再次表現得很細心，或者至少會停止傷害。

You start to think maybe it was a one-time thing.

你會開始想，也許這只是一次性的。

During this time, the abuser often minimizes what happened, blames you or outside stress, makes excuses or avoids accountability.

在此期間，施虐者往往會將所發生的事情最小化，將責任歸咎於你或外界壓力，尋找藉口或逃避責任。

This is when learned helplessness sets in.

這時，"習得性無助 "就會出現。

You've tried talking, compromising, pleasing, nothing worked.

你嘗試過談話、妥協、討好，但都沒有用。

And so part of you starts to believe there's no point trying anymore.

於是，你的一部分人開始認為，再努力也沒有意義了。

The longer the cycle continues, the harder it becomes to see the exit, but clarity can change everything.

循環的時間越長，就越難看到出口，但清晰的思路可以改變一切。

If any part of this cycle feels familiar to you, please know you're not crazy and you're not weak and you are absolutely not to blame.

如果你對這個循環的任何部分感到熟悉，請知道你並沒有瘋，你並不軟弱，你也絕對不應該受到責備。

You've been surviving something that was designed to confuse you and survival can make you do whatever it takes to stay safe, including doubting yourself.

你一直在經受著一些旨在迷惑你的事情，而生存會讓你不惜一切代價保持安全，包括懷疑自己。

You can feel safe in your own mind and body and you can begin again.

你可以在自己的身心中感到安全，你可以重新開始。

Even watching this video is a step toward truth, toward safety, toward you.

即使觀看這段視頻，也是向真理、向安全、向你邁出的一步。

Have you ever seen or experienced a relationship like this?

你見過或經歷過這樣的關係嗎？

If you feel safe doing so, share your story in the comments below.

如果您覺得這樣做安全，請在下面的評論中分享您的故事。

Your truth may help someone else find theirs.

你的真理可能會幫助別人找到自己的真理。

If this video brought you clarity, please like it, share it, and subscribe for more insight, validation, and healing.

如果這段視頻讓你豁然開朗，請點贊、分享和訂閱，以獲得更多洞察、驗證和治癒。

Your presence helps us grow a more compassionate and informed community.

您的參與有助於我們建設一個更富有同情心、更知情的社區。

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