Name: 慾望的4個階段，大多數人止步於2！ (4 Stages of Lust, Most People Stop At 2)
Uploaded: 2026-02-11T18:22:24.000Z
Duration: 5 min 51 s

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Have you ever met someone and your brain immediately goes, yep, I'm about to be weird about this person.

你有沒有遇過一個人，然後你的大腦就立刻說，嗯，我要為這個人變得有點奇怪了。

Like you don't even know their middle name.

就像你連他們的名字都不知道。

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But suddenly they consume your thoughts and even the mention of their name makes you blush.

但突然間他們就佔據了你的想法，連提到他們的名字都會讓你臉紅。

And before you judge yourself for it, lust is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

在你為此評判自己之前，慾望是正常的，沒什麼好羞恥的。

It's your brain's way of saying, I'm drawn to you.

這是你大腦在說，我被你吸引了。

It can be fun, exhilarating, and honestly, a little chaotic.

這可以是有趣的、令人興奮的，而且說實話，有點混亂。

And if you don't recognize what stage you're in, you might confuse the intensity with love or sexual chemistry with genuine compatibility.

如果你沒辨識出自己處於哪個階段，你可能會把強度誤認為愛，或把性吸引力誤認為真實的契合度。

So here are four stages of lust, what they can feel like, and

所以這裡有慾望的四個階段，它們的感覺，以及

how to tell if you're building something real or just getting dragged around by your own nervous system.

如何判斷你是在建立真實的關係，還是隻是被你的神經系統牽著走。

This is the moment your attention locks on.

這是你的注意力被鎖定的時刻。

Maybe it's the way they look at you, the way they laugh, their voice, their style, their vibe.

也許是他們看你的方式、他們笑的方式、他們的聲音、他們的風格、他們的氛圍。

Or sometimes it's literally just the way they exist in a room.

或者有時候，就是他們在房間裡的存在方式。

And your brain is like, hello, new favorite person.

然後你的大腦就說，哈囉，新歡出現了。

In this stage, your body often reacts before your logic catches up.

在這個階段，你的身體反應常常比你的邏輯還快。

You might feel warmer, more alert, more energized.

你可能會感覺更溫暖、更警覺、更有活力。

一個想法是，我想更靠近他們。

The tricky part is that the spark doesn't mean you're compatible.

棘手的地方是，火花不代表你們契合。

And it definitely doesn't mean that you found your soulmate.

It just means your brain noticed something rewarding, novel or attractive.

這只是代表你的大腦注意到了一些有益的、新奇的或吸引人的事物。

That feeling of nearness when you meet someone you're attracted to can be intoxicating and even confusing.

當你遇到讓你心動的人時，那種親近的感覺可能會讓人陶醉，甚至感到困惑。

A helpful question in this stage, Am I attracted to who they are or to the image I created of them in my head?

在這個階段，一個有幫助的問題是：我是被他們本身吸引，還是被我在腦中為他們創造的形象吸引？

Sometimes the fantasy or idea of someone is what drives us, not the actual person.

有時候，驅使我們的是對某人的幻想或想法，而不是那個人本身。

If the spark is the match, infatuation is the fire.

如果火花是火柴，那麼迷戀就是火焰。

It sounds dangerous, because sometimes it is.

這聽起來有點危險，因為有時候確實是這樣。

This is when you start overthinking everything about them.

這時候你會開始過度思考關於對方的所有事情。

You replay conversations, you reread messages.

你會一遍又一遍地回想對話，一遍又一遍地重讀訊息。

You analyze their tone and body language like you're decoding secret government files.

你會分析他們的語氣和肢體語言，就像在破解國家機密文件一樣。

然後一些小事就會變得非常、非常重大。

A late reply feels like it's the end of the world.

一個遲來的回覆感覺就像世界末日。

Infatuation can feel amazing because the novelty of a new crush literally activates all the feel good chemicals in the brain.

迷戀的感覺可能超讚，因為一段新戀情的新鮮感，真的會啟動大腦裡所有讓你感覺良好的化學物質。

And every time the brain is in search of a little dopamine, it becomes wired to think about that special someone.

每當大腦尋找一點多巴胺時，它就會被連結到想到那個特別的人。

The uncertainty, the possibility that's how the chase begins.

那種不確定性、那種可能性，這就是追求的開始。

And not only that, infatuation also loves filling in blanks.

而且不只這樣，迷戀還喜歡填補空白。

When you don't know someone well, your mind will try to finish the story for you.

當你不太瞭解一個人時，你的大腦會試著幫你把故事說完。

You build a whole character based on limited data and put them on a pedestal.

你會根據有限的資料建構一個完整的人物，並將他們捧上神壇。

Sometimes the person you're falling for is half real and half your brain being a creative Stage three Climax this is the peak of intensity emotionally, physically, or both.

有時候，你愛上的人有一半是真實的，另一半是大腦在進行創意想像。第三階段的高潮，是情感上、生理上，或兩者兼具的強度巔峰。

At this stage, desire is no longer subtle.

在這個階段，慾望不再是若有似無。

Your thoughts, emotions, and body are fully involved.

你的想法、情緒和身體都完全投入。

You might feel a strong urge to be close to them, impress them, or secure their attention at all costs.

你可能會強烈渴望靠近他們、讓他們印象深刻，或是不計一切代價爭取他們的注意。

在這裡，界線可能會開始模糊。

You might rationalize behavior you normally would not accept.

你可能會合理化平常不會接受的行為。

You might prioritize their validation over your own comfort, needs or values.

你可能會把他們的認可看得比你自己的舒適、需求或價值觀還重要。

Because when lust reaches its climax, the brain isn't focused on long term compatibility.

因為當慾望達到高潮時，大腦不會專注於長期的契合度。

Relief from not knowing where you stand and if the connection is mutual and healthy.

從不知道自己的立場，以及這段連結是否互相且健康中舒緩。

This stage can feel exciting and affirming.

這個階段會讓人感覺很興奮且有肯定感。

But if it's inconsistent, unavailable, or one sided, it can leave you feeling anxious, attached, and

但如果它時好時壞、難以捉摸，或是一廂情願，可能會讓你感到焦慮、依戀，而

Am I choosing this person or am I reacting to the intensity of wanting them?

是我在選擇這個人，還是我被強烈的慾望所吸引？

Stage 4 clarity eventually the fog lifts, the chemical high settles down, and

第四階段的清晰，濃霧終於散去，化學反應的高潮也漸漸平息，

you're finally able to see the person more clearly without the fantasy filter, without the constant adrenaline.

你終於能更清楚地看見這個人，不再有幻想的濾鏡，也不再有持續的腎上腺素。

This is the stage where lust either transforms or fades.

You start noticing things you overlooked before their communication style, how they handle conflict, whether their actions match their words.

你會開始注意到以前忽略的事情，像是他們的溝通方式、處理衝突的態度，以及他們的言行是否一致。

Whether you actually feel safe, respected, and emotionally regulated around them.

你是否真的感覺安全、被尊重，並且和他們相處時情緒穩定。

For some connections, clarity brings disappointment.

有些關係，清晰的到來反而帶來失望。

The attraction was real, but the compatibility wasn't, and that's okay.

吸引力是真實的，但契合度卻不是，而這也沒關係。

For others, clarity brings something attraction that's grounded, mutual, and supported by real emotional connection.

對其他人來說，清晰會帶來一種實際、相互且有真實情感連結支持的吸引力。

Clarity helps you decide whether to stay, because lust is about desire.

清晰幫助你決定是否留下，因為慾望是關於慾望。

But clarity is about choice, and knowing the difference can save you a lot of emotional whiplash.

但清晰是關於選擇，知道差別可以省去你很多情感上的衝擊。

Have you ever noticed yourself moving through any of these stages?

你是否曾經注意到自己經歷過這些階段中的任何一個？

Or maybe you realized you were stuck in one longer than you expected?

或者你發現自己卡在某個階段的時間比預期的還長？

Understanding lust doesn't mean shutting it down or feeling ashamed of it.

瞭解慾望並不代表要壓抑它或對它感到羞恥。

It just means learning how your mind and body respond to attraction so you can make choices that actually serve you.

這只是意味著學習你的大腦和身體如何回應吸引力，這樣你才能做出真正對你有益的選擇。

Because when you can tell the difference between intensity and intimacy, you give yourself the power to build connections that feel exciting and emotionally safe.

因為當你能辨識強度與親密感之間的差異時，你就賦予自己力量去建立既令人興奮又情感安全的連結。

If you found this helpful, give this video a Like Share it with someone who might need it and let us know in the comments which stage surprised you the most.

如果你覺得這個影片有幫助，請按讚並分享給你可能需要的朋友，並在留言區告訴我們哪個階段讓你最驚訝。

And as always, take care of yourself and we'll see you next time.

最後，請好好照顧自己，我們下次見。