Name: 不愛社交、不想出門不是怪癖！揭秘「愛待在家的人」背後的心理學！ (The Psychology of People Who Love Staying At Home)
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If you've ever been told that you need to get out mor,

如果你曾被告知應該多出去走走，

or ever felt judged for not being the life of the party,

或曾因為不是派對焦點而感到被評斷，

then you might have started wondering, what's wrong with me?

那你可能開始懷疑：我到底哪裡有問題？

What if I told you, though, that your craving to be home is actually a sign of your emotional intelligence?

但如果我告訴你，你渴望待在家的傾向，其實是情緒智力的表現呢？

I want to reframe everything that you thought you knew about rest, retreat, recharging.

我想重新定義你對「休息、退隱、充電」的一切既有認知。

And I want to explain to you why you're wired the way that you are.

也想向你解釋，為什麼你會被這樣「設定」。

And why you might actually be doing life better than everybody else.

以及為什麼你其實可能比大多數人更懂得好好過生活。

So let's talk about the psychology of people who love staying at home,

所以，我們來談談喜歡待在家裡的人的心理學，

and why they might actually be the ones that are doing it right.

以及為什麼他們反而可能才是「做對了」。

The first thing is that your nervous system feels safe when you're at home.

第一點是：當你在家時，你的神經系統感到安全。

We live in a chronically overstimulated world.

我們活在一個長期過度刺激的世界。

There's noise, there's notifications, there's obligations, there's other people's energy.

噪音、通知、責任、他人的能量無所不在。

And for some people, especially those that might have a history of trauma or ADHD or maybe even highly sensitive nervous systems,

對某些人來說，特別是有創傷經驗、ADHD，或高度敏感神經系統的人，

the outside world can feel like a constant assault on your senses.

外在世界就像是不斷衝擊感官的攻擊。

It's the nervous system finally getting a chance to rest and not feel like it has to be on guard.

那是你的神經系統終於能夠休息、不再時刻保持警戒的時刻。

那是你可以真正呼出一口氣的地方。

It's where you don't have to scan the room and perform for other people,

在那裡，你不需要觀察整個空間、為他人表現，

or brace for something that could be unexpected.

And so I want you to understand you're not weak.

所以我希望你明白，你並不軟弱。

You're just more intuitively wired to be aware of what you and your nervous system needs.

你只是更直覺地知道自己與神經系統真正需要什麼。

you are actually able to recharge through that solitude and not through socializing.

你其實是透過獨處來充電，而不是靠社交。

Introversion is not the same as being shy.

Introversion means that you lose energy around people, but you gain it in solitude.

內向代表的是：和人相處會消耗能量，獨處則能補充能量。

So, like extroverts, they get energy from being around people.

就像外向者從人群中獲得能量一樣。

Introverts get energy from being by themselves.

And if you're someone who notices everything, every facial expression, tone shifts,

如果你是那種會注意到每個細節的人，每個表情、語氣的變化，

甚至在別人開口前就察覺情緒，

then your brain is constantly absorbing all of that, and it can be too much.

那你的大腦一直在吸收這些資訊，很容易超載。

So by the time you get home, you're like, "I'm full. I need a rest."

所以當你回到家時，會覺得：「我已經滿了，我需要休息。」

And it's okay to rest and recharge in your safe space.

在你的安全空間裡休息、充電是完全沒問題的。

你需要的是更多的靜止與安定。

You're giving yourself what you need more than anything else.

So don't let anybody else try to change that.

所以別讓任何人試圖改變你這一點。

Hey, I want to interrupt today's episode to tell you about my sponsor.

嘿，我想先打斷一下今天的節目，介紹我的贊助者。

If you didn't know, I obviously have some coaching programs outside of the podcast to help you learn and grow and become a better version of yourself.

如果你不知道，我在播客之外也有一些教練課程，幫助你學習、成長，成為更好的自己。

Step-by-step programs and processes to help you become better in your life and create the life that you want.

一步一步的課程與流程，幫你打造理想生活。

If you want to learn more about it, you can go to coachwithrob.com.

如果你想了解更多，可以到 coachwithrob.com。

Once again, coachwithrob.com. Check it out and let's get back to the episode.

再說一次，coachwithrob.com。去看看吧，然後我們繼續這集節目。

And then the third thing is, at home is the first place that you might actually feel in control.

接著第三點是：家，可能是你第一次真正感覺自己掌握主控權的地方。

If you grew up in chaos, if you've ever walked on eggshells or lived in survival mode or felt like you're too much for other people,

如果你在混亂中長大，如果你曾如履薄冰、活在生存模式中，或總覺得自己對他人來說太多，

then you might have had a past where you felt like you never had control.

那你可能從未真正感覺過掌控感。

And so constantly, you had to be on guard or perform and be somebody else.

於是你必須時刻警戒、表演、成為別人期待的樣子。

Your home might be the first place that you finally get to say, "This is mine.

你的家，可能是你第一次能說：「這是我的空間。」

「這是我的規則。這裡是安全的。」

你可以按照自己的方式佈置空間。

You get to light the candles that you want.

You choose who gets in your house and who doesn't.

It's about being in a space where you're fully autonomous.

而是待在一個你完全自主的空間。

Maybe for the first time in your entire life.

And so let me be the first one to tell you, if that is you, then it's okay.

所以讓我先告訴你，如果你就是這樣的人，那也沒關係。

But here's where we actually get to go a little bit deeper.

Sometimes what protects you can also trap you as well.

有時候，保護你的東西，也可能困住你。

Are you staying at home because it nourishes you?

Or are you staying at home because you're afraid to be seen?

Because you can be safe and still growing.

You can protect your peace and still stretch your comfort zone.

你可以守護內在平靜，也能拓展舒適圈。

You know, you can stay at home and still live a big, bold life, but

你可以待在家，同時仍然過著宏大、勇敢的人生。

it starts with being honest about what you're actually in.

但一切都始於誠實面對你正在經歷的階段。

And to be honest, some of the most creative and driven and self-aware people that I know are homebodies.

老實說，我所認識最有創造力、最有行動力、最自覺的人，很多都是宅在家的人。

Because when you stop trying to keep up with the rest of the world,

因為當你不再試圖跟上世界的步伐，

you get to actually start creating a world that actually works for you.

你才真正開始打造適合自己的世界。

And if that makes people uncomfortable, good.

如果這讓別人感到不自在，那也挺好。

You weren't born to fit in in other people's paces.

你生來就不是為了迎合別人的節奏。

你生來就是要找到屬於自己的節奏。

Instead of forcing yourself to go out more to prove that you're doing okay,

與其強迫自己多出門證明自己一切都好，

start asking yourself a really important question:

不如開始問自己一個真正重要的問題：

What does my nervous system actually need right now?

我的神經系統現在真正需要什麼？

That one question asked consistently can change your entire life.

反覆問自己這個問題，就能改變你的一生。