Name: 最浪漫的話！讓對方瞬間融化！ (The Most Romantic Thing You Can Ever Say to Someone)
Uploaded: 2026-01-14T17:31:57.000Z
Duration: 4 min 36 s

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There are plenty of options that press themselves forward for consideration.

As the most romantic phrase we could ever utter to I will never leave you.

就像我們能對「我永遠不會離開你」說的最浪漫的一句話。

程度副詞

But we may need to go down another, more surprising, sterner route to really honour the inquiry.

但我們可能需要走另一條更令人驚訝、更嚴肅的路線，來真正回應這個問題。

If we define romantic in an affective sense, meaning helpful to the survival and enhancement of love, and

如果我們將浪漫定義為一種 affective sense，也就是有助於愛情生存和 enhancement of love，

then we may need a very different approach.

那麼我們可能需要一個非常不同的方法。

We may need a sentence if you ever stop being nice to me, I will leave you in short order.

我們可能需要一句話：「如果你對我不再好，我馬上就會離開。」

It may sound brutal on first reading, bitter, paranoid, a bit jumpy, far from what we imagine romantic to mean, there must be a mistake.

乍聽之下可能很殘酷，很苦澀，很偏執，有點緊張兮兮，這跟我們想像的浪漫意思差很多，一定有誤會。

But with a few ghastly experiences behind us, we'll know that this is precisely what we may need to say in a kindly but confident voice, if the qualities on display in the sweet opening moments of love tenderness, kindness, consideration, thoughtfulness, politeness, and

但經歷了一些 ghastly experiences 後，我們會知道，這正是我們可能需要用一種友善但自信的語氣說的話，如果愛情 sweet opening moments 展現出來的 qualities on display 是 tenderness、kindness、consideration、thoughtfulness、politeness，以及

not to give way in time to scratchiness, irritability, neglect and infidelity.

不會屈服於一時的抓狂、易怒、忽略和不忠。

It's a bitter truth that other people treat us more or less exactly in line with the way we imply that we can bear to be treated.

殘酷的真相是，別人對待我們的方式，或多或少都和我們暗示自己能忍受的程度一模一樣。

Lovers sense one another's limits and will push relentlessly forward and until they reach them.

情人們能感知彼此的底線，並會毫不留情地往前推進，直到觸碰到為止。

If we send out signals that we will reluctantly but passively take mystery, take unfair accusations, take a lack of effort, take canceled plans and take the constant intrusions of a gang of mean minded friends, then cruelly, this is precisely what we will end up having to deal with.

如果我們發出訊號，表示我們會勉強且被動地接受神祕感、不公平的指控、缺乏努力、取消的計畫，以及一群心術不正的朋友不斷的侵擾，那麼殘酷地說，這正是我們最終必須面對的。

Our furniture will be scratched, our fridge emptied, our patients exhausted, the human animal, in all its perversity and sinfulness, subtly, intuitively adjusts to precisely the expectations placed upon it by its partners.

我們的傢俱會被刮花，冰箱會被清空，耐心會被耗盡，人類這種動物，在其所有的悖逆和罪惡中，會巧妙地、直覺地適應伴侶對牠們設定的期望。

We do, as much as, and not a jot more than, we're called upon to do.

我們做的，就和被要求的一樣多，不多也不少。

We'll do manners when manners have been insisted upon, and we'll do casual, impudent disrespect when they haven't.

當別人堅持禮貌時，我們就會表現出禮貌；當別人沒有堅持時，我們就會表現出隨意、無禮的輕慢。

We'll do apologies when these have been set as the price of peace, and

當道歉被設定為和平的代價時，我們就會道歉，

otherwise will sulk and throw blame around.

As teachers with impeccably behaved classrooms have long known, the audience adjusts itself to whatever expectations have been defined.

正如擁有模範班級的老師們長久以來所知道的，觀眾會適應任何被定義好的期望。

Those who signal big consequences seldom have to mete them out.

那些預告嚴重後果的人，很少真的必須執行。

Surprisingly, though such intentions may sound harsh.

令人驚訝的是，儘管這些意圖聽起來很嚴厲。

They may even feel immensely grateful and more loved.

他們甚至可能感到非常感激，並且更被愛。

It can be profoundly reassuring to be in the presence of people who promise to protect us against our own sloppiness, who restrain our temptations to decadence, who are on the side of our more exigent hopes for ourselves.

能和那些承諾保護我們免於散漫、約束我們走向墮落的誘惑、並支持我們更嚴苛自我期許的人在一起，會讓人感到非常安心。

No child actually likes an adult who will let them do anything and nor does a lover.

沒有小孩真的喜歡一個什麼都讓他們做的成年人，戀人也是如此。

Half the population have known all this in their bones from the start.

一半的人從一開始就在骨子裡明白這一切。

The wisdom began on the first day of school.

這份智慧從開學第一天就開始了。

The don't let them mess around with you for a moment.

他們不會讓你被他們隨便擺布。

If they touch a hair on you, they won't know what hit them.

如果他們敢動你一根汗毛，他們就知道自己惹上什麼麻煩了。

Those who are protected by other people grow into native experts at protecting themselves.

被別人保護長大的人，會變成保護自己方面的專家。

But the rest of us, the ones who may have wasted a decade or two in shenanigans with sweet faced monsters, we need to learn the lessons the hard way.

但我們其他人，那些可能跟甜言蜜語的怪物們鬼混了十幾二十年的人，我們得要用比較辛苦的方式學到教訓。

From waking up in appalled wonder after our bank account has been emptied or our partner vanishes with someone they had an affair with online.

像是醒來後，發現銀行帳戶被掏空，或是伴侶跟網路上認識的人搞外遇後消失無蹤，這種令人震驚的體驗。

Those with a bad childhood must suffer twice.

童年不幸的人必須承受兩次痛苦。

The second from the expectations of ill treatment that they silently bring to bear upon their adult relationships.

第二次是他們默默地將過去的惡劣對待預期帶入成人關係中。

The next time we begin a love story, we must be immensely kind.

下一次我們開始一段戀情時，我們必須極度善良。

We must remember special occasions and send sensitive messages.

我們必須記住特別的日子，並傳送貼心的訊息。

But we must also defend ourselves with a lion's strength against their and our own temptation, temptations to cruelty.

但我們也要以獅子般的堅強力量，來抵擋他們和我們自己誘惑，也就是殘酷的誘惑。

We will only make love truly flourish by insisting very tenderly, very early on that we will simply tolerate nothing else.

我們要用非常溫柔、非常早期的堅持，來讓愛真正地蓬勃發展，我們絕對不能容忍別的。