Name: 大腦對「慾望」的錯誤認知！ (What Your Brain Gets Wrong About 'Desire')
Uploaded: 2025-11-07T18:37:57.000Z
Duration: 3 min 17 s

Have you ever felt drawn to someone and thought, why them of all people?

你有沒有過對某人產生好感，然後心想，為什麼是那個人？

Or maybe the spark disappeared the moment they liked you back.

又或者，在你被他們吸引的瞬間，那種火花就消失了。

Today we're diving into the psychology behind desire and why your brain often gets it completely wrong.

今天我們要深入探討慾望背後的心理學，以及為什麼我們的大腦常常會搞錯。

Let's start with Brain doesn't always know the difference between wanting and liking.

我們先從「大腦不總是分得清想要和喜歡的差別」開始。

When you see someone attracted, your dopamine system, the brain's reward center, lights up.

當你看到一個讓你心動的人，你的多巴胺系統，也就是大腦的獎勵中心，就會被點亮。

But dopamine isn't the pleasure chemical people think it is.

但多巴胺並不是大家以為的那種愉悅化學物質。

它會驅使你去追求，而不是去享受。

In one experiment by neuroscientist Kent Berridge, rats were given dopamine blockers.

神經科學家 Kent Berridge 的一項實驗中，老鼠被注射了多巴胺阻斷劑。

They stopped wanting rewards, but when food was placed in their mouths, they still liked it.

牠們不再渴望獎勵，但當食物被放到嘴裡時，牠們仍然喜歡。

Meaning the desire to chase is separate from the ability to enjoy.

這意味著追求的慾望與享受的能力是分開的。

So when you crave someone who doesn't like you back, that might just be your dopamine circuit romanticizing the chase.

所以，當你渴望一個不喜歡你的人時，那可能只是你的多巴胺迴路浪漫化了追逐的過程。

Your brain also falls for the novelty effect.

你的大腦也會被新奇效應所迷惑。

We're wired to find new experiences exciting because they release a burst of dopamine.

我們天生就覺得新的體驗很刺激，因為它們會釋放多巴胺。

That's why early crushes feel intoxicating.

這就是為什麼初戀的感覺如此令人陶醉。

Your brain is basically drunk on what if.

你的大腦基本上是沉醉在「如果…會怎樣」的想像中。

But once things get familiar, dopamine levels drop and serotonin steps in the calm, stable contentment chemical.

但一旦事情變得熟悉，多巴胺水準就會下降，血清素這個平靜、穩定的滿足化學物質就會介入。

Some people mistake that drop of intensity for boredom or losing interest, when in reality, it's just your brain shifting gears from lust to bonding.

有些人會誤以為這種強度下降是無聊或失去興趣，但事實上，這只是你的大腦從情慾轉向連結。

Ever notice how someone becomes 10 times more attractive when they're unavailable?

你是否曾注意到，當一個人變得無法獲得時，他會變得有吸引力十倍？

The less accessible something seems, the more valuable your brain thinks it is.

一樣東西越不容易獲得，你的大腦就認為它越有價值。

This happens because scarcity triggers our survival instinct, the fear of missing out, of losing a rare opportunity.

這是因為稀缺性會觸發我們的生存本能，也就是錯失恐懼症，害怕失去難得的機會。

But attraction built on scarcity can fade fast once the chase ends, leaving you wondering what you ever saw in them.

但建立在稀缺性上的吸引力，一旦追逐結束，就會快速消退，讓你懷疑你到底看上了他們什麼。

Here's another sneaky memory edits desire in hindsight.

這是另一個狡猾的記憶在事後編輯慾望。

Studies show that when people recall past attraction, they often exaggerate it, turning mild curiosity into intense passion.

研究顯示，當人們回憶過去的吸引力時，他們常常會誇大它，將輕微的好奇心轉變成強烈的情感。

It's your brain's way of making sense of emotions that once felt out of control.

這是你的大腦在試圖理解那些曾經感覺失控的情緒。

So when you think, I must have really loved them, maybe you didn't.

所以當你心想，我當時一定真的很愛他們，也許事實並非如此。

Maybe your brain just re edited the story to make it feel more meaningful.

也許你的大腦只是重新編輯了故事，讓它感覺更有意義。

Here's the truth that your brain often misses.

這是你的大腦經常忽略的真相。

Real connection isn't dopamine fireworks.

It's oxytocin trust and emotional safety.

而是催產素的信任和情感上的安全感。

Desire might bring you together, but it's vulnerability that keeps you there.

慾望或許能讓你們在一起，但卻是脆弱感讓你們維繫關係。

If you've ever wondered why the most peaceful relationships can feel less exciting.

如果你曾想過，為什麼最平靜的關係反而感覺沒那麼令人興奮。

It's your brain learning that safety is attraction, just a quieter kind.

而是你的大腦學會了安全感就是吸引力，只是比較安靜的那種。

So if your crush doesn't like you back, or if the spark fades, it doesn't mean something's wrong with you.

所以，如果你的暗戀對象不喜歡你，或者火花漸漸消失，這並不代表你有問題。

It means your brain is just doing its messy, beautiful thing.

這只是代表你的大腦正在做它那混亂又美麗的事情。

Craving for love, and slowly learning what real connection feels like.

渴望愛情，並慢慢學會真實連結的感覺。

Because desire isn't about who makes your heart race.

因為慾望不在於誰讓你心跳加速。

It's about who makes your nervous system finally exhale.

而在於誰讓你神經系統終於鬆一口氣。