Name: 小測驗：你的人際關係能力如何？(自我測試） (Quiz: How Good at Relationships Are You? (Self Test))
Uploaded: 2025-08-15T17:50:53.000Z
Duration: 10 min 40 s

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Whether you're single, taken, crushing on someone, or it's complicated, relationships have a way of showing us who we really are.

無論你是單身、已婚、暗戀某人，還是情況複雜，人際關係都會向我們展示真實的自己。

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The best parts, the messy parts, and the parts of ourselves we don't always want to look at.

最好的部分、混亂的部分，以及我們並不總是願意看到的自己的部分。

Most of us move through relationships on autopilot.

我們中的大多數人都是以自動駕駛的方式來處理人際關係的。

We crave closeness, avoid conflict, repeat the same patterns, and wonder why it's so hard to get it right.

我們渴望親近，避免衝突，重複同樣的模式，並想知道為什麼要做到這一點這麼難。

Well, here's your chance to hit pause and check in.

好了，現在你有機會暫停一下，去看看情況。

Think of this quiz less like a test and more like a mirror.

把這次測驗當成一面鏡子，而不是一次考試。

It's not here to grade you or point out what you're doing wrong, but to help you notice your habits, your blind spots, and your emotional defaults, the ones shaping your relationships whether you realize it or not.

它不是來給你打分或指出你做錯了什麼，而是幫助你注意到自己的習慣、盲點和情感缺失，這些都會影響你的人際關係，無論你是否意識到。

Every question is based on real psychology concepts, studies, and insights from relationship experts.

每個問題都基於真實的心理學概念、研究和人際關係專家的見解。

To get the most out of it, choose the answers that feel most like you, not who you wish you were.

為了最大限度地利用它，請選擇最像你自己的答案，而不是你希望自己是誰的答案。

Take a deep breath, grab a pen, or just keep scoring your head, and let's dive in.

深吸一口氣，拿起筆，或者繼續在腦子裡打分，讓我們開始吧。

One, when someone pulls away or gets distant, your first instinct is to A, give them space and focus on myself.

其一，當別人遠離或疏遠你時，你的第一反應是 A，給他們空間，把注意力放在我自己身上。

我想，如果他們在乎，他們會回來的。

B, overthink every detail and try to figure out what I did wrong.

B，過度思考每一個細節，試圖找出我做錯了什麼。

Or D, reach out and check in, but try not to take it personally.

或者 D，伸出援手，瞭解情況，但儘量不要往心裡去。

Question two, how do you usually deal with conflict in a relationship?

問題二，你通常如何處理人際關係中的衝突？

B, I try to talk it through calmly, even if it's awkward.

B，即使尷尬，我也會試著心平氣和地談一談。

Or D, I need space to cool off before I can talk clearly.

或者 D，我需要空間冷靜一下，才能說清楚。

Question three, when you're into someone new, you tend to A, keep it chill, but low-key obsess over every interaction.

問題三，當你喜歡上一個新的人時，你傾向於 A，保持冷靜，但低調地迷戀每一次互動。

Or D, stay grounded, excited, but self-aware.

或者 D，腳踏實地，保持興奮，但要有自知之明。

Number four, vulnerability for you feels like, A, something I lean into.

第四，對你來說，脆弱的感覺就像是，A，我傾注的東西。

C, something I crave, but only after I feel really safe.

C，我渴望的東西，但只有在我感到真正安全之後。

Question five, if someone takes a long time to reply to your message, you usually, A, double text, then immediately regret it.

問題五，如果有人很長時間才回復你的資訊，你通常會，A，加倍發短信，然後馬上後悔。

B，感到被拒絕，但表現得無所謂。

Or D, get a little anxious, but wait it out.

或者 D，有點焦慮，但還是等一等吧。

Question six, when someone sets a boundary with you, you feel, A, admiring, boundaries are healthy, I respect that.

問題六，當有人與你劃定界限時，你會覺得，A，很欽佩，界限是健康的，我尊重這一點。

B, a little stung, but I try to understand.

B，有點刺痛，但我試著去理解。

Or D, shut down, I feel like they're pushing me away.

或者 D，閉嘴，我覺得他們在推開我。

Question seven, how do you usually show love?

A, I stay close, hugs, quality time, checking in.

A，我與他們保持親密，擁抱他們，與他們共度美好時光，向他們報平安。

B, I give advice, help with tasks, do things for them.

B，我給他們提供建議，幫助他們完成任務，為他們做事。

C, I hype them up and affirm them constantly.

C，我不斷地炒作他們，肯定他們。

Or D, I keep showing up even when I don't say much.

或者 D，即使我不多說話，我也會一直出現。

Question eight, when someone says we need to talk, what's your honest gut reaction?

問題八，當有人說我們需要談談時，你的真實直覺反應是什麼？

Or D, annoyance, just say it instead of being so dramatic.

或者 D，惱怒，說出來就好了，不用這麼誇張。

Question nine, what stands out most in your healthiest relationships?

問題九，在你最健康的人際關係中，什麼最突出？

A，我覺得自己被需要，被欣賞。

B, I feel seen without having to perform.

B，我無需表演就能感受到自己的存在。

Or D, I don't feel like I have to over-function to keep it going.

或者說 D，我不覺得我必須過度運作才能維持下去。

Question 10, what's one thing you don't usually say out loud in relationships?

問題 10，在人際交往中，你通常不會大聲說的一件事是什麼？

Or D, I'm trying, but I don't know what I'm doing.

或者 D，我在努力，但我不知道自己在做什麼。

Question 11, when your partner rarely gives back emotionally, financially, or mentally, but keeps taking, what do you usually do?

問題 11，當你的伴侶很少在情感、經濟或精神上給予回報，而是一味索取時，你通常會怎麼做？

A, stay silent, I'd rather carry the weight than risk rejection.

A，保持沉默，我寧願揹負重擔，也不願冒被拒絕的風險。

B, explode, eventually, I bottle things up and then I snap.

B，爆發，最終，我把事情悶在心裡，然後崩潰。

C, set a boundary, even if it risks the relationship, I know my limits now.

C，設定一個界限，即使這會危及我們的關係，但我現在知道自己的底線了。

Or D, drop hints, hope they notice, but keep giving anyway.

或者 D，暗示一下，希望他們注意到，但無論如何都要繼續付出。

If your partner stops choosing you, what story do you tell yourself?

如果你的伴侶不再選擇你，你會給自己講什麼故事？

A, I'm not enough, I must have made them lose interest.

A，我還不夠，我一定讓他們失去了興趣。

B, they're struggling and I just have to be patient.

B，他們在掙扎，我只需要耐心等待。

C, I deserve someone who stays curious about me, not just someone who stays.

C，我值得一個對我保持好奇心的人，而不僅僅是一個留下來的人。

Or D, it's probably my fault, but I don't know how to fix it.

或者 D，這可能是我的錯，但我不知道如何彌補。

And question 13, when you feel unappreciated or unseen in a relationship, how do you respond?

問題 13，當你在一段關係中感到不被重視或被忽視時，你會如何應對？

A, I overcompensate, do more, love harder, hope they'll notice.

A. 我過度補償，做得更多，愛得更用力，希望他們會注意到。

如果他們看不到我，為什麼還要試？

C, I speak up, even if my voice shakes, I won't betray myself anymore.

C，我大聲說出來，即使聲音顫抖，我也不會再背叛自己。

Or D, I daydream about leaving, even if I'm too scared to do it.

或者 D，我做著離開的白日夢，即使我害怕得不敢去做。

Here's what your score says about you. 13 to 22 points, the guarded soul.

你的得分說明了什麼？13 分至 22 分，被守護的靈魂。

You've been through enough to know love can sting.

你經歷的夠多了，知道愛情會刺痛你。

You tend to protect your heart and that's valid, but sometimes your armor keeps you from the very closeness you crave.

你傾向於保護自己的內心，這是有道理的，但有時你的盔甲會讓你無法獲得你渴望的親密。

Experts have found that people with avoidant patterns tend to devalue attachment, but still experience stress and loneliness when disconnected.

專家們發現，迴避型模式的人往往會貶低依戀的價值，但在斷開連接時仍會感到壓力和孤獨。

This often lines up with avoidant attachment, a pattern where closeness feels overwhelming or risky.

這往往與迴避型依戀相吻合，在這種模式下，親近會讓人感到難以承受或有風險。

Maybe you learned early on that emotional needs weren't safe to share, so now you rely mostly on yourself.

也許你很早就知道分享情感需求並不安全，所以現在你主要依靠自己。

But even avoidant types need connection, they just fear losing themselves in it.

但即使是迴避型的人也需要聯繫，他們只是害怕在聯繫中失去自我。

Try opening up in small ways, not to win love, but to feel it.

試著以微小的方式敞開心扉，不是為了贏得愛，而是為了感受愛。

Start with safe people and let them show you it's okay to need, express, and stay.

從安全的人開始，讓他們告訴你，需要、表達和停留都是可以的。

You don't have to earn love by being fine all the time. 23 to 32 points, the feel-everything romantic.

你不必通過一直表現良好來贏得愛情。23 到 32 分，感覺一切都很浪漫。

You love deeply and give generously, even when it's not returned.

你們愛得深沉，付出慷慨，即使沒有回報。

You might get attached quickly, overextend yourself, or confuse intensity with true intimacy.

你可能會很快愛上對方，過度擴張自己，或者把親密關係與真正的親密混為一談。

It's not because you're needy, but because you're devoted and passionate.

這不是因為你有需要，而是因為你全心全意、充滿熱情。

This pattern often reflects an anxious attachment style, where connection feels essential and disconnection feels threatening.

這種模式通常反映了一種焦慮的依戀風格，在這種風格中，聯繫感覺是必不可少的，而斷開則感覺是一種威脅。

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