Name: 測驗：是色還是愛？ (Quiz: Is it Lust or Love? (self test))
Uploaded: 2025-07-23T18:55:40.000Z
Duration: 7 min 51 s

情態副詞

Hey Psych2Goers, so question, have you seen that clip from the married at first sight reunion where someone basically says, I was in love with the idea of her, but I never actually knew her?

嘿，Psych2Goers，問個問題，你們看過一見鍾情重聚的那個片段嗎？在那個片段中，有人基本上是這麼說的：我愛上了她的想法，但我從未真正瞭解過她。

程度副詞

Yeah, that hit a little too close, didn't it?

是啊，這有點太接近了，不是嗎？

We text all day, but struggle to say what we really feel.

我們整天發短信，卻很難說出自己的真實感受。

We hook up first, then wonder if it means something.

我們先勾搭上，然後再想這是否意味著什麼。

And sometimes we end up confusing heat for depth and loneliness for love.

有時，我們會把熱度混淆為深度，把孤獨混淆為愛。

If you're not sure what this thing you're feeling is, whether it's lust, love, or some limbo in between, this quiz is for you.

如果你不確定自己的感覺是什麼，是慾望、愛情，還是介於兩者之間的迷茫，這個測驗就是為你準備的。

And maybe, just maybe, to help you hear yourself more clearly than before.

也許，只是也許，能讓你比以前更清楚地聽到自己的聲音。

You'll get 10 simple but revealing questions, each one paints a real life moment, and then pick the answer that feels most like you, right now.

你將會收到 10 個簡單卻能揭示真相的問題，每個問題都描繪了一個真實的生活瞬間，然後選出最像你現在的答案。

You might feel called out, and that's okay.

你可能會覺得自己被罵了，沒關係。

One, I feel this rush, my chest tightens, I want to kiss them or touch them.

其一，我感到一種衝動，胸口發悶，我想親吻他們或撫摸他們。

Two, I replay our flirty combos and laugh at their jokes again in my head.

其二，我在腦海中回放我們的嫵媚組合，再次嘲笑他們的笑話。

Three, I wonder how they're doing and hope they're okay.

三，不知道他們怎麼樣了，希望他們一切都好。

Or four, I think about how we fit together, not just today, but long term.

第四，我考慮的是我們如何在一起，不僅僅是今天，而是長遠。

One, I panic a little, like, did I do something wrong?

第一，我有點恐慌，比如，我是不是做錯了什麼？

Two, I get annoyed, maybe they're losing interest.

二，我很惱火，也許他們正在失去興趣。

Three, I feel a bit anxious, but I try to respect their space.

三，我感到有些焦慮，但我儘量尊重他們的空間。

如果他們很忙，會給我回復的。

One, I want to break the silence with something physical.

第一，我想用實物來打破沉默。

Three, it's kind of nice, like being wrapped in a soft blanket.

第三，這種感覺很好，就像裹在一條柔軟的毯子裡。

Like we're still communicating just without words.

就像我們還在交流，只是沒有語言。

Two, I try to make a joke or change the subject.

其二，我試著開個玩笑或轉移話題。

Three, I reach out even if I don't know what to say.

第三，即使我不知道該說什麼，我也會伸出援手。

Four, I feel their pain and I want to hold space for it.

第四，我感受到了他們的痛苦，我想為他們的痛苦留出空間。

Imagine a future without sex in this connection.

想象一下，在這種聯繫中沒有性的未來會是怎樣。

Two, I'd miss it, but maybe we'd still be fun.

二，我會想念它，但也許我們仍然會很有趣。

Three, we'd still have deep talks, inside jokes, late night walks.

三，我們仍會深談、開內部玩笑、深夜散步。

Four, honestly, I still want them in my life.

四，老實說，我仍然希望他們出現在我的生活中。

One, I compliment how hot they look while doing it.

其一，我稱讚他們在做的時候看起來很性感。

Two, I feel proud, but mostly just want to celebrate with them.

其二，我感到自豪，但主要還是想和他們一起慶祝。

Three, I feel genuinely happy for them, even if I'm not involved.

第三，我由衷地為他們感到高興，即使我沒有參與其中。

他們的勝利就像是我們的勝利。

What scares you most in this relationship?

在這段關係中，你最害怕什麼？

One, hunger, playfulness, maybe jealousy.

一是飢餓，二是貪玩，三是嫉妒。

其一，調情、開玩笑、隨心所欲。

Two, hanging out, memes, late night cravings.

二、閒逛、備忘錄、深夜渴望。

四，生活，家庭，治療，一切。

And question 10, deep down, this connection feels.

問題 10，在內心深處，這種聯繫是什麼感覺？

Add your points, one to four per question.

添加您的要點，每題 1 至 4 點。

If you scored 10 to 17, could be lust or obsession.

如果你得了 10 到 17 分，可能是慾望或痴迷。

You're drawn to this person, hard, like gravity.

你被這個人深深吸引，就像地心引力一樣。

But when you sit still, when the noise settles, there's not much to hold on to.

但是，當你靜靜地坐下來，當喧鬧聲平息下來，就沒有什麼可以留戀的了。

Dopamine hits, adrenaline, the thrill of what if.

多巴胺的衝擊、腎上腺素的分泌、"如果 "的刺激。

This could be limerence, a state of obsessive infatuation driven by reward seeking, not mutual love.

這可能是一種 "嗜睡"（limerence），是一種由追求回報而非互愛驅動的痴迷狀態。

It feels urgent, but it's not the same as emotional closeness.

這種感覺很迫切，但與情感上的親近不同。

You're not broken, you're just hungry for connection, for meaning, for more.

你並沒有崩潰，你只是渴望聯繫，渴望意義，渴望更多。

So try this, journal, what do I really want from this person?

那麼試試這個，寫日記，我到底想從這個人身上得到什麼？

Slow it down, skip the next flirt, ask a deeper question instead.

放慢語速，跳過下一個調情，問一個更深層次的問題。

Notice how your body reacts when they're near, and whether your heart feels safe too.

注意當他們靠近時，你的身體會有什麼反應，你的心是否也感到安全。

If you scored 18 to 26 points, situationship or emotional limbo.

如果您的得分在 18 分至 26 分之間，那麼您可能會陷入情侶關係或情感困境。

And yet something always feels missing, like you're reaching but not quite touching.

但總覺得缺少了什麼，就像你伸手卻無法觸及。

This isn't just about them, it's about how your emotional needs are meeting your current reality.

這不僅與他們有關，還與你的情感需求如何滿足你當前的現實有關。

The space often aligns with ambivalent or anxious attachment.

這種空間往往與矛盾或焦慮的依戀相一致。

You're craving connection but afraid to be too vulnerable.

你渴望與人溝通，但又害怕太脆弱。

Ask, if this person couldn't give me anything physical, would I still feel fulfilled?

試問，如果這個人不能給我任何物質上的東西，我還會感到滿足嗎？

If you scored 27 to 34 points, it's growing love.

如果你得了 27 到 34 分，那就是愛在成長。

This is something real, not perfect, not always stable, but real.

這是真實的東西，不完美，不總是穩定，但卻是真實的。

You're starting to understand them beyond the surface, and maybe you're letting them see you too.

你開始超越表面去理解他們，也許你也讓他們看到了你。

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測驗：是色還是愛？ (Quiz: Is it Lust or Love? (self test))

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