Name: 大多數人忽視的有毒關係跡象 (Toxic Relationship Signs Most People Ignore)
Uploaded: 2025-07-21T19:03:17.000Z
Duration: 5 min 6 s

There are three types of people in this world.

Those who are married, those who aren't looking, and those who are praying to everything holy that they find Mr. or Mrs. Right.

那些已經結婚的人，那些還沒有找對象的人，還有那些向一切神聖的事物祈禱自己能找到如意郎君或如意夫人的人。

And not another jerk who will use and abuse them.

而不是另一個會利用和虐待他們的混蛋。

If you're in that first or last group, stick around.

如果你是第一組或最後一組，請留下來。

Let's talk about some signs of a toxic relationship that most people completely miss.

讓我們來談談大多數人完全忽略的有毒關係的一些跡象。

There's a big difference between being insecure and feeling like the foundation of your relationship isn't secure.

沒有安全感和覺得你們關係的基礎不牢靠之間有很大的區別。

WebMD defines insecurity as a feeling of inadequacy and uncertainty.

WebMD 將不安全感定義為一種不足感和不確定感。

Being insecure might look like attention or approval seeking or asking for reassurance when there isn't a reason to have doubt or fear.

缺乏安全感可能看起來像是在尋求關注或認可，或者在沒有理由懷疑或恐懼的情況下尋求保證。

Feeling like your relationship isn't secure is catching your partner cheating, then wondering if they're lying when they say they're going on a trip with friends a month later.

感覺你們的關係不牢靠就是發現伴侶出軌，一個月後他們說要和朋友去旅行，你又懷疑他們是否在撒謊。

In an article for Women's Health Magazine,

在為《女性健康》雜誌撰寫的一篇文章中、

Rachel Sussman, a licensed clinical social worker and marriage and family therapist, explains that one quality of a healthy relationship is the significant back and forth where you are complimenting each other, bringing out the best in each other and letting each other know, I care about you.

瑞秋-蘇斯曼（Rachel Sussman）是一名持證臨床社會工作者和婚姻家庭治療師，她解釋說，健康關係的一個特質是重要的來往，在這種來往中，你們互相讚美，激發出對方最好的一面，並讓對方知道：我在乎你。

If you're neglected or being put down, this lack of support can bring about insecurity, thus creating a toxic relationship.

如果你被忽視或被貶低，這種支持的缺失會帶來不安全感，從而形成一種有毒的關係。

When you're in a relationship, you should still be an individual and take care of your individual needs, including basic needs like eating and personal hygiene.

在戀愛關係中，你仍然應該是一個獨立的個體，照顧好自己的個人需求，包括飲食和個人衛生等基本需求。

This also includes other needs like self-care and seeking a goal or purpose in life.

這也包括其他需求，如自我保健和尋求人生目標或目的。

Is Your Relationship Toxic? What to Look For,

您的關係有毒嗎？需要注意什麼？

Dr. Catalina Lawson, PhD, states that ignoring your personal needs can be a sign that you're in a toxic relationship.

卡塔利娜-勞森博士（Dr. Catalina Lawson）指出，忽視你的個人需求可能是你處於一段有毒關係中的信號。

Now, ignoring your needs can be a symptom of many things, but if you're unhappy with your relationship, the two may be correlated.

現在，忽視自己的需求可能是很多事情的症狀，但如果你對你們的關係不滿意，這兩者可能是相關的。

Now, what about when your partner ignores your needs?

現在，當你的伴侶忽視你的需求時怎麼辦？

Your partner obviously doesn't need to wait on you hand and foot to tend to your every need, but if you tell your partner that you need to finish an overdue project tonight, they shouldn't tell their parents you'll both be over for dinner that night.

你的伴侶顯然不需要手忙腳亂地伺候你，滿足你的每一個需求，但如果你告訴你的伴侶你今晚需要完成一個逾期未交的項目，他們就不應該告訴他們的父母你們當晚都會過來吃飯。

Dr. Lawson explains that this disregard for your boundaries and comfort levels can be a big sign of toxicity.

勞森博士解釋說，這種無視你的底線和舒適度的行為可能是中毒的一個重要跡象。

As humans, we may make up excuses for our partner's oversights.

作為人類，我們可能會為伴侶的疏忽編造藉口。

That's why this sign is pretty easy to overlook.

這就是為什麼這個標誌很容易被忽視。

你不是故意的，但它還是發生了。

When you're in a relationship, you may not agree with every single one of your partner's opinions, but you usually support your partner's goals and beliefs.

在戀愛關係中，你可能不會同意伴侶的每一個觀點，但你通常會支持伴侶的目標和信念。

When your partner is consistently unsupportive, possibly to the point of undermining you, this can creep into toxic territory.

如果你的伴侶總是不支持你，甚至有可能破壞你的利益，那麼這種情況就會逐漸發展成有毒的領域。

Asai has a friend, and we'll call them Lisa.

淺井有個朋友，我們就叫她麗莎吧。

Lisa dresses a bit differently and has different beliefs than most people.

麗莎的穿著與眾不同，她的信仰也與大多數人不同。

Lisa's partner has a family member, Charlie, who doesn't agree with her style or her beliefs.

麗莎的伴侶有一個家人查理，不同意她的風格和信仰。

Charlie always makes passive-aggressive comments towards Lisa.

查理總是對麗莎說一些消極攻擊的話。

Because Lisa wants to be polite in his house, she doesn't say anything to Charlie, but she does let her partner know it bothers her.

因為麗莎想在查理家表現得禮貌一些，所以她沒有對查理說什麼，但她讓她的搭檔知道這讓她很困擾。

Lisa's partner says she should take the high road because everyone knows he's wrong and being rude.

麗莎的搭檔說她應該採取高姿態，因為每個人都知道他錯了，而且很粗魯。

In a Time Magazine article, family medicine doctor specializing in mental health,

在《時代週刊》的一篇文章中，家庭醫生專門從事心理健康工作、

Dr. Kristen Fuller, explains that this and similar behaviors can be a sign of a toxic relationship.

克里斯汀-富勒博士解釋說，這種行為和類似行為可能是有毒關係的標誌。

Even if Lisa's partner doesn't mean to hurt her and is trying to show they agree, they're undermining Lisa.

即使麗莎的伴侶無意傷害她，並試圖表示同意，他們也是在損害麗莎的利益。

Dr. Fuller explains this could be due to the partner not being supported as a child or in their life, or they could truly be malicious.

富勒博士解釋說，這可能是由於伴侶從小或在生活中沒有得到支持，也可能是他們真的心懷惡意。

Either way, constantly pushing your partner aside can be a toxic sign that's constantly missed.

無論如何，不斷地把伴侶推到一邊都可能是一個不斷被錯過的有毒信號。

Have you ever had a partner ask who you were texting or even tell you who you're allowed and not allowed to talk to or hang out with?

你有沒有遇到過伴侶問你在給誰發短信，甚至告訴你可以和誰說話，不可以和誰出去玩？

If so, this is a huge red flag of a toxic relationship.

如果是這樣，這就是有毒關係的一個巨大信號。

Your partner should be just that, a partner, not your manager.

你的合作伙伴應該只是合作伙伴，而不是你的經理。

Dr. Sonya Bruner, a licensed therapist, did a video for better help on toxic relationships.

索尼婭-布魯納博士是一位執業治療師，她製作了一段視頻，希望能更好地幫助人們瞭解有毒的人際關係。

And this is the very first sign on her list.

這就是她清單上的第一個標誌。

She explains that a partner who is jealous or perhaps controlling may monitor your social media accounts, emails, or phone to see who you're talking to.

她解釋說，嫉妒心強或控制慾強的伴侶可能會監控你的社交媒體賬戶、電子郵件或電話，看看你在和誰哈拉。

They may even go as far as to monitor where you are, who you're with, and when.

他們甚至會監視你在哪裡、和誰在一起以及什麼時候。

Now, Dr. Bruner does point out that it's possible your partner may be genuinely concerned for your safety, but she also goes on to clarify that it's much less likely to be genuine concern and more likely to be controlling behavior if it happens consistently.

布魯納博士確實指出，你的伴侶有可能是真的關心你的安全，但她也接著澄清說，如果這種情況持續發生，就不太可能是真正的關心，而更有可能是控制行為。

Even though you're in a relationship, you both should still be your own person.

雖然你們是戀人關係，但你們都應該做自己。

This means that you should have your own interests and friend groups separate from your partner or their friends.

這意味著你應該有自己的興趣愛好和朋友圈，與伴侶或他們的朋友分開。

Balancing the time spent together and apart is a sign of a healthy relationship.

平衡相處和分離的時間是健康關係的標誌。

It doesn't matter what kind of relationship it is or how long you've been in it.

不管是什麼樣的關係，也不管你們在一起的時間有多長。

有毒就是有毒，你應該得到更好的。

Are there any other easy to miss signs that you're in a toxic relationship that we didn't talk about?

是否還有其他容易忽略的跡象表明你正處於一段我們沒有談到的有毒關係中？

If you don't wanna share there, always know that you can reach out to a mental health professional to help figure out if your relationship is truly toxic.

如果您不想在這裡分享，您可以向心理健康專家求助，以瞭解你們的關係是否真的有毒。

Don't forget to like and subscribe and we'll see you next time.

別忘了點贊和訂閱，我們下次再見。

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