Name: 有毒關係的 7 個階段，不是真愛 (7 Stages Of A Toxic Relationship, Not Real Love)
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T11:20:36.000Z
Duration: 7 min 31 s

Ever felt like you're stuck in a relationship with someone who hurts you, but keeps pulling you back in?

你是否曾覺得自己被困在一段關係中，有人傷害了你，卻又不斷把你拉回來？

基礎被動語態

Toxic relationships are characterized by patterns of harmful behaviors, emotional manipulation, or verbal and psychological abuse.

有毒關係的特點是有害行為、情感操縱或言語和心理虐待。

程度副詞

They can be romantic, familial, or platonic in nature, and they can be a confusing and damaging loop that's really hard to get out of.

它們可能是浪漫的、家庭的，也可能是柏拉圖式的，它們可能是一個令人困惑和有害的循環，真的很難擺脫。

Worst of all, toxic relationships can feel good at times, making it all the more confusing and harder to leave.

最糟糕的是，有毒關係有時會讓人感覺良好，這讓人更加困惑，也更難離開。

But recognizing these stages can help you understand what's happening and figure out what to do next.

但是，認識到這些階段可以幫助您瞭解正在發生的事情，並找出下一步該怎麼做。

Toxic relationships often start off seeming perfect.

有毒的人際關係往往一開始看起來很完美。

Your crush showers you with compliments, affection, gifts, and over-the-top gestures, saying the most romantic things, like, I've never felt this way before, or you're my soulmate.

你的暗戀對象會向你獻上讚美、愛意、禮物和誇張的舉動，說一些最浪漫的話，比如 "我以前從來沒有過這種感覺"，或者 "你是我的靈魂伴侶"。

The intense idealization characterized by love-bombing is designed to make you dependent on their validation.

以愛情轟炸為特徵的強烈理想化旨在讓你依賴他們的肯定。

They might also ask about your fears or secrets, not to build intimacy, but to use them against you later.

他們還可能問起你的恐懼或祕密，這不是為了建立親密關係，而是為了日後利用它們來對付你。

Once a toxic manipulator knows they have you, things will quickly take a turn for the worse.

一旦有毒的操縱者知道他們抓住了你，事情很快就會急轉直下。

Manipulators often engage in devaluation as a means to assert control and power over you.

操縱者通常會貶低你的價值，以此來對你進行控制和行使權力。

They'll suddenly become harsh and critical, pointing out your flaws and making hurtful comments.

他們會突然變得苛刻挑剔，指出你的缺點，發表傷人的評論。

The personal information you shared is now used against you, with them throwing your biggest insecurities back in your face.

你共享的個人信息現在被用來對付你，他們會把你最大的不安全感扔到你臉上。

Worst of all, you might feel confused and blame yourself for their behavior.

最糟糕的是，你可能會感到困惑，併為他們的行為自責。

You try to meet their demands, but their expectations are unrealistic and never-ending, so you just end up feeling worse about yourself.

你試圖滿足他們的要求，但他們的期望不切實際，永無止境，所以你最終只會自我感覺更糟糕。

And when your self-esteem is low, it's easier for them to control you and stop you from standing up to them.

當你自尊心低落時，他們就更容易控制你，阻止你反抗他們。

You might even start to believe you're not good enough and don't deserve better, which is exactly what they want.

你甚至會開始認為自己不夠好，不值得擁有更好的，而這正是他們想要的。

Do I often feel confused or unsure of what's true?

我是否經常感到困惑或不確定什麼是真的？

Do they make me feel guilty for their mistakes?

他們會讓我為他們的錯誤感到內疚嗎？

In a toxic relationship, manipulation can be subtle.

在有毒的人際關係中，操縱可能很微妙。

Your partner might twist situations to make you feel guilty or to get their way.

你的伴侶可能會扭曲情況，讓你感到愧疚或達到他們的目的。

They might play mind games, lie, or withhold information.

他們可能會玩心理遊戲、撒謊或隱瞞資訊。

Phrases like, if you really loved me, you would, or you're imagining things, are often used to control you and make you question your reality.

諸如 "如果你真的愛我，你就會愛我 "或 "你在胡思亂想 "之類的句子常常被用來控制你，讓你懷疑自己的現實。

And they'll say things like, you're making me act this way, or I only do this because I care, to justify their behavior.

他們會說 "是你逼我這樣做的"、"我這樣做是因為我在乎 "之類的話來為自己的行為辯解。

At this stage, the other person may start to isolate you from your friends and family.

在這個階段，對方可能會開始將你與朋友和家人隔離開來。

They might say things like, they don't really care about you or I'm the only one who truly understands you.

他們可能會說，他們並不真正關心你，或者只有我才真正理解你。

By doing this, they gain more control over you and limit your support system.

這樣做，他們就能獲得更多對你的控制權，並限制你的支持系統。

So ask yourself, have I distanced myself from loved ones because of this relationship?

捫心自問，我是否因為這段關係而疏遠了自己所愛的人？

You might notice you're spending less time with loved ones and more time with the toxic person.

你可能會注意到，你與所愛的人在一起的時間越來越少，而與有毒的人在一起的時間卻越來越多。

But remember, a healthy relationship should expand your world, not shrink it.

但請記住，健康的關係應該拓展你的世界，而不是縮小它。

When they're done with you, feel bored, or you start seeing through their lies, they use the reverse discard tactic.

當他們和你玩完了，覺得無聊了，或者你開始看穿他們的謊言時，他們就會使用反向丟棄戰術。

Instead of ending things abruptly, they manipulate you into breaking up with them.

他們不是戛然而止，而是操縱你與他們分手。

They might frustrate or upset you with neglect, constant criticism, or withholding affection.

他們可能會因為忽視你、不斷責備你或不給你關愛而讓你沮喪或難過。

For example, they might nitpick your appearance or actions, making you feel unappreciated, or they might become emotionally distant, making you feel ignored and unloved.

例如，他們可能會對你的外表或行為吹毛求疵，讓你覺得自己不被欣賞，或者他們可能會在情感上變得疏遠，讓你覺得自己被忽視、不被愛。

The goal is to push you to the point where you decide to end the relationship.

目的是把你逼到決定結束這段關係的地步。

Wouldn't it be easier to break up directly and move on?

直接分手，繼續前進，不是更容易嗎？

Well, it's all about power play, reputation, and control.

這就是權力遊戲、名譽和控制。

By making you initiate the breakup, they avoid responsibility and get to play the victim, claiming they were abandoned.

讓你主動提出分手，他們就可以逃避責任，扮演受害者，聲稱自己被拋棄了。

By making you look like the bad person and manipulating you into believing it, this also leaves the door open for them to come back later when they feel like it, a tactic known as hovering.

通過讓你看起來像個壞人並操縱你去相信它，這也為他們以後想回來時留下了方便之門，這種策略被稱為徘徊。

If the reverse discard tactic didn't work and you still stayed and endured their abuse, they may eventually discard you directly as a final resort.

如果逆向拋棄策略不起作用，你仍然留下來忍受他們的虐待，他們最終可能會直接拋棄你，作為最後的手段。

In this stage, they reject you, making you chase after them.

在這個階段，他們會拒絕你，讓你追逐他們。

As bad as it sounds, some of them also do this to keep you as their backup while they seek out a new potential partner and do the same manipulative tricks to keep the new person as their new supply.

雖然聽起來很糟糕，但他們中的一些人也會這樣做，以便在他們尋找新的潛在伴侶時讓你成為他們的備份，並用同樣的操縱伎倆讓新人成為他們的新供給。

You see, our brains are wired to want things that seem out of reach, so when they act distant, they appear more valuable and desirable, making it hard for us to leave them.

你看，我們的大腦被設計成想要那些看起來遙不可及的東西，所以當它們離我們很遠時，它們就會顯得更有價值、更令人嚮往，讓我們難以割捨。

So once they find someone new to manipulate, they might suddenly cut you off.

是以，一旦他們找到了新的操縱者，他們可能會突然與你斷絕關係。

This can be shocking and hurtful, leaving you feeling blindsided.

這可能會讓你感到震驚和受傷，讓你感到茫然失措。

They may even publicly humiliate you, making a big scene of dumping you or blaming you for everything.

他們甚至會公開羞辱你，大吵大鬧地拋棄你，或把一切都歸咎於你。

This tactic makes them feel powerful while making you feel worthless.

這種策略讓他們覺得自己很強大，而讓你覺得自己一文不值。

It's all part of their manipulative plan to keep you hooked until they find a new supply so they don't have to be alone.

這都是他們操縱計劃的一部分，目的是讓你上鉤，直到他們找到新的貨源，這樣他們就不必孤獨了。

Being discarded can leave you feeling devastated and confused.

被拋棄會讓你感到崩潰和困惑。

Or even if you're the one who cut ties and walked away, you can still feel hurt and confused, bombarded with the what-ifs and should've, could've been.

或者，即使你是那個斷絕關係、一走了之的人，你仍然會感到受傷和困惑，被各種 "如果"、"應該"、"可能 "所困擾。

You might question your self-worth and wonder what you did wrong.

你可能會質疑自我價值，想知道自己做錯了什麼。

It's common to feel a mix of relief and pain as the toxic cycle is finally broken, but the emotional wounds remain.

當毒癮循環終於被打破時，人們通常會感到既輕鬆又痛苦，但情感上的創傷依然存在。

Understanding and learning from this experience is essential.

瞭解並從中汲取經驗至關重要。

By acknowledging the toxicity and its impact on your wellbeing, you can begin the journey towards healing.

承認毒性及其對健康的影響，你就能開始康復之旅。

This stage is marked by seeking support, reframing your perspective, and recognizing that you are not defined by that toxic relationship.

這一階段的特點是尋求支持，重新審視自己的觀點，並認識到自己並不是被這段有毒關係所定義的。

It's also about embracing your worth, practicing self-care, setting better boundaries, and coming out of the other side happier, more empowered, and with healthier relationships.

這也是關於擁抱自己的價值、實行自我保健、設定更好的界限，以及更快樂、更有力量和更健康的人際關係的另一面。

Remember, you are not alone in this journey.

請記住，在這段旅程中，你並不孤單。

Whether you're currently navigating a toxic relationship, healing from past wounds, or supporting someone else in their recovery, know that there is hope and support available.

無論您目前是在處理一段有毒的關係、從過去的創傷中恢復過來，還是在支持他人康復，您都要知道，我們可以為您提供希望和支持。

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如果您覺得本視頻有價值，請留下贊並與他人分享。

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