Name: 當親屬之愛讓我們精疲力竭，如何從親友連結中獲得救贖？（The Love of Kith and the Love of Kin）
Uploaded: 2026-03-11T15:13:39.000Z
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分詞構句

The words kith and kin are some of the oldest in the English language, appearing somewhere between 400 and 800 AD.

kith 和 kin 這兩個詞是英文中最古老的詞之一，出現在西元 400 到 800 年之間。

情態副詞

They are now also hugely unfamiliar and odd sounding, but their meaning is simple.

現在聽起來很陌生也很奇怪，但它們的意思很簡單。

Kin refers to close blood or marriage, relatives.

Kin 指的是有血緣或婚姻關係的親近家人。

There's the link to the German word kind.

這跟德文的 kind 這個詞有關聯。

Your husband or wife, your children, your parents.

你的另一半、你的小孩、你的父母。

And kith refers to the community at large, neighbors, colleagues, the village, the city, the people you pass in the street, friends you make at work or through hobbies.

而 kith 指的是廣泛的社群，像是鄰居、同事、村莊、城市、你在街上遇到的人，以及你在工作或透過興趣認識的朋友。

If we think about the love we're interested in nowadays, it is overwhelmingly the love of kin.

如果我們想想現在我們關心的愛，絕大多數都是對親人的愛。

When we think of falling in love, it's with one very special person who will understand us totally, with whom our souls will fuse.

當我們想到墜入愛河，是跟一個能完全理解我們、靈魂契合的特別對象。

A best friend, angel, co parent, therapist, sex mate and companion all rolled into one.

一個最好的朋友、天使、共同育兒的夥伴、治療師、性伴侶和知己，集於一身。

Someone who will exhaust our imaginations, Someone who will render everyone else redundant.

一個能激發我們想像力的人，一個會讓其他人變得多餘的人。

The dream is intense, but the search for this sort of love is also notoriously troubled.

這個夢想很強烈，但尋找這種愛也出了名的困難重重。

It's hugely unlikely, statistically, that we will ever feel as close to our kin, to our families and lovers as we would like.

統計上來說，我們不太可能像我們希望的那樣，跟我們的親人、家人和伴侶感到親近。

Mother is cold, father is distant, our partner doesn't understand.

媽媽冷淡，爸爸疏遠，伴侶不理解。

We've dated 200 people in the last four years and we're no closer to finding the bond we crave.

我們過去四年約會了 200 個人，卻離找到渴望的連結越來越遠。

但我們的神經系統已經疲憊不堪了。

A huge amount of blame is sprayed around to account for the loneliness and scratchiness.

大量的責怪被散播開來，試圖解釋我們的孤單和煩躁。

We have an unresolved trauma from childhood.

All this may be true, but eventually this blame seeking is in danger of missing the point.

這一切或許都是真的，但最終這種尋找責怪的方式，可能會離題。

Whatever the reasons, love between kin seems to be very, very hard, almost, we might say, at certain moments, impossible.

無論是什麼原因，親人之間的愛似乎非常、非常困難，甚至，我們可能會說，在某些時刻，是不可能的。

Families can't deliver and nor can lovers.

Nothing in our social or political system encourages us to question our expectations and take the next logical step.

我們社會或政治體系中，沒有任何東西鼓勵我們質疑自己的期望並採取下一個邏輯步驟。

The fantasy of the nuclear family and the romantic couple are hardwired into our calendars.

核心家庭和浪漫伴侶的幻想，已經根深蒂固地寫進了我們的行事曆。

We celebrate Valentine's Day and Mother and Father's Day, but

我們慶祝情人節、母親節和父親節，但是

there is no Neighbour Day, there is no Community Day.

And here we are, done an immense disservice.

而我們就這樣，受到了極大的委屈。

Our longing for love can't and mustn't be stopped.

我們對愛的渴望，是無法也絕對不能被阻止的。

But it might, given the circumstances, at times, be redirected.

不過，在某些情況下，愛有時是可以被轉移的。

We've got so much love to give and would at points be so much better advised to offer it to our kith over than to our kin.

我們有好多愛可以給，有時候把愛給我們的 kith，而不是 kin，會是更明智的選擇。

That is, to friends, to the people we've met through our work and on our travels, to the strangers we chat to at the community hall.

也就是說，給朋友、給我們在工作和旅行中認識的人、給我們在社區活動中心哈拉時遇到的陌生人。

It's a different form of love, of course.

But it may be all the more joyful for that.

但正因如此，它可能更加快樂。

It's a love free of jealousy, exclusivity and punishing hope.

這是一種沒有嫉妒、沒有排他性、沒有懲罰性希望的愛。

It isn't necessarily where we started, but.

但這不一定是我們開始的地方。

But it may be the future of love properly understood.

但這或許才是真正被理解的愛的未來。

We have tried so hard to love our kin before despairing of love, we should open our eyes to a possibility to which our era blinds us.

我們努力去愛我們的親人，卻對愛感到絕望，我們應該睜開眼睛看看我們這個時代矇蔽我們的可能性。

The quiet, glorious comforts of the love of kith.

親友之愛的寧靜、光榮的慰藉。