Name: 過度仁慈會破壞心理健康的 8 種方式 (8 Ways Excessive Kindness Can Sabotage Your Mental Health)
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T18:24:00.000Z
Duration: 8 min 1 s

We're taught that kindness is a virtue, and it is.

我們被教導說，善良是一種美德，的確如此。

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Hamilton, author of The Five Side Effects of Kindness, being kind doesn't just feel good, it actually rewires your brain.

善良的五種副作用》一書的作者漢密爾頓認為，善良不僅會讓人感覺良好，實際上還會重塑你的大腦。

It boosts your mood, lowers blood pressure, and even slows aging.

它能提振情緒，降低血壓，甚至延緩衰老。

Kindness heals, it connects, it transforms.

Kindness is absolutely one of our greatest strengths, but there's something we don't talk about enough.

仁慈絕對是我們最大的優勢之一，但有一點我們談論得還不夠。

Like you gave and gave, until you had nothing left.

就像你付出了又付出，直到一無所有。

This video empowers kind-hearted individuals to recognize the hidden emotional costs of excessive kindness and teaches them how to set healthy boundaries without guilt.

這段視頻讓心地善良的人認識到過度仁慈所帶來的隱性情感代價，並教他們如何在沒有負罪感的情況下設置健康的界限。

By redefining kindness as something that includes self-respect, our goal is to help viewers protect their mental health, preserve their energy, and deepen their relationships, all while staying true to their caring nature.

通過將 "善良 "重新定義為包括 "自尊 "在內的東西，我們的目標是幫助觀眾保護他們的心理健康、保持精力充沛、加深人際關係，同時保持他們關愛他人的本性。

Here are eight ways excessive kindness might be sabotaging your mental health and how to gently protect yourself without losing the essence of your caring nature.

以下是過度仁慈可能破壞心理健康的八種方式，以及如何在不失去關愛本質的情況下溫和地保護自己。

We're going to break this down into two sections.

First, we'll explain the key difference between kindness and excessive kindness with a simple example.

首先，我們將通過一個簡單的例子來解釋仁慈與過度仁慈之間的關鍵區別。

Next, we'll explore the effects of excessive kindness and how to take care of yourself guilt-free.

接下來，我們將探討過度仁慈的影響，以及如何毫無愧疚地照顧自己。

The Difference Between Kindness and Excessive Kindness Kindness respects both your needs and the needs of others.

仁慈與過度仁慈的區別 仁慈既尊重自己的需要，也尊重他人的需要。

Excessive kindness ignores your needs to please everyone else.

過度的仁慈會忽視自己的需求，去取悅別人。

For example, your friend asks you to help them move.

例如，你的朋友請你幫忙搬家。

On the same weekend, you were finally going to rest after a brutal work week.

在同一個週末，你終於要在一週殘酷的工作後休息了。

Kindness Healthy You say, I really want to support you, but I'm burnt out right now.

仁慈健康 你說，我真的很想支持你，但我現在已經筋疲力盡了。

我們能計劃另一種我可以提供幫助的方式嗎？

You stay caring without sacrificing your well-being.

你在保持關愛的同時，也不會犧牲自己的幸福。

Healthy kindness releases oxytocin, boosts happiness, connection, and even immune function.

健康的善意會釋放催產素，提升幸福感、人際關係甚至免疫功能。

Excessive Kindness Unhealthy You force yourself to say, of course, even though you're mentally and physically drained, because you feel guilty saying no.

過度仁慈 不健康 你強迫自己說，當然，即使你身心俱疲，因為說不，你會感到內疚。

You show up resentful, exhausted, and end up snapping or withdrawing.

你會表現出怨恨、疲憊不堪，最終崩潰或退縮。

Overextending yourself triggers chronic cortisol release linked to anxiety, depression, and even weakened immunity.

過度透支會引發皮質醇的慢性釋放，與焦慮、抑鬱甚至免疫力下降有關。

The bottom line is that kindness creates connection and energy, and excessive kindness creates burnout and silent resentment.

最根本的一點是，仁慈會產生聯繫和能量，而過度仁慈則會產生倦怠和無聲的怨恨。

Why Excessive Kindness is Dangerous for Your Mental Health 1.

為什麼過度仁慈會危害心理健康 1.

You Say Yes When You Want to Say No If your default answer to everything is yes, even when you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or just don't want to, you might be too kind for your own good.

當你想說 "不 "的時候，你卻說 "是" 如果你對任何事情的默認答案都是 "是"，即使在你筋疲力盡、不堪重負或不想說 "是 "的時候也是如此，那麼你可能是太善良了。

Saying yes when you mean no isn't kindness, it's self-abandonment.

說 "是 "時，你的意思是 "不"，這不是仁慈，而是自我放棄。

The more you do it, the more people expect it from you.

你做得越多，人們對你的期望就越高。

You say yes all the time because you're trying to please everyone.

你總是說好，因為你想取悅所有人。

The moment you stop trying to make everyone like you, you become more confident, respected, and free.

當你不再試圖讓每個人都喜歡你的時候，你就會變得更自信、更受尊重、更自由。

You Attract People Who Take Advantage of You When you're overly kind, opportunists tend to gravitate toward you.

你會吸引那些利用你的人 當你過於善良時，機會主義者就會傾向於你。

Some people love getting their way with minimal effort, and if you never push back, they'll keep taking and taking.

有些人喜歡不費吹灰之力就能達到目的，如果你從不反擊，他們就會不斷索取。

Ask yourself, would they still be around if I stopped doing favors for them?

捫心自問，如果我不再幫他們的忙，他們還會在嗎？

If the answer is no, it's time to reassess the relationships you're investing in.

如果答案是 "否"，那麼您就應該重新評估您所投資的人際關係。

True friends will respect your boundaries. 3.

真正的朋友會尊重你的底線。3.

You Feel Guilty for Prioritizing Yourself Do you feel guilty for taking time for yourself?

你會因為把自己放在首位而感到內疚 你會因為花時間陪伴自己而感到內疚嗎？

Like, if you're not constantly helping others, you're somehow selfish or lazy?

比如說，如果你不經常幫助別人，你就會變得自私或懶惰？

This comes from a belief that your worth is tied to what you do for others.

這源於一種信念，即你的價值與你為他人所做的事情息息相關。

Take an hour just for yourself, guilt-free.

給自己一個小時的時間，毫無負罪感。

The world won't fall apart if you put yourself first sometimes. 4.

如果有時你把自己放在第一位，世界就不會崩潰。4.

You Struggle to Express Your Needs You find it hard to ask for what you need.

你很難表達自己的需求 你很難提出自己的要求。

Maybe you're scared of burdening others, or you downplay your own feelings because you don't want to cause drama.

也許你害怕給別人增加負擔，或者你淡化自己的感受，因為你不想引起爭論。

But your needs matter just as much as everyone else's.

但你的需求和其他人一樣重要。

Instead of thinking, I don't want to bother them, reframe it.

與其想 "我不想打擾他們"，不如重新構思一下。

If they truly care about me, they'll want to know how I feel.

如果他們真的關心我，就會想知道我的感受。

Healthy relationships thrive on honesty, not silence. 5.

健康的人際關係靠的是真誠，而不是沉默。5.

You Avoid Conflict at All Costs If you always keep the peace, even when you're hurt or upset, it may be a sign that you're suppressing your emotions.

你不惜一切代價避免衝突 如果你總是息事寧人，即使在受傷或難過的時候也是如此，這可能是你壓抑自己情緒的表現。

Remember, you can stand up for yourself without being aggressive.

記住，你可以堅持自己的觀點，而不必咄咄逼人。

Setting healthy boundaries strengthens relationships, but constantly shutting yourself down to avoid conflict only leads to resentment. 6.

設置健康的界限能加強人際關係，但一味地封閉自己以避免衝突只會導致怨恨。6.

You Apologize Excessively, Even When It's Not Your Fault Do you say sorry way too much?

即使不是你的錯，你也會過度道歉 你是否經常說對不起？

Apologizing when you haven't done anything wrong makes you seem smaller than you are.

當你沒有做錯任何事的時候道歉，會讓你顯得比自己更渺小。

It teaches people to expect you to take the blame, even when it's not yours to carry.

它教導人們希望你承擔責任，即使責任不在你身上。

Instead of saying, sorry for bothering you, try, thanks for taking the time to help me, shift from apologizing for your presence to appreciating their effort. 7.

不要說 "對不起，打擾你了"，而是試著說 "謝謝你花時間幫我"，從為你的出現道歉轉變為讚賞他們的努力。7.

You Tolerate Disrespect Without Realizing It Little jabs, dismissive comments, taking you for granted.

你在不知不覺中容忍了不尊重 小嘲諷、不屑一顧的評論，認為你是理所當然的。

Every time you let something hurtful slide, you're actually communicating to people that it's okay.

每當你對傷害性的事情聽之任之時，你實際上是在向人們傳達這樣的資訊：沒關係。

If something bothers you, say it, not rudely, but directly. 8.

如果有什麼事讓你不爽，就說出來，不要粗魯，要直接。8.

You Are Burnt Out, Hard Chronic overgiving isn't just emotional, it also drains your physical health.

你身心俱疲，難以承受 長期過度施壓不僅會影響情緒，還會消耗你的身體健康。

Headaches, insomnia, constant fatigue, these are all signs that your body is begging you to slow down. 9.

頭痛、失眠、持續疲勞，這些都是身體懇求你放慢腳步的信號。9.

You Deserve To Be Kind To Yourself As Much As You Are To Others The world needs you whole, not burnt out.

你應該像善待他人一樣善待自己 這個世界需要的是完整的你，而不是疲憊不堪的你。

Stay kind, stay strong, and remember, your boundaries are a part of your kindness.

保持善良，保持堅強，記住，你的界限就是你善良的一部分。

Before you go, we have a people-pleasing quiz we created a while back, and we're hoping more people can take it.

在你們離開之前，我們做了一個悅人小測驗，希望能有更多人参加。

It might reveal signs you didn't even know were there.

它可能會揭示出你根本不知道的跡象。