Name: 小測驗你是否太過善良？ (Quiz: Are You Being Too Nice? (Self Check Test))
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T11:23:45.000Z
Duration: 8 min 2 s

Ever wonder if you're too nice for your own good?

有沒有想過自己是否太善良了？

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Kindness is a beautiful trait, but when it's too much or used for the wrong reasons, it can leave you drained, resentful, and even lost in your own life.

仁慈是一種美好的特質，但如果仁慈過度或出於錯誤的原因使用仁慈，就會讓你心力交瘁、心懷怨恨，甚至迷失在自己的生活中。

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In one of our latest videos, the dark side of kindness, we explored the hidden costs of being too kind, how it often stems from past experiences and how to shift toward a healthier, more balanced form of kindness.

在我們最新的一個視頻 "仁慈的陰暗面 "中，我們探討了過於仁慈的隱性代價，它如何往往源於過去的經歷，以及如何轉向一種更健康、更平衡的仁慈形式。

If you haven't seen it yet, definitely check it out after this.

如果你還沒看過，看完之後一定要去看看。

Now, think of this quiz as a gentle check-in, a chance to pause, reflect, and ask yourself, am I truly being kind or am I afraid not to be?

現在，請把這次測驗當作一次溫和的檢查，一次暫停、反思和捫心自問的機會：我是真的善良，還是害怕不善良？

If you've ever felt drained, taken advantage of, or guilty for setting boundaries, this quiz might be just what you need to help you recognize the patterns and reconnect with your own needs.

如果你曾經因為設置界限而感到精疲力竭、被人利用或內疚，那麼這個測驗可能正是你所需要的，它能幫助你認識這些模式，並重新認識自己的需求。

So grab a pen, open your notes app, or just keep scoring your head.

所以，拿起筆，打開你的筆記應用程序，或者繼續在腦子裡打分吧。

Okay, number one, do you ever feel guilty for setting a boundary, saying no, or just needing a little space?

好吧，第一，你有沒有因為設置界限、說不或者只是需要一點空間而感到內疚？

Question two, when someone asks for a favor and you're already overwhelmed, do you say yes anyway and then stress about how you'll manage it all?

問題二，當有人請你幫忙時，你已經不堪重負，你是否還是會答應，然後為如何處理這一切而緊張？

Question three, do you find yourself apologizing for things that aren't really your fault, just to keep the peace?

問題三，你是否發現自己為了保持和平，而為一些並不是你的錯的事情道歉？

Question four, have you ever stayed quiet about something that hurt you just to avoid conflict?

問題四，你是否曾經為了避免衝突而對傷害你的事情保持沉默？

Question five, do you catch yourself overexplaining or apologizing too much just to make sure everything's okay?

問題五，你是否發現自己為了確保一切正常而解釋過多或道歉過多？

Question six, do you sometimes feel resentful but then feel bad for feeling that way?

問題六，你是否有時會感到怨恨，但又為這種感覺而感到難過？

Question seven, when someone's upset, is your first instinct to blame yourself or drop everything to make it better, even if it has nothing to do with you?

問題七，當別人不開心時，你的第一反應是責怪自己，還是放下一切去讓它好起來，即使它與你無關？

Question eight, do you ever think, if I don't help, they'll think I'm selfish?

問題八，你有沒有想過，如果我不幫忙，他們會覺得我很自私？

Or maybe if I give more, they'll finally appreciate me?

或者，如果我付出更多，他們最終會感激我？

Do you downplay your own needs or struggles because someone else might have it worse?

你是否會因為別人的情況可能更糟而淡化自己的需求或掙扎？

And question 10, if someone's upset with you or doesn't like you, does it eat at you until you try to fix it, even when it's not your fault?

問題 10，如果有人對你不滿或不喜歡你，你會不會一直耿耿於懷，直到你試圖去解決它，即使它不是你的錯？

Tally up your answers and take a deep breath.

This is just a gentle reflection to help you understand yourself a little better.

這只是一個溫和的反思，幫助你更好地瞭解自己。

If you got zero to 10 points, you're the grounded giver.

如果你得到 0 到 10 分，你就是接地氣的奉獻者。

You have a strong sense of empathy, but you've also learned how to balance your kindness with self-respect.

你有很強的同理心，但你也學會了如何在善良和自尊之間取得平衡。

You probably know how to say no when you need to and can offer support without losing yourself in the process.

你可能知道如何在需要的時候說 "不"，並能在提供支持的過程中不失去自我。

It likely took time and self-awareness to get there.

Keep checking in with yourself and honoring your needs.

不斷了解自己，尊重自己的需求。

Healthy kindness isn't about giving everything.

健康的仁慈並不是要付出一切。

It's about giving freely without guilt or fear. 11 to 20 points.

這就是無愧於心、無畏於心的自由奉獻。11 至 20 分

You have a big heart and a genuine desire to help others, but sometimes you may lose sight of your own needs.

你心胸寬廣，真心希望幫助他人，但有時可能會忽略自己的需要。

Perhaps you've internalized the idea that your worth comes from being needed or making sure everyone else is okay.

也許你已經將自己的價值來自於被需要或確保其他人都好的想法內化了。

The truth is, your kindness is invaluable, but so are you.

事實上，你的善良是無價的，但你也是無價的。

You often carry the weight of everyone else's emotions on your shoulders and feel guilty for saying no, worrying you'll be seen as selfish.

你常常把別人的情緒都扛在肩上，對說 "不 "感到內疚，擔心自己會被視為自私。

You might even feel invisible sometimes because it's always you taking care of others' needs, but never the other way around.

有時你甚至會覺得自己被忽視了，因為總是你在照顧別人的需求，而不是別人在照顧你。

And underneath it all might be a quiet fear.

在這一切的背後，可能是一種無聲的恐懼。

What if I'm only lovable when I'm useful?

如果我只有在有用的時候才可愛呢？

Hey, many sensitive people develop this pattern because keeping others happy felt like the safest way to feel loved or valued.

嘿，很多敏感的人都會形成這種模式，因為讓別人開心是感覺被愛或被重視的最安全的方式。

It's okay to feel conflicted about saying no.

The key is learning to balance your natural compassion with self-compassion.

關鍵是要學會在自然的同情心和自我同情心之間取得平衡。

What beliefs or experiences led you to put others before yourself?

是什麼信念或經歷導致你先人後己？

How can you practice self-compassion and start nurturing your own needs too?

如何才能做到自我憐憫，並開始培養自己的需求？

Maybe take this as a sign to start listening to your own voice.

也許可以把這當作一個信號，開始傾聽自己的聲音。

You deserve care too, not just for what you give others, but for simply being you.

你也值得被關愛，不僅因為你給了別人什麼，還因為你就是你自己。

All right, if you got 21 to 30 points, you're the kindness chameleon.

好吧，如果你得到 21 到 30 分，你就是善良的變色龍。

I know it can be hard to check in with ourselves sometimes.

我知道，有時很難對自己進行自我檢查。

If your score is in this range, it means you've mastered the art of shape-shifting to meet everyone else's needs, no matter how much it costs you.

如果你的得分在這個範圍內，就意味著你已經掌握了變形的藝術，可以滿足其他人的需求，無論付出多少代價。

You anticipate what others want before they say a word.

在別人開口之前，你就能預測到他們想要什麼。

You shrink yourself to keep the peace, overextend to feel valued, and say yes, even when every part of you is screaming, please, no.

為了保持和平，你會縮小自己；為了感覺自己有價值，你會過度擴張；即使你的每一部分都在吶喊 "請不要"，你還是會說 "是"。

Your kindness is powerful, but it's easy to lose touch with your own needs while taking care of everyone else's.

你的善意是強大的，但在照顧別人的同時也很容易忽略自己的需求。

Recognizing this pattern is the first step toward creating a healthier balance.

認識到這種模式是建立更健康平衡的第一步。

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