Name: 為什麼我總是那麼冷靜 (Why I'm Always So Calm)
Uploaded: 2025-05-23T02:19:54.000Z
Duration: 9 min 32 s

A big thank you to Squarespace for being today's sponsor and for helping me build my new website.

非常感謝 Squarespace 成為今天的贊助商，並幫助我建立新網站。

Ladies and gentlemen, we are here to tell you that the work is ending.

女士們，先生們，我們在此告訴大家，工作即將結束。

We'd like to thank everyone who has been tuning in for the past few years and we'll see you on the other side.

我們要感謝過去幾年來一直收聽我們節目的每一位觀眾，我們彼岸再見。

So this is kind of a weird topic for me, because it's almost like being a potato and someone going how are you so potatoey, and you're just like, I don't know, I'm just that potatoey and I don't really know of anything else.

對我來說，這是個很奇怪的話題，因為這就像你是個洋芋，有人問你怎麼這麼像洋芋，而你只是說，我不知道，我就是這麼像洋芋，我真的不知道還有什麼其他的。

Yep, that's sort of what it feels like when people ask me how are you always so calm.

是的，當別人問我你怎麼總是這麼鎮定時，我就有這種感覺。

Because it feels like I've always been this way, although it's been more so that people have pointed it out to me rather than me realizing it myself.

因為我感覺自己一直都是這樣，雖然更多的是別人指出來，而不是我自己意識到。

But I haven't, in fact, always been this way.

It's taken a major shift in mindset and quite a bit of work to get to this stage of chillness.

我的心態發生了很大的轉變，也付出了很多努力，才走到了現在這個階段。

At this very moment, for example, my camera charger is missing, and I've been looking for it since yesterday.

比如現在，我的相機充電器不見了，從昨天開始我就一直在找。

The battery is at about 11% charge, which is enough to film this segment right here and likely another minute or two.

電池電量約為 11%，足夠拍攝這段視頻，可能還需要一兩分鐘。

I'm a bit frustrated with myself for not putting it back where it belongs in the first place, because had I done that, I wouldn't have been in this situation right now.

我有點懊惱自己當初沒有把它放回原處，因為如果我那樣做了，我現在就不會落得如此下場。

But as far as I'm aware, screaming and throwing things around doesn't magically summon missing objects.

但就我所知，尖叫和亂扔東西並不能神奇地召喚出丟失的物品。

The only way to potentially find it is to keep looking for it, one drawer at a time, without creating any unnecessary mess, while also keeping my blood pressure steady.

唯一可能找到它的辦法就是一個抽屜一個抽屜地找，既不造成不必要的混亂，又能保持我的血壓穩定。

If it does remain lost despite my efforts to find it, the only practical solution would be to simply go and buy a new one.

如果我千方百計也找不到它，唯一可行的辦法就是去買一個新的。

And it's not about keeping emotions inside and torturing myself.

而不是把情緒憋在心裡，折磨自己。

It's about picking your battles and carefully choosing your words, figuring out what the appropriate response to a given situation is to avoid making a habit out of destructive behaviors and thought patterns.

這就是要選擇自己的戰鬥，謹慎地選擇自己的言辭，找出對特定情況的適當反應，以避免將破壞性的行為和思維模式變成一種習慣。

See, even if I am freaking out about something on the inside, whether in a good way or in a bad way, majority of the time, I will look like I'm sitting on a yacht with the wind blowing in my hair.

你看，即使我內心在為某些事情抓狂，無論是好的方面還是壞的方面，大多數時候，我都會看起來像坐在遊艇上，風吹著我的頭髮。

And quite honestly, this has gotten me in, I wouldn't say trouble, but it's gotten my peers to question how I really feel sometimes, because my lack of reaction can sometimes be perceived as indifference.

老實說，這給我帶來了麻煩，我不敢說是麻煩，但有時會讓我的同伴質疑我的真實感受，因為我的無動於衷有時會被認為是漠不關心。

To be completely transparent, sometimes I've had to ask myself if I'm just being apathetic.

說白了，有時我不得不問自己，我是不是太冷漠了。

And the nihilist in me says yes, but then I remember crying over bruised tomatoes and the excruciating feeling of guilt every time I need to separate fruits and vegetables from their friends and family at the grocery store.

我這個虛無主義者說是的，但我又想起了為弄傷的西紅柿而哭泣，以及每次在雜貨店裡把水果和蔬菜與它們的朋友和家人分開時那種痛苦的負罪感。

So yeah, pretty positive that it has nothing to do with apathy.

所以是的，我非常肯定這與冷漠無關。

I think I'm just constantly torn between every single little thing matters and will trigger my anxiety and literally nothing matters and we're just a tiny piece of insignificant dust and none of this will ever be important in the grand scheme of things anyway.

我想我只是一直在糾結，每件小事都很重要，都會引發我的焦慮，而實際上什麼都不重要，我們只是一粒微不足道的塵埃，無論如何，這一切在大局中都不會重要。

And that's not meaning it in a nihilistic way, I think, but rather in the way that there's no need to get too worked up when things don't go the way we want them to.

我想，這並不是虛無主義的意思，而是說，當事情沒有按照我們的意願發展時，沒必要太激動。

Just ask yourself this, when was the last time you actually listened to a person who was yelling and took them seriously?

捫心自問，你上一次認真傾聽一個人的吼叫是什麼時候？

In my experience, letting anger get the best of you to the point where you express yourself aggressively or disrespectfully tends to only make you lose your credibility, and it oftentimes makes you look like a fool.

根據我的經驗，讓憤怒衝昏頭腦，以至於咄咄逼人或不尊重的方式表達自己的觀點，往往只會讓你失去信譽，而且經常會讓你看起來像個傻瓜。

Can you remember a time where getting loud and vulgar has benefited you or the situation in any way?

你還記得有哪次大聲喧譁、粗俗無禮對你或你所處的環境有任何好處嗎？

If there's anything I've learned, getting unreasonably worked up just delays everything.

如果說我學到了什麼，那就是無理取鬧只會拖延一切。

A problem that could've been solved in five minutes is likely to remain unresolved for much longer than that.

本可以在五分鐘內解決的問題，很可能會在更長的時間內得不到解決。

Not only because no one is listening, but also because the focus tends to shift from the issue at hand to the frustration and resentment that builds up when having to deal with someone who's speaking to you impolitely or even irrationally.

這不僅是因為沒有人在傾聽，還因為當你不得不面對一個對你說話不禮貌甚至無理的人時，注意力往往會從手頭的問題轉移到沮喪和怨恨上。

Practicing keeping your cool is not only doing your own peace a favor, but it's also doing a favor to the peace of those around you.

保持冷靜不僅有利於自己的平靜，也有利於周圍人的平靜。

If I were to get overly worked up every time something stressed me out, like, let's say, not finding my camera charger, that'll affect those around me as well.

如果每次遇到讓我壓力過大的事情，比如說，找不到相機充電器，我就會過度緊張，這也會影響到我周圍的人。

And although some of us are more tempered and less patient by nature, or by the way that the chemical cocktail in our brain is wired, I do believe that it's our liability to, at the very least, do our best to lessen the suffering of both ourselves and of those who have to live with us.

雖然我們中的一些人天生脾氣比較暴躁，耐心比較差，或者說大腦中的化學物質使然，但我相信，我們有責任至少盡最大努力減輕自己和那些不得不與我們生活在一起的人的痛苦。

And that's not to say that you should keep your emotions to yourself and be afraid to express them.

這並不是說，你應該把自己的情緒藏在心裡，害怕表達出來。

I just think that it's important to gain a healthy sense of perspective.

我只是認為，獲得一種健康的觀點很重要。

It'll make you better equipped for keeping your cool when shit hits the fan, or even when it doesn't.

這將讓你在遇到困難時，甚至在沒有遇到困難時，都能更好地保持冷靜。

Now, the obvious way to gain perspective is through life experiences, but let's take a moment to appreciate the mind-transforming powers of certain books.

現在，獲得觀點的明顯途徑是通過生活經歷，但讓我們花點時間來欣賞一下某些書籍改變思想的力量。

We are currently reading Cosmos by Carl Sagan for our book club, I'll leave a link in the description box on how to join, and it has reinforced something that I keep reminding myself of, and that is that we're so small.

我們的讀書俱樂部目前正在閱讀卡爾-薩根（Carl Sagan）的《宇宙》（Cosmos），我會在描述框中留下鏈接，告訴大家如何加入。

I'd like to share a quote with you, and just hearing this quote will make you at least 15% more unbothered as a person.

我想和大家分享一句話，只要聽到這句話，你至少會有 15%的人不再煩惱。

We inhabit a universe where atoms are made in the centers of stars, where each second a thousand suns are born, where life is sparked by sunlight and lightning in the airs and waters of youthful planets, where the raw material for biological evolution is sometimes made by the explosion of a star halfway across the Milky Way, where a thing as beautiful as the galaxy is formed a hundred billion times, a cosmos of quasars and quarks, snowflakes and fireflies, where there might be black holes and other universe and extraterrestrial civilizations whose radio messages are at this moment reaching the earth.

在我們居住的宇宙中，原子是在恆星中心產生的，每秒鐘都有一千個太陽誕生，生命是由陽光和閃電在年輕行星的空氣和水域中激發的，生物進化的原材料有時是由橫跨銀河系一半的恆星爆炸產生的、在那裡，像銀河系這樣美麗的東西會形成千億次，一個由類星體和夸克、雪花和螢火蟲組成的宇宙，那裡可能有黑洞、其他宇宙和外星文明，它們的無線電資訊此刻正傳到地球上。

How pallid by comparison are the pretensions of superstition and pseudoscience?

相比之下，迷信和偽科學的偽裝是多麼蒼白無力？

How important is it for us to pursue and understand science, that characteristically human endeavor?

追求和理解科學這一人類特有的事業對我們有多重要？

And just like that, you will never again suffer when a dude leaves you on read.

就這樣，你再也不會因為一個花花公子在閱讀時離開你而感到痛苦了。

Besides gaining perspective, you could also just do things that are calming, like gardening, taking long walks, or, I don't know, building a website with Squarespace, which is also today's sponsor.

除了開闊視野，你還可以做一些讓自己平靜下來的事情，比如園藝、散步，或者，我也不知道，用 Squarespace 建一個網站，它也是今天的贊助商。

I often get messages from people who are artists, writers, musicians, entrepreneurs, youtubers who share their work with me, or from people who want to start blogging, or create their own space and community online.

我經常收到藝術家、作家、音樂家、企業家、Youtuber 的留言，他們與我分享他們的作品，或者是想開始寫博客、創建自己的網絡空間和社區的人。

And then when I go to check them out, oftentimes they don't have a website.

然後當我去查看時，他們往往沒有網站。

And every single time, I think to myself, why don't they have a website?

每次我都在想，為什麼他們沒有網站呢？

Why don't they get their stuff out there?

他們為什麼不把自己的東西拿出來？

You know, I think having your own website can only benefit you regardless of the current size of your audience or spectators.

你知道，我認為擁有自己的網站只會讓你受益，無論你目前的觀眾或聽眾人數有多少。

A few months back, I launched my own site on there.

幾個月前，我在那裡推出了自己的網站。

And up until that point, I had thought that building a website was going to take a lot of time and work, but with Squarespace, it really didn't.

在此之前，我一直以為建立一個網站需要花費大量的時間和精力，但有了 Squarespace，這一切都不是問題。

I just picked one of their beautiful and professional templates and started building a site that I felt suited me.

我只是從他們精美而專業的模板中挑選了一個，然後開始建立一個我認為適合自己的網站。

And now I have shared all of my favorite books on there, my camera equipment, I have connected my social media accounts, I get close insights to the traffic on the site, and so much more.

現在，我已經在網站上分享了我最喜歡的書籍、我的攝影器材、我的社交媒體賬戶、我對網站流量的近距離洞察等等。

To try it out yourself, go to squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch, go to squarespace.com slash lana blakely to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

如果想親自試用，請訪問 squarespace.com 免費試用，當你準備好啟動網站時，訪問 squarespace.com slash lana blakely，首次購買網站或域名可節省 10% 的折扣。

And I'll of course leave a link for that in the description box as well.

當然，我也會在描述框中留下鏈接。

Thank you so much again to Squarespace for being today's sponsor.

再次感謝 Squarespace 成為今天的贊助商。

Please share any thoughts that you might have on this topic.

請與我們分享您對此話題的任何想法。

Are you more of a calm person, or are you more upbeat?

你是一個比較冷靜的人，還是一個比較樂觀的人？

And if you are someone who tends to be very cool, calm, and collected, what is one situation that really triggers you?

如果你是一個傾向於非常冷靜、沉著和鎮定的人，那麼什麼情況會真正觸發你？

I would love to know that, because I know that I have some of those situations.

我很想知道，因為我知道我也有這樣的情況。

Thank you so much for watching, and I'll see you in the comment section.

非常感謝您的收看，我們評論區見。