Name: 讓異性幫你道歉！道歉技巧大公開！ (Say sorry like the opposite gender for a better apology)
Uploaded: 2026-01-29T17:02:49.000Z
Duration: 3 min 48 s

Oh, I'm aware of how my actions affected you, Carl.

喔，我當然知道我的行為對你造成了什麼影響，卡爾。

I will make sure to change my behavior moving forward.

I don't know why you put on a mustache and used more stereotypically masculine language, but

我不知道你為什麼留了鬍子還用了比較刻板印象的男性化語言，但是

for some reason, that makes your apology more effective.

不知道為什麼，這讓你的道歉聽起來更真誠了。

Sorry to ask, but how is apology effectiveness dependent on apology content and gender?

抱歉這麼問，但道歉的有效性怎麼會跟道歉內容和性別有關呢？

Shows that the most effective apology is one that goes against gender stereotypes.

這顯示最有效的道歉是那種違反性別刻板印象的。

So if women apologize like a man and men apologize like a woman, it's more effective.

所以如果女性像男性一樣道歉，男性像女性一樣道歉，效果會更好。

Well, in this case, masculine language is defined as having more agency, being more assertive, confident, and

嗯，在這個例子裡，男性化語言被定義為更有主導性、更果斷、自信，

And feminine language is warm, communal, and nurturing.

而女性化語言則是溫暖、有群體感、而且呵護的。

Oh, so a masculine apology would be like, yo, dude, my bad.

喔，所以男性化的道歉大概就是，「嘿，老兄，我的錯。」

And a feminine apology may be like, oh, my God, I realize that I've hurt you.

而女性化的道歉可能是，「天啊，我意識到我傷害了你。」

It's interesting that counter stereotypical language affects the way the apology lands.

有趣的是，反刻板印象的語言會影響道歉的聽感。

Perhaps it's because if someone apologizes exactly the way that you expect them to, it could come across as less sincere.

也許是因為如果有人道歉的方式完全符合你的預期，反而會讓人覺得不夠真誠。

So, like, if you bestie wanted to apologize for stealing my stars in Mario party last night, and

所以，假設你最好的朋友昨晚在瑪利歐派對裡偷了我的星星，然後

you decided to use masc language, I might think, wow, she's being pretty direct.

你決定用陽剛的語言道歉，我可能會覺得，哇，她講話好直接。

I appreciate that this is probably sincere, and she's not gonna do me dirty like that again.

我很感激這可能很真誠，而且她不會再這樣對我了。

And if you apologize to me in feminine language for Chomp calling my rightful star away when I was one space in front of it, which led me to stealing a star from you, I'd be like, wow, my God, he's being really vulnerable right now.

如果你用陰柔的語言向我道歉，說Chomp在我前面一格時把我的應得的星星叫走了，這導致我偷了你一顆星，我會想，哇，天啊，他現在真的很脆弱。

But I'm not gonna apologize for Chomp calling that star, and

但我不會為Chomp叫走那顆星道歉，

I'm not gonna apologize for stealing one, Carl.

而且，Carl，我也不會為偷了一顆星道歉。

So I guess this research is meaningless, useless.

所以我想這研究是毫無意義、毫無用處的。

You screwed me in Mario Party, and that's exactly what this is about, so screw you.

你上次在Mario Party裡陰我，這就是重點，所以去你的。

You were just picking on me because you know I'm a winner.

你只是因為知道我是個贏家，所以才欺負我。

Most New Year's resolutions fade by February.

大部分的新年新希望都會在二月就消失了。

But real change does not come from becoming someone new.

但真正的改變不是來自變成一個全新的人。

It comes from small, consistent habits that create growth over time.

它來自於微小、持之以恆的習慣，隨著時間累積成長。

Discipline and showing up will always trump temporary motivation.

紀律和堅持總是能勝過一時的衝動。

So One of my New Year's resolutions is to make inner child play a habit.

所以我其中一個新年新希望，就是把內在小孩的玩樂變成一個習慣。

I tend to work too much, and then I feel like I'm not actually living my life.

我常常工作過度，然後就覺得自己好像沒有真正地在過生活。

So this last year, at the advice of my therapist, I wrote a list of things that mean fun to me.

所以去年，在我治療師的建議下，我列了一份對我來說很有趣的事情清單。

And so once a month, I have to cross one of those things off.

然後我每個月就必須從清單上劃掉一件事情。

So I've done archery, I've tried horseback riding, a gun safety class, bouldering.

我試過射箭、騎馬、槍枝安全課程、抱石。

And I gotta say, it has completely changed my quality of life.

說真的，這完全改變了我的生活品質。

And I am extremely grateful to my therapist because she's the one who actually reframed that I could use my work ethic like the one from my career and just use it to schedule rest and prioritize play.

我非常感謝我的治療師，因為是她讓我重新思考，我可以運用我職業生涯中的那種工作態度，來安排休息和優先考慮玩樂。

And it's just been, like, so nice to go for.

From 17 years of, like, grief and trauma therapy and emotional regulation to now being at the point where it's like, okay, I have picked up all the pieces.

從17年來的悲傷、創傷治療和情緒調節，到現在我已經能把所有事情都整理好了。

So wherever you're at in life, or whatever life you are trying to build, therapy is a great place to start.

所以，無論你現在人生處於什麼階段，或者你正努力想建立什麼樣的人生，心理治療都是一個很棒的起點。

And I want to say thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring today's video.

我想感謝 BetterHelp 贊助今天的影片。

All you need to do is fill out a questionnaire and you're matched with a therapist in as little as a couple of days.

你只需要填寫一份問卷，就能在幾天內配對到一位心理治療師。

And if for any reason it's not the right fit, you can easily switch therapists anytime at no ext extra cost.

如果因為任何原因不適合，你隨時都可以輕鬆更換治療師，而且完全不用額外付費。

You can click the link in the description or go to betterhelp.comakana and get 10 off your first month of therapy.

你可以點擊說明欄裡的連結，或前往 betterhelp.comakana，就能享有首月治療費用 8 折優惠。

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