Name: 為什麼男人放棄約會了？ (Why Are Men Giving Up On Dating?)
Uploaded: 2025-12-26T18:25:35.000Z
Duration: 3 min 51 s

Did you know that over 60% of men under 30 are single?

你知道嗎？30歲以下的男性，有超過六成是單身！

That's according to a 2022 Pew Research center survey, and

這是根據2022年Pew Research Center的調查，而且

it highlights a growing problem in today's dating world.

這也凸顯了現代約會世界裡一個日益嚴重的問題。

Many men feel frustrated, left out and dissatisfied with their sex lives and relationships.

很多男性對於自己的性生活和感情關係感到沮喪、被排除在外，以及不滿意。

Social media, dating apps and a competitive dating culture only exacerbate the problem for men who already feel left behind.

社群媒體、交友軟體和競爭激烈的約會文化，只會讓那些已經感到被拋在後面的男性處境更加艱難。

On top of that, labels like INCEL can make men internalize these struggles, feeling like they've failed.

更別說，像INCEL這樣的標籤，可能會讓男性內化這些掙扎，覺得自己失敗了。

In this video, we'll explore why so many men feel disillusioned by modern dating and what's driving this growing frustration.

在這支影片裡，我們會探討為什麼這麼多男性對現代約會感到幻滅，以及是什麼在驅動這種日益增長的沮喪感。

The Attractiveness Gap According to a study by dating app OkCupid, about 80% of men were rated unattractive or simply below average by women.

吸引力差距 根據交友軟體OkCupid的一項研究，大約有80%的男性被女性評為沒有吸引力或僅低於平均水平。

This perceived gap in attractiveness is one of the driving factors behind why young men feel they're never enough in the dating world.

這個感知到的吸引力差距，是導致年輕男性覺得自己在約會世界裡永遠不夠好的主要因素之一。

Because if most women deem them ugly, what chance do they have against the 20% who are considered attractive?

因為如果大多數女性認為他們長得醜，那那些被認為有吸引力的20%男性，他們還有什麼機會呢？

Additionally, men are perceived to be less selective and pickier about female attractiveness, especially when it comes to trying to find matches on dating apps like Tinder and hinge.

而且，男性在女性吸引力方面被認為選擇性較少、比較挑剔，尤其是在 Tinder 和 Hinge 這類交友軟體上尋找配對時。

Back in 2017, Aviv Goldgyer, an engineer for the popular app Hinge, analyzed data from the platform and found that men initiate matches three times more often than women.

早在 2017 年，受歡迎的 Hinge 交友軟體工程師 Aviv Goldgyer 分析了該平臺的數據，發現男性發起配對的次數是女性的三倍。

Worse, he also discovered that 50% of attempts by males, such as likes on the app, went to just 25% of women.

更糟的是，他還發現男性嘗試配對的行為，例如按讚，有 50% 都流向了僅僅 25% 的女性。

If it was this bad for men on dating apps years ago, can you imagine how bad it is today?

如果幾年前男性在使用交友軟體時情況就這麼糟了，你現在能想像有多糟嗎？

Still, many also argue that the ratio is off, since the data shows that there are more men than women on dating apps.

不過，許多人也認為比例不對，因為數據顯示交友軟體上的男性比女性多。

For instance, on Tinder, the ratio of men to women is 3 to 1, and

舉例來說，在 Tinder 上，男女比例是 3 比 1，

it's reported that 76% of the app users are male.

而且據報導，該應用程式的使用者中有 76% 是男性。

However, the fact that there are more men on dating apps actually validates the idea that the odds seem to be stacked against them, at least in the online dating world.

然而，交友軟體上男性較多的事實，實際上證實了機率似乎對他們不利的觀點，至少在線上約會的世界裡是如此。

When in doubt Porn Are men turning to porn to cope with a lack of options in the dating world?

如果感到懷疑，色情內容 男性是否會轉向色情內容來應對約會世界裡選擇的匱乏？

In an article for Psychology Today, psychologist and researcher Dr.

在 Psychology Today 的一篇文章中，心理學家兼研究員 Dr.

Fred Rabinowitz explains that young men might be developing a dependence on porn to cope with feeling shut out of real life relationships, he explains.

Fred Rabinowitz 博士解釋說，年輕男性可能會對色情內容產生依賴，以應對在現實生活中感到被排斥的關係，他這麼說。

Young men are watching a lot of social media, they're watching a lot of porn, and

年輕男性觀看大量的社群媒體，他們觀看大量的色情內容，而且

I think they're getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out.

我認為他們在不出門的情況下就能滿足很多需求。

Rabinowitz, along with other experts, notes that this trend isn't new, but

Rabinowitz 博士與其他專家指出，這種趨勢並非新鮮事，但

the pandemic appears to have amplified it.

During COVID 19 lockdowns, major adult platforms saw dramatic traffic surges.

在 COVID 19 封鎖期間，主要的成人平臺流量激增。

Pornhub, for example, reported a daily average increase of about 24% compared to pre pandemic usage.

例如，Pornhub 報告稱，與疫情前相比，每日平均流量增加了約 24%。

This is a disturbing trend because it indicates that young men are using porn to escape reality and substituting porn for real relationships.

這是一個令人不安的趨勢，因為這表明年輕男性正在利用色情內容逃避現實，並用色情內容取代真實的關係。

And the irony of using porn to cope with loneliness is that it can worsen the problem and even result in addiction.

而諷刺的是，用色情內容來應對孤獨感，反而可能讓問題更嚴重，甚至導致成癮。

For all the men watching who feel afraid to reach out to someone for support, you're not alone and you deserve empathy and understanding.

各位正在收看的男性朋友，如果你們害怕向他人尋求支持，請記住，你們並不孤單，你們值得同情和理解。

Destigmatizing mental health and encouraging men to seek support is the first step to tackling this issue.

消除對心理健康的汙名化，鼓勵男性尋求支持，是解決這個問題的第一步。

Digital burnout, Social media and the Internet at large have definitely played a role in the male dating crisis.

數位倦怠、社群媒體和整個網際網路，絕對在男性約會危機中扮演了角色。

Many young men express feelings that they can't compete with the unrealistic expectations of social media doom scrolling through posts of alpha males who seem to be financially, socially, and

許多年輕男性表示，他們無法與社群媒體上那些看似在財務、社交和

情感上都無懈可擊的「α男性」所帶來的、不切實際的期望競爭。

Of course, a lot of what we see on social media is smoke and mirrors, but

當然，社群媒體上很多內容都是虛假的，但

even with that thought in mind, it's difficult not to internalize it.

即使這麼想，也很難不將其內化。

So what are your thoughts on the male dating crisis?

那麼，你對男性約會危機有什麼看法呢？

Did any of the information in this video surprise you?

這部影片中的任何資訊有讓你感到驚訝嗎？

We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments section.

歡迎在留言區分享你的想法喔。

As always, please take care of yourself and have a wonderful day.

祝大家天天都開開心心，照顧好自己！