Name: 5種愛自己的跡象，而不是自私！ (5 Signs of Self Love, Not Being Selfish)
Uploaded: 2025-12-25T18:21:49.000Z
Duration: 5 min 18 s

What do you think it means to have self love?

你覺得「自愛」是什麼意思呢？

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And if so, do you think your actions reflect this self love?

如果是的話，你覺得你的行為有反映出這種自愛嗎？

Some people might feel guilty about practicing self love, mistaking it for selfishness or narcissism.

有些人可能會對實踐自愛感到內疚，誤以為那是自私或自戀。

In fact, famous psychologists such as Erich Fromm and Alfred Alder believed self love to be necessary for a healthy sense of self esteem, self worth and self enhancement.

事實上，像 Erich Fromm 和 Alfred Alder 這些著名的心理學家都認為，自愛對於健康的自尊、自我價值和自我提升是必要的。

According to licensed psychotherapist Sharon Martin, self love means accepting yourself fully, treating yourself with kindness and respect, and

根據執照心理治療師 Sharon Martin 的說法，自愛意味著全然接納自己，善待和尊重自己，並且

nurturing your own growth and well being.

Now, does that sound like a bad thing to do?

這樣聽起來，你會覺得這是件壞事嗎？

Well, if you're still on the fence about it, here are five psychology backed signs from experts that what you're doing isn't selfish.

嗯，如果你還在猶豫不決，這裡有五個心理學專家提供的、心理學支持的跡象，告訴你你所做的一切並非自私。

It's self love Positivity versus Superiority Just because self love is about taking care of yourself doesn't mean it should come at the expense of others.

自愛是積極性，而非優越感。自愛並不代表要犧牲他人。

This is one of the most common misconceptions people have and why they sometimes mistake self love for selfishness.

這是人們最常見的誤解之一，也是為什麼他們有時會將自愛誤認為自私。

Self love isn't about ignoring everyone else's needs, explains self help author Susannah Nusinen.

自助作家 Susannah Nusinen 解釋說，自愛並不是要忽略別人的需求。

Rather, it's about having a more positive relationship with yourself and supporting yourself as much as you do those around you.

而是要與自己建立更積極的關係，並像支持身邊的人一樣支持自己。

That's why one of the most telling signs you're practicing self love and not selfishness is if it brings more positivity into your life.

這就是為什麼，你實踐自愛而非自私，最明顯的跡象之一就是它為你的生活帶來更多積極性。

Your actions and choices need to balance loving and respecting yourself just as much as you do everyone else.

你的行為和選擇需要平衡愛護和尊重自己，就像你愛護和尊重其他人一樣。

According to psychology researcher and Courtney E.

根據心理學研究員 Courtney E. Ackerman 的說法，自愛的一些好處包括內心更平靜、更真實、焦慮和壓力更少，以及

Ackerman, some benefits of self love include more peace of mind, greater authenticity, less anxiety and stress, and

自信與自戀。根據執照臨床社工 Jill Dano 的說法，自戀的諷刺之處在於，它實際上源於缺乏自信，而不是過度自信。

Self Confidence versus Narcissism the ironic thing about narcissism, according to licensed clinical social worker Jill Dano, is that it's actually rooted in a lack of self confidence, not an overabundance of it.

People who are selfish and narcissistic put themselves above everyone else because they lack a sense of security in their own worth and value.

自私和自戀的人會把自己置於他人之上，因為他們缺乏對自我價值和價值的安全感。

So they feel they need to be as competitive and show offish as possible to convince everyone else of it.

所以他們覺得需要盡可能地競爭和炫耀，來讓別人相信這一點。

But the ones who do things that come from a place of self love don't feel the need to boast about their accomplishments or tear other people down just to feel good about themselves.

但那些出於自愛而做事的人，不需要吹噓自己的成就，也不需要貶低別人來讓自己感覺良好。

They're able to accept praise and compliments for a job well done without being too high and mighty about it because they know they're not desperate to prove anything.

他們能夠接受自己做得好的讚美和稱讚，而不會顯得過於高高在上，因為他們知道自己並不急於證明什麼。

They know their own positive deeds and qualities, and

他們知道自己的正面事蹟和特質，

they celebrate it they don't rub everybody else's face in it.

並為此慶祝，而不是到處炫耀。

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Now moving on to the next point Self Compassion vs Self Criticism According to psychologist Dr.

接下來進入下一個重點：自我關懷 vs. 自我批評。根據心理學家 Dr.

Nicole Siegfried, most of us are often raised to believe that we need to criticize ourselves in order to push ourselves to be better.

Nicole Siegfried 的說法，我們大多數人從小就被教導要批評自己，才能讓自己變得更好。

But what most people fail to understand is that it can do a lot more harm than good to our ego because it may keep us from treating ourselves with compassion.

但大多數人沒有意識到的是，這對我們的自尊弊大於利，因為它可能會讓我們無法善待自己。

So the next time you make a mistake, observe how you react and talk to yourself about it.

所以下次你犯錯的時候，觀察一下你的反應，以及你對自己說了些什麼。

Are you quick to blame yourself and say harsh things to yourself about it, or do you try to show yourself some understanding and compassion?

你是急著怪自己，對自己說難聽的話，還是試著對自己多點理解和同情呢？

Resilience versus Self Sabotage when you focus on yourself and your own growth that that self love can pave the way for more happiness and peace to come into your life.

韌性對抗自我破壞，當你專注於自己和自己的成長時，那份自愛就能為你的人生帶來更多幸福與平靜。

Practicing self love and treating yourself with kindness even in the face of hardship cultivates hope, optimism and emotional resilience, says psychologist Sharon Martin.

心理學家 Sharon Martin 表示，練習自愛並在困境中善待自己，能培養希望、樂觀和情緒韌性。

So the next time you're struggling with something, know that it's self love to ask for help when you need it, not selfishness.

所以下次你遇到困難時，請知道，當你需要時尋求幫助是自愛，而不是自私。

Sherry Jacobson, this is because self love encourages self awareness and self improvement, while selfishness encourages self destruction.

Sherry Jacobson 的說法，這是因為自愛鼓勵自我覺察和自我提升，而自私則會導致自我毀滅。

It's a form of self love to know your limits, respect the limits of others, and

知道自己的極限、尊重他人的極限，這也是一種自愛，

Setting vs overstepping boundaries According to psychologist Dr.

Christina Gomez, self love in action can look a lot like taking initiative and being more assertive.

Christina Gomez 表示，實際的自愛就像是主動出擊，更堅定地表達自己。

That's because when you love yourself, you prioritize your well being and strive to meet your own needs, not just leave it up to everybody else.

這是因為當你愛自己時，你會優先考慮自己的福祉，努力滿足自己的需求，而不是全仰賴別人。

You make healthy choices most of the time and set healthy boundaries for yourself.

大部分時間你會做出健康的選擇，並為自己設定健康的界線。

You understand that you don't need to sacrifice your own happiness just to give other people theirs and that thinking that way is harmful.

你明白自己不必犧牲自己的快樂來成全別人的快樂，而且那樣想是有害的。

Self love is about knowing what truly matters, says Dr. Gomez.

Gomez 博士說，自愛是關於知道什麼才是真正重要的。

So it's not selfish to take care of your own needs.

所以照顧自己的需求並不是自私。

What's selfish is taking from others and using them for your own gain without any consideration for their well being, which is what you would be letting other people do by not setting healthy boundaries.

自私的是從別人那裡索取，並利用他們來謀取自己的利益，卻絲毫不考慮他們的福祉，這就是你不設定健康界線時會讓別人對你做的事。

To quote American Self help author Wilfred Allen, Be gentle with yourself.

引用美國自助作家 Wilfred Allen 的話：「對自己溫柔。」

Learn to love yourself to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude towards ourselves can we have the right attitude towards others.

學會愛自己，原諒自己，因為只有當我們對自己有正確的態度時，我們才能對他人有正確的態度。

What are some ways that you practice self love in your life.

你平常會透過哪些方式來實踐自愛呢？

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