Name: 練習這些將徹底改變你的人生！ (Practicing these things will change your life)
Uploaded: 2025-12-18T17:02:10.000Z
Duration: 7 min 26 s

Practicing these things will change your life.

練習這些事情會改變你的人生。

What old patterns are you falling into that are not serving you?

你正陷入哪些對你沒有幫助的舊有模式？

And what do you believe about yourself and your life and which of those beliefs is limiting you?

你對自己和你的生活有什麼信念，而這些信念中又有什麼限制了你？

Practicing self awareness helps you figure out exactly how you relate to others, yourself and the world.

練習自我覺察能幫助你精確地瞭解你如何與他人、自己以及世界互動。

We are usually recreating the dynamics we had with our family with other people.

我們通常會重複著我們與家庭的動力學，並將其套用在其他人身上。

And often it's just our own unique brand of dysfunction.

而且常常只是我們獨特的失功能模式。

So like it's a, it's a vintage family heirloom passed on from generation to generation, generation.

所以就像是，就像是代代相傳的復古家族傳承物一樣。

So I had this decade long pattern of becoming financially entangled with my friends because of my mother's addictions and how she sort of like stole my college fund and my life savings multiple times.

所以我有一種持續十年的模式，就是因為我母親的成癮，以及她好幾次偷走我的大學基金和畢生積蓄，導致我跟朋友財務糾纏不清。

I was very driven to succeed, to achieve wealth, and to financially prosper as a survival mechanism.

我非常渴望成功、賺取財富，並財務蓬勃發展，這是一種生存機制。

I kept believing that if I had enough money I could be secure.

我一直相信，只要我有足夠的錢，我就能安全。

And this was a message that I carried from childhood, which is pretty great, right?

這是一個我從童年時期帶來的訊息，真的很棒，對吧？

我的意思是，它對我很有幫助。

Not all coping mechanisms are necessarily bad, except that I also took feeling completely financially responsible for others into adulthood.

並非所有的應對機制都一定不好，只是我也把對他人負擔財務責任的感覺帶進了成年。

So the way I got love from my mom was by paying off her debt or funding her trips to Pechanga casino.

所以，我從我媽媽那裡得到愛的管道，就是幫她還債或資助她去 Pechanga 賭場旅行。

So in my friendships I would try to pay for people's dream projects or hire them for my business.

所以在我的友誼中，我會試著支付人們的夢想計畫費用，或聘請他們到我的公司工作。

And then these blurred lines of like friends, employee, boss, always ended in disaster because I was recreating this dynamic of just endlessly giving materially in order to achieve love, which is an equation that doesn't work.

然後朋友、員工、老闆這些界線變得模糊，總是導致災難，因為我重複著這種透過無止盡地給予物質來換取愛的動力學，這是一個行不通的公式。

And with self awareness you can identify, identify these patterns that may seem a little obvious to others, but

透過自我覺察，你可以辨識出，辨識出這些對別人來說可能有點明顯的模式，但

that you're blindsided by and then you can finally put a stop to them so that you can have healthier relationships.

你感到措手不及，然後你終於能停止它們，這樣你就能擁有更健康的關係。

Next, envision who you want to be and take action from that space.

接著，想像你想要成為什麼樣的人，並從那個狀態採取行動。

So Atomic Habits says that the best way to cultivate a new habit is to change your identity to align with that behavior.

所以《原子習慣》說，培養新習慣的最佳方法是改變你的身分認同，使其與該行為一致。

A very simple example of this is like you envision that you're a novelist, but

一個非常簡單的例子是，你想像自己是個小說家，但

you never write or you want to be in shape, but you never exercise.

你從未寫作，或者你想健身，但你從未運動。

So you have to change your identity to be that of a writer or an athletic person and then follow through with the actions you know those people take.

所以你必須改變你的身分認同，成為一個作家或運動員，然後採取那些人會採取的行動。

A more difficult example is like I've been very anxiously attached and have had really deep abandonment wounds my whole life.

一個更困難的例子是，我一直以來都非常焦慮依附，並且有很深的被拋棄創傷。

But now I'm working on, you know, identifying as a secure person, which means that in moments where I'm fearful And I have to soothe my nervous system.

但現在我正在努力，你知道的，認同自己是一個安全的人，這意味著在那些我感到恐懼的時刻，我必須安撫我的神經系統。

I have to constantly choose trust over control and sit in my discomfort rather than taking a bunch of action to try to make it go away.

我必須不斷地選擇信任而非控制，並安於我的不適，而不是採取一堆行動來試圖讓它消失。

Whoever you want to be, if you can, envision who that person is and figure out the tangible actions that they take.

無論你想成為誰，如果你能，想像那個人是誰，並找出他們採取的具體行動。

If you practice that long enough, eventually you will become that person.

如果你這樣練習夠久，最終你就會成為那樣的人。

Motivation will not always be there to energize you into finishing your goals, but discipline will.

動力不會一直都在，讓你充滿能量去完成目標，但紀律會。

Incremental progress is infinitely more powerful than bursts relying on inspiration.

循序漸進的進步，遠比依賴靈感的爆發來得強大。

Now, there are three kinds of discipline.

Active discipline, which is what you need to do in the moment, like eat a healthy meal, limit your distractions, or exercise.

主動紀律，也就是你當下需要做的事，像是吃健康的餐點、減少分心，或是運動。

You are actively choosing a healthier option for yourself in the now.

你是主動地為現在的自己選擇一個更健康的方式。

And then there's reactive discipline, which is controlling your thoughts, behaviors and feelings when dealing with unforeseen circumstances.

然後是反應式紀律，也就是在面對突發狀況時，控制你的想法、行為和感受。

Like if you lock yourself out of the house, you forgive yourself and you're like, okay, I know that mistakes have been made.

像是如果你把自己鎖在門外，你會原諒自己，然後想，好吧，我知道犯錯了。

Instead of shaming or spiraling, if you're dealing with someone who's really rude, you de escalate the situation instead of becoming defensive and combative.

與其自責或失控，如果你遇到一個很無禮的人，你會緩和情況，而不是變得防禦或好鬥。

And then finally there's proactive discipline, which is doing things in advance to help a future situation.

然後最後是主動紀律，也就是事先做好準備來幫助未來的狀況。

Whether it's creating a to do list and then prioritizing that to do list, going to bed on time instead of doom scrolling or bringing an umbrella with you because it looks like it's about to rain.

像是建立待辦事項清單並排序，準時上床睡覺而不是滑手機，或是因為看起來快下雨就帶傘出門。

If you have self discipline in these areas, you can achieve your goals, handle setbacks with grace, and

如果你在這些方面有自律，你就能達成目標，優雅地應對挫折，

then anticipate and meet future needs and finally create your reality.

然後預見並滿足未來的需求，最終創造你的現實。

Just like how you can create new habits and identities for yourself.

就像你可以為自己創造新的習慣和身份一樣。

You can also choose the lens through which you're going to view life and then mo your reality accordingly.

你也可以選擇你看待生活的方式，然後相應地塑造你的現實。

Your life is not set in whatever it is now.

The things you were taught are not facts.

You get to choose who is in your inner circle, what you do with your time and where your life is headed.

你可以選擇誰在你親近的圈子裡，如何運用你的時間，以及你的生活將走向何方。

And once you realize that taking full responsibility for your life means that you get to mold it the way that you want, that's when you get to start creating.

一旦你意識到為自己的人生負起全責，就意味著你可以隨心所欲地塑造它，這時候你就能開始創造。

So like, when I started acting, this industry was so racist, you guys.

所以，像我剛開始演戲的時候，這個產業真的非常種族歧視，各位。

Like, it's still racist, but at least we all know it now.

現在還是，但至少我們都知道了。

You know, everyone's a little more open about it.

你知道，大家對這件事都比較開放了。

But I remember one time, very early in my career, I was reading for this guest star role on a show and the role was an Asian massage therapist, right?

我記得有一次，在我職業生涯的初期，我去試鏡一個客串角色，那個角色是個亞洲按摩師，對吧？

And they stopped me in the middle of my audition, you know, and

然後他們在我的試鏡中途就停下來，你知道，然後

they were like, can you do it with an accent?

他們就說，你可以帶點口音演嗎？

Which means, of course, I booked the gig, which is exciting as an actor.

這表示，當然，我拿下了這個角色，這對演員來說很令人興奮。

But when they sent me the script, I was reading the episode, and

但當他們寄給我劇本時，我正在看那一集，然後

my character, this Asian massage therapist, has a scene where she bends slowly out of frame to give the white protagonist a blowjob during his massage.

我的角色，一位亞洲按摩師，有一場戲，她緩緩地彎出鏡頭，在為白人主角按摩時為他口交。

And then at the very end of the episode, she shows up at his house and thinks that they're getting married.

然後在這一集的最後，她出現在他家，以為他們要結婚了。

Now, I ended up backing out of the job after reading it, but

現在，我讀完劇本後退出了這份工作，但是

that is not even close to the worst horror story I have from this industry.

這還不是我從這個產業聽過最糟的恐怖故事。

Honestly, the amount of demeaning, dehumanizing things I did to pay my bills and just amass credits is truly astounding.

老實說，我為了付帳單和累積履歷所做的那些令人貶低、非人化的事情，真的非常驚人。

But eventually I realized, you know, I don't have to let this be my career.

但最終我意識到，你知道的，我不必讓這成為我的職業生涯。

I don't have to be at the whim of casting directors and producers and other writers.

我不必任由選角導演、製片人和其他編劇擺佈。

So I started writing roles for myself that I knew I would never be cast traditionally for.

所以我開始為自己寫角色，我知道我傳統上不會被選上。

I found scripts and pioneered projects where the race of my character was irrelevant because I didn't want to suffer anymore from the humiliation of a director of the biggest movie of my career yelling, why are her tits so small?

我找到了劇本，開創了專案，劇中角色的種族無關緊要，因為我再也不想忍受我職業生涯中最重要電影的導演對我大喊：「為什麼她的胸部這麼小？」的羞辱了。

So when you feel hopeless, just remember, you are not powerless.

所以當你感到絕望時，請記住，你並非無能為力。

You always have the ability to create your reality.

你永遠有能力創造自己的現實。

Even in incredibly dark, awful situations, we have the power to walk away and create something better.

即使在極度黑暗、糟糕的情況下，我們也有力量離開並創造更好的東西。

Thank you, the patrons who supported today's video, and thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring today's episode.

感謝支持今天影片的贊助者們，也感謝 BetterHelp 對本集節目的贊助。

You guys already know I'm a huge advocate of therapy.

你們都知道我非常支持心理治療。

It's really helped me grieve my sister's death, heal from my attachment wounds, and

它真的幫助我度過了妹妹的離世，治癒了我的依戀創傷，並且

just operate from a healthier, more fulfilled, loving place.

能夠從更健康、更滿足、更有愛的地方出發。

BetterHelp is the world's largest therapy service.

BetterHelp 是全球最大的心理治療服務。

And with better help, you can tap into a network of over 25,000 licensed and experienced therapists who can help you with a wide range of issues.

透過 BetterHelp，你可以連結到一個擁有超過 25,000 位執照且經驗豐富的治療師網絡，他們能協助你處理各種議題。

So, to get started, you just answer a few questions about your needs and preferences in therapy.

所以，要開始的話，你只需要回答幾個關於你需求和偏好的問題。

And then BetterHelp matches you with the right therapist from their network.

然後 BetterHelp 就會從他們的網絡中為你配對到最適合的治療師。

You can talk to your therapist however you feel comfortable, whether it's text, chat, phone, or a video call.

你可以選擇你覺得最自在的方式與你的治療師溝通，無論是文字、哈拉、電話或視訊通話。

And you can message your therapist anytime and schedule those live sessions for when it's convenient.

你可以隨時傳訊息給你的治療師，並安排方便的時間進行現場諮詢。

If your therapist is not the right fit for any reason, you can switch to a new therapist at no additional charge.

如果你的治療師因為任何原因不適合你，你可以免費更換另一位治療師。

And with BetterHelp you get the same professionalism and quality you expect from in office therapy.

而且 BetterHelp 提供的專業度和品質，跟你在實體治療中獲得的完全一樣。

But with a therapist who is custom picked for you has more scheduling flexibility and at a more affordable price.

但這位為你量身挑選的治療師，擁有更彈性的預約時間，而且價格更實惠。

You can get 10% off your first month by going to betterhelp.comakana that's betterhelp.comakana or click the link in the description below.

你只要到 betterhelp.comakana 註冊，就能享有首月 10% 的折扣，或者點擊下方的連結。