Name: 他們可能只對你有慾望的跡象 (Signs They Only Lust For You, Maybe)
Uploaded: 2025-10-30T12:01:59.000Z
Duration: 8 min 40 s

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他們喜歡你，但總覺得哪裡怪怪的。

They praise you, chase you, obsess over you.

他們讚美你、追求你、迷戀你。

But deep down, you know they don't really see you.

但你心裡知道，他們並沒有真正看見你。

Because when someone falls in love with a fantasy version of you, not the real, living, breathing, messy human you actually are, it can feel flattering at first, until you realize you're just playing a role in someone else's movie.

因為當一個人迷戀的是你腦海中的幻想版本，而不是真實、有血有肉、充滿缺點的你時，一開始可能會覺得受寵若驚，直到你發現自己只是在別人的電影裡扮演一個角色。

So if you're tired of performing just to be loved, this video is for you.

所以，如果你厭倦了為了被愛而表演，那麼這支影片就是為你準備的。

Here are the undeniable signs Someone is in love with the version of you they've built in their head.

這裡有一些無可否認的跡象，顯示某人正迷戀著他們腦中為你建構的那個版本。

他們墜入愛河的速度很快，但深度不足。

You barely had a real conversation, but they're already calling you perfect, saying you're everything they've ever wanted.

你們根本還沒好好聊過，他們就已經說你完美，是你一直以來渴望的一切。

It might feel like love, but often it's not.

這感覺起來像是愛情，但其實常常不是。

According to psychologists, this is called idealization.

心理學家稱這種現象為理想化。

When someone projects their hopes, unmet needs or fantasies onto another person, especially in the early stages of attraction, it's not that they're seeing you clearly.

當一個人將他們的希望、未被滿足的需求或幻想投射到另一個人身上，尤其是在吸引的初期階段，並不是因為他們清楚地看見你。

他們看見的是他們希望你成為的樣子。

In fact, studies on attachment styles show that people with anxious or avoidant tendencies are more likely to fall quickly and intensely, but

事實上，關於依戀風格的研究顯示，有焦慮或迴避傾向的人，更容易快速且強烈地墜入愛河，但

隨著時間推移，他們在情感深度上會遇到困難。

They crave closeness, but don't know how to build it in a stable, grounded way.

他們渴望親近，卻不知道如何以穩定、務實的方式建立關係。

So when someone says you're perfect too soon, what they're really falling for is their idea of you.

所以，當有人太快說你完美時，他們真正愛上的其實是他們對你的想像。

Not the full, complex, beautifully imperfect human you actually are.

而不是那個真實、完整、複雜、美麗且不完美的你。

They admire you but don't really know you.

他們欣賞你，但並不真正認識你。

They notice your smile, your energy, your talent, but

他們注意到你的笑容、你的活力、你的才華，但

they never see your fears, your doubts, the thoughts that keep you up at night.

卻從未看見你的恐懼、你的疑慮，那些讓你夜不能寐的想法。

It's like they're admiring you from the outside without ever stepping in.

感覺就像他們從外面欣賞你，卻從未走進你的內心。

They're tuned into your like presentation, but not your true self.

他們關注的是你外在的樣子，而不是真實的你。

This is described as surface level validation.

When someone connects with your outward traits but avoids emotional depth, it often happens in relationships fueled by infatuation rather than authentic intimacy.

當一個人連結於你的外在特質，卻迴避情感深度時，這通常發生在由迷戀而非真實親密所驅動的關係中。

True connection only happens when we allow ourselves to be fully seen, including the parts we think will make others turn away.

真正的連結只有在我們允許自己被全然看見時才會發生，包括那些我們認為會讓別人轉身離開的部分。

But with fantasy, you don't feel seen, just observed, admired and not understood.

但幻想讓你感覺被觀察、被欣賞，卻不被理解，而不是被看見。

You smile more, speak less, filter your truth.

你會笑得更多，說得更少，過濾掉真實的自己。

because deep down you're afraid that showing your real self might ruin the the version of you they've fallen for.

而是因為你內心深處害怕，展現真實的自己可能會破壞他們迷戀的那個你。

They praise you for traits that aren't fully you.

他們讚美你的特質，但那並不完全是你。

You're so low maintenance, but deep down, you Know that's not always true.

你總是那麼好搞定，但內心深處你知道，那不總是事實。

有時候你需要的比你表現出來的多。

It sounds like praise, but it feels like pressure.

聽起來像讚美，但感覺像壓力。

Because when someone only highlights the parts of you that are convenient, agreeable or undemanding, you start to wonder, do you.

因為當一個人只強調你方便、好相處或不費力的部分時，你會開始懷疑。

還是隻看見那個容易被愛的版本？

According to object relations theory, people who idealize often struggle to hold both the good and the hard parts of someone at the same time.

根據客體關係理論，那些傾向於理想化的人，常常難以同時接納一個人好的和困難的部分。

So when you stop being effortless, when you need reassurance, boundaries or real support, you may notice the shift.

所以當你不再那麼輕鬆自在，當你需要被肯定、劃定界線或真正的支持時，你可能會注意到這種轉變。

Not because you did anything wrong, and it's not your fault.

這不是因為你做錯了什麼，也不是你的錯。

That's just the cost of being placed on a pedestal.

Eventually, you either fall off it or lose yourself trying to stay up there.

最後，你不是摔下來，就是為了維持在那裡而迷失自己。

你會隱藏自己的需求，只為了維持可愛的樣子。

You want to be honest, to say what you need to show, what hurts to.

你想誠實，想說出你需要表達的、讓你受傷的。

But something holds you back because deep down, you sense it.

但總有什麼東西在阻止你，因為你心裡深處感覺到了。

The moment you become too much, too emotional, too real, you might ruin the image they've created and with it, the affection they're giving you.

當你變得太多、太情緒化、太真實，你可能會毀了他們創造的形象，以及隨之而來的愛。

You fall into what's called conditional acceptance.

你落入了所謂的「有條件的接納」。

And over time, it chips away at your sense of safety.

久而久之，這會一點一滴地侵蝕你的安全感。

According to Dr. Gabor Mate, many of us learn early on to trade authenticity for attachment.

Gabor Mate 醫師指出，我們許多人從小就學會為了依戀而犧牲真實。

We hide our needs to keep our relationships, but in doing so, we slowly abandon ourselves.

我們隱藏自己的需求來維繫關係，但這麼做，我們就慢慢地拋棄了自己。

你感覺被崇拜，但沒有被理解。

On the outside, everything looks perfect.

外表上，一切看起來都很完美。

他們說的話都讓你覺得很對味。

But on the inside, something feels hollow.

Because being adored isn't the same as being understood.

因為被崇拜，跟被理解是兩回事。

You're getting attention but not attunement, Affection but not intimacy.

你得到的是關注，不是共鳴；是喜愛，但不是親密。

What they love is the highlight reel version of you.

他們喜歡的是你最光鮮亮麗的那一面。

But who's loving the parts of you that aren't as polished?

但又有誰愛你那些不那麼完美的部分呢？

The messy, complicated truth of who you are.

Real connection begins when you feel safe enough to be known.

當你感覺安全到可以被瞭解時，真正的連結就開始了。

不只是被讚美，而是在幻想的愛裡。

Even in the middle of attention, you can feel completely alone.

即使身處眾人矚目之中，你也會感到非常孤單。

Maybe you start speaking up, setting boundaries, healing, becoming more you.

也許你開始發聲、設定界線、療癒自己，變得更像你。

They're not as affectionate, not as invested.

他們不再那麼親暱，不再那麼投入。

Because growth breaks the illusion when someone falls in love with a fantasy, they're not prepared for evolution.

因為當一個人迷戀的是幻想，成長就會打破那個理想化。他們沒準備好面對你的轉變。

They fell for the version of you that stayed quiet, agreeable, easy to manage.

他們愛上的是那個安靜、順從、好掌控的你。

But healing changes your voice, growth changes your energy, and

但療癒改變了你的聲音，成長改變了你的能量，

suddenly you're not as easy to define or control.

突然間，你變得不再那麼容易被定義或控制。

Okay, so psychologically this often threatens people who rely on idealized images to feel secure.

好的，所以從心理學上來說，這常常會威脅到那些依賴理想化形象來獲得安全感的人。

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他們可能只對你有慾望的跡象 (Signs They Only Lust For You, Maybe)

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