Do you know what self-love is?

你知道什麼是自愛嗎？

It's more than changing your hair, getting a new wardrobe, or attempting to redefine yourself.

這不僅只是改變你的髮型、得到一個新衣櫃，或試圖重新定義自己而已。

Self-love is gaining an appreciation for yourself through the physical, emotional, and spiritual support you provide yourself with.

自愛是通過由自己提供自己身理上、心理上、精神上的支持來獲得的自我欣賞。

It's not a fixed state, but can grow over time through actions that lead to maturity.

自愛不是固定不變的狀態，而是可以隨著時間的推移，透過變得成熟的行為而增長。

Establishing self-love can be a long journey, but it's a vital step to improving your mental health and overall happiness.

建立自愛可能是一個漫長的旅程，但這是改善你的心理健康以及整體幸福感的一個重要步驟。

So, here are a few tips that may help you along the way.

所以，這裡有一些小技巧在這個旅程中能夠幫上你的忙。

Number one, forgive yourself.

第一、原諒自己。

Are you incredibly tough on yourself?

你是不是對自己的要求非常苛刻？

Sometimes, when you're struggling for perfection, you end up overlooking the fact that you're only human.

有時，當你在為完美而奮鬥的時候，你總是忽略了你也僅僅只是一個人的事實。

Although you may tell yourself that you're just holding yourself accountable, too much self-deprecation can be harmful to your mental health.

儘管你可能告訴自己你只是在對自己負責，但是過多的自我的貶低會對你的心理健康造成傷害。

Instead, learning to forgive yourself for the mistakes you make and treating them as opportunities to grow is a step towards practicing self-love.

相反，學會原諒自己所犯的錯，並把它們當作成長的機會，是實踐自愛的一步。

Number two, be mindful.

第二、覺察自我。

Are the goals you set for yourself really what you want, or are they pushed onto you by society?

你為自己設定的目標真的是你想要的嗎？還是只是這個社會強加給你的？

Being introspective, or mindful, can give you a sense of clarity into who you are, how you think, and what you want.

內省或覺察自我可以讓你對自己的身份有一種清晰的認識，你是怎麼想的和你想要的是什麼。

It arms you with self-knowledge that you can use to move forward.

用瞭解自我來武裝自己，讓你可以往前邁進。

Some ways to practice mindfulness include keeping a journal, meditating, or just taking some time to self-reflect.

練習自我覺察的一些方法包括寫日記、冥想或只是花些時間自我反省。

Number three, act on what you need.

第三、根據你的需要來採取行動。

Do you know what gives you energy, what makes you happy?

你知道是什麼給了你能量嗎？什麼讓你感到快樂？

Perhaps you're feeling overwhelmed with needing to spend so much time with your friends or colleagues, but feel bad for wanting to step away.

也許你為了需要花過多時間和你的朋友或同事相處而感到不堪重負，但又為了想要離開而掙扎。

Choosing to go anyways may end up draining your energy and leaving you exhausted.

無論怎麼去選擇，最終可能會耗光你的精力並讓你筋疲力盡。

That's why it's so important to identify the things that make you feel better versus the things that make you feel worse.

這就是為什麼分清楚哪些事是讓你感受更好的和哪些事是讓你感受不好的有多麽重要。

Knowing what you need and acting on those needs is a form of self-love.

知道自己需要什麼，並根據這些需要採取行動是一種自愛的方式。

And it can go a long way for your mental and emotional wellbeing, which brings us to number four, set boundaries.

這對你的精神和心理健康上有很大的幫助，而這讓我們來到了第四點──設定界限。

Are there certain behaviors that you're not willing to put up with?

是否有某些行為是你不願忍受的？

The purpose of setting boundaries is not to kick people out of your life, but, rather, to help you identify what is acceptable or welcomed in your life and what's not.

設定界限的目的不是為了把人都趕出你的生活，而是要幫助你確定在你的生活中，什麼是可以接受的，而什麼是不可以的。

Healthy boundaries help you filter out things that drain your energy, [and] harm you emotionally, physically, or spiritually.

有益的設限幫助你過濾掉一些在情感上、身體上或精神上讓你疲乏的事物。

A way to set boundaries is by starting with Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

一個設定界限的方法是從馬斯洛的需求層次開始。

Figure out what you need to feel loved or accepted, and then work from there.

從弄清楚你需要從什麼來感覺到被愛或被接受來開始進行這件事。

Number five, protect yourself.

第五、保護自己。

What type of people do you surround yourself with?

你身邊的人都是什麼樣的？

Another way to practice self-love is to protect yourself.

另一種實踐自愛的方式是保護自己。

This may mean bringing people into your life who'll be supportive and who contribute to your emotional, mental, and spiritual health instead of tearing it apart.

這可能意味著讓能夠給予你支持、有益於你的情感、心理和精神健康的人進到你的生活中，而不是那些把他們攪得一塌糊塗的人。

Getting rid of fake friends or anyone who takes pleasure in your misery is important for your self-esteem and self-confidence.

擺脫假朋友或任何以你的痛苦為樂的人，對於你的自尊心和自信心都是很重要的。

Number six, live intentionally.

第六、有目的地生活。

What makes your eyes light up?

什麼會讓你的眼睛發亮？

What inspires you?

什麼激勵了你？

Sometimes it's easy to just follow a routine in your day-to-day life to the point where you stopped giving it much thought,

有時很容易在日常生活中遵循例行公事，而我們因此停止思考，

but it's important to live life with intention and to make choices that help you move towards your goals.

但重要的是要用心去生活，並做出有助於你向目標前進的選擇。

For example, if you intend to live a peaceful and healthy life, you need to make choices that support that goal.

比如說，如果你打算過一個健康平和的生活，你需要做出支持這一目標的選擇。

That may include learning how to meditate or starting to change your diet for the better.

這可能包括學習如何冥想或開始改變你的飲食習慣，使之更好。

Number seven, show up for yourself.

第七、為自己站出來。

Do you scold yourself when you don't finish everything you set out to do?

當你沒有完成所有為自己所設定的事情時，你是否去責備自己？

There will be times when you don't accomplish everything you plan to do, but acknowledging the effort you've given and the amount you have done is important.

有一些時候你沒有完成你所計畫完成的一切，但是承認你為之所付出的努力和完成的數量是很重要的。

It's easy to focus on only your faults, but showing yourself kindness and compassion, even in how you talk to yourself, can help override some of the negative mental patterns you may have and help you feel loved and supported.

我們很容易只關注於自己的錯誤，但要向自己展示仁慈和同情心，就算是在對自己說話時也是如此，這可以幫助你推翻一些你可能有的負面思維，並幫助你感受到被愛和被支持。

And number eight, practice self-care.

第八、練習自我療癒。

Do you tend to ignore your needs sometimes?

你是否有時傾向於忽視自己的需求？

Taking care of your basic needs is an act of love.

照顧你的基本需求是一種愛的行為。

Even taking a few minutes out of your day to check in and provide yourself with what you need can help you feel a lot better.

甚至在一天中抽出幾分鐘時間來檢查並提供自己所需要的，可以幫助你感覺好很多。

Whether it's soaking in a hot bath, eating something healthy, or even working out.

無論是泡熱水澡、吃一些健康的食物，甚至鍛鍊身體。

Practicing self-care can go a long way for your mental health and your happiness.

練習自我療癒對於你的心理健康和快樂有很大的效果。

Have you practiced any of these types of self-love?

你有沒有實踐過上述這些類型的自愛？

Let us know in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中告訴我們。

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如果你覺得這段視頻對你有幫助，別忘了點擊喜歡、訂閱，並將這隻影片分享給可能會需要的人。

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別忘了打開小鈴鐺來開啟Psych2Go發佈新影片的通知。

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下方的資訊欄有本隻影片的參考資料和研究。

Thanks for watching, and we'll see you in the next one.

感謝你的觀看，我們下隻影片再見。