Name: 終止自我毀滅的惡性循環！✨ 馬修麥康納親授祕訣 (Stop The Cycle of Self-Sabotage - Matthew McConaughey)
Uploaded: 2026-02-06T10:36:04.000Z
Duration: 9 min 6 s

It seems to me like courage, the ability to feel our convictions and commit to them is a little bit of a common thread that sort of runs through that.

我覺得好像是勇氣，能夠感受我們的信念並堅持下去，這好像是貫穿其中的一條線。

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So I grew up only knowing sort of the courage of the persistent, be resilient, endure, get up, dust yourself off, go.

所以我從小就知道那種堅持的勇氣，要堅韌、要忍耐、要站起來、拍拍灰塵，繼續前進。

The problem with that, the Achilles heel with that is you get up and get the courage to keep on going every time and get up and dust yourself off.

這樣做的問題，它的致命弱點是，你每次都站起來，鼓起勇氣繼續前進，然後拍拍灰塵。

You make the same mistakes each time around because you never backed up.

因為你從來沒有備份，所以每次都犯同樣的錯誤。

What I've now learned, I'm still learning, is the courage to go, no, I'm going to let some people pass me in the race right now because I'm going to look at why I keep stepping in that damn same pothole and twisting my ankle the same spot.

我現在學到的，我還在學，就是那種「不行，我現在要讓一些人在比賽中超越我」的勇氣，因為我要看看為什麼我總是踩進同一個該死的坑洞，然後在同一個地方扭傷腳踝。

Why I keep failing when I try to get that next spot in this relationship or failing in this place to get this product of my craft to the next level.

為什麼我在這段關係中爭取下一個階段，或是讓我的手藝產品達到下一個層級時，總是失敗。

Would that be the relinquishing of the Rom com era in a small part for you?

這對你來說，是不是也代表著羅曼史喜劇時代的一小部分落幕了？

It also has to do with when I got married.

My son comes to me at 4 years old and says, why isn't Mama McConaughey?

我兒子四歲的時候跑來問我，為什麼媽媽不是 McConaughey？

I'm going through my head, you're 4, dude.

我心裡想，你才四歲耶，老兄。

I sat there, I was like, did your mom put you at this?

我就坐在那邊，想說，是你媽叫你來問的嗎？

It's a great question, but I mean, we're not.

這是個很棒的問題，但我的意思是，我們沒有。

When you get married, switch your name, okay?

等你結婚了，就換名字，好嗎？

And then he just listened and all of a sudden he goes, are you scared?

然後他就聽著，突然就說，你會怕嗎？

I remember going to a pastor and talking to a lot of different elder men who had had long term relationships, were married for decades and stuff.

我記得我去見牧師，跟很多有長期交往、結婚幾十年的長輩們聊過。

And, and, and my pastor goes, let me just ask you this, Mr. Risk Taker.

然後，然後，然後我牧師就說，讓我問你這個，冒險家先生。

Carrying on, Mike, you're going and it's going well, or taking the deeper dive into the sacrament.

繼續下去，Mike，你正在進行，而且進展順利，還是更深入地投入這個聖禮？

Covenant of marriage should be a covenant between you and her and God.

婚姻的盟約應該是你、她和上帝之間的盟約。

That will be a whole new adventure in itself.

那本身將會是一場全新的冒險。

I was like, oh, the getting married's bigger risk.

我就想，喔，結婚這個風險比較大。

That was part of why I made the affirmative action and was what I was looking for, the way to play offense with that choice.

這也是我採取平權行動的原因，也是我一直在尋找的，用這個選擇來主動出擊的方式。

I didn't want to do it because, oh, that's what you're supposed to do.

我不想這麼做，因為，喔，這就是你應該做的。

We got engaged I didn't want to do it by the book and I was looking for the offensive reason to do it.

我們訂婚了，我不想循規蹈矩，我一直在尋找主動這麼做的理由。

The rom com time that was definitely me doing the work I was doing and only being able to do the work I was doing and offer the roles I was getting.

那段浪漫喜劇的時期，我確實是在做我正在做的工作，而且只能做我正在做的工作，並提供我得到的角色。

The rom coms was eating at me because I felt like I could.

那些浪漫喜劇一直在折磨我，因為我覺得我可以。

I make good money, feel like I can roll out of bed and do one of these tomorrow morning.

我賺的錢很多，感覺明天早上就可以隨便起床來做一個。

I was countered by I had met Camilla, fallen in love, she's now pregnant with her first child.

我被卡住了，因為我遇見了 Camilla，墜入愛河，她現在懷了我們的第一個孩子。

So that my life was extremely vital and I was alive.

所以我的生活非常精彩，我活著。

Cried harder, laughed louder, felt more joy, all those things.

哭得更用力，笑得更大聲，感受到更多喜悅，所有這些。

And I was like, well, I wish my work could be as challenging or as vital as my life.

而我當時想，嗯，我希望我的工作能像我的生活一樣充滿挑戰或精彩。

And I remember looking in the mirror going, we'll be glad right now.

我記得看著鏡子說，我們現在會很高興的。

Appreciate that it's not the other way around.

But can I have my work challenge my lifestyle in this vitality?

但我的工作能像我現在充滿活力的生活一樣挑戰我嗎？

If I do some dramas I want to do, well, those aren't coming.

如果我能做我想做的一些戲劇，嗯，那些都來不了。

If I can't do what I want to do, let me quit doing what I was doing.

如果我不能做我想做的，那就讓我別做我原本在做的事。

Now that was, I think, yeah, it was definitely courageous.

那時候，我想，是的，這絕對是需要勇氣的。

I did, I did honestly think I'd written myself a one way ticket out of Hollywood.

我真的，我真的誠實地覺得我為自己寫了一張好萊塢的單程票。

People close to me, basically almost everybody besides my wife, was like, what is your major malfunction, little brother?

我身邊的人，基本上除了我老婆，幾乎所有人都說，你這個小弟是怎麼搞的？

Why, why are you throwing a jackknife in this that way?

為什麼，你為什麼要這樣搞砸這件事？

You're tripping yourself, running downhill, man.

你這樣是在害死自己，一路下滑啊。

I had my wife and myself to remind myself of that 4:00am clarity that I had in tears when I was like, no, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm rolling the dice, I'm sticking with it.

我有我老婆和我自己，提醒我當時凌晨四點的清醒，那時候我哭著，我說，不，我要，我要，我要，我要冒險了，我要堅持下去。

And yeah, man, I did think I wrote myself a ticket out of Hollywood.

對啊，我真的覺得我為自己寫了一張好萊塢的單程票。

I did look at other vocations, become a teacher, a wildlife guide.

我也考慮過其他職業，像是當老師、野生動物導遊。

But over time, and it was about 20 months, it was gone long enough.

但隨著時間過去，大概花了二十個月，時間夠長了。

Enough was not in your living room, in a theater, in a rom com.

不會在你的客廳、電影院或浪漫喜劇裡出現。

你不會看到我光著上身在海邊。

And then I think I told you the story, turning down the $14.5 million offer.

然後我想我跟你說過那個故事，拒絕了那 1450 萬美元的提議。

Maybe people go, oh shit, what's he up to?

也許大家會想，哇，他在搞什麼？

You don't just step out of Hollywood and enter.

你不能只是離開好萊塢然後進入。

You turn that down because you got a plan, you got somewhere you want to go.

你拒絕了，因為你有個計畫，你知道自己想去哪裡。

And I think that made me more attractive.

對啊，那個風險就這麼發生了。

I think it's fair to say that took a fair amount of courage from me.

我覺得可以說，這需要我很大的勇氣。

For a lot of people, their work feels more vital than their life.

對很多人來說，工作比生活更重要。

Is that a shiny object mirage that they need to rid themselves of?

那是他們需要擺脫的閃亮物幻覺嗎？

Look, that's part of why I started writing.

聽著，這也是我開始寫作的原因之一。

I was feeling like my work was more vital than my life.

我覺得我的工作比我的生命還重要。

I felt like I was going through the motions more in my life, but

我覺得我的人生好像只是在走過場，但是

I was really getting major life experiences and through my work.

我卻透過我的工作獲得了重要的人生經歷。

I was like, well, let's see where I can challenge myself more in the documentary the one life I'm living rather than the characters I'm going to play that somebody else wrote.

我當時想，嗯，看看我能在紀錄片裡挑戰自己更多，在我活著的這唯一人生裡，而不是在別人寫的角色裡。

Someone else is lensing through their camera and editing.

別人透過他們的鏡頭拍攝和剪輯。

What are we doing on this one take that we've had since the day we're born and we'll be cut the day we die.

我們在這輩子，從出生到死亡，究竟在做些什麼？

And so that was a challenge to myself, which led to the writing, which was a more direct experience.

所以這是我給自己的挑戰，這也引導我開始寫作，那是更直接的體驗。

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