Name: 從小就覺得自己不夠好？ (Growing Up Feeling Never Good Enough)
Uploaded: 2025-12-16T18:03:13.000Z
Duration: 4 min 8 s

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Are you experiencing low self esteem due to things like exams or stress from your friends or family?

你是不是因為考試壓力，或是來自朋友家人的壓力，而感到自尊心低落呢？

情態助動詞 B1

It's understandable that you might feel afraid to express how you feel, but

你可能會害怕表達自己的感受，這很正常，但是

Grab some popcorn, watch this video with your parents and let us help you navigate this.

準備好爆米花，跟爸媽一起看這支影片，讓我們來引導你。

You're not alone and we're here to help you.

你不是一個人，我們在這裡幫助你。

Dear Parents, have you ever felt like you're doing everything you can to be a great parent, but

親愛的爸媽們，你們有沒有過那種，明明已經盡力想當個好父母，但

still worry that you might unintentionally harm your child's confidence?

卻還是擔心自己可能會不小心傷害到孩子的自信心？

Parenting is a challenging yet rewarding journey and it's natural to want the best for your children.

育兒是一段充滿挑戰但也很有成就感的旅程，想給孩子最好的，這是人之常情。

However, even with the best intentions, certain behaviors or habits can have a negative impact on their self confidence.

然而，即使出發點是好的，某些行為或習慣，卻可能對他們的自信心產生負面影響。

Confidence is crucial for children's overall development, affecting their social skills, academic performance and mental well being.

自信對孩子的整體發展至關重要，會影響他們的社交技巧、學業表現和心理健康。

That's why it's important for parents to be mindful of how their actions may impact their child's confidence.

是以，父母留意自己的行為可能如何影響孩子的自信心是很重要的。

With that said, here are three ways parents can unknowingly crush their child's confidence and how to fix them.

說到這裡，這裡有三種父母可能會無意中打擊孩子自信心的方式，以及如何修正它們。

Comparison do you ever find yourself comparing your child to their friends, hoping they'll excel and be successful?

比較：你是不是有時候會發現自己拿孩子跟他們的朋友比較，希望他們能表現出色並取得成功？

While it's natural to want the best for your children, constantly comparing them to others can have a negative impact on their self esteem and confidence.

雖然希望孩子能有最好的發展是人之常情，但不斷地將他們與他人比較，可能會對他們的自尊心和自信心產生負面影響。

Martin Seligman, an expert in positive psychology, the pressure to be better than their peers can make children feel inadequate and lower their self esteem.

Martin Seligman 博士的說法，讓孩子們覺得必須比同儕優秀的壓力，會讓他們感到不足，並降低他們的自尊心。

Feeling like they are constantly being compared to others can also create a negative self image in children which can make them less likely to try new things.

覺得自己老是被拿來跟別人比較，也會在孩子心中造成負面的自我形象，讓他們不太敢嘗試新事物。

Instead, it's important to create a supportive and nurturing environment that allows children to develop their own sense of identity and self worth.

相反地，建立一個支持和滋養的環境，讓孩子能發展出自己的身份認同和自我價值是很重要的。

Encourage your child to pursue activities that they enjoy and celebrate their strengths and successes, no matter how small.

鼓勵你的孩子去追求他們喜歡的活動，並慶祝他們的優點和成功，無論大小。

This will help build their confidence and self esteem and ultimately contribute to their their overall well being.

這能幫助建立他們的自信心和自尊心，最終有助於他們的整體心理健康。

Criticism the way parents talk to their children can impact their self confidence and willingness to take risks.

父母與孩子溝通的方式，會影響他們的自信心和冒險的意願。

If parents are overly critical, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and reluctance to try new things.

如果父母過於批評，可能會導致孩子覺得自己不足，並不願意嘗試新事物。

心理學家 Carol Dweck 博士警告說，這種批評可能會讓孩子產生固定型思維，認為自己的能力無法改變。

Carol Dweck warns that this kind of criticism can instill a fixed mindset in children where they believe their abilities can't be changed.

研究顯示，過度的父母批評會對孩子的心理健康產生長期影響，增加焦慮和憂鬱的風險。

Studies have shown that high levels of parental criticism can have long term effects on a child's mental health, increasing the risk of anxiety and depression.

如果你是父母，提供回饋給孩子時，要注意溝通方式，而不是隻關注他們做錯了什麼。

If you are a parent, it's important to be mindful of how you offer feedback to your children rather than focusing on what they did wrong.

著重於他們未來可以如何做得不同。

Focus on what they can do differently in the future.

這種建設性回饋能幫助建立他們的自信心，並鼓勵他們接受新挑戰。

This constructive feedback can help build their self confidence and encourage them to take on new challenges.

你如何改變與孩子的溝通方式，以提供更多建設性回饋並建立他們的自信心呢？

How can you change the way you communicate with your children to offer more constructive feedback and build their self confidence?

Unrealistic Expectations when parents set expectations that are too high or beyond their child's capabilities, it can lead to immense pressure and stress causing children to feel inadequate and lacking in self confidence.

當父母設定過高或超出孩子能力範圍的期望時，可能會導致巨大的壓力和緊張，讓孩子覺得自己不足，缺乏自信。

Denise Pope, a senior lecturer at Stanford University, found that this can even lead to anxiety, depression and physical health problems.

史丹佛大學的資深講師 Denise Pope 發現，這甚至會導致焦慮、憂鬱和身體健康問題。

In fact, a study in the Journal of Educational Psychology showed that setting unrealistic academic goals for children led to lower levels of engagement and achievement.

事實上，《教育心理學期刊》的一項研究顯示，為孩子設定不切實際的學業目標，反而會降低他們的參與度和成就感。

Therefore, it's important for parents to set realistic expectations based on their child's abilities and interests.

是以，父母為孩子設定符合他們能力和興趣的實際期望非常重要。

Focusing on the learning process and effort rather than solely on the end result can help foster a sense of accomplishment and positive self esteem.

專注於學習過程和努力，而不僅僅是最終結果，有助於培養成就感和積極的自尊心。

This approach can encourage children to feel more confident and motivated to learn, even when they face obstacles or challenges.

這種方法可以鼓勵孩子在面對障礙或挑戰時，感到更自信、更有學習動力。

We hope you found these tips helpful in boosting your child's confidence.

希望這些小撇步對提升孩子的自信心有幫助。

If you have any other tips you'd like to share with us, please leave a comment below.

如果您有其他想和我們分享的祕訣，請在下方留言。

And if you found this video useful, please don't forget to give it a like and share it with anyone who might benefit from it.

如果你覺得這個影片對你有幫助，別忘了幫我們按讚，並分享給可能需要的朋友喔。

Thanks for watching and until next time, take care.

謝謝收看，我們下次見，掰掰。

The references and studies used in this video are added in the description below.

影片中引用的參考資料和研究，都放在下面的說明欄囉。