Name: 直來直往，是誠實還是沒禮貌？來了解背後界線！ (Direct vs. Rude: Know the Difference)
Uploaded: 2025-09-05T15:22:25.000Z
Duration: 1 min 30 s

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Can I offer some clarity between rudeness and directness, because I think some people are confused on this.

我能否澄清一下粗魯和直接之間的區別，因為我認為有些人在這個問題上感到困惑。

Too often we treat rudeness as if it exists in absolute terms, so something is either rude or it isn't.

我們常常把粗魯當作絕對的概念來看待，認為一件事要嘛就是粗魯的，要嘛就不是。

情態副詞

It actually operates on a Likert scale, not a binary switch.

它其實是以李克特量表運作的，而不是二元。

So on one end you have rudeness, which is abrasive, dismissive, and contemptuous.

所以在一端是粗魯，表現為咄咄逼人、不屑一顧和輕蔑；

And then all the way over here you have placation, which is overly soft, avoidant, and insincere.

而在另一端則是討好，過於柔弱、迴避衝突，且不夠真誠。

It's where honesty is paired with consideration.

It delivers truth in a way that doesn't distort reality, but also doesn't destroy people.

它傳遞真理的方式既不會扭曲現實，也不會摧毀人。

So yes, rudeness is subjective, but it is not entirely arbitrary.

是的，粗魯是主觀的，但並非完全武斷。

There are some clear differences we can observe.

我們可以觀察到一些明顯的差異。

So even when clarity could have been achieved with less harm, rudeness adds insult to injury.

即使本可以用較少的傷害來達到明確的目的，無禮也會雪上加霜。

Directness prioritizes clarity over comfort.

直接優先於清晰，而不是舒適。

So it's not too harsh and it's not too soft.

這樣既不會太刺眼，也不會太柔和。

Now in order to do this, two things must happen.

要做到這一點，必須做兩件事。

Direct communicators must recognize that their words can be perceived as rude, and therefore they must measure their mouths.

直接溝通者必須認識到，他們的言語可能被視為粗魯無禮，所以必須衡量自己的嘴巴。

The truth can hurt, but the truth teller should not.

真相會傷人，但說實話的人不應該傷人。

Now listeners must recognize that discomfort is not disrespect.

現在，聽眾必須認識到，不適並非不尊重。

And if the truth hurts, that does not mean that the speaker was being rude.

如果真相傷人，這並不意味著說話者粗魯無禮。

If we fail to make this distinction, we risk creating a culture where truth is either too sharp to be received or too soft to be useful.

如果我們不能做出這種區分，我們就有可能創造出一種文化，在這種文化中，真理要麼過於尖銳而不被接受，要麼過於軟弱而無用。

這兩個極端對我們都沒有好處。