Name: 想知道他是不是「對的人」？先問自己這幾個問題！ (Important Questions To Ask To Know If They're The One)
Uploaded: 2025-11-01T21:01:30.000Z
Duration: 6 min 37 s

Almost 50% of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation, according to U.S. divorce law firm, Wilkinson and Finkbainer.

據美國離婚律師事務所 Wilkinson and Finkbainer 稱，美國幾乎有 50% 的婚姻將以離婚或分居告終。

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While data from tech report shows 70% of couples break up within the very first year of dating.

而科技報告的數據顯示，70% 的情侶在約會的第一年就分手了。

With some relationship timelines barely lasting a few months, that's a rough reality.

有些戀愛關係只能維持幾個月，這就是現實的殘酷。

Committing to the wrong person can be daunting, leaving you feeling like you've wasted your time and emotions.

委身於錯誤的人可能令人生畏，讓你覺得自己浪費了時間和情感。

那麼，如何防止這種情況發生呢？

In today's dating world, where things can change in a heartbeat, we must start asking the right questions.

在當今這個瞬息萬變的約會世界裡，我們必須開始提出正確的問題。

So whether you're unsure how to approach love, in the talking stage with someone, in a situationship, maybe you're about to explore a romantic connection.

是以，無論你是不確定如何對待愛情，還是正處於與某人交談的階段，抑或是正處於情境船中，也許你正準備探索一段浪漫的聯繫。

Perhaps you're ready to take a big leap in your love story, but something's missing, that certainty that they're the one.

也許你已經準備好在你們的愛情故事中邁出一大步，但還缺少一些東西，那就是確定他們就是你的真命天子。

You're not sure if you'll have a future together.

你不確定你們在一起是否會有未來。

那麼，這段視頻就是為你準備的。

If you can genuinely answer these five questions to yourself, you'll have a clear answer.

如果你能真正回答自己這五個問題，你就會有一個明確的答案。

If someone told you, you're a lot like your partner, how would you feel?

如果有人告訴你，你很像你的伴侶，你會作何感想？

Would it feel like a compliment or would it make you pause and reflect?

它是一種讚美，還是會讓你停下來反思？

This question is actually more important than it seems.

這個問題其實比想象中更重要。

It gives you a chance to think about how you see your relationship, and more importantly, how you see yourself within that relationship.

這讓你有機會思考如何看待你們之間的關係，更重要的是，如何看待在這段關係中的自己。

If being compared to your partner feels like a compliment, it might mean you admire and respect who they are.

如果與伴侶相比是一種讚美，這可能意味著你欽佩和尊重他們的為人。

You may share values, goals, and traits that you're proud to be associated with.

你們可能擁有共同的價值觀、目標和特質，並以此為榮。

On the other hand, if the comparison makes you uneasy, it could be a sign that something's off.

另一方面，如果這種比較讓你感到不安，這可能是一個跡象，表明有些事情不對勁。

Maybe there are things about your partner that you don't particularly like, or perhaps you've noticed qualities that don't align with who you wanna be.

也許你的伴侶有一些你不太喜歡的地方，也許你已經注意到他們的品質與你想成為的人不一致。

This simple question can reveal whether you're in a relationship that truly reflects your best self, or if there's something deeper that needs attention.

這個簡單的問題可以揭示你所處的關係是否真正反映了你最好的自己，或者是否有更深層次的東西需要關注。

After all, the right person should compliment who you are, not make you question it.

畢竟，合適的人應該讚美你，而不是讓你質疑。

Does being with them truly fulfill you or just make you feel less lonely?

與他們在一起是真的讓你感到滿足，還是隻是讓你感覺不那麼孤獨？

Are you with them because they add value to your life, or are they simply filling a void?

你和他們在一起是因為他們為你的生活增添了價值，還是他們只是在填補你的空白？

A study found that loneliness often drives people into relationships that aren't right for them.

一項研究發現，孤獨感往往會驅使人們建立並不適合自己的人際關係。

Are you truly in love with them, or are they an object of distraction from the fact that you have nothing going on for yourself?

你是真的愛上了他們，還是他們只是你分心的對象，而你自己卻一無所有？

Can you be unapologetically yourself around them?

在他們身邊，你能毫無保留地做自己嗎？

Maintaining a facade only leads to frustration.

Are you free to show your true self, your natural traits, goofiness, sensitivity, confidence, or ambition?

你是否能自由地展現真實的自我，展現你的天性、傻氣、敏感、自信或野心？

Or do you feel the need to tone them down to fit their expectations?

還是您覺得有必要將它們調低以符合他們的期望？

If you're always adjusting who you are to fit their expectations, that's a warning sign.

如果你總是為了迎合他們的期望而調整自己，這就是一個警示信號。

In a healthy relationship, you should be able to drop your guard and be completely authentic, quirks and all.

在一段健康的關係中，你應該能夠放下戒備，完全真實地表現自己，包括怪癖和一切。

While it's natural to want to grow and improve for your partner, ask yourself, are you comfortable being imperfect around them?

為伴侶成長和進步是人之常情，但捫心自問，在伴侶面前不完美，你能接受嗎？

And more importantly, are they comfortable accepting and loving you, flaws and all?

更重要的是，他們是否願意接受並愛你，無論你是否有缺點？

Are you in love with who they are now or just their potential?

你愛的是他們現在的樣子，還是他們的潛力？

Many people tend to fall in love with their ideas of someone or fantasies of who their partner could be and what the future holds.

很多人往往會愛上自己心目中的某個人，或者幻想自己的伴侶會是誰，未來會怎樣。

However, the real world isn't a rom-com, nor is it a soap opera.

然而，現實世界不是愛情喜劇，也不是肥皂劇。

The idea doesn't always become a reality.

Are you hoping they'll change or grow into the person you envision?

你是否希望他們改變或成長為你所設想的那個人？

It's important to love them for who they are now, not just who they could become.

重要的是，要愛他們現在的樣子，而不僅僅是他們可能成為的樣子。

For example, if your partner has serious flaws like anger, cheating, or irresponsibility, and you're sticking around because you believe they'll change, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment.

例如，如果你的伴侶有嚴重的缺點，如憤怒、欺騙或不負責任，而你卻因為相信他們會改變而堅持在一起，那麼你可能會讓自己失望。

Love them for who they are today, not just for their potential.

愛他們的現在，而不僅僅是他們的潛力。

If you can't do that, they might not be the one.

如果你做不到這一點，他們可能就不是你要找的人。

Are you truly open to your partner realizing and fulfilling their biggest dreams without feeling threatened and insecure?

你是否真正願意讓你的伴侶實現並完成他們最大的夢想，而不會感到威脅和不安全感？

A major reason for separation amongst couples is when one partner is operating on a much grander scale compared to you.

夫妻分居的一個主要原因是一方的經營規模比你大得多。

Let's say they are notably successful in their career.

假設他們在事業上取得了巨大成功。

Are you comfortable being in their shadow or will it make you bitter?

在他們的陰影下，你會感到舒服嗎？

If you're an influencer or a thought leader in your niche, can you trust your partner who isn't to see the real you beneath the stardom?

如果你是利基領域的影響力人物或思想領袖，你能相信你的合作伙伴能看到明星光環下真實的你嗎？

Respect fulfills our fundamental need to feel valued and appreciated, demonstrating your care for your partner's feelings, opinions, and boundaries.

尊重能滿足我們感受被重視和被欣賞的基本需求，表明你關心伴侶的感受、意見和底線。

As a foundation of trust, intimacy, and long-lasting connections, respect is a vital love language that underlies all healthy relationships, and it goes beyond words.

尊重是信任、親密和持久聯繫的基礎，是所有健康關係的重要愛的語言，它超越了語言。

Do you respect their ambition, their acts of service, or does it irritate you?

你是尊重他們的雄心壯志和服務行為，還是對此感到惱火？

Do you respect the trust they've placed in you not to break their heart, or does it mean little to no value to you?

你尊重他們對你的信任，不傷他們的心，還是說這對你來說幾乎沒有價值？

Do you respect their opinions on major life and societal issues, or are you repelled by them?

你是尊重他們對重大生活和社會問題的看法，還是對他們感到厭惡？

Most importantly, do you respect their leadership enough to follow?

最重要的是，你是否足夠尊重他們的上司，並願意追隨他們？

Do you respect their submission enough to be responsible?

你是否足夠尊重他們的意見，並對他們負責？

Without respect, relationships will inevitably fall apart because making a choice for a life partner is never easy.

沒有尊重，人際關係就會不可避免地破裂，因為選擇人生伴侶絕非易事。

The difficult part is admitting and confronting the hard truths, staring right in front of us by acting wisely.

困難的部分在於承認並正視擺在我們面前的艱難事實，明智地採取行動。

And the easy part is the piece that comes long afterwards, knowing we made the right decision to stick with the one or pursue another.

而最容易的部分則是很久很久以後，當我們知道自己做出了正確的決定，是堅持這一個還是追求另一個的時候。

On love and relationships, watch this video to get the answer to the question lambing society today.

關於愛情和人際關係，請觀看這段視頻，瞭解當今社會 "羊羔問題 "的答案。