Name: 這就是迴避症患者希望你知道的事情 (This is What Avoidant People Wish You Knew)
Uploaded: 2025-07-26T18:33:12.000Z
Duration: 9 min 9 s

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All you ever wanted was to feel close to someone.

你所想要的，不過是與某人感到親近。

起初，它給人一種溫暖甚至安全的感覺。

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But somewhere along the way, that warmth starts to feel like a threat.

但不知從什麼時候開始，這種溫暖開始讓人感到威脅。

Something in you pulls back, even if your heart leans in.

即使你的心在向裡跳，你的內心也會向後退。

You don't mean to push them away, but when someone gets too close, your chest tightens and everything feels overwhelming.

你並不想推開他們，但當有人靠得太近時，你的胸口就會發悶，一切都會讓你感到難以承受。

You crave connection, but your instincts tell you to run.

你渴望聯繫，但你的本能告訴你要逃跑。

A quiet voice asking why you can't just let them in.

一個低沉的聲音在問，為什麼不能讓他們進來？

你並沒有因為有這種感覺而崩潰。

Avoidant personality disorder or AVPD is more than just being shy or needing space.

迴避型人格障礙或 AVPD 不僅僅是害羞或需要空間。

It's a deep fear of rejection that can even make simple relationships feel overwhelming.

這是一種對被拒絕的深深恐懼，它甚至會讓簡單的人際關係變得不堪一擊。

Maybe someone was criticized a lot, felt unwanted, or never felt emotionally safe.

也許有人經常受到責備，覺得自己不受歡迎，或者從未有過情感安全感。

Over time, they learn to pull away to protect themselves.

隨著時間的推移，他們會學會拉開距離來保護自己。

Many people with AVPD want closeness, but the fear of being judged or not being enough holds them back.

許多患有 AVPD 的人都希望與他人親近，但害怕被人評判或自己不夠好，這讓他們望而卻步。

AVPD affects around 2.7% of the global population, but the real number could be higher.

全球約有 2.7% 的人口患有 AVPD，但實際數字可能更高。

Many people never seek help, held back by the same fears that make connection feel risky.

許多人從未尋求過幫助，因為他們的恐懼心理讓他們覺得與人交往是一件很危險的事情。

Even the idea of opening up can feel too overwhelming.

甚至連敞開心扉的想法都會讓人感到難以承受。

And if you'd like to dive deeper into what AVPD really looks like, we made a video exploring it more closely.

如果您想更深入地瞭解 AVPD 的真實面貌，我們還製作了一段視頻，對其進行更深入的探討。

Feel free to check that out after this one.

看完這篇報道後，請隨時查看。

We made this video because avoidant people are often misunderstood, seen as distant or cold, when they're really just trying to protect themselves.

我們之所以製作這段視頻，是因為迴避型人格的人常常被誤解，被視為疏遠或冷漠，其實他們只是想保護自己。

And we hope this helps you and those who love you understand that a little better.

我們希望這能幫助你和愛你的人更好地理解這一點。

When there's understanding, relationships feel easier, communication becomes safer, and connection finally has room to grow.

有了理解，人際關係就會變得更容易，溝通也會變得更安全，人與人之間的聯繫終於有了發展的空間。

Before we begin, we would like to mention that this video is created for educational purposes only, and is not intended to substitute a professional diagnosis.

在開始之前，我們想說的是，本視頻僅用於教育目的，並不能代替專業診斷。

If you suspect you or someone else may have AVPD, or any mental health condition, we highly advise you to seek help from a qualified mental health professional.

如果您懷疑自己或他人可能患有 AVPD 或任何精神疾病，我們強烈建議您向合格的精神健康專業人員尋求幫助。

So, let's dive into what avoidant people wish you knew.

那麼，讓我們來看看回避型人格的人希望你知道些什麼吧。

For someone with AVPD, low self-esteem isn't just a passing thought.

對於患有 AVPD 的人來說，自卑並不是一閃而過的念頭。

It feels like a quiet voice always telling you that you're not enough.

這種感覺就像一個安靜的聲音總是在告訴你，你還不夠。

That feeling often starts early, shaped by tough relationships or social moments that made you feel out of place.

這種感覺往往很早就開始了，因為艱難的人際關係或社交時刻讓你感到格格不入。

One study found that people with AVPD often deal with both attachment issues and low social skills, which makes it harder to feel confident or connected in everyday life.

一項研究發現，患有 AVPD 的人往往同時面臨依戀問題和社交技能低下的問題，這使得他們在日常生活中更難感到自信或與人建立聯繫。

So when someone gets close, you might question why they would even want to.

是以，當有人接近你時，你可能會質疑他們為什麼要這樣做。

Compliments feel hard to believe, and deep down you expect others to pull away.

恭維話讓人難以相信，在內心深處，你期待著別人遠離你。

It's a pattern you've learned to survive.

Healing starts when you catch those thoughts and remind yourself.

當你抓住這些想法並提醒自己時，治療就開始了。

You're allowed to take up space, and you don't need to earn your worth.

你可以佔據空間，你不需要為自己的價值而奮鬥。

The push-pull feeling is something many people with AVPD go through.

這種推拉感是許多 AVPD 患者都會經歷的。

You want to get close to someone, but when things start to feel too emotional or too intense, you suddenly feel the need to pull away.

你想接近某人，但當事情開始變得過於情緒化或過於激烈時，你會突然覺得有必要抽身離開。

這是因為親近會讓人感覺害怕。

Getting too close might lead to being hurt, so distance feels safer.

靠得太近可能會受傷，所以距離感更安全。

But when you pull back, you might feel lonely again, and that makes you want connection.

但是，當你退縮時，你可能會再次感到孤獨，這讓你想要聯繫。

這就成了一個難以打破的循環。

Instead of blaming yourself for this, try to notice when it's happening.

與其為此責怪自己，不如試著在發生這種情況時加以注意。

Ask yourself gently, Am I feeling scared or overwhelmed right now?

輕輕地問自己：我現在感到害怕或不知所措嗎？

That amount of awareness can help you feel more steady and more in control next time.

這種意識能讓你在下一次比賽中更穩健，更有掌控感。

Number three, hyper-awareness and relationships.

Sometimes, being in a relationship feels like walking on a tightrope.

You notice every little pause, every change in tone, every shift in someone's mood, and suddenly, your mind starts racing.

你會注意到每一個細微的停頓、每一個語氣的變化、每一個人情緒的轉變，突然間，你的大腦開始飛速運轉。

It's like your brain is always watching for signs that something might go wrong.

就好像你的大腦一直在關注著可能出問題的跡象。

This kind of hyper-awareness often comes from a deep fear of getting hurt.

這種超常意識往往來自於對受到傷害的深深恐懼。

One study found that people with avoidant personality disorder tend to have stronger attachment issues than even those with social anxiety, which can make closeness feel more scary than safe.

一項研究發現，迴避型人格障礙患者的依戀問題往往比社交焦慮症患者更嚴重，這會讓人覺得親近更可怕，而不是更安全。

But when you're always on edge, it gets harder to feel relaxed or connected.

但當你總是處於緊張狀態時，就很難感到放鬆或聯繫。

When that happens, take a moment, breathe, and gently ask yourself, Is this really something to worry about or is my fear just louder today?

當這種情況發生時，請花點時間，深呼吸，輕輕地問自己：這真的值得擔心嗎，還是我今天的恐懼更強烈了？

That small pause can help you feel more grounded and more open to connection.

這一小會兒的停頓能讓你感覺更踏實，更願意與人交流。

Number four, the fear of being a burden or rejected.

第四，害怕成為負擔或被拒絕。

Sometimes, just being close to someone can bring up a quiet fear, the fear of being too much.

有時，只要與某人親近，就會悄悄喚起一種恐懼，那就是害怕自己太過分。

You might hold back from sharing your feelings or asking for support because deep down, you're scared it'll push people away.

你可能不願分享自己的感受或尋求支持，因為在內心深處，你害怕這會把別人推開。

Maybe you felt like a burden before or were made to feel like your needs didn't matter.

也許你以前覺得自己是個負擔，或者覺得自己的需求並不重要。

Even the smallest sign of it can feel huge.

即使是最微小的跡象，也會讓人感覺巨大。

But here's the thing, avoiding connection to stay safe also keeps you from feeling seen and supported.

但問題是，為了安全而避免聯繫，也會讓你感覺不到被關注和被支持。

Healing starts when you give yourself permission to show up, even if it's just one small step at a time.

當你允許自己出現時，治癒就開始了，哪怕每次只邁出一小步。

Number five, emotions feel too big or too much.

For someone with AVPD, emotions can sometimes feel like they're too much to handle.

對於患有 AVPD 的人來說，情緒有時會讓他們感覺難以承受。

Whether it's fear, sadness, or even happiness, these feelings can feel overwhelming, almost like they take over.

無論是恐懼、悲傷，甚至是快樂，這些情緒都會讓人感覺難以承受，幾乎要佔據一切。

It's just that your emotions can feel so intense, it's hard to make sense of them.

只是，你的情緒可能會如此強烈，讓人難以理喻。

Research has shown that people with AVPD often have more activity in the part of the brain that controls emotions, especially when facing stressful situations.

研究表明，患有 AVPD 的人通常大腦中控制情緒的部分活動較多，尤其是在面臨壓力的情況下。

This extra sensitivity makes even small emotions feel bigger and harder to manage.

這種額外的敏感性會讓微小的情緒變得更大、更難控制。

It's important to remember that these emotions don't mean something is wrong with you.

重要的是要記住，這些情緒並不意味著你出了問題。

They're just your brain reacting to what feels overwhelming.

它們只是你的大腦對壓倒性感覺的反應。

Recognizing this can help you understand that it's okay to feel everything you do, and it's okay to take your time to work through it without pushing yourself too hard.

認識到這一點可以幫助你理解，感受到你所做的一切是沒有問題的，慢慢地度過難關也是沒有問題的，不要把自己逼得太緊。

I know it's frustrating when you feel yourself pulling away, even from people you care about.

我知道，當你感到自己在遠離，甚至遠離你所關心的人時，你會感到沮喪。

You might start to wonder what's wrong with you, or why you can't just let them in.

你可能會開始懷疑自己是怎麼了，或者為什麼不能讓他們進來。

But here's something important to understand.

In fact, if you could see inside your own mind for just a second, you might realize how much you're struggling with your own emotions, and how deeply you care.

事實上，如果你能看清自己的內心世界，你可能會意識到自己的情緒有多掙扎，自己的關心有多深。

But can't always find the words or safety to express it.

但總是找不到合適的語言或安全的方式來表達。

Once you understand this, it gets easier to see why you pull away.

一旦你明白了這一點，就會更容易理解你為什麼要離開。

It's about needing time to process your feelings on your own.

這是因為你需要時間自己處理你的感受。

Sometimes, love means giving yourself the space to reflect, heal, and feel safe again.

有時，愛意味著給自己空間去反思、療傷並重新獲得安全感。

When you allow yourself that space, you're not just protecting your peace.

當你允許自己有這樣的空間時，你不僅僅是在保護自己的平靜。

You're also taking steps towards healthier, stronger relationships.

你也在朝著更健康、更牢固的人際關係邁進。

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