The question is do we regain it?

The question is do we show up

when it really counts?

The question is are we are of when it's lost

and what do we do to get back?

So let's talk about losing motivation

in this context right now?

Because listen, if you haven't seen my hashtag on this

I want to let you know

it's not just a superficial thing,

it's genuinely how I feel.

I've been locked down for 28 days

but I keep saying

I'm locked down

but fired up.

Locked down, fired up.

I don't think I've ever been generally as motivated

in my entire lifetime right now

'cause I can see the opportunity to serve,

I can see the need out there,

I can accept the challenge on myself to say

how am I going to deal with this?

But it doesn't mean I don't lose my motivation too.

And so what does losing motivation look like?

Usually, let's talk through a few things,

first recognize almost all lost motivation

is actually fatigue, burnout, overwhelm and stress.

It has nothing to do with motivation itself.

It has to do with the conditions around it

jacking up your motivation.

So fatigue, that's why we're going to talk

about self-care real fast.

And I know you all know this

being in our community,

but if this hasn't moved up on your priority list,

you're not even in the game yet.

I talked with another client the other day

who's like Brendon,

I haven't been affected by this at all.

I still feel good,

I still feel strong,

business is strong,

felt like he was in a good place

and I was like oh interesting,

I was like, well are you not feeling any fatigue

from the news and the media?

He's like, no, like you said, Brendon,

part of my self-care routine

is I don't do a lot of consumption,

I don't read a lot of the news,

maybe once or twice a day,

I don't do a lot of social media.

I said, okay that's cool

and I said, nothing else,

you don't feel like the grind on you,

you don't feel like overwhelm?

No.

Well the way his coping was coming out

was he was getting more agitated with other people.

Not the way he treated them

'cause he's just a darling man with other people

but you know what was interesting?

I heard him say it two or three times.

It took a minute for me to pick up on it as a coach,

I picked up on it,

he was calling other people idiots.

I've never heard him call his team

or anyone on his team an idiot.

And he said the word idiot three times on the phone.

And I was like ah,

'cause you know one way you cope with things,

judgment goes up.

Because if you can be sure of your opinion right now,

at least that's some kind of certainty.

So a lot of people's certainty

comes through their sense of self righteousness,

their sense of I'm going through this

and other people are not

which again is the devil of division, separatedness.

Oh, I'm dealing with better than them, suckers, idiots.

And you know what happens?

If you start thinking the world is full of idiots,

lost motivation.

'Cause you know what,

you don't want to deal with those people anymore.

And when you don't want to deal with those people anymore,

you withdraw and unconsciously you lose motivation.

When judgment goes up, motivation goes down.

Why do you think the Dalai Lama

is such an extraordinarily motivated man,

especially for his age and health conditions?

Because he's so accepting and loving of people.

When you are accepting and loving of people

as where they're at,

as an opportunity to serve,

your motivation's different.

So how does this come back to self-care, Brendon?

What the heck are you talking about?

Well, this person didn't realize

his fatigue was coming out as judgment,

his stress was coming out as judgment.

He didn't make that connection.

But because he was not taking care of himself,

because he was bragging about working three times as much

and it's not affecting him and everything's fine,

what came to be true was he was fatigued.

He lost his self-care routines.

Your self-care should be A plus right now.

And for most people, it's not.

Most people just double,

listen to this,

by the way, it's historical,

in economic recessions and depressions,

household budgets for alcohol double.

Do you know that?

It's already happened here in North America.

Just like oh, let's just spend more on alcohol,

it immediately happens.

Now people are saying well no, no, no,

it's 'cause we're locked in

and we can't go to the restaurants as much.

No 'cause when you went to the restaurants

you still spent the same or more.

No, what's happening is people are,

their number one way

that they're stealing from their self-care

is they're turning to addictions.

Please be aware of that.

Be aware of what you are turning to

that's making you more tired.

'Cause guess what?

A hangover is fatigue,

no matter how good your hangover is.

The more you consume, drink,

eat things that are unhealthy right now,

and listen I'm not here to be a preacher of your health,

I'm just here to say it has effects.

And since we're talking about lost motivation,

please realize a hangover in any capacity

is going to hurt

the molecules that we know activate motivation.

Dopamine, vasopressin, oxytocin, serotonin,

are all negatively impacted by any drug use

and any alcohol.

All of them are negatively impacted.

So please realize that motivation

is neurobiological as well.

You can take a group of soldiers

and over a 16 week period

measure their sleep patterns

and their perceived sense of motivation and drive,

and watch it crater.

You mess with people's sleep,

you feed 'em bad things,

you make 'em consume drugs and alcohol

and their motivation will drop.

And I'm not here to preach

'cause you do what you want,

hey, if you love a glass of wine with you're meal,

I'm not here to preach about that.

I'll have a glass of wine, no problem,

I love a glass of wine,

but I'm not likely in times of crises

to have a bunch of 'em.

And that's what's really important,

'cause I know I already have a compromised brain,

many of you guys know I had a brain injury in 2011

and that brain injury doesn't go away.

So I'm always mitigating.

And for me, I know if I overconsume bad food or alcohol,

the next day, I just don't feel good.

And that slows down my ability to serve

or be their for my family when it counts.

And right now, it counts.

So please, do your self-care.

That means, for those of you that,

a convenient acronym to check your self-care,

do this, take your MEDS, m-e-d-s, MEDS.

What does MEDS stand for?

MEDS stands for meditation,

exercise,

diet,

sleep.

That's your meds,

every day, meditate, exercise, diet, sleep.

Get those down.

Then I like to add the RX on it,

RX, what's RX stand for?

R stands for relationships.

Deepen your appreciation and your presence

in your relationship.

X is the X factor

which is to me supplementation,

finding what your body needs biologically

to optimize its performance.

Many of you guys know,

I take my Optimized supplement,

which I know some of you guys have,

I take that every day

so I can stay mentally clear and sharp,

especially in times of stress

'cause there's adatpogens and mushrooms in there.

So everyone needs it, that's for me,

I know I need that.

You might know you need that morning cup of coffee,

that's a supplement if you didn't know that.

You might know that you're somebody

who needs a little extra magnesium, iron, and B vitamins

during times of stress.

Great, pump those up.

You might realize during times of stress,

it's time for you to take your adaptogens,

your rhodiola, your ginseng, that might be a time,

might be a time to boost your immunity.

Take your mushrooms, your chaga, your reishi, your maki,

whatever else I'm forgetting.

You got to know,

the X factor's always supplementation

but the R factor is relationships.

So MEDSRX,

meditation, exercise, diet, sleep,

nailed those, RX,

relationship presence and energy,

X, the supplementation to keep you going.

Okay, I won't belabor that point

'cause I think you all know it.

Next up, and I'll move a little faster

through some of these.

Okay, remember we're on lost motivation.

So let's come back to this big key topic.

And this is make sure you are listening

to motivating voices right now, motivating voices.

If you got a friend or a spouse

who's constantly complaining,

immediately stop exposure to that

or let them know of its effect.

And don't blame them,

say, you know what,

I notice we, use the language we,

I notice we've been really talking

about the problems and the complaints about that.

Let's talk about what we're appreciative of.

Fire off five things you're grateful for.

Just help me change my mindset.

Acknowledge it's we,

'cause all conversations are we,

and then say, help me,

give me five things you're thankful for,

tell me five reasons you love me,

say three things that are going good

and take control of that conversation.

Another big idea behind this is

if you're not listening to positive podcasts

or participating in communities like this,

this is the time to up that ante.

For those who have funny friends,

I have two friends, Dave and Adam,

who are literally the funniest human beings

on the planet.

I'm convinced there is no funnier human beings.

And I know you probably have friends like that to,

you're like no, no, no,

Brendon, my friends are funnier than your friends.