Name: 【MarieTV】如何在職場上寬容而不被視為軟弱或天真 (How to Be Kind Without Being Viewed As Weak or Naive)
Uploaded: 2016-07-28T23:00:00.000Z
Duration: 5 min 34 s
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Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and a life that you love.

嗨！我是瑪莉·芙萊奧，你現在收看的是 Marie TV ，這裡能讓你學會創造你所熱愛的事業和生活。

Today's question comes from Ginny and she writes: "Hi, Marie. I'm a newly named female CEO of a tech startup.

今天的問題來自 Ginny，她問道：「嗨，瑪莉，我剛成為一間科技新創公司的女性執行長。

I'm so excited and really feel like I'm qualified for the role and will bring a lot to the table.

我非常興奮，覺得自己適得其所，也將會為公司帶來很多價值。

That said, I'm a kind and positive person.

而且，我是一位親切、積極的人。

Actually, positivity is one of my five Gallup Strengths Finder strengths.

實際上，『積極』是我五項『蓋洛普能力發現剖析測驗』優點中的其中一項。

I love this about myself, but I've experienced these 2 traits being viewed as weaknesses.

我很喜歡自己這一點，但我曾有過這兩項特質被人視為是軟弱的經驗。

I think people equate positivity with being naive.

我想人們把積極與天真相提並論。

I've tried suppressing these areas of my personality in the past to be taken more seriously, but it doesn't feel genuine or healthy.

過去，我曾試過壓抑這兩個人格，這樣大家能更加認真地看待我，只是感覺很不真誠，也不健康。

Walking into the male dominated, cutthroat tech world, I suspect these traits will again be seen as liabilities.

我即將進入一個由男性主宰的殘酷高科技行業，不禁懷疑自己的這些特質又會被視作缺陷。

But I know I need to be me in order to give my best.

但我知道我必須做自己才能發揮所長。

Do you have any suggestions to help me with this sitch? Thanks, Ginny.”

想請問您有沒有什麼建議呢？謝謝，Ginny。」

What you have is a rare and precious gift, Ginny.

Ginny，你所擁有的是份難得且珍貴的禮物。

It's what makes you come alive, so you need to really listen to me here.

它是你充滿生命力的原因因此，你要好好仔細地聽我說。

Suppressing who you are is not an option.

Do not ever suppress any part of who you are to fit into the tech world, the business world, or any other world, unless, of course, you want to spiral down into depression and mediocrity.

千萬不要壓抑任何一部份的你，只為了融入高科技行業、企業界或任何行業，除非，你想要陷入沮喪和平庸的世界裡。

You mentioned that in the past your positivity and kindness were viewed as weak.

你提到說在過去，你的積極和親切被視為軟弱。

My response: ignore that feedback because I doubt those are the kind of people that you want to take advice from, that you want to associate with, or that you want to lead in your organization.

我的回應是：不要理會那些回應，他們的意見並不值得參考，而你應該也不會想與他們為伍，或是領導那些人。

And don't make an assumption that just because you're walking into a male dominated world that your core strengths will be viewed as liabilities.

另外，先別妄下論斷，只因為你認為即將進入一個由男性主宰的行業，你的核心優勢就會被視為缺陷。

也許它們會被視為缺陷，也或許不會。

Because here is the important thing I want you to remember: the future of business is about being more connected to your humanity, not less.

有一件事你必須銘記在心：企業的未來與人性絕對息息相關。。

And that includes your positivity, kindness, your enthusiasm, your vulnerability, and, most importantly, your heart.

這包含了你的積極、親切、熱情、脆弱，以及最重要的，你的心。

Let's look at this through the lens of gardening for a minute.

讓我們用園藝的角度來看這件事。

So every plant and flower thrives under different conditions.

每一種植物和花朵在不同的條件下茁壯成長。

舉例來說，牽牛花喜愛充足的陽光。

Anything less and you won't get the extraordinary blooms that it's capable of producing.

少了一點點陽光，牽牛花便無法綻放非凡。

Impatiens, on the other hand, love the shade.

鳳仙花的話，則完全相反，喜歡陰涼處。

You give them too much sun and they're gonna fry and die.

照射了太多的陽光，反而會乾枯並凋零。

Just like flowers need the right condition to survive and thrive, so do you.

如同花朵需要對的條件才能生存和茁壯成長，你也是一樣

You've gotta realize that you're only as good as the people you surround yourself with, and it is vital that you put yourself in the right ecosystem, one that gives you the chance to really flex your strengths.

你必須了解，「近朱者赤，近墨者黑」，把自己放在對的生態系統裡是極為重要的，一個給你機會去真正展現優點的環境。

Put yourself in the right conditions, you will blossom.

在對的條件下，你將會成長茁壯。

Put yourself in the wrong conditions, however, like with a bunch of cynics, and you will wither and die.

然而，在不對的條件下，就像一堆憤世嫉俗者一樣，你將會枯萎而凋零。

When you know what makes you strong, don't settle for less.

當你知道什麼能讓你更強壯時，別委屈求全。

My big unequivocal message to you is embrace your strength of positivity and be it daily.

我給你的最大最明確訊息便是，擁抱你的積極優點並天天實踐它。

Your enthusiasm for life is contagious, plus it gives other people permission to be kind and positive and enthusiastic leaders, too.

你對生活的熱情是具有感染力的，加上，這也允許其他人當個親切、積極及熱情的領導者。

Ignore people who consider your core strengths a weakness.

忽略其他視你的核心優勢為軟弱的人。

Don't make assumptions about the environment you're walking into.

別對你即將進入的環境妄下論斷。

Those strengths of yours are the future of business and success.

你的那些優點是企業和成功的未來。

Now more than ever is the time to let them shine.

現在正是讓它們發光發亮的最好時機。

And if you ever need a boost of confidence to do that, remember this tweetable.

假如你需要提振信心才能做到的話，記得這則推特訊息：

The future of business belongs to the kind, the enthusiastic, the optimistic.

「企業的未來是屬於親切、熱情、樂觀的人。」

So that was my A to your Q, Ginny; let us know how it goes.

好的，Ginny，這就是今天的你問我答。讓我們知道後續發展。

而現在，我想要聽聽你們的意見。

Have you ever been tempted to suppress one of your core strengths because you thought you'd be seen as weak?

你曾試圖壓抑過自己的核心優勢，因為你認為自己被視為軟弱嗎？

What specifically happened and how did you handle it?

具體發生了什麼事？你又是如何應對的呢？

As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at the magical land of MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.

如往常一樣，每一集結束後，MarieForleo.com 網站裡都會出現熱烈的討論，所以現在就請你到網站上留下你的想法吧！

Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel and I would be so grateful if you shared this with your friends.

你喜歡這一集影片嗎? 如果喜歡，請你訂閱我們的頻道，若能將這部影片分享給你的朋友，那當然是再好不過了。

And if you want even more resources to create a business and life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only get to talk about in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and make sure you sign up for email updates.

如果你想要更多資源去創造你所熱愛的事業和生活，以及我只在郵件中分享的個人洞見的話，那就來MarieForleo.com網站註冊，以取得郵件的訂閱更新。

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special gift that only you have.

專注你的事業，並持續追求你的夢想，因為這世界正需要你那獨一無二的天賦。

Thank you so much for watching and I'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

非常感謝你的收看，我們下次再於 Marie TV上相見囉！