Name: 為什麼有些人總是需要換新伴侶？ (Why Some People Need New Partners All the Time )
Uploaded: 2026-01-09T18:19:22.000Z
Duration: 6 min 33 s

Have you ever wondered why even the happiest relationships sometimes lose their spark?

你有沒有想過，為什麼即使是最幸福的關係有時候也會失去火花？

Why passion can fade over time, even when love is still strong?

為什麼熱情會隨著時間而減退，即使愛意依然濃烈？

Or why a small change, a new setting, a playful twist, a shift on dynamic can suddenly reignite desire.

或是為什麼一個小小的改變、一個新的情境、一個有趣的轉折、一個動態的轉變，就能突然重新點燃慾望。

And it's not just about experimenting in the bedroom.

這不只是關於在臥室裡嘗試新事物。

It's about how our brains are wired to respond to newness, play and curiosity.

而是關於我們的大腦如何被設定來回應新奇、玩樂和好奇心。

Novelty wakes up the reward system, sparking the same kind of energy we feel at the start of a relationship.

新奇感能喚醒獎勵系統，激發我們在關係初期感受到的那種能量。

Even if you're single, this video can help you understand how desire works in the human brain.

即使你是單身，這支影片也能幫助你瞭解人類大腦中的慾望是如何運作的。

And when we understand what fuels passion, we can approach intimacy with others or ourselves with more openness, compassion and imagination.

當我們瞭解是什麼在點燃熱情，我們就能以更開放、同情和想像力來對待與他人或自己的親密關係。

So let's dive into the psychology of sexual novelty and what it reveals about keeping desire alive.

所以，讓我們一起深入探討性愛新奇感的心理學，以及它對維持慾望的啟示。

Your brain is wired for both comfort and excitement.

你的大腦同時被設定來追求安逸和刺激。

It loves patterns, routines that make life feel safe.

它喜歡模式、讓生活感覺安全的例行公事。

這就是性愛新奇感發揮作用的地方。

Researchers have shown that new experiences light up the brain's reward system, releasing a rush of dopamine.

研究人員已經證明，新的體驗能點亮大腦的獎勵系統，釋放出多巴胺的衝擊。

Early in relationships, everything feels novel.

在關係的初期，一切都充滿新奇感。

Your partner's voice, their touch, even their quirks.

你伴侶的聲音、他們的觸碰，甚至是他們的小怪癖。

And dopamine floods the system, creating that intoxicating honeymoon phase.

多巴胺湧入系統，創造出那種令人陶醉的蜜月期。

Over time, though, the brain adapts, and what once felt electrifying becomes familiar.

然而，隨著時間的推移，大腦會適應，曾經令人興奮的感覺會變得熟悉。

A new restaurant, a different route home.

像是去一家新餐廳，或是換條路回家。

A playful twist in routine can wake up that same circuitry, reigniting connection and making partners feel more alive and engaged.

在日常生活中來點小小的驚喜，就能重新活化大腦的迴路，讓伴侶感覺更有活力、更投入。

Some people worry that craving sexual novelty means they're disloyal or ungrateful.

有些人擔心，渴望性愛新奇感代表他們不忠或不知感恩。

But sexual novelty isn't about rejecting what you have.

但性愛新奇感並不是要你排斥現有的關係。

Think of it like might have a favorite meal, but

想像一下，你可能有一道最愛的菜，但

if you ate it every single day, eventually you'd crave variety.

如果你每天都吃同一道菜，久了你也會想換換口味。

Not because the meal lost its value, but because your senses are wired for newness.

這不是因為那道菜變差了，而是因為我們的感官天生就喜歡新奇。

Biologists even have a name for the Coolidge effect.

生物學家甚至為庫利奇效應取了名字。

Researchers found that sexual interests tend to decline with the same partner, but

研究發現，對同一伴侶的性趣會逐漸下降，

但只要有新對象出現，就會重新燃起。

That can sound discouraging, but it doesn't mean long term desire is doomed.

這聽起來可能讓人有點沮喪，但這不代表長久的渴望就此註定結束。

Familiarity also creates safety, trust, and intimacy things novelty alone cannot replace.

熟悉感也會帶來安全感、信任和親密感，這些是單靠新奇感無法取代的。

The point isn't to excuse infidelity, but to understand how the brain works.

重點不是為不忠找藉口，而是要了解大腦的運作方式。

When couples intentionally add variety, whether by trying new activities, exploring fantasies, or simply surprising each other, they often reignite their spark without anyone new involved.

當伴侶們刻意增加新鮮感，無論是嘗試新活動、探索幻想，或是單純給對方驚喜，他們常常能在沒有新對象介入的情況下，重新點燃彼此的火花。

A study found that couples who embrace novelty together, inside or outside the bedroom, report stronger satisfaction.

一項研究發現，夫妻倆若一起擁抱新鮮感，無論是在臥室內或外，都會回報更強的滿足感。

It's keeping love dynamic, alive and evolving.

而是讓愛保持活力、鮮活且不斷演進。

You didn't think we were done yet, did you?

你們沒想到我們就這樣結束了吧？

Don't forget to like, share and subscribe.

If you enjoy this video, let's get back to it.

如果你喜歡這支影片，那我們就繼續吧。

Healthy Ways to Explore Sexual Novelty of course, novelty has a shadow side.

健康探索性愛新奇感的方式當然，新奇感也有陰暗面。

Comfort brings safety, but too much routine can dull desire.

舒適帶來安全感，但過多的例行公事會讓慾望變得遲鈍。

Novelty excites, but chasing it endlessly can create instability.

新奇感令人興奮，但無止盡地追求它可能會造成不穩定。

The healthiest relationships don't choose one over the other, but balance both.

最健康的關係並非擇一，而是兩者兼顧。

Craving newness isn't about rejecting love, it's about sustaining it and rediscovering what first drew you towards each other.

對新奇感的渴望並非要拒絕愛情，而是要維持愛情，並重新發現當初吸引你們彼此的特質。

Sexual novelty doesn't always mean elaborate roleplay or adventurous kinks, though for some, it can.

性愛新奇感不一定總是意味著複雜的扮演或冒險的癖好，儘管對某些人來說，它確實可以是。

More often, it begins with small shifts that break the routine and spark new energy.

更常見的是，它始於打破例行公事、激發新能量的小改變。

Like moving intimacy outside the bedroom, it can jolt the senses awake pace, slowing things down to savor or speeding things up for urgency creates contrast dynamic Experimenting with who initiates or introducing elements of power play can ship familiar patterns.

像是把親密行為移出臥室，可以喚醒感官；放慢步調細細品味，或加快節奏製造急迫感，都能創造對比動態；實驗誰主導，或加入權力扮演的元素，都能打破熟悉的模式。

Communication, even sharing fantasies aloud can spark intimacy whether or not you act on them.

溝通，即使是大聲分享幻想，也能激發親密感，無論你們是否會付諸行動。

Why Novelty feels Vulnerable Trying something new in bed isn't just about technique, it's about vulnerability.

為什麼新奇感會讓人感到脆弱？在床上嘗試新事物不只是技巧問題，更是關乎脆弱感。

如果他們覺得我很奇怪怎麼辦？

Approaching novelty as shared exploration, not performance, makes all the difference.

把新奇感當成共同探索，而不是表演，會帶來很大的不同。

Instead of saying, I need this to stay interesting, it's more connecting to say, I'd love to explore this with you.

與其說「我需要這個來保持新鮮感」，不如說「我很想和你一起探索這個」，這樣更能連結彼此。

我覺得這對我們來說會很有趣。

Framing novelty as curiosity, not criticism, transforms it from threat into invitation, novelty and Long term love One of the most powerful things about novelty is how it can refresh long term love.

把新奇感視為好奇心，而非批評，能將其從威脅轉變為邀請。新奇感與長久之愛：新奇感最能帶來力量的一點，就是它能為長久的愛情注入新活力。

When couples stop exploring, the relationship risks slipping into autopilot.

當伴侶停止探索時，關係就有可能陷入自動導航模式。

But when they reintroduce play, the bond deepens not just sexually, but emotionally.

但當你們重新引入玩樂時，連結不僅在性方面加深，情感上也更緊密。

Trying something new together requires trust.

It asks you both to step into uncertainty, to risk awkwardness, to laugh, to learn that shared vulnerability can reignite intimacy far beyond the bedroom.

這要求你們兩人都要進入不確定性，冒著尷尬的風險，一起歡笑，學會共同的脆弱感能重新點燃親密感，遠不止於臥室。

Novelty reminds you that your partner is not fully known, that there are always new layers to discover, and

新奇感提醒你，你的伴侶並非全然被瞭解，總有新的層面可以探索，

而這個體認可以帶來深刻的性吸引力。

The psychology of sexual novelty is really the psychology of staying awake.

性愛新奇感的心理學，其實就是保持清醒的心理學。

In love, it's about balancing safety with adventure, grounding with growth.

在愛情裡，這是關於平衡安全感與冒險，穩定與成長。

So if you've ever wondered why routine dims desire, know this.

所以，如果你曾想過為什麼例行公事會讓慾望減弱，請知道這點。

這不是軟弱，而是天生的設定。

Your brain craves novelty as much as it craves security.

你的大腦對新奇感的渴望，跟對安全感的渴望一樣強烈。

And when this desire is embraced with empathy, communication and play, it stops being a threat to long term love and becomes one of its greatest strengths.

而當這種渴望透過同理心、溝通和玩樂來擁抱時，它就不再是長久愛情的威脅，反而成為它最強大的力量之一。

How do you balance comfort with curiosity?

And don't forget to like, share and subscribe for more conversations that matter.

別忘了按讚、分享和訂閱，這樣你就不會錯過更多有意義的對話。

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