Name: 是時候告白了！那些讓你該鼓起勇氣追愛的徵兆？！ (Signs It’s Time to Ask Your Crush Out)
Uploaded: 2025-12-26T18:33:29.000Z
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Do you have a crush on someone and are unsure if you should ask them out?

你是不是迷戀某人，卻不知道該不該約他們出去？

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Well, today we're here to help you out with a few ways to tell if someone wants you to ask them out and if you should.

嗯，今天我們就是要來幫你判斷，對方是不是也想讓你約他們出去，以及你該不該採取行動。

Here are seven signs you should ask them out and how to do so.

這裡有七個指標，告訴你該不該約對方出去，以及該怎麼做。

Do you catch your crush staring at you from time to time?

你是不是常常發現你迷戀的對象盯著你看？

This is a common way to tell if someone has a crush on you.

這是判斷一個人是不是迷戀你的常見方法。

In an article for Psychology Today, behavioral analyst John r. Jack Schaefer, Ph.D.

在《Psychology Today》的一篇文章中，行為分析師 John R. Jack Schaefer 博士

explains that people look at people they like and avoid looking at people they don't like.

解釋說，人們會看他們喜歡的人，而避開他們不喜歡的人。

Shaffer goes on to say that the neurochemical oxytocin may be responsible for increased eye contact.

Shaffer 進一步表示，神經化學物質催產素（oxytocin）可能是造成相互眼神交流增加的原因。

Elevated oxytocin levels increase mutual eye gaze and provide a sense of well being, which increases mutual attraction.

催產素（oxytocin）水準升高會增加相互的眼神交流，並帶來福祉感，進而增加相互吸引。

Most often, people want to take a peek at their crush from time to time.

大多數時候，人們會不時地想偷看他們迷戀的對象。

When they do so, they may get caught staring at you because of how attractive they find you.

當他們這麼做時，可能會因為覺得你很有吸引力而被抓到盯著你看。

If when you spot them, they quickly turn away and blush, this could be a sign that they're shy and embarrassed you saw them stealing a glance at you.

如果你發現他們，他們會迅速轉開並臉紅，這可能是他們害羞且尷尬你偷瞄他們的跡象。

People also try to catch their crush's eyes when they like them to let them know that they like them.

當人們喜歡他們的迷戀對象時，也會試圖與他們對視，讓對方知道他們喜歡對方。

So if when you see them, they linger a bit and give a smile, this too could be a sign they want you to approach them and make a move.

所以，如果你看到他們，他們會稍微停留並微笑，這也可能是他們希望你接近並採取行動的跡象。

他們會對你微笑和臉紅，但只對你。

Do you notice your crush often smiles and blushes when you approach them and their friends.

你有沒有注意到，當你接近你迷戀的對象和他們的朋友時，他們常常會微笑和臉紅？

You've noticed they give a polite and friendly smile to others, but

你注意到他們對別人總是禮貌而友善地微笑，但

something seems a bit different when you approach.

當你接近時，似乎有點不一樣。

Their smile either seems more flirty or perhaps it seems they give you a sweet smile with a blush.

他們的微笑似乎更調情，或者他們會給你一個甜蜜的微笑並臉紅。

These are good indicators that they like you.

這些都是他們喜歡你的好指標。

Discussing attraction In a Mind Body Green article, clinical psychologist Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.

在 Mind Body Green 的一篇文章中，臨床心理學家 Mary C. Lamia 博士探討了吸引力。

points out that blushing is an honest response which can often be set off by someone feeling caught being sexually excited about another person.

她指出，臉紅是一種誠實的反應，當一個人感覺到自己對另一個人產生性興奮時，這種反應常常會被觸發。

When you meet their friends, do you notice they seem to smile as if they've heard something about you.

當你遇到他們的朋友時，你是否注意到他們似乎在微笑，好像聽說過你一樣。

It's like they know a secret and are excited to finally meet you, that secret being that their friend likes you?

就像他們知道一個祕密，並且很高興終於見到你，那個祕密就是他們的朋友喜歡你？

If you find your crush's friends seem to know a lot about you when you haven't told them anything, it's likely their friend couldn't stop talking about you with them.

如果你發現你迷戀對象的朋友在你什麼都沒告訴他們的情況下，似乎對你很瞭解，那很可能是因為他們的朋友不停地跟你提起你。

當你有一個朋友時，你會整天想著他們嗎？

You can't stop thinking about them when you have a friend, do you think about them all day and night?

如果有個人你一直想著，想著他們在做什麼，他們有沒有想著你，甚至想到他們時會小鹿亂撞，這可能是時候約他們出去了。

If there's someone that you're thinking about all the time, what they're doing, if they're thinking about you, maybe even some butterflies when you think about them, this might be a sign that it's time to ask them out.

在 Harley therapy 諮商部落格上，Dr.

On the Harley therapy counseling blog, Dr.

Sherry Jacobson 解釋說，這種對你迷戀對象的持續思考，可能是因為社會讓我們崇尚不健康的浪漫吸引力。

Sherry Jacobson explains that this constant thought cycle on your crushes can be due to us being programmed by society to idolize unhealthy romantic attraction.

她也解釋說，我們有些人會把愛體驗成一種成癮。

She also explains that some of us experience love like an addiction.

這得到了哈佛大學三年級研究所學生 Catherine Wu 的支持，她解釋說，當我們感到有吸引力時，我們的大腦會釋放多巴胺和去甲腎上腺素。

This is supported by Catherine Wu, a Harvard third year graduate student who explains that our brains release dopamine and norepinephrine when you're feeling attracted.

Those feelings make you feel giddy, energetic and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia.

這些感覺會讓你頭昏眼花、精力充沛、欣快，甚至食慾不振、失眠。

So if you've been thinking about a special someone a lot, this might be your sign to ask them out.

所以，如果你一直想著某個特別的人，這可能是你約他們出去的時機。

Flirtation do they often make flirty jokes?

他們在你身邊時會玩得很開心嗎？

如果有人在跟你調情，這很明顯地表示他們對你有意思。

If someone is flirting with you, it's a pretty clear sign that they're interested in you.

問題是，他們也想更深入地瞭解你嗎？

The question is, are they interested in getting to know you on a deeper level as well?

如果他們對你表現出真誠的興趣，又帶點調情，那他們可能希望你採取行動，約他們出去。

If they both show a genuine interest in you and pair that with a bit of flirting, then they probably want you to make the first big move and ask them out.

他們記得，那如果他們不是那種愛調情的人呢？

They remember so what if they're not the flirty type?

If they've shown some of the previous signs, it could be that they like you.

如果他們表現出一些之前的跡象，那他們可能就是迷戀你。

But another way to tell if they care is to see how much they remember about you.

但另一種判斷他們是否在意你的方法，是看看他們記得你多少事。

Try having some deeper conversations, or just letting them know a few interesting or even general facts about yourself.

試著聊些更深入的話題，或者只是讓他們知道一些關於你有趣或一般性的事實。

Perhaps you bring up your previous conversations in the future.

也許你之後提起你們之前的對話。

If they seem pretty clueless as to what you're referring to, especially if it was an emotional or important topic, then it could be that they're uninterested.

如果他們對你說的內容似乎一無所知，特別是如果那是一個情感上或重要的話題，那麼他們可能就是不感興趣。

Or perhaps they have a pretty bad memory.

Proximity and comfortability do you notice your crush often tries to be alone with you?

距離和自在感，你注意到你的迷戀對象經常試圖單獨和你相處嗎？

Wouldn't you want to be alone around your crush to get to know them better or to perhaps take them out?

你不也想在你迷戀的對象身邊獨處，以便更瞭解他們，或者也許約他們出去嗎？

If they make it a point to be closer to you than their other friends?

如果他們特別會跟你保持比跟其他朋友更近的距離？

It could be that they're trying to be alone with you so they can attempt to ask you out.

這可能是因為他們想跟你獨處，以便約你出去。

They may even try to simply be in close proximity with you when you're in a group setting.

即使在團體場合，他們也可能會試著跟你保持近距離。

notes that people lean towards people they like and distance themselves from people they dislike inward leaning increases as rapport increases, but

指出，人們會傾向靠近喜歡的人，並疏遠不喜歡的人，隨著關係的增進，這種內傾的趨勢也會增加，但是

perhaps they can't help but feel nervous and shy away from asking you out.

也許他們就是忍不住感到緊張，而不敢約你出去。

In the end, if you're comfortable around them, like them, and

總之，如果你跟他們相處自在，喜歡他們，而且

find you can't stop thinking about them, it seems it might be a good idea to simply ask them out yourself.

發現自己總是想到他們，那麼或許直接約他們出去是個好主意。

So how do you even begin to ask someone out if you don't actually know them that well?

如果你其實不太認識對方，該怎麼開口約他們出去呢？

Try talking with them for a bit before you jump straight into the decision.

試著跟他們聊一下，再決定是否要直接約。

You may both be a bit nervous if you do have crushes on each other, so try to make it a habit to talk to them and make them feel comfortable.

也許你們都對彼此有點迷戀，所以會感到緊張，試著習慣跟他們哈拉，讓他們感到自在。

Once the conversation seems to be going smoothly, perhaps try to throw in some hints that you like them by giving them a meaningful compliment.

一旦對話似乎進行得很順利，也許可以試著給他們一些暗示，讓他們知道你喜歡他們，給他們一個有意義的稱讚。

Let them know in a respectful and flirty way.

用尊重且調情的方式讓他們知道。

If you've already hung out together and are already friends, you may want to give them a few hints that you think of them as a potential romantic partner and then ask them on a date.

如果你們已經一起出去玩，而且已經是朋友了，你可能會想給他們一些暗示，讓他們知道你認為他們是潛在的伴侶，然後約他們出去。

This means making it clear it's a date, commonly by saying it's one when you ask.

這表示要清楚說明這是一場約會，通常在你提出邀約時就這麼說。

So beforehand, continue giving them some compliments.

所以事先，繼續給他們一些稱讚。

Smile at them differently than a friend might.

用不同於朋友的方式對他們微笑。

As long as you're not giving them a creepy stare and smile, you should be good.

只要你不是用令人毛骨悚然的盯著看和微笑，應該就沒問題。

同時也要觀察他們的肢體語言。

Then it might be that they don't want to be approached by you.

那可能表示他們不想被你接近。

Don't ask them if they've made it clear they're not interested, but

不要問他們是否已經表明沒興趣，但

if they are, instead showing the signs mentioned in this video and they haven't said that they're not interested, it could be that they're hoping for you to ask them out.

如果他們有表現出影片中提到的跡象，而且他們沒有說他們沒興趣，那可能是他們希望你約他們出去。

Work up the courage, practice your confidence and feel free to go for it.

鼓起勇氣，練習自信，放手去嘗試吧。

Sometimes it might help to ask yourself, would I regret it if I didn't try and ask them out?

有時候問問自己，如果我不試著約他們出去，我會後悔嗎？

If the answer is yes, it can be a good idea to put ourselves out there and seize a great opportunity when we can.

如果答案是肯定的，那麼我們可以勇敢嘗試，抓住機會。

So if you've been admiring them and they've been giving some clear signs they feel the same way about you, then what are you waiting for?

所以，如果你一直迷戀著他們，而他們也給了你一些明確的訊號表示他們對你也有同樣的感覺，那你還在等什麼？

Knowing if you should ask someone out can be super nerve wracking.

知道該不該約某人出去，這件事本身就讓人超緊張的。

Actually asking them out can be a whole different ball game.

但真的要約他們出去，又是另一回事了。

Did you notice any of these signs in someone that you think is crushing on you?

你有沒有注意到某人身上有這些你覺得他們在迷戀你的跡象呢？

Let us know in the comment section down below.

Comment don't forget to click the like button and share it with a friend or your crush.

別忘了按讚並分享給朋友或你迷戀的對象。

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訂閱 Psych to go，並開啟通知鈴鐺圖示，就能看到更多這類內容。