Name: 全英｜不是所有美國女孩都外向！內曏者需要改變嗎？ (全英｜不是所有的美国女孩子都很外向的 Do introverts need to change?)
Uploaded: 2025-12-13T06:48:51.000Z
Duration: 4 min 34 s

I am very shy, to the point where it's almost like social anxiety.

我超級害羞，嚴重到幾乎可以說是社交焦慮症了。

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I'm constantly overthinking things and I always feel like I'm coming off as super weird.

我總是過度思考，而且總覺得自己表現得很奇怪。

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And I don't push myself to try new things or even go out in public sometimes because I feel scared.

我不敢嘗試新事物，甚至有時候不敢出門，因為我會感到害怕。

And when I say social anxiety, it's not that I don't like people or, or I don't like doing things.

當我說社交焦慮症時，並不是我不喜歡人，或是我討厭做事情。

I actually do really like being around people.

It's just that I get super nervous in social situations sometimes, or I don't even want to go out in public because I don't want to feel awkward or embarrassed.

只是有時候在社交場合我會超級緊張，或者我根本不想出門，因為我不想感到尷尬或難為情。

So throughout my life, a lot of people have told me that this is a bad thing and it's something that needs to be changed.

所以在我的人生中，很多人都告訴我這是件壞事，是需要被改變的。

And teachers would constantly tell me in front of the whole class that I was too quiet and I needed to be louder, or people would come up to me and tell me that I was too shy and I needed to talk more.

老師們會在全班面前不斷跟我說我太安靜了，需要大聲一點，不然就是有人會來跟我說我太害羞了，需要多說話。

So it seems like everyone is saying that you have to try your hardest to become an extrovert because that's what everyone else likes and that's going to make your life so, so much easier.

所以好像每個人都在說，你必須盡力成為一個外向者，因為那是大家喜歡的，而且這樣會讓你的生活變得非常非常容易。

While there is some truth to this, I don't totally agree that we should have to change such a fundamental part of our personalities just so we can fit in a bit better.

雖然這話有幾分道理，但我不太同意我們必須改變自己個性中這麼根本的部分，只是為了能稍微融入一點。

Because I don't think being an introvert is a flaw.

因為我不認為當個內曏者是件壞事。

I mean, the world might not be the friendliest towards introverts, but

我的意思是，這個世界對內曏者可能不是那麼友善，但

that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with me.

But at the same time, I do feel like this fear of embarrassment or fear of being awkward can sometimes hold me back from engaging with the world around me.

但同時，我確實覺得這種害怕尷尬或害怕笨拙的感覺，有時候會阻礙我與周遭的世界互動。

More often than not, I found myself staying in the comfort of my bedroom instead of going out to any kind of social activity.

我發現自己常常待在舒適的臥室裡，而不是去參加任何社交活動。

And eventually I was so isolated in my own little world and started.

結果我變得太孤立於自己的小世界裡，然後開始。

Started to feel like life was just passing me by because I missed out on so many things.

開始覺得人生就這樣從我身邊溜走，因為我錯過了太多事情。

To fight my social anxiety, I started pushing myself to go out and do things, even if that means doing them alone.

為了對抗我的社交焦慮症，我開始逼自己走出去做些事，即使那意味著獨自一人。

I spent more time going to libraries, bookstores, and

我花更多時間去圖書館、書店，

also explored a few new places I wanted to embrace, feeling a little bit uncomfortable so I could slowly change.

也去探索了一些我一直想嘗試的新地方，讓自己感覺有點不舒服，這樣我才能慢慢改變。

And one day when I was walking down the street, I just suddenly had this epiphany and I realized, like, nobody cares what I'm doing.

有一天，我走在路上，突然靈光一閃，我意識到，其實沒人會在意我在做什麼。

Nobody is looking at me, let alone thinking about me, because everyone is too busy thinking about themselves.

沒有人在看我，更別說在想我了，因為每個人都忙著想自己的事。

So there's really no reason to stress too much over yourself.

所以真的沒什麼好過度思考自己的。

And this realization kind of helped me relax and relieve some of my anxiety that I had about social situations.

這個領悟讓我放鬆下來，減輕了我對社交場合的焦慮。

After pushing myself out of my comfort zone, it made me realize that life is all about balance.

逼自己走出舒適圈後，我才發現人生就是關於平衡。

Because after spending some time out in the real world for a while, it made coming back to my personal world at home feel a million times better.

因為在真實世界裡待了一陣子後，回到家裡屬於自己的個人世界，感覺好上百萬倍。

I think that doing something even slightly out of our comfort zone is a really huge step, and

我覺得即使是做一些稍微超出我們舒適圈的事情，也是一個很大的進步，

Another thing I realized is that there might be a lot of mean people or a lot of negativity out in the real world, but

另外我領悟到，真實世界裡可能有很多壞人或負面能量，

overall, I truly believe that most people have a lot of good in their hearts.

但總體來說，我真的相信大多數人內心都充滿良善。

And most people want human connection, and they want to feel close to other people.

而且大多數人都渴望人際連結，渴望與他人親近。

So now sometimes when I go out, I might even strike up a conversation with someone, which is something that I would have never done in the past.

所以現在有時候我出門，甚至可能會跟別人搭話，這是我過去從來不會做的事。

I think embracing our true selves is way more fulfilling than trying to conform to what other people want from us.

我覺得擁抱真實的自己，比試圖迎合別人對我們的期望，要來得充實太多了。

And there are ways to grow as a person while also staying true to who we are.

而且我們可以在成長的同時，也能忠於自我。

All we can do is take life one day at a time.

And remember that most people are too concerned with their own lives to judge ours.

而且要記得，大多數人都在忙自己的事，根本沒空評判你。

So don't let anything stop you from living life to the fullest.

所以別讓任何事阻止你盡情享受人生。