Name: 性慾的真相 (適用於所有人)！ (The Truth About Sexual Desire (For Everyone))
Uploaded: 2025-11-29T18:00:24.000Z
Duration: 6 min 40 s

情態副詞

Have you ever wondered if everything you've been told about sexual desire is actually true?

你有沒有想過，關於性慾的一切，真的都是真的嗎？

Maybe you've heard things like, men are always in the mood.

也許你聽過，像是男生總是很有慾望。

Or, once you get older, desire just disappears.

或者，年紀大了，慾望就消失了。

But then, in your own life, things don't quite add up.

但在自己的生活中，事情卻不是這麼回事。

Maybe you've loved someone deeply but felt no spark.

也許你深深愛著一個人，卻感覺不到火花。

Or maybe your desire comes and goes for reasons you can't explain.

或者，你的慾望來來去去，原因不明。

Even when everything seems fine, you start to wonder, is this dress, is it me?

即使一切都看似正常，你開始懷疑，是這件洋裝，還是我？

Or did something just change that I can't explain?

還是有什麼我解釋不了的改變發生了？

That's because desire isn't as simple as we've been led to believe.

那是因為，慾望不像我們被告知的那麼簡單。

It doesn't follow gender, age or stereotype.

它不受性別、年齡或刻板印象的限制。

It's not just about hormones or attraction.

它不只是關乎荷爾蒙或吸引力。

It's about how your mind, body and emotions communicate.

它關乎你的心智、身體和情緒如何溝通。

In this video, we'll reveal the truth about sexual desire.

在這支影片裡，我們要揭開性慾的真相。

What really drives it, why it changes, and

真正驅動它的原因，為何它會改變，以及

how understanding it can help you build deeper connection, both with others and with yourself.

理解它如何能幫助你建立更深的連結，無論是與他人還是與自己。

Before we talk about sexual desire, it helps to understand desire itself.

在我們談論性慾之前，先理解慾望本身會很有幫助。

Desire, at its core, is the spark that makes us want, seek and connect.

慾望，核心來說，是讓我們想要、尋求和連結的火花。

It's the heartbeat of motivation, the quiet I want that moves us toward pleasure, curiosity or closeness.

它是動力的心跳，是驅使我們追求愉悅、好奇或親密的內在渴望。

Sexual desire is just one branch of that same tree, its desire expressed through intimacy and physical connection, where the body and emotions meet.

性慾只是那棵樹的一根枝幹，它的慾望透過親密關係和身體連結來表達，在那裡身體和情緒交會。

But at its root, it's still about the same thing.

但核心來說，它仍然是關於同一件事。

The human need to feel alive, connected and seen.

人類渴望感覺活著、被連結和被看見。

So whether that desire shows up as touch, laughter, creativity or closeness, it's all the same language.

所以，無論那慾望以觸碰、歡笑、創意或親密來展現，都是同一種語言。

Your body saying, I want to feel alive again.

你的身體在說，我想要再次感覺活著。

When we talk about sexual desire, we're really talking about one of the many ways we reach for connection, both with others and with ourselves.

當我們談論性慾時，我們其實是在談論我們如何去尋求連結的眾多方式之一，無論是與他人還是與自己。

Okay, let's start with one of the funniest and most revealing myths about desire.

好的，我們來談談一個關於慾望最有趣也最能揭示真相的迷思。

Society loves to act like sex is only for the young.

社會總是喜歡表現得好像性愛只屬於年輕人。

A study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that many adults in their 60s, 70s, and

《性行為檔案》期刊的一項研究發現，許多六、七十歲，甚至八十歲的成年人，

even 80s continue to enjoy fulfilling sexual lives.

It's not because their hormones are the same.

這不是因為他們的荷爾蒙和年輕時一樣。

It's because their definition of intimacy has deepened.

而是因為他們對親密關係的定義變得更深了。

Desire with age often becomes less about performance and more about connection, laughter, and

隨著年齡增長，慾望本身常常不再是關於表現，而是更多關於情感連結、歡笑，以及

In fact, some older adults report more satisfaction than when they were younger because they finally know what they want and feel free to ask for it.

事實上，有些長者回報說，他們的滿足感比年輕時更高，因為他們終於知道自己想要什麼，並且敢於提出。

So the next time someone jokes that old people don't have sex, just smile.

所以下次有人開玩笑說老人沒有性行為時，你只要微笑就好。

They might be having a better time than you think.

他們可能過得比你想像的還要開心。

And maybe that's something we can all look forward to.

Desire is always about physical attraction.

Desire is less about what you see and more about how safe and emotionally connected you feel.

慾望與其說是關於你所見，不如說是關於你感到多麼安全和情感連結。

Psychologists call this responsive desire.

It responds to context, connection and comfort.

它會回應情境、連結和舒適感。

That's why you can deeply love someone and still not feel in the mood.

這就是為什麼你深愛一個人，但仍然提不起興致。

Sometimes it's not rejection, it's biology and emotion working together.

有時候這不是拒絕，而是生理和情緒的共同作用。

And if you've ever wondered why your desire comes in waves, here's why.

而且如果你曾想過為什麼你的慾望會一波一波地來，原因就在這裡。

Sometimes high and full of energy, other times gentle and still.

有時候漲潮充滿能量，有時候則溫柔平靜。

Stress, sleep, hormones and emotional energy all shape how it moves.

壓力、睡眠、荷爾蒙和情緒能量都會影響它的流動。

A 2016 study by Dosh and colleagues found that psychological and relationship factors predict satisfaction more than biological ones.

Dosh 和同事在 2016 年的一項研究發現，心理和關係因素比生理因素更能預測滿意度。

So if your desire feels different than it used to, it's not broken.

所以如果你的慾望感覺和以前不一樣，那不是壞了。

It's just adjusting to our life's current rhythm.

它只是在適應我們生活目前的節奏。

慾望在神祕感和新鮮感中茁壯成長。

That's why in long term relationships, passion might fade, even when love is strong.

這就是為什麼在長期的關係中，即使愛很濃烈，激情也可能會消退。

To keep desire alive, you don't need constant newness.

要讓慾望保持鮮活，你不需要不斷的新鮮感。

Tiny moments of play, distance or appreciation can reignite the spark.

玩樂、距離或欣賞的微小時刻，都能重新點燃火花。

Our chemistry might spark desire, but our emotions decide whether that spark becomes warmth or burns out.

我們的化學反應或許會激起慾望，但我們的緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒緒

Hormones like testosterone, estrogen and dopamine matter, but they don't act alone.

Your emotions, beliefs and past experiences shape how those chemicals play out.

When you feel anxious or ashamed, your brain signals not safe right now.

當你感到焦慮或羞愧時，大腦會發出「現在不安全」的訊號。

When you feel valued and emotionally seen, that same system says it's okay to open up.

當你感到被重視、被情感上理解時，同一個系統會說「可以敞開心扉了」。

If desire fades, something's wrong with you.

如果慾望消失了，就是你自己的問題。

我們的身體、心智和需求都會演變。

In your 20s, desire might be about discovery.

在二十幾歲時，慾望可能關乎探索。

Later, it might become about connection, peace, or presence.

之後，它可能變成關乎連結、平靜或臨在。

Try asking, what does my desire need right now?

不如試著問「我的慾望現在需要什麼？」

因為很多時候，它並沒有消失。

It's a flame that changes color as you grow.

它是一團在你成長時會變換顏色的火焰。

If your desire feels different lately, that doesn't mean you've lost.

如果你的慾望最近感覺不一樣，那不代表你失去了什麼。

You're learning a new language of connection.

你正在學習一種新的連結語言。

So there you have it, the truth about sexual desire.

所以，這就是關於性慾的真相。

It's not defined by age, gender or hormones.

它不受年齡、性別或荷爾蒙的定義。

Desire is fluid, responsive and deeply emotional.

慾望是流動的、有回應的，而且是深層的情緒。

A reflection of how safe, seen and alive you feel inside.

反映了你內心感到多麼安全、被看見和充滿活力。

Whether it's fiery, quiet, playful or uncertain, it's all valid real intimacy begins with understanding.

無論是熱情的、平靜的、玩味的還是不確定的，都是真實的，真正的親密始於理解。

If this video helped you see desire in a new light, share it with someone who might need that same reminder.

如果這支影片讓你對慾望有了新的看法，請分享給可能也需要這個提醒的人。

And tell us in the comments, what did this video make you realize about your own relationship with desire?

並在留言區告訴我們，這支影片讓你對自己與慾望的關係有什麼新的體悟？

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