Name: 你沒想到吧！「友誼」其實能解決你人生中的大多數問題！ (Why Friendships Are the Solution to Many of Your Problems)
Uploaded: 2025-10-09T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 2 min 26 s

What I'm obsessed right now is with friends, friendship.

The thing that I'm fascinated by and working on.

If you look at most of the challenges that we're talking about these days, the epidemic of loneliness, rising rates of depression, anxiety, inability to cope with stress, in extreme cases, suicide.

如果你看現在大家討論的大部分挑戰，像是孤獨的流行病、憂鬱症和焦慮症的上升率、壓力應對能力不足，甚至在極端情況下的自殺。

And yet, if you ask people, are you a good friend?

然而，如果你問大家，你是一個好朋友嗎？

And if you peel the onion just a little bit, you realize that we're all pretty.

而且如果你稍微剝開洋蔥，你會發現我們其實都。

Like, would you cancel on a friend for work or would you cancel on work for a friend?

像是，你會為了工作取消跟朋友的約嗎？還是你會為了朋友取消工作？

Oh, but my friends will understand, right?

And you realize pretty quickly that we're not very good at communicating.

然後你會很快發現，我們其實不太擅長溝通。

Like, if you're having trouble in your marriage, right, You.

像是，如果你婚姻遇到問題，對吧，你。

If you have a fight, if there's a violation of trust, you try and talk it out, you work on it, you sit in the mud together, you get therapy, you try very hard to make the relationship survive.

如果你們吵架、有信任危機，你會試著溝通、努力修復、一起面對困難、去看心理諮商、非常努力地想讓關係繼續下去。

If you have a huge fight with a friend where there's a violation of trust, we just abandon friends.

但如果你跟朋友大吵一架，有信任危機，我們就直接放棄朋友。

We don't do friend therapy to save a friendship.

我們不會去做朋友的心理諮商來挽救友誼。

And the reason I talk about this is, as adults, we're struggling with friendship.

我之所以會講這個，是因為我們大人在交朋友這件事上，其實有點掙扎。

How to make them, how to maintain them, how to look after them sometimes how to end them, how to.

怎麼交朋友、怎麼維持、有時候怎麼經營，甚至怎麼結束一段關係，怎麼。

我們大人在這方面真的很不行。

We're not teaching our kids how to make friends.

When your kids have play dates, they all have phones.

當你的小孩有 play dates 的時候，他們手上都拿著手機。

Take all the phones away, put them in a bowl, call the parents and be like, well, the parents called you because you made the play date.

把手機都收起來，放進一個碗裡，然後打電話給家長，就說，嗯，家長打給你，因為你安排了 play date。

But say, listen, we're planning on taking the phones away.

但你說，聽著，我們打算把手機收起來。

如果你需要你的小孩，就打給我。

A lot of schools, A lot of schools want to get rid of phones.

很多學校，很多學校都想把手機拿掉。

那如果真的有緊急狀況怎麼辦？

就是說，舊的方法還是很管用。

And so one of the things that I'm very afraid of, even while we're struggling, is we are not teaching our kids how to relate to each other, how to have fights with each other, how to resolve things, how to repair, and

而我非常害怕的一件事，即使我們現在還在努力，就是我們沒有教小孩如何跟彼此互動，如何吵架，如何解決事情，如何修復關係，還有

Which means the epidemic that we're facing now of loneliness, stress, depression, and

這意味著我們現在面臨的孤獨、壓力、憂鬱的流行病，還有

suicide gets worse, and our children will be the.

自殺率會更糟，而我們的小孩將會是

The ones struggling even more than we are.

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