Name: 約會的殘酷 (The Brutality of Dating)
Uploaded: 2025-10-01T19:27:01.000Z
Duration: 5 min 39 s

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chief outward requirements involve attending romantic restaurants,

其主要的對外要求是去romantic restaurants，

ordering olives, sharing small plates, and at points,

點橄欖，分享小點心，有時甚至

perhaps exchanging kisses near the bus stop.

Those in couples, and especially those who've been

在裡面待了很久的人，可以被原諒

for wondering what on earth the fuss might be

However, for those of us who know the activity

不過，對於我們這些從內部瞭解這項活動的人來說，

from the inside, who suffer from despondency and fury,

and may have found themselves bursting into tears

並可能在又一次失望後淚如雨下，

after yet another disappointment, the word brutal

在約會上使用 brutal 這個詞可能是一種輕描淡寫。

when applied to dating may be an understatement.

Firstly, this isn't just about one evening.

What's at stake extends far beyond a single encounter.

This isn't about the quest for an interesting conversationalist

It's generally about the very long term future,

when our heart spasms, when we're too frail

to make it across the living room unaided,

and when we can barely remember our names.

The evening, so innocuous in its outward form,

誰會陪伴在身邊這個急迫的問題。

so enlivened by the arrival of a smiling waiter,

在一位帶著微笑的服務生到來後變得生動，

本質上卻是對我們是否必須孤獨終老的公投。

of the occasion lies a piercing existential cry,

We would never arrange a date without the thought

we may now finally have stumbled on the answer.

我們終於找到了答案之前安排約會。

We know, at least the sensible part of us does,

我們知道，至少我們明理的那部分知道，

This exercise has probably been going on for months,

這個過程可能已經持續了好幾個月，

On so many occasions we've set out into the night

我們在許多場合都盛裝打扮，準備夜遊

穿著我們聰明又端莊的服裝，結果

to find within a few minutes of the candidates arrival

在候選人抵達的幾分鐘內就發現

that of course the photos were again deceptive,

the views on astrology maddening, the curiosity non existent,

對占星術的看法讓人抓狂，好奇心蕩然無存，

or three hours would be a polite hell haunted

或三個小時將是禮貌性的地獄，被永恆孤獨的幽靈糾纏。

Thirdly, the million ways in which someone can be wrong.

第三，一個人可能犯錯的百萬種方式。

but nor can we magically erase the doubts

or the sexual or mental incompatibilities.

It's hell because an urgent need for love collides

之所以是地獄，是因為對愛的迫切需求，

for acceptance and an erratic flow of viable candidates,

發生了碰撞，還有可行人選的零星出現，

despite our university degree an outward philosophical manner,

儘管我們有大學學位和外在的哲學風範，

in the fetal position screaming an incandescent sorrow

蜷縮成胎兒的姿勢，尖叫著難以置信的悲傷

On the very rare occasions when we do find

在非常罕見的機會，當我們真的發現

They're still finding their feet after the breakup.

They may be thinking that polyamory might be

to be their friend or occasional sexual playmate.

能成為他們的朋友或偶爾的性伴侶。

在經歷了20次這樣的狀況後，我們能被譴責嗎？

to push back our chair, fall to our knees,

Fifthly, it's every rejection you've ever had.

第五，是你曾經遭受過的每一次拒絕。

這看起來可能只是關於來自孟買的Abda

but deep down it's also about our awful mother

但內心深處，也關乎我們糟糕的母親

who bullied us, the people who hated us at school,

還有霸凌我們、討厭我們的學校同學，

以及在一段我們為挽救而付出一切的五年關係後，

after a five year relationship we did everything

卻曖昧不清地離開我們的伴侶。

大家都告訴我們這不是針對個人，

但我們的潛意識知道得更清楚。

這是宇宙在重新確認它對我們的根本判決。

This is the universe reconfirming its fundamental verdict on us.

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約會的殘酷 (The Brutality of Dating)

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