Name: 父母的 10 句毒舌 (10 Toxic Things Parents Say)
Uploaded: 2025-07-31T18:39:18.000Z
Duration: 6 min 18 s

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基礎被動語態

Parents are supposed to be the ones you can depend on during down times and look to for guidance.

父母應該是你在谷底時可以依靠的人，也是你尋求指導的人。

情態副詞

Unfortunately, many parents say emotionally harmful things that can have a lasting negative psychological effect.

不幸的是，很多父母說了一些傷害情緒的話，這些話會對孩子產生持久的負面心理影響。

This isn't an out of date phenomenon, just 10 years ago the number of children living in such an environment was approximately 55,000 as noted by the program Prevent Child Abuse America.

這並不是一個過時的現象，就在 10 年前，生活在這種環境中的兒童人數約為 55,000 人，正如 "美國防止虐待兒童 "項目所指出的那樣。

Considering that young people have nothing to compare their treatment with, they often think that this toxic behavior is normal or even expected.

考慮到年輕人沒有任何可以與之相比的待遇，他們往往認為這種有毒行為是正常的，甚至是意料之中的。

The alarming conclusion is that they can't ask for help because damage sets in if they don't realize it's needed.

令人震驚的結論是，他們無法尋求幫助，因為如果他們沒有意識到需要幫助，就會受到傷害。

In this follow up to our 8 toxic things parents say, we explore some more things to look out for if you think your parents are toxic.

在本期 "父母的 8 句毒舌 "的後續文章中，我們將探討更多需要注意的事情，如果你認為你的父母是 "毒舌 "的話。

Ever hear the phrase, don't take it personally?

你聽說過 "別往心裡去 "這句話嗎？

Well, this time, those insults are very personal, and it's from the parents. 1.

好吧，這一次，這些侮辱是非常個人化的，而且是來自父母。1.

You know that phrase, a face only a mother could love?

你知道那句 "只有母親才會愛上的臉龐 "嗎？

It means that parents should be supportive of your appearance, so when a child is image shamed by them, insecurities skyrocket.

這意味著父母應該支持你的外貌，所以當孩子被他們的形象羞辱時，不安全感就會直線上升。

The open possibilities of what this statement means explode in the child's mind and could lead to core body issues in the future. 2.

這句話的含義在孩子的腦海中迸發出無限可能，並可能在未來引發核心身體問題。2.

Saying this gives the message that they are not only ill-fitting to the world in general, but unacceptably so.

這樣說給人的資訊是，他們不僅與整個世界格格不入，而且令人無法接受。

It also implies that there is something wrong with who they are as a person, and they have no choice but to be negatively abnormal in some way. 3.

這也意味著他們的人格有問題，他們別無選擇，只能在某些方面消極反常。3.

If this was the response you received from a parent after requesting something or participating in a discussion with a parent, what's the emotion you read or felt behind that phrase?

如果這是你在提出要求或參與與家長的討論後從家長那裡得到的迴應，你從這句話背後讀到或感受到了什麼情感？

This implies that the child is wrong or off, like they're undeveloped and inferior.

這意味著孩子是錯的或不對的，就像他們沒有發育好，低人一等。

No one has the right to shame you for your likes, dislikes, or non-harmful actions.

任何人都無權因為你的喜好、厭惡或無害行為而羞辱你。

There are also many instances of parents using words of neglect, which are another form of toxic comments, such as… 4.

還有許多父母使用忽視的詞語，這是另一種形式的有毒評論，例如...... 4.

I'm going to send you to boarding school.

How many times has it been shown in movies or shows where a parent or step-parent says this?

在電影或節目中，父母或繼父或繼母說過多少次這樣的話？

Sadly, this is the case of art imitating life.

可悲的是，這就是藝術模仿生活。

Yes, parents do say these things to their actual children.

是的，父母確實會對自己的孩子說這些話。

Saying that they're going to send you away communicates that they don't love you enough to want you around, and they don't want to guide you or raise you. 5.

說要把你送走，說明他們不夠愛你，不希望你在身邊，也不想引導你或撫養你。5.

Reaching the age of majority, which is most common at 18, technically marks the legal beginnings of adulthood.

從技術上講，達到法定成年年齡（最常見的是 18 歲）標誌著法定成年的開始。

So when a parent says this, it gives rise to feelings of guilt.

是以，當父母這樣說時，就會產生負罪感。

The almost-adult often feels like they're a burden, and that maybe things would be better for the family if they left.

快成年的孩子常常覺得自己是個負擔，如果他們離開，也許對家庭會更好。

There are also manipulative comments, which are also toxic.

還有一些操縱性的評論，也是有毒的。

Manipulation is defined as exerting shrewd or devious influence, especially for one's own advantage.

操縱的定義是施加精明或狡詐的影響，尤其是為了自己的利益。

A parent placing blame on their child and acting victimized causes the child to feel like a burden, or even a curse.

父母把責任推給孩子，表現出受害者的樣子，會讓孩子覺得自己是個負擔，甚至是個詛咒。

This can lead to them going to great lengths to avoid being a so-called problem, maybe even enslaving themselves to maintain acceptance.  Show me some respect.

這可能會導致他們不遺餘力地避免成為所謂的問題，甚至奴役自己來維持被接受。  給我一點尊重

It's certainly important for people to give respect where it's due.

人們當然應該給予應有的尊重。

If a parent or elder are toxic, being commanded to respect such behavior just because they're older is confusing.

如果父母或長輩的行為是有毒的，那麼僅僅因為他們年長就要求他們尊重這種行為是令人困惑的。

This also sends a message that once you get to a certain age, it's okay to behave in a disreputable or unethical manner because other people should respect you no matter what, just because you're older.

這也傳遞了一個資訊，那就是一旦你到了一定的年齡，就可以做出不光彩或不道德的行為，因為別人無論如何都應該尊重你，只是因為你年紀大了。

The adult in this case is betting on the youth unquestioningly being respectful, without need for a reason, allowing the adult full control.

在這種情況下，成人的賭注就是讓青少年毫無疑問地尊重自己，不需要任何理由，讓成人完全控制自己。

Critical thinking and questioning can help the child out of this if they have proper guidance.

如果有正確的引導，批判性思維和質疑可以幫助孩子擺脫困境。

Other toxic comments come in the form of controlling words, such as…  Do what I say or else.

其他有毒評論則以控制性話語的形式出現，例如......照我說的做，否則就......

This dismisses the child's independent needs and desires, leaving them feeling unworthy of anything other than following the parent's whims.

這就否定了孩子的獨立需求和願望，讓他們覺得除了聽從父母的奇思妙想之外，自己不配做任何事情。

This brings us now to criticism, and not the constructive kind.

這就引出了責備，而且不是建設性的責備。

Overly critical statements about skills or abilities are common and detrimental.

對技能或能力過於挑剔的說法很常見，也很有害。

Statements like…  You are terrible at sports.

One can substitute the word sports for any hobby or activity taken up by the child.

可以用體育來代替孩子的任何愛好或活動。

This makes the child self-conscious about their skills, which can turn to anxiety, degrading performance further, and eventually even replacing the association of enjoyment of the activity with tension and fear.

這會讓孩子對自己的技能產生自我意識，進而轉化為焦慮，進一步降低成績，最終甚至讓緊張和恐懼取代了對活動的樂趣。

Even though many of us tend to be aware that there is always someone better than us, it's quite the downer to hear from our parents the implications that there's no one worse than us.

儘管我們中的許多人往往意識到總有人比我們更好，但當我們從父母那裡聽到 "沒有人比我們更差 "的暗示時，還是會感到非常沮喪。

These types of remarks can feel like a confirmation of the receiver's negative self-thoughts, especially when we're younger.

這類言論會讓人覺得是對接受者消極自我想法的肯定，尤其是在我們年輕的時候。

We tend to trust our parents above all others, so being confirmed by them as the worst definitely contributes to low self-esteem and feelings of being generally undeserving.

我們往往最信任自己的父母，是以被他們確認為最差的父母肯定會導致自卑和普遍不值得的感覺。

Many of these toxic things parents say are more than just poisonous hot air.

家長們說的許多有毒的話，不僅僅是有毒的熱氣。

They're also verbal abuse, wherein a pattern of behavior is used to maintain power and control over another.

它們也是言語虐待，即用一種行為模式來維持對他人的權力和控制。

Therefore, it's particularly important to be aware of what qualifies as toxic.

是以，瞭解什麼是有毒物質尤為重要。

Have either of your parents ever said anything like this to you?

你的父母對你說過這樣的話嗎？

Do you know anyone whose parents frequently speak this way?

你認識父母經常這樣說話的人嗎？

If you're curious and want to know more about toxic family dynamics, check out our other videos related to this subject.

如果您好奇並想了解更多有關有毒家庭動態的資訊，請查看我們與此主題相關的其他視頻。

We'll see you in the next video, and as always, thanks so much for watching.

我們下期視頻再見，一如既往地感謝您的收看。