Name: 【TEDx】改變人生的「管他去死」魔法 (The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove)
Uploaded: 2017-10-11T22:00:00.000Z
Duration: 12 min 37 s

現在進行式

我們身處一個「後精簡」的社會

Everyone, including me, has a story about de-cluttering their home.

每一個人，包含我在內，都有一個關於收拾家裡的故事

Gathering all of their possessions into the middle of the floor,

將所有的東西聚集在地板中間，

and then bidding farewell to a set of spatulas

為的是追求一個比較平靜，開心的生活

But what if we could gather up all of the other stuff -

如果我們可以將其他的東西聚集起來－

tasks, events, obligations relationships -

and drop it at the kerb without a single regret?

把它們丟在路邊而一點都不感到後悔？

be free to focus our time, energy, and money

自由地將我們的時間、精力和金錢

專注於真正讓我們快樂的事情上？

"The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck."

I hope you'll excuse my language because there is more where that came from.

我希望你們不要介意我的用詞因為接下來它還會出現很多次

Before I can teach you how to stop giving a fuck,

在我教你如何不在乎的方法之前，

we have to talk about what it means to give one in the first place.

「Giving a fuck」表示你在意，對嗎？

So when I say, "I don't give a fuck about 'Game of Thrones,'"

所以當我說，「I don't give a fuck about Game of Thrones，」

I mean, "I don't care about 'Game of Thrones.'"

我的意思是，「我才不在乎‘權力的遊戲’」

Now, let's take the concept a step further.

現在，讓我們進一步的了解這個概念

Let's define your 'fucks' as your time, energy, and money.

我們將你的‘fucks’定義為你的時間、精力、和金錢

If you don't care about something,  you should stop giving your fucks to it.

如果你不在乎某件事情，你就應該停止在意它

I don't care about 'Game of Thrones' so I don't spend time watching it;

我不在意‘權力的遊戲’ 因此我不會浪費時間觀賞它

I don't spend energy wondering where the next season is going;

我不會花費精力去想下一集的劇情；

and I don't spend my money on the books,  merchandise, or anything Westeros related.

並且我也不會花錢在它的書籍、產品，或者任何和Westeros相關的東西上

'Game of Thrones' does not get any of my fucks.

‘權力的遊戲’ 完全得不到我的關注

you wind up with more time, energy, and money

你得到更多的時間、精力和金錢

to spend on the things you really do care about.

I'll get back to fuck budgets in a minute, but first, I want to tell you a little bit

等會兒我會回來聊重視的預算，但首先，我想要告訴你們一些

about how the life-changing magic of not giving a fuck happened to me.

有關於「不在乎」是如何神奇的改變我的人生

I was a senior editor at a major New York publishing house.

我是紐約一家大出版社的資深編輯

I had spent 15 years clawing my way up the corporate ladder,

and everything I always thought I wanted from my career was coming to pass.

一直以來我認為在職場上所想要的一切都已經實現了

The kind of unhappy that makes it hard to get out of bed in the morning;

那種不開心讓我在早上不想起床；

the kind of unhappy that makes it hard to commute 45 minutes on the NYC subway;

那種不快樂使得在紐約地鐵通勤四十五分鐘變成一種煎熬；

and hard to spend eight - ten hours at your desk before turning around,

在辦公桌待上八到十個小時也變得困難，直到轉身，

And making that decision was also really hard.

我喝了很多紅酒，流了很多眼淚

But what came after I quit was nothing short of life-changing.

Once I removed myself from the culture and lifestyle

of a job that had been making me so unhappy,

極度不愉快的工作文化以及生活方式

I was free to focus my time and energy on what would make me happy -

我更自由的把時間和精力聚焦於令我開心的事－

including working, but just in a different way -

包含工作，只是以不同的方式－

and eventually, on moving from Brooklyn to a tropical island.

然後最終，從布魯克林搬到熱帶島嶼

I stopped giving my fucks to working for a corporation, wearing pants,

我不再重視替公司工作，穿著褲子，

And I started giving my fucks to working for myself, wearing bikinis,

我開始重視替自己工作，穿著比基尼

But none of that change happened because I had tidied up my apartment.

這些改變和我整理公寓毫不相關

It happened because I cleared out my mind.

and inside it is are all of the things that bring you joy,

裡面是所有能夠帶給你快樂的事物

but also, all of the stuff that annoys you.

but you have to clear out the annoy to make room for the joy.

不過你必須清理出讓人煩躁的事物才能夠容納的下快樂

This is mental de-cluttering, and it is magical.

這就是思想的整理，非常的神奇

I did it by accident when I quit my job, but it was so amazing

我在辭職時意外的做到這一點，實在是太棒了

that I developed a way for you to do it on purpose.

因此我開發了一種方法讓你達成這個目的

Step one: Decide what you don't give a fuck about.

Step two: Don't give a fuck about those things.

This sounds like a recipe for turning into an asshole.

這聽起來像是如何變成一個混蛋的食譜

But that's where the "not sorry" part comes in.

但這就是我說的「不後悔」的部分

My method is all about not giving a fuck using honesty and politeness.

我的方法全部都是使用誠實和禮貌來表示不在意

So in the end, you don't have to feel guilty.

You are on your best behavior,  and you have nothing to apologize for.

你已經表現到最好，那麼就沒有什麼好感到抱歉的

So how might the not sorry method work for you?

所以你要如何成功的使用這個「不後悔法則」？

Well, let's say, you love 'Game of Thrones'

and you've been invited to a Sunday night dinner party

你在禮拜日晚上被邀請參加一個晚餐派對

that interferes with watching your favorite show.

而那會影響到觀賞你最愛的節目

You feel bad about turning down the invite,

但是你真的很想看‘權力的遊戲’，

and you don't want to record it to watch later because... spoilers.

而你又不想錄下來之後再看...可能會被爆雷

Well, you only have so much time, energy, and money to spend on Sunday night.

禮拜日的晚上你只有這些時間、精力和金錢

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