Name: 別再會議上害怕開口！5個讓你卡關的溝通盲點大公開！ (Stop Being Shy in Meetings: 5 Communication Mistakes Holding You Back)
Uploaded: 2026-03-10T17:47:01.000Z
Duration: 18 min 53 s

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Have you recently been told you should share your ideas more in meetings or you should socialize more with the directors?

最近是不是有人跟你說，開會時應該多分享想法，或是應該多跟主管們社交一下？

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Or the classic you need to speak up more.

或是經典的「你需要多發言」。

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When someone says those things to you, it likely hits a nerve because it feels as though they're ignoring everything that you already do.

當別人這樣跟你說時，你可能會覺得有點刺耳，因為感覺他們忽略了你已經在做的一切。

Deep down, you're thinking, I'm one of the hardest working people here.

你心裡其實在想，我是這裡最努力的人之一。

You meet your deadlines, you're thoughtful, you're capable, you're detailed, you care.

你準時交件，你很有想法，你很有能力，你注重細節，你很在乎。

And you're the person that everyone can count on when things get stressful.

而且當事情變得壓力很大的時候，大家都會想到你。

And yet, when it comes to visibility, influence and promotions, you're seen as not yet leadership material.

然而，在能見度、影響力和升遷方面，你卻被認為還不是領導人才。

In other words, you're not being seen as the leader that you know you could be and that is holding you back from advancing in your career.

換句話說，你沒有被看見是你心裡知道自己可以成為的那個領導者，這阻礙了你在職涯上的發展。

This is not because there is something wrong with you as an individual.

這不是因為你個人有什麼問題。

It is purely due to several communication mistakes that you are making that you may not even realize you're making that is causing you to be seen this way in your job, in your office, in your organization.

這完全是因為你犯了一些溝通上的錯誤，而且你可能根本沒意識到這些錯誤，這些錯誤讓你被這樣看待，無論是在工作上、辦公室裡，還是在你的組織裡。

These handful of communication mistakes that I'm going to address and talk about today are the things that are quietly keeping you stuck at the same level, quietly keeping you stagnating in the same position and not being seen as that promotion material, that next level material that you know you deserve to be.

這幾項我今天要來探討和談論的溝通錯誤，就是那些默默讓你停滯不前、默默讓你待在同一個職位、沒有被視為你心裡知道自己應得的晉升人選、下一級人才的關鍵。

And the good news is, if you start to fix them, people will start responding to you differently, they will start trusting you differently, they will start including you differently.

好消息是，如果你開始修正它們，大家就會開始用不同的方式回應你，他們會開始用不同的方式信任你，他們會開始用不同的方式讓你參與。

And that is what changes the trajectory of your career.

而這就是改變你職涯軌跡的關鍵。

if you're ready, buckle in and hang on tight because we're going to get started.

但如果你準備好了，就繫好安全帶，抓緊了，我們要開始了。

So there's several things that we're going to discuss.

The first is you're going to understand why speaking up is vital in today's workplace, especially right now with the world of AI that we're in.

第一，你會瞭解在現今職場，尤其是在我們身處的這個 AI 時代，為什麼發聲很重要。

Second, we're going to talk about the five communication mistakes that Quiet Achievers are making and how you can fix them.

第二，我們要來談談「默默努力者」會犯的五個溝通錯誤，以及你該如何修正它們。

And lastly, you're going to learn two specific communication frameworks that you can start implementing immediately.

最後，你會學到兩個具體的溝通框架，馬上就能開始運用。

If you want to enhance your communication, the goal is not to become louder, it's to become trusted.

如果你想提升溝通能力，目標不是變得更大聲，而是要建立信任。

Because trust is what is going to get you promoted in your career.

因為信任才是讓你事業晉升的關鍵。

Now, just before we get into it, if you want to go deeper, if you want the exact framework that I'm discussing, make sure that you type the word confident down in the comments, down below so that you can get access to my Speak Confidently in Meetings PDF guide for free.

在我們深入探討之前，如果你想學得更深入，想了解我正在討論的確切框架，請務必在留言區輸入「Confident」，這樣你就可以免費獲得我的「Speak Confidently in Meetings」PDF 指南。

It will give you the scripts, phrases and guidance on how you can speak up more clearly more confidently in your next meeting at work.

這份指南會提供你腳本、常用語和指導，教你如何在下次的會議上更清晰、更自信地發聲。

So be sure to write in the word confident down in the comments below.

所以，請務必在下方的留言區輸入「Confident」。

Now, if you clicked on this, it's likely because you are someone who is naturally a little more quiet, a little bit more reserved, a little bit more introverted in a group setting.

如果你點進來看這支影片，很可能是因為你本身比較安靜、比較內向，或是在團體場合比較拘謹。

You are not the type of person who's going to dominate the room, and

you're also not the type of person who's just going to talk just for the sake of talking.

也不是那種只是為了說話而說話的人。

你是個我稱之為「安靜的實幹家」。

And I know because I wrote an entire book on this topic of being a quiet Achiever and helping quiet achievers over the last 10 years to advance in their careers.

我知道這一點，因為我過去十年來寫了一本關於安靜實幹家以及如何幫助他們在職涯上更進一步的書。

And so I understand that there are several things that you can shift and change in the way that you show up, in the way that you communicate that will help you to go from invisible to influential in your career As a quiet Achiever, I fully understand you.

所以我明白，有些事情你可以調整和改變，無論是你展現自己的方式，還是你溝通的方式，都能幫助你在職涯上從「隱形」走向「有影響力」。身為一個安靜的實幹家，我完全懂你。

You don't complain, you don't even prefer to have attention on you.

你不抱怨，甚至不太喜歡別人關注你。

You just want to do a great job and be respected and rewarded for it.

你只想做好工作，並是以受到尊重和獎勵。

And for a lot of us quiet achievers who come from an immigrant background, maybe you were a child of immigrants, you're an immigrant yourself, or you grew up in a non western culture.

對我們許多有移民背景的安靜實幹家來說，也許你是移民的子女，你自己是移民，或者你在非西方文化中長大。

The challenges of communic that you're experiencing go even deeper in non western cultures and upbringings.

在非西方文化和成長背景下，你在溝通上遇到的挑戰會更深層。

We grow up believing the ideas of work hard and stay humble, don't draw attention to yourself, respect authority, don't challenge people older than you, don't embarrass the family, be grateful to be in the room.

我們從小就被教導要努力工作、保持謙虛，不要引人注目，要尊重權威，不要挑戰長輩，不要讓家人蒙羞，要感恩自己能身處其中。

And most importantly, you were taught, don't show off, don't be overly cocky or confident, don't talk about your wins.

最重要的是，你被教導，不要炫耀，不要過於自大或自信，不要談論你的勝利。

And so you learned to be excellent but in a quiet way.

所以你學會了默默地追求卓越。

But what happens is as you grow up and you become an adult and you end up working in a western environment, what you realize is quiet excellence can accidentally be interpreted as no leadership presence, no executive communication, no influence.

但是，當你長大成人，進入西方職場工作時，你會發現，默默的卓越有時會被誤解為缺乏領導力、缺乏高階溝通能力、缺乏影響力。

And I know how unfair that feels because you are likely the most hardworking person on your team and yet you are lacking visibility.

我知道這有多不公平，因為你很可能是團隊裡最努力的人，卻缺乏能見度。

People do not see you as a trusted leader that they turn to for guidance, for insight, insights and yet, you're the most capable person on the team.

大家不認為你是值得信賴的領導者，不會向你尋求指引和見解，然而你卻是團隊裡最有能力的人。

And the good news is these are learnable skills.

好消息是，這些都是可以學習的技能。

I grew up born and raised here in Canada.

However, my parents are from Southeast Asia and I grew up with the same mindset of be humble, don't speak out of line, don't rock the boat, don't show off, don't talk positively about yourself.

不過，我父母來自東南亞，我從小就抱持著同樣的心態：謙虛、不多嘴、不惹事、不炫耀、不自我吹捧。

And I grew up with a deep lack of confidence throughout my schooling and even my early adulthood years in my career.

在我求學時期，甚至到我職涯的早期，我一直都嚴重缺乏自信。

And that caused me to really struggle in those early years as a CPA in a Big four accounting firm, when I was working alongside partners and senior executives and important clients and not knowing how to speak up.

這讓我剛開始在四大會計師事務所擔任註冊會計師時，與合夥人、高階主管和重要客戶共事，卻不知道如何開口，處處碰壁。

And it's over the last more than last decade that I've had to learn for myself while helping thousands of professionals to advance in their careers, what it really takes to get to that next level in your career, and

在過去十多年來，我一邊幫助了數千名專業人士在職涯上更上一層樓，一邊也為自己學到了如何在職涯上更上一層樓。

what it really takes to show up in a confident, calm way as a strong communicator, as someone that people can turn to and see you as a trusted leader.

以及如何自信、沉穩地展現自己，成為一位溝通能力強、大家可以信賴的領導者。

And if I can do it successfully, as well as the clients in our Quiet to Cough Confident program can do it successfully, so can you.

如果我能成功做到，我們「Quiet to Confident」計畫的學員也能成功做到，你一定也可以。

As an example, one of our clients, Attitudn, a project manager, shared with me that before joining our program, she felt that she was overly focused on how people perceived her.

舉例來說，我們的一位學員 Attitudn，她是一位專案經理，她告訴我，在加入我們的計畫之前，她覺得自己過度在意別人對她的看法。

she felt that her background wasn't good enough for her to belong in the room or to speak up in meetings.

她覺得自己的背景不夠好，不配待在會議室裡，也不敢在會議中發言。

And once she focused on her strengths and honing in on her expertise and she learned the key structures, frameworks and strategies that I teach in the Quiet to Confident program, she has been showing up differently.

當她開始專注於自己的優勢、磨練自己的專業，並學會了我在「Quiet to Confident」計畫中教授的關鍵結構、框架和策略後，她的表現就變得不一樣了。

She's been able to speak up intentionally in meetings, she's built deeper relationships with her co workers, and

她能夠有意識地在會議中發言，與同事建立了更深厚的關係，並且

now she feels much more confident and clear on the trajectory of her career in her organization.

現在她對自己在組織中的職涯發展方向感到更加自信和清晰。

So let's address the first question, which is why is communication so important in 2026 and beyond and something that you need to work on?

所以，我們來回答第一個問題：為什麼在 2026 年及以後，溝通如此重要，是你需要努力的方向呢？

And the answer to that is because we are in something that is called a visibility era.

答案是因為我們正處於一個稱為「可見度時代」的時代。

We're also in something called an AI and layoff era.

我們也處於一個稱為「AI 和裁員時代」的時代。

In the past, up until very recently, working hard in your job, doing really good, strong, technical used to be enough.

過去，直到非常近期為止，努力工作、表現出色、紮實的技術能力就足夠了。

Doing the technical details in your job used to be enough.

過去，做好工作上的技術細節就夠了。

But now with AI on the scene, that no longer applies.

但現在 AI 出現了，這不再適用。

If AI can Do more and more of the technical work, then what separates you isn't more of what you can do.

如果 AI 能做越來越多的技術工作，那麼區分你的就不是你能做更多的事。

It's whether people trust you in real time.

It's whether you can communicate your expertise in a way that moves things forward.

而是你是否能用推動事情前進的方式來溝通你的專業知識。

And if you're not visible, your ideas, your suggestions, your recommendations, your decisions will not be considered.

如果你不夠顯眼，你的想法、建議、推薦、決定都不會被考慮。

And the reason for this is because those who are visible are memorable.

之所以會這樣，是因為那些顯眼的人容易被記住。

And decision makers will promote people that they can remember.

而決策者會提拔他們記得住的人。

They promote the people who can create the clarity under pressure.

他們提拔那些能在壓力下創造清晰溝通的人。

They promote the people who can walk into a meeting room and make the whole room feel more organized, more calm, and

他們提拔那些走進會議室，能讓整個房間感覺更有條理、更平靜，

如果你心想，但我已經工作很多了，沒時間玩這些遊戲，我的回答是，我知道，我懂。

I'm already working so much, I don't have time to play these games, the answer to that is, I know, I get it.

但這就是為什麼現在對你來說，比以往任何時候都更重要的是，要在不花更多工作時間的情況下，開始在工作中實施新的處事和做事方式。

But that is why it is more important than ever for you now to start implementing new ways of being and doing in your job without having to spend more hours at your job.

現在是升級別人對你的看法的時候了，而且不用花更多工時。

This is the moment to upgrade how you're being perceived without working more hours.

好的，那我們就來談談導致你溝通困難的五個錯誤。

Okay, so let's get into the five mistakes that are causing you to struggle with your communication.

Now, on the surface, you can play this off and say, oh, I'm just being professional.

表面上，你可以說這是因為「我很專業」。

But most of the time, this is due to fear.

但大部分時間，這其實是出於恐懼。

You're waiting for exactly the right thing to say.

You're waiting for a perfect person to ask you directly to share.

你在等一個完美的人直接問你。

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