Name: 男性看待前任的態度比女性更正面！ (Men view their exes more favorably than women do)
Uploaded: 2026-01-22T17:11:16.000Z
Duration: 4 min 21 s

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Men view their exes more favorably than women do.

男性比女性更正面地看待他們的 exes。

This is one of the first extensive attempts to document how men and women differ in how they view exes.

這是首次 extensive 嘗試 document 男性和女性在看待 exes 的態度上如何 differ。

Across three studies, we found that men hold more positive attitudes towards their female exes than women do towards their male exes.

在三項研究中，我們發現男性對待女性 exes 的態度，比女性對待男性 exes 來得更正面。

Like, for example, like, I don't talk to Bob.

像是，舉例來說，我沒有跟 Bob 聯絡。

And if you did talk to Bob, I would respect that.

如果你有跟 Bob 聯絡，我會尊重。

Women hold more negative attitudes towards their exes compared to men.

女性對待 exes 的態度比男性負面。

And though our research documents this difference, we don't necessarily know its origins, but we do have theories.

雖然我們的研究 document 了這個 differ，但我們不一定知道它的 origins，不過我們有 theories。

自從遇見你之後，我就沒跟她說過話了。

One possible theory is the perceived causes of breakups.

一個可能的 theory 是 perceived causes of breakups。

So women blame their male partners more often for breakups than men blame their female partners.

所以女性比男性更容易 blame 另一半，女性 blame 男性 partners 的 breakups 的情況，比男性 blame 女性 partners 的 breakups 來得多。

And more frequently report problematic partner behaviors as the reason for the breakup, like infidelity, substance abuse, mental or physical abuse.

而且更常 report problematic partner behaviors 作為分手的理由，像是 infidelity、substance abuse、mental or physical abuse。

Men, in contrast, are more likely to claim they don't know what caused their past breakups.

男性則 contrast 比較常說不知道是什麼造成他們過去的 breakups。

I broke up with her because she wasn't you.

I loved you before I even met you or knew that you existed at all.

我愛你，甚至在我遇見你之前，或者在你存在之前就愛你了。

Another theory is the difference in coping after breakups.

另一個 theory 是 breakups 後的 coping 方式不同。

So a meta analysis shows that women have active coping strategies, like seeking emotional support from friends.

所以一個 meta analysis 顯示，女性有主動的 coping strategies，像是尋求朋友的情感支持。

Whereas men often cope via distraction by engaging in excessive work or sports, quickly entering rebound relationships, or using more drugs, alcohol.

而男性則常透過轉移注意力來應對，像是過度工作或運動，快速進入下一段感情，或是使用更多藥物、酒精。

So this difference in coping suggests that women may have greater closure and assurance that their ex wasn't good for them, while men experience greater ambivalence.

所以這種應對方式的差異，顯示女性可能更容易獲得結束感，並確信前任對自己不好，而男性則經歷更多ambivalence。

As a result of this coping strategy, men often remain emotionally attached longer, are less likely to believe that their ex partner was not right for them, and

由於這種應對策略，男性往往在情感上糾纏更久，較不可能相信他們的前任伴侶不適合自己，而且

are more likely to see their exes positively.

更有可能正面看待他們的前任。

But my favorite theory out of all the research, Carl, is that men view their exes more favorably because in scientific terms, he want to tap that ass again, Cheryl.

但我最喜歡的理論，Carl，是男人之所以比較正面看待他們的 exes，是因為從科學角度來說，他還想再跟她來一砲，Cheryl。

Men rate sexual access as a reason for staying in touch with an ex.

男人認為能跟前任保持聯繫的原因是為了性關係。

It is possible that men do not want to close the door on sexual intimacy with their former partners completely.

男人或許不想完全關閉與前伴侶發生性關係的可能性。

Meltzer, McNulty and Manner 2017 I'm citing my source.

Meltzer, McNulty and Manner 2017，我引述我的來源。

Carl Cheryl, I can assure you on my soul, I have no interest in tapping any ass that isn't attached to your body.

Carl Cheryl，我用我的靈魂向妳保證，我對跟妳以外的人發生關係一點興趣都沒有。

I'm just being a silly little science bitch.

我只是在扮演一個傻傻的小科學迷。

This video is brought to you by my daddy, Squarespace.

這支影片是我的爸爸 Squarespace 贊助的。

He is the all knowing, all in one website platform designed to help you stand out and succeed online.

他就是那個無所不知、全能型的網站平臺，讓你脫穎而出並在線上取得成功。

Whether you're launching or scaling your business, Squarespace makes building a professional website, growing your brand and getting paid simple.

無論你是要創立事業還是擴展事業，Squarespace 都能讓你輕鬆建立專業網站、發展品牌並收款。

So if you're a content creator like myself, my dad makes it so easy to upload and organize videos that you're displaying.

所以如果你是像我一樣的內容創作者，我爸爸讓上傳和整理你正在展示的影片變得超級簡單。

Or he can help you create paywalled libraries.

或者他可以幫你建立付費內容庫。

If you're someone who does courses, tutorials, or workshops.

如果你是做課程、教學或工作坊的人。

And let's say you're not monetizing your own work, you are altruistic.

假設你沒有將自己的作品貨幣化，你是很無私的。

Squarespace lets you fundraise directly on your website, so he has built in donation tools that make it easy to accept one time or recurring contributions.

Squarespace 讓你直接在網站上進行募款，所以它內建了捐款工具，可以輕鬆接受一次性或定期捐款。

He also lets you have email campaigns and marketing tools so you can connect with your community during kitten season.

它還讓你擁有電子郵件行銷活動和行銷工具，這樣你就可以在貓咪季節與你的社群聯繫。

But we live in a world of websites, right?

但我們活在一個到處都是網站的世界裡，對吧？

Like there's like a thousand search result pages for anything you look up.

就像你搜尋任何東西，都會有一千頁的搜尋結果。

So my dad offers SEO tools, which stands for search engine optimization.

所以我的爸爸提供 SEO 工具，也就是搜尋引擎優化。

This basically helps you show up in like the first, you know, 10 pages of a Google search rather than in the latter thousand.

這基本上能幫助你出現在 Google 搜尋結果的前十頁，而不是後面那上千頁。

So you can go to squarespace.com anna for a free trial and whenever you're ready to launch, you can use Code anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

所以你可以到 squarespace.com anna 申請免費試用，準備好上線時，輸入代碼 anna 就能在第一次購買網站或網域時享有九折優惠。