Name: 如何變得有魅力、吸引人且無法抗拒！ (How To Be Magnetic, Attractive, and Irresistible)
Uploaded: 2026-01-09T02:56:02.000Z
Duration: 15 min

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Being attractive will make you more successful, but I'm not talking about being hot.

吸引人會讓你更成功，但我說的不是身材火辣。

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The most successful people I know treat attractiveness like a skill to show up as their very best self in every room and be magnetic and respected.

我認識最成功的人，他們把吸引力當成一種技能，讓自己在任何場合都能展現最好的自我，充滿磁性且受人尊敬。

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So here are the five principles to become the most attractive version of yourself and how it can bring you massive success.

所以，這裡有五個原則，讓你成為最有吸引力的自己，以及這如何能為你帶來巨大的成功。

Principle number one Certainty is the new charisma.

原則一 確定性是新的個人魅力。

I was recently on one of the largest podcasts in the world, Diary of a CEO with Stephen Bartlett.

我最近參加了世界上最大型的播客之一，由 Stephen Bartlett 主持的 Diary of a CEO。

And before I went on, I kept trying to get nervous.

在上節目之前，我一直試圖讓自己感到緊張。

I kept waiting for that feeling of panic to kick in.

And it wasn't because I'm some naturally confident person or great storyteller.

這不是因為我天生就很有自信或很會講故事。

It's because I knew my material inside and out.

是因為我對我的內容瞭若指掌。

I had clarity on what I think, why I think it, and

我清楚知道我的想法、為什麼這麼想，以及

我希望它能產生什麼樣的影響。

So when he starts off the whole episode by asking, why should somebody listen to this conversation?

所以當他一開始就問，為什麼大家應該聽這個對話？

I already know why somebody should listen to this conversation because I'm talking to a very specific person who has likely not heard my message before.

我已經知道為什麼了，因為我正在跟一個很特定的人說話，他可能從沒聽過我的訊息。

If they knew that there was a different alternative, if they knew that success was actually available to them, they should pay attention.

如果他們知道有另一種選擇，如果他們知道成功其實是唾手可得的，他們就應該注意。

我對跟他們說話一點都不感到不確定。

And I can't even make myself get nervous while talking to them about what I want them to know because I'm so convicted and certain in my own beliefs and in the success that I want them to have.

而且我甚至無法讓自己因為我想要他們知道的事情而感到緊張，因為我對自己的信念以及我希望他們擁有的成功深信不疑且充滿確定性。

You see, when you have that level of certainty, you show up differently.

你看，當你擁有那樣的確定性時，你的表現就會不同。

You're not scrambling for validation or trying to prove yourself.

你不會急著尋求認同或試圖證明自己。

You're just there, you're present, you're clear, and this is what makes you attractive.

你就是在那裡，你很專注，你很清晰，這就是讓你產生吸引力的原因。

Now, if we reverse the clock to five or even 10 years ago, that version of Natalie would have been incredibly nervous and probably would have even self sabotage the opportunity because of the nerves, because of the lack of confidence, because I wasn't certain.

現在，如果我們把時間倒回到五年前，甚至十年前，那時候的娜塔莉在面對這種情況時，肯定會非常緊張，甚至可能因為緊張、因為缺乏自信、因為當時的不確定性而搞砸這個機會。

But I'm clear on who I am today in my point of view, because I'm certain of the work that I've done.

但我今天對我的觀點非常清楚，因為我對我所做的工作充滿確定性。

I'm certain of the results that I achieve.

我對我達成的結果充滿確定性。

And so today I don't get nervous when people put me on the spot with 20 questions about my most core beliefs around work and relationships and money and success and investments.

所以今天，當人們突然問我20個關於我核心工作、人際關係、金錢、成功和投資的信念時，我不會感到緊張。

Because I've had to put in work on myself to get clear for me first before I could ever even be of value or of asset to Anybody else.

因為我必須先為自己投入努力，讓自己變得清晰，然後才能對任何人有價值或有所助益。

And here's what most people don't understand.

而這就是大多數人不瞭解的地方。

Charisma isn't about being the loudest or the funniest person in the room.

個人魅力不是要當房間裡最吵或最搞笑的那個人。

It's about knowing who you are and what you stand for so deeply that people feel it when they're around you.

關乎你深刻地瞭解自己是誰、你代表什麼，讓別人跟你在一起時能感受到。

They can disagree with you, but you know who you are and you know what you believe.

他們可以不同意你，但你知道自己是誰，也知道自己相信什麼。

Who feels good about themselves because that energy is contagious.

那種對自己感覺良好的人，因為那種能量會傳染。

And so few people actually feel good about themselves.

而很少有人真的對自己感覺良好。

They never challenge their own views to a point where they feel good and are able to defend their views.

他們從未挑戰過自己的觀點，直到能讓自己感覺良好並能捍衛自己的觀點。

They just have their own thoughts and aren't certain of them.

他們只有自己的想法，而且並不確定。

So if you want to become more magnetically attractive, stop trying to be charming and start building your certainty.

所以如果你想變得更有磁性吸引力，就別再試圖展現個人魅力，開始建立你的確定性吧。

Pick one area of your life where you want to command respect.

挑選你生活中一個想讓別人受人尊敬的領域。

That could be in your career, that could be in your health.

那可能是在你的事業上，也可能是在你的健康上。

And become undeniably knowledgeable in that area.

然後在這個領域裡，成為無可否認的專家。

Have conversations with people who are better than you.

去跟你那些比你優秀的人對話。

Then force yourself to articulate what you think and why.

然後強迫自己清晰地闡述你的想法以及原因。

Then the next time you're in a meeting or on a date or in a social setting, focus on being clear and certain rather than trying to be liked.

這樣下次你在會議、約會或社交場合時，專注於清晰和確定，而不是試圖討人喜歡。

You'll notice that people start leaning in.

Next up is that attractiveness starts with effort.

For years, I was the person who rolled out of bed and acted like I was too cool to care.

很多年來，我都是那種剛起床就表現得太酷、不在乎的樣子。

I didn't think I needed to care about certain things as it relates to my appearance.

我沒想到我需要關心外表上的某些事。

I would just roll out of bed a little disheveled.

I would still do my makeup because that felt like the bare minimum.

我還是會化妝，因為那感覺是基本的。

But everything else, I just wanted to seem like I just woke up and wasn't too high maintenance.

但其他所有事情，我都只是想表現得好像剛睡醒，不需要太費心。

But the reality was I was lazy and I was insecure.

但事實是我很懶惰，而且我沒自信。

I thought if I didn't try, then it wasn't my fault that I wasn't successful because I didn't give everything that I had.

我認為如果我不嘗試，那不是我的錯，因為我沒有付出我的一切，所以我不成功。

And then I could feel good about not hitting targets and not becoming the person that I wanted to be because there's always some extra thing that I wasn't willing to do.

然後我就可以心安理得地不去達成目標，不去成為我想成為的那個人，因為總有我不想做的額外事情。

And Because I knew I wasn't willing to do it.

And it was okay that I didn't quite get to where I wanted to go.

而且就算我沒有完全到達我想去的地方，也沒關係。

Even though I wanted to go there, I was very confused.

雖然我想去那裡，但我感到非常困惑。

But then I started paying attention to the people that I looked up to.

但後來我開始留意我所敬佩的人。

The women I admired in business, the executives, the leaders, they all put effort in.

我在商界裡欣賞的女性、主管、領導者，她們都付出了努力。

They weren't the most naturally gorgeous people, but they showed up polished, intentional, and put together.

她們不是最天生麗質的人，但她們展現出來的是光鮮亮麗、有目標、並且準備周全的樣子。

When you don't put effort into how you present yourself, you're safe, signaling something to the world.

當你沒有努力去呈現自己時，你就安全了，這向世界發出了某種訊號。

You're saying, I don't care enough about the situation to show up fully.

你在說，我不在乎這個場合，所以無法全力以赴。

And whether you mean to or not, that signal affects how people treat you.

無論你是有意還是無意，這個訊號都會影響別人對待你的方式。

他們確實不會那麼認真對待你。

They don't give you the same opportunities.

They assume that you're not that invested.

On the flip side, when you show up with effort, when your hair is done, your outfit is intentional.

反過來說，當你全力以赴地出現，頭髮梳好了，穿著也是精心挑選的。

Your presence is polished, you're prepared.

你的儀態是得體的，你是有準備的。

People notice, they treat you differently.

別人會注意到，他們會用不同的方式對待你。

They assume that you're competent, professional, and actually worthless.

他們會認為你能力不足、不專業，而且實際上毫無價值。

Listening to now, this has nothing to do with being vain.

聽起來，這跟愛漂亮一點關係都沒有。

It's about respecting yourself and the people around you enough to show up fully.

這是關於尊重自己和周遭的人，讓自己能全心投入。

So starting tomorrow, I want you to commit to putting in 10% more effort than you currently do.

所以從明天開始，我希望你承諾比現在多投入 10% 的努力。

If you usually don't do your hair, dry it, and style it.

如果你平常不整理頭髮，那就吹乾並造型一下。

If you don't iron your clothes, start set your outfit out the night before so you're not scrambling in the morning and looking like a hot mess.

如果你不燙衣服，那就前一晚就把衣服準備好，這樣早上就不會手忙腳亂，看起來一團糟。

Look at yourself in the mirror before you leave and ask, would I take this person seriously?

出門前看看鏡子裡的自己，問問自己：我會認真看待這個人嗎？

Pay attention to how people respond to you differently when you show up with more intention.

注意當你更有意圖地展現自己時，別人對你的回應有何不同。

The next principle is one I see few people talking about.

下一個原則是我很少看到有人在談論的。

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