Name: 台灣恐怖情人兇殺案頻傳！專家教你看恐怖情人的 11 個跡象，保護自身安全！ (11 Signs of a Emotionally Abusive Relationship)
Uploaded: 2025-08-01T14:41:08.000Z
Duration: 11 min 28 s

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Welcome back to the channel where we are going to dive into everything healing, growing, reclaiming our power after a toxic relationship and really working on ourselves because we've been through a lot.

歡迎回到我們的頻道，在這裡，我們將深入探討治療、成長、在一段有毒關係後重新獲得力量，以及真正的自我完善，因為我們已經經歷了很多。

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Today we're going to be addressing something that is so incredibly important and that is emotional abuse.

今天，我們將討論一個非常重要的問題，那就是情感虐待。

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It's not always easy to spot because it doesn't leave physical scars, but if you have experienced this, which chances are you have if you're watching this video,

這種情況並不容易發現，因為它不會在身體上留下疤痕，但如果你有過這樣的經歷（如果你正在觀看部影片，你很可能有過這樣的經歷）

you know just how incredibly damaging it is to yourself, your self-esteem and your life.

你就會知道它對你自己、你的自尊和你的生活有多麼大的傷害。

If you've ever felt manipulated, controlled, constantly put down, you know you're in a dynamic with someone and it's just not healthy, this is for you.

如果你曾經感到被操縱、被控制、不斷被貶低，你就知道你和某人的關係並不健康。這部影片是為你準備的。

I'm going to share with you all the red flags that are going to point towards you being in a dysfunctional, emotionally abusive relationship.

我將與你分享所有會指向你處於功能失調、情感虐待關係中的地雷。

This may not be easy for you to accept, but it's definitely something that you need to hear.

這對你來說可能不容易接受，但絕對是你需要聽到的。

Let's jump right in and take a closer look at what emotional abuse actually looks like.

讓我們直接來看看情感虐待到底是什麼樣的。

Number one, this is the one we hear all the time.

Constantly blaming, constantly belittling.

They often put you down, they're going to criticize, they're going to just know exactly what to say to make you feel bad about yourself.

他們經常貶低你，責備你，他們知道該說什麼讓你覺得自己很糟糕。

They make you feel dumb, worthless, pretty much incapable.

他們讓你覺得自己愚蠢、沒有價值，幾乎沒有能力。

They make little jokes at your expense, but they never really feel like jokes. They just kind of feel like dicks.

他們以你為代價開一些小玩笑，但卻讓人感覺不像玩笑。

And that's because they are, so I'm so glad your intuition is telling you that because that means we haven't lost you yet.

我很高興你的直覺告訴你這一點，因為這意味著我們還沒有失去你。

Over time, this is what affects your self confidence and how you feel about yourself.

隨著時間的推移，這會影響你的自信心和你對自己的感覺。

This is why now you're starting to really doubt who you are, your abilities, and you just don't have the self-esteem and self-worth that maybe you had before this relationship even started.

這就是為什麼你現在開始真正懷疑自己是誰，懷疑自己的能力，你沒有了自尊和自我價值，也許在這段關係開始之前你就有了。

This is for the people that will say, I lost myself.

這是為那些會說「我迷失了自我」的人準備的。

This is where they manipulate you into making you question your own reality.

這就是他們操縱你的地方，讓你質疑自己的現實。

You start doubting your own memories, your own thoughts, what you think actually happened.

你開始懷疑自己的記憶，懷疑自己的想法，懷疑自己認為真實發生過的事情。

They may deny things that they have said or done and you question it so much that you actually think you're wrong and that maybe that didn't happen.

他們可能會否認自己說過的話或做過的事，而你會質疑得很厲害，以至於認為自己錯了，也許那並沒有發生過。

When this happens way too much, you start to really have a lot of self doubt.

如果這種情況發生得太多，你就會開始產生很多自我懷疑。

You're confused, you're unsure of yourself, and so you really need someone to tell you what you think, how you feel, and what actually happened.

你很困惑，你不確定自己，所以你真的需要有人告訴你你的想法、你的感受以及實際發生了什麼。

You're starting to lose that connection that you had to your inner self.

你開始失去與內心自我的聯繫。

They try to isolate you from friends, from family, from anyone that they think could possibly be supportive to you so you could become healthy.

他們試圖將你與朋友、家人以及任何他們認為可能支持你的人隔離開來，這樣你才能變得健康。

They don't want you to be around anyone that could make you feel good.

他們不希望你身邊有任何能讓你感覺良好的人。

They want you to feel like the only person you can rely on is them.

他們想讓你覺得你唯一可以依靠的人就是他們。

So they're going to do two things in order for this to happen.

為了實現這一目標，他們要做兩件事。

One is they may paint a picture of the person in your life, whether it's a friend or a family member, a bad picture of them so you can start believing that bad picture.

其一，他們可能會給你生活中的某個人（無論是朋友還是家人）描繪一幅糟糕的畫面，這樣你就會開始相信這幅糟糕的畫面。

Every single time I'm around them, they don't want to be around me, or I don't think that person's really good for you when this is the person that's actually gaslighting.

每次我和他們在一起，他們都不願意和我在一起，或者我覺得那個人對你並不好，而實際上是那個人在給你施壓。

They're going to make you feel guilty about wanting to spend time with them.

他們會讓你因為想和他們在一起而感到內疚。

And this, of course, is going to also follow up with them accusing you of just not caring about them because you want to go spend time with someone else.

當然，接下來他們還會指責你不關心他們，因為你想和別人在一起。

This is where they really start honing in on maybe your codependency and you being responsible for how they feel when that's not your responsibility.

這時，他們就會真正開始懷疑你的依賴性，懷疑你要對他們的感受負責，而這並不是你的責任。

And also it's about understanding healthy relationships and healthy human beings.

同時，這也是為了瞭解健康的人際關係和健康的人類。

But if you are a codependent, if you are a people pleaser, if you have a lot of wounds, this person wanting to spend all of their waking hours with you and them even getting upset when you are with someone else, that's a red flag,

但是，如果你是一個依賴性強的人，如果你是一個喜歡取悅別人的人，如果你身上有很多傷口，這個人想把所有醒著的時間都花在你身上，甚至當你和別人在一起的時候，他還會不高興，這就是一個地雷，

but it's not a red flag to someone who is codependent because all of this does is just keeps you dependent on them emotionally or maybe even physically or mentally.

但對於依賴性強的人來說，這並不是一個地雷，因為這一切只是讓你在情感上，甚至可能在身體上或精神上依賴他們。

So if you're dependent on someone in that way, that person is controlling you.

如果你以這種方式依賴某人，那麼這個人就是在控制你。

And the reason why you're dependent on them is because you're still wounded and have absolutely no idea.

你之所以依賴他們，是因為你還在受傷，完全不知道。

That's why watching these videos, investing in yourself, working with me, taking the courses, doing all the stuff, this isn't just about this relationship and you learning about these emotionally abusive red flags.

這就是為什麼觀看這些影片、為自己投資、與我合作、參加課程、做所有的事情，這不僅僅是為了這段關係，也不僅僅是為了讓你瞭解這些情感虐待的地雷。

This is about you healing and working on your stuff that's inside of you that even allows you to tolerate any of this.

這關係到你的康復，關係到你的內心是否允許你容忍這一切。

Because I got to tell you, a healthy person knows this checklist. They know it very well.

因為我得告訴你，一個健康的人都知道這份清單。他們非常清楚這一點。

And when they see it, they don't even engage in it.

當他們看到它時，他們甚至不會參與其中。

It's not even attracted to them to be in a relationship with someone who's like this.

與這樣的人交往，對他們根本沒有吸引力。

But if you're not healed and you still have all of your stuff from the past that you're doing this stuff, you might actually eat up.

但如果你還沒有痊癒，你還保留著過去的一切，你還在做這些事情，你可能真的會吃不消。

All of these things are about control, but I'm talking like excessive control.

所有這些事情都與控制有關，但我說的是過度控制。

Now with number five, we're talking about what you wear, what your hair looks like, not just who you hang out with, but what you eat, where do you go?

至於第五點，我們談論的是你的穿著、你的髮型，不僅僅是你和誰在一起，還有你吃什麼、你去哪裡？

Like everything about you is controlled by them.

就像你的一切都受他們控制一樣。

他們對任何事情都有自己的看法。

So now you need this person for support in these ways.

所以，你現在需要這個人在這些方面提供支持。

So you have become completely dependent on them and you don't even know who you are anymore.

你變得完全依賴他們，甚至不知道自己是誰了。

Now I want to really talk about this one for a second because mood swings are a sign of so many things.

現在，我真的想談一談這個問題，因為情緒波動是很多事情的徵兆。

First off, it's a sign where someone just really doesn't know how to soothe themselves, how to validate themselves, how to get themselves out of a space that they're uncomfortable in.

首先，這是一個人真的不知道如何撫慰自己、如何肯定自己、如何讓自己從不自在的空間中走出來的徵兆。

So this person's going to go from kind and loving to completely mean and nasty.

這個人就會從和藹可親、充滿愛心變得完全刻薄下流。

The thing with this is you're now walking on eggshells.

這樣做的問題是，你現在是在雞蛋殼上走路。

You are in a relationship with someone where it's completely unpredictable.

你和某人的關係完全不可預測。

You don't know if this person's going to be into you, if this person's going to like you or are they going to hate you?

你不知道這個人會不會喜歡你，這個人會不會喜歡你，或者他們會不會討厭你？

Like you don't know what's going to happen.

This while it seems like a small thing, okay, mood swings, this actually causes PTSD.

這看起來只是一件小事，好吧，情緒波動，但實際上會導致創傷後壓力症候群。

Now before we get into that, I hope I haven't lost you yet, but don't forget to click subscribe.

在我們開始之前，我希望你還沒切掉，但別忘了按訂閱。

Also don't forget to click the subscription button at the bottom of your For You page when you are on YouTube so you can watch all of our videos.

另外，當你在 YouTube 上時，請不要忘記點擊「為您推薦」頁面底部的訂閱按鈕，這樣你就可以觀看我們所有的影片。

That's why we have to have a little pause moment there.

所以，我們必須在這裡稍作停頓。

Now we're going to start guilt tripping you.

They're going to guilt trip you into doing things that you just don't want to do because you have absolutely no boundaries.

他們會用內疚絆住你，讓你做一些你根本不想做的事情，因為你完全沒有底線。

Remember, because you're dependent on this person.

So you don't know what you think. You don't know what you feel.

所以你不知道自己在想什麼。你不知道自己的感受。

And if you at all, for even a second, try to stand up for yourself, you are now the bad person.

如果你想為自己出頭，哪怕只有一秒鐘，你現在就是壞人。

They might make you feel guilty for doing that or they might torture you for doing that.

他們可能會讓你因為這樣做而感到內疚，也可能會因為這樣做而折磨你。

So the backlash is either going to be, I can't believe you did this to me and I'm the victim and what was me in order for them to gain sympathy because they're playing the victim here.

反彈要麼是「我不相信你會這樣對我，我是受害者，我怎麼了」，要麼是為了博取同情，他們在這裡扮演受害者。

Or you're going to get straight up backlash where it's like yelling, screaming, verbal abuse, all of those things.

否則，你就會遭到直接的反擊，比如大喊大叫、辱罵等等。

They're trying to use your emotions against you so they can get what they want.

他們試圖利用你的情緒來對付你，從而達到他們的目的。

And if you feel like maybe I am too sensitive, maybe I am the problem you are being manipulated because anyone that's healthy would not even remotely do any of these things to you.

如果你覺得也許我太敏感了，也許我就是你被操縱的問題所在，因為任何健康的人都不會對你做這些事。

And I think when we got to start tackling this one, we're getting more into like the narcissism round, but it's going to be the lack of empathy.

我認為，當我們開始解決這個問題時，我們會更多地陷入自戀的怪圈，但這將是缺乏同理心的問題。

他們可能會對你的感受不屑一顧。

They just don't care about what you think, how you feel, a boundary.

他們根本不在乎你的想法、你的感受和界限。

The hard thing with all of these is when you are wounded, I cannot even stress this enough.

所有這些的難點都在於當你受傷時，我怎麼強調都不為過。

You will not be able to spot any of these things.

Some of these things may sound familiar to you.

其中有些事情你可能似曾相識。