Name: 作為職場媽媽感到不知所措的 #1 關鍵原因 - Linda Raynier (feeling overwhelmed as a working mom | #1 key reason why - Linda Raynier)
Uploaded: 2025-07-19T20:53:23.000Z
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Today, we're talking about a topic that is very near and dear to my heart, and it's all about how to deal with being overwhelmed as a high-achieving or sometimes overachieving working mom.

今天，我們要討論的話題與我的心息息相關，那就是作為一個成績優異，有時甚至是超額完成任務的職場媽媽，如何處理不知所措的問題。

Now, being an ambitious, career-oriented and motivated working mom myself, someone who actually works closely to guide and coach other high-achieving career moms, I completely understand the level of overwhelm, anxiety, and exhaustion that comes with trying to do and be at all while also raising a family.

現在，我自己也是一位雄心勃勃、以事業為導向、積極進取的職場媽媽，實際上，我也在密切地指導和訓練其他成就斐然的職場媽媽，我完全理解在養家餬口的同時，還要努力做好每一件事所帶來的不知所措、焦慮和疲憊。

In the last few years, I've become a mom myself to now a three-year-old and an almost two-year-old, and I can honestly say my approach, the way that I am a parent to my children, as well as the way that I carry out my career is highly, highly reflective of the lessons that I've learned up until now, and these are things that I wanna share with you.

在過去的幾年裡，我自己也成為了一位母親，現在我有一個三歲的孩子和一個快兩歲的孩子，我可以坦率地說，我的做法、我為人父母的方式，以及我開展事業的方式，都高度、高度地反映了我迄今為止所學到的經驗教訓，這些都是我想與你們分享的東西。

First of all, I wanna say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being career-oriented and motivated and determined and wanting to achieve more for yourself and your family.

首先，我想說的是，以事業為重，積極進取，意志堅定，想為自己和家人取得更大的成就，這絕對沒有錯。

In fact, I know that for me, I'm career-oriented and motivated and determined because that, in a way, makes me a better mom.

事實上，我知道，對我來說，我以事業為重，積極進取，意志堅定，因為在某種程度上，這讓我成為了一個更好的媽媽。

If I'm able to have a sense of purpose outside of my role of being a mom, that just makes me feel more whole, and I know that a lot of high-achieving career moms out there that I work with feel the exact same way, but here's the kicker.

如果我能夠在做母親的角色之外有一種使命感，那會讓我感覺更完整，我知道和我一起工作的很多事業有成的媽媽們都有同樣的感受，但關鍵在於。

If you are constantly feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, anxious, stressed out on a consistent basis, then this is your sign to turn inwards and really understand the root of why that is because it just simply means that you are currently emotionally and energetically imbalanced.

如果你經常感到疲憊不堪、不堪重負、焦慮不安、壓力山大，那麼這就是你的徵兆，你應該向內求助，真正瞭解這一切的根本原因，因為這僅僅意味著你目前的情緒和能量失衡了。

So today, we're gonna talk about identifying the root of your ambition, and that comes from asking yourself, why is it that even though I'm able to achieve more and I'm constantly achieving more for myself and for my family, that I still feel not satisfied and empty inside?

所以，今天我們要討論的是找出你野心的根源，而這源於問自己，為什麼即使我能夠取得更多成就，我不斷為自己和家人取得更多成就，但我仍然感到不滿足和內心空虛？

And when I'm talking about achieving more or, in a sense, overachieving, it's this deep, innate need to consistently achieve more in the sense of financial security, in the sense of taking on more responsibilities, taking positions just not because you truly want them, but because you feel that you need to do that to prove your self-worth.

我所說的 "取得更多成就"，或者某種意義上的 "超額完成"，指的是這種與生俱來的深層需求，即不斷取得更多成就，以獲得經濟保障，承擔更多責任，擔任更多職位，這並不是因為你真正想要這些職位，而是因為你覺得你需要這樣做來證明自我價值。

It's also about constantly seeking approval from your boss, from your coworkers, and also consciously and unconsciously looking and wanting to acquire bigger and better things for yourself and your family, even though after you acquire those things, you don't feel satisfied.

這也是指不斷尋求上司和同事的認可，有意無意地希望為自己和家人獲得更大更好的東西，儘管在獲得這些東西之後，你並不感到滿足。

And so if this is happening to you right now and you're in a place where you're feeling empty, lost, stuck, and overwhelmed, then it's time to turn around and ask yourself, where is this coming from?

是以，如果這種情況現在正發生在你身上，而你正處於一種感到空虛、迷茫、困頓和不知所措的境地，那麼是時候轉過身來問問自己：這是從哪裡來的？

And there's a strong likelihood that this cycle, this pattern of being the way you are was developed very early on, likely in childhood.

很有可能，這種循環、這種 "你就是你 "的模式很早就形成了，很有可能是在童年時期。

I grew up in a family dynamic where I was made from a very young age to feel not worthy, to feel not seen for who I was, to feel not very valuable, to feel not very smart, to feel that I wasn't at the same level as other people.

我在這樣的家庭環境中長大，從小就覺得自己沒有價值，覺得自己沒有被人看到，覺得自己不是很有價值，覺得自己不是很聰明，覺得自己和別人不在一個水平線上。

我覺得自己的真實身份不被接受。

And that led me down a path of consistently wanting to achieve more, to do better, to prove myself to others, to really try to control the narrative of how other people saw me so that I could feel a sense of self-worth and self-value within me.

這讓我走上了一條不斷想要取得更大成就、做得更好、向他人證明自己的道路，並真正試圖控制他人對我的看法，這樣我才能在內心深處感受到自我價值和自我價值感。

And if you resonate with this, just know that you're not alone and there are other working moms that feel exactly the same way.

如果你對此有共鳴，只要知道你並不孤單，還有其他職場媽媽也有同樣的感受。

For example, on my website, I offer intuitive career therapy sessions.

例如，在我的網站上，我提供直覺式職業治療課程。

And one of my recent clients shared with me that she is actually in a very high level in her career, very successful career-wise.

我最近的一位客戶跟我分享說，她的職業生涯實際上處於一個非常高的水準，在事業上非常成功。

However, when it comes to her feeling good about herself and where she is from an internal perspective, there is definitely a sense of lack there.

然而，說到她對自己的良好感覺，以及從內心的角度來看她所處的位置，她肯定會有一種缺失感。

There's a sense of emptiness because no matter how much she strives to achieve more and more, it feels that it's a never-ending cycle.

她有一種空虛感，因為無論她如何努力，想要取得更多成就，都感覺這是一個永無止境的循環。

And deep down, she does not feel truly satisfied.

在內心深處，她並不感到真正的滿足。

And for me, I felt this way for a long time and it resulted in me going on a multiple years long journey where I really had to do the hard work.

對我來說，這種感覺持續了很長時間，導致我走上了長達數年的征程，我真的必須付出艱辛的努力。

And now I'm in a place where, if I'm being completely honest, when it comes to parenting, when it comes to my career, I do feel that I've reigned in that overachieving aspect to myself quite a bit.

現在的我，在養育子女和事業方面，說實話，我覺得自己已經在很大程度上收斂了過度追求的一面。

And there is a deep-seated sense, for the most part, we all have our bad days, but for the most part, there's a deep-seated sense of peace and ease that I did not experience ever before.

在大多數情況下，我們都會有不順心的時候，但在大多數情況下，我們都會有一種發自內心的平靜和輕鬆感，這是我以前從未體驗過的。

And so the strategy that I wanna share with you today that has worked really well for me, but is very deep and is very intense at times is a strategy that I call revisit the little girl inside of you.

是以，我今天想和大家分享的策略對我來說非常有效，但卻非常深奧，有時也非常緊張，我稱之為 "重訪你內心的小女孩"。

What I mean by that is taking yourself back to a time where you can recall your earliest memory where you felt unseen, not valued, not heard.

我的意思是，讓自己回到最初的記憶中，在那個時候，你覺得自己沒有被看見、沒有被重視、沒有被傾聽。

For example, for me, I actually recall a memory when I take myself down this path, I recall a memory where I was about eight or nine years old, I was standing in front of the full body mirror in my parents' house, and I had just changed into my day clothes.

例如，對我來說，當我把自己帶入這條道路時，我實際上會回憶起一段記憶，我回憶起我大約八九歲時，我站在父母家的全身鏡前，我剛剛換上白天穿的衣服。

So I was wearing jean overalls, pretty baggy jean overalls, and then I was also wearing a white, big baggy sweater underneath that.

我穿著牛仔工裝褲，很寬鬆的牛仔工裝褲，裡面還穿著一件白色的寬鬆毛衣。

我曾剪過一個碗形髮型，很不整齊。

And I remember looking at myself and at the time I was just, whatever, it's okay, this is what I'm dressed in and that's fine.

我記得當時我看著自己，就想，管它呢，穿成這樣就好了。

But I remember turning around and I lived with extended family, so there were adults around me.

但我記得轉過身來，我和大家庭住在一起，所以我身邊有大人。

And to be honest, I can't even recall specifically who said what, because they were all kind of sitting around the table and they looked at me and right away, I was provided with criticism about the way I looked, I was made to feel small, I was made to feel not worthy, I was made to feel that the way I was, as I was, was not acceptable.

老實說，我甚至想不起來具體是誰說了什麼，因為他們都圍坐在桌邊，看著我，馬上就對我的樣子提出了責備，讓我覺得自己很渺小，讓我覺得自己沒有價值，讓我覺得我現在的樣子是不可接受的。

And that, along with other similar instances that sort of poked and prodded at me, my character and the way I was in different ways, led me down this path where I consistently felt this strong urge of always having to prove myself, always wanting to control the narrative of how others saw and viewed me and wanting to feel more than how I actually felt inside, which was not feeling like I was good enough.

這件事，再加上其他類似的事件，以不同的方式戳中了我、我的性格和我的方式，讓我走上了這條道路，在這條道路上，我一直有一種強烈的衝動，總想證明自己，總想控制別人對我的看法和觀點，總想比自己內心的真實感受更有感覺，那就是覺得自己不夠好。

So when I look back on that memory now, and I recall that now, I don't feel the same level of pain and discomfort because the acknowledgement of that incident and the understanding of what happened there and how it led me down a path to where I am now.

是以，當我現在回想起那段記憶時，我不會感到同樣程度的痛苦和不適，因為我承認那件事，瞭解那裡發生了什麼，以及它是如何把我引向一條通往現在的道路的。

Now that I've come full circle to understand that, there is less of that desire or need to prove myself to others because what I'm now in a place of feeling is more centered and connected and understanding of who I really am and that those experiences don't define me.

現在，我已經完全明白了這一點，也就不那麼渴望或需要向別人證明自己了，因為我現在的感覺是更加集中、更加連貫、更加了解自己到底是誰，而這些經歷並不能定義我。

And so for you, it is really important to take this step if you're open to it, to revisit the little girl inside of you and let her know through a healing lens that whatever happened there was not your fault.

是以，對你來說，如果你願意的話，邁出這一步真的很重要，重新審視你內心的那個小女孩，通過治癒的視角讓她知道，無論發生了什麼，都不是你的錯。

Whatever happened there was not defining of who you were.

無論那裡發生了什麼，都不能決定你是誰。

Whatever happened there is not who you are now and it doesn't have to be.

無論在那裡發生了什麼，都不是現在的你，也不必如此。

You no longer have to allow that to stay within you.

你不必再讓它停留在你的內心深處。

You can understand it, embrace it, heal it with compassion towards yourself and allow it to go.

你可以理解它，擁抱它，用對自己的憐憫治癒它，讓它消失。

You have to remember the key to this is that whoever said what or did whatever they did to you, it was through their own pain that that occurred.

你必須記住，這其中的關鍵在於，無論誰對你說了什麼或做了什麼，都是他們自己的痛苦造成的。

They were operating through their own pain.

Their own pain from their own programming, from the way they saw themselves, their pain had to be offloaded onto someone and unfortunately you happen to be the target.

他們的痛苦來自於他們自己的程序，來自於他們看待自己的方式，他們的痛苦不得不轉嫁到別人身上，而不幸的是，你恰好是他們的目標。

And so when you can come to this place of true understanding and true, I'm not talking about just logic, I'm talking about through feeling your way through the pain and then being able to understand all aspects of it is when true healing can happen.

是以，當你能夠真正理解和真正地，我說的不是邏輯，而是通過感受你的痛苦，然後能夠理解它的方方面面時，真正的治癒才會發生。

And here's the thing about overachieving and not realizing the root of where all of this is coming from is that it can have an impact on your children.

過度追求成就而沒有意識到這一切的根源，會對你的孩子產生影響，這就是問題所在。

In some way, shape or form, that energy will leak out.

在某種程度上，這種能量會洩露出去。

Even if you have the biggest smile on your face, even if you try to hide it from your own children, in some way, shape or form, it's going to come out.

即使你臉上掛著最燦爛的笑容，即使你試圖在自己的孩子面前隱藏這種笑容，但在某種程度上，不管是什麼形式，它都會流露出來。

The worst case scenario is of course that they take it on and children are so sensitive.

最壞的情況當然是他們接受了，而孩子們又是如此敏感。

And that's actually the way that they perceive the world is through their energy, their emotions, because their brains are not fully developed.

實際上，他們感知世界的方式是通過他們的能量和情緒，因為他們的大腦還沒有發育完全。

So all they can do is feel and they're very strong in how they feel.

是以，他們所能做的就是感覺，而且他們的感覺非常強烈。

We have the filter of our brains to actually filter out some of our emotions and ignore certain feelings, but at the very young ages, especially, they don't.

我們的大腦有過濾功能，可以過濾掉一些情緒，忽略某些感受，但在很小的時候，尤其是在幼年時期，他們並不能做到這一點。

And if you don't want that cycle and pattern to continue onto your next generation, then it's very important to do the work, to turn inwards and to ask yourself, where is this coming from?

如果你不想讓這種循環和模式延續到你的下一代，那麼做這項工作就非常重要，向內看，問問自己，這是從哪裡來的？

When you can change the way that you feel at a level of your state of being from a healthy, connected, centered, understanding, self-loving place, that is going to have a ripple effect in all areas of your life, not just within your family, but also in your career, also in your relationships, in your personal life, with your relationship with yourself.

當你能從一個健康的、有聯繫的、有中心的、理解的、自愛的地方來改變你的存在狀態時，這將會在你生活的各個領域產生連鎖反應，不僅是在你的家庭中，而且在你的事業中，在你的人際關係中，在你的個人生活中，在你與你自己的關係中。

And it's going to ensure that when you connect with your children, it's coming from a heart-centered place.

這將確保你與孩子的溝通是以心靈為中心的。

It's not coming through the lens of overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety.

它不是從不堪重負、疲憊不堪、焦慮不安的角度來看待問題的。

所以，這是我給你們佈置的實用作業。

And I would love to see it if you can please share what you've gathered in the comments.

如果您能在評論中分享您收集到的資訊，我將非常樂意看到。

Revisit the little girl or boy inside of you and identify the earliest memories where you felt not seen, where you were made to feel less than, where you were made to feel not worthy, and to come from a place of understanding and to really work through the painful emotion and then let it go.

重溫你內心深處的那個小女孩或男孩，找出最早的記憶，在那裡你覺得自己沒有被看見，在那裡你覺得自己不如別人，在那裡你覺得自己沒有價值，從理解的角度出發，真正克服痛苦的情緒，然後讓它過去。

If this is something that you would like to be able to dive in more about, I actually do offer intuitive career therapy sessions.

如果你想深入瞭解這一點，我確實提供直覺職業治療課程。

And that is on my website in the link down below.

I have full trust and faith that this video will reach the working moms that it needs to reach.

我完全相信並堅信，這段視頻一定會傳播給需要傳播的職場媽媽們。

And I actually plan on making this a mini series.

實際上，我還打算把它做成一個迷你係列。

So next week, we're gonna be talking all about being an overwhelmed working mom and what that means for your expectations.

下週，我們將討論如何成為一個不堪重負的職場媽媽，以及這對你的期望意味著什麼。

We're gonna talk about removing painful expectations.

我們要談談如何消除痛苦的期望。

So if you enjoyed this, again, please let me know in the comments, subscribe, like the video, and I will see you in the next video.

如果你喜歡這個視頻，請在評論中告訴我，也可以訂閱、喜歡這個視頻，我們下期視頻再見。

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