Name: 害羞內向者如何在工作中保持安靜自信 (How to Have Quiet Confidence as a Shy Introvert at Work)
Uploaded: 2025-06-17T14:50:54.000Z
Duration: 16 min 48 s

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What if I told you that everything that you've been taught on how to treat other people at work is actually the very reason why you're not getting the respect and recognition you deserve?

如果我告訴你，你在工作中被教導的如何對待他人的一切，其實正是你沒有得到應有的尊重和認可的原因，你會怎麼想？

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In this video, we're going to discuss all about that and we're going to talk about quiet confidence, what it is and how to embody it, especially if you are someone who is introverted, shy and quiet.

在本視頻中，我們將討論這一切，我們將談論安靜的自信，它是什麼，以及如何體現它，特別是如果你是一個內向、害羞和安靜的人。

If you're new here, my name is Linda Rayner.

如果你是新來的，我叫琳達-雷納。

I'm a career strategist and my mission is to ambitious introverted professionals just like yourself to go from quiet to confident at work and in life.

我是一名職業戰略家，我的使命是讓像你一樣性格內向的專業人士在工作和生活中從沉默寡言變得自信滿滿。

And in this video, we're going to cover the difference between being too nice versus being quietly confident, the number one key to gaining quiet confidence and how to embody quiet confidence every day.

在本視頻中，我們將介紹過於和善與安靜自信之間的區別、獲得安靜自信的首要關鍵，以及如何每天體現安靜自信。

By the way, if you are a shy and introverted professional and you know that you're not getting the respect, the recognition and the opportunities that you deserve in your workplace, then sign up, join my email list to be notified of when I will be offering my quiet to confident program.

順便說一下，如果你是一個害羞內向的職業人士，而且你知道自己在工作場所沒有得到應有的尊重、認可和機會，那麼請註冊並加入我的電子郵件列表，以便在我推出從安靜到自信的課程時收到通知。

In this program, I'm going to help you ambitious introverted professionals to go from quietly doubting yourself and your skills to then carrying yourself and communicating with confidence in the workplace so that you can get those strategic leadership opportunities that you deserve.

在本課程中，我將幫助各位雄心勃勃的內向型專業人士，從悄悄地懷疑自己和自己的技能，到在工作場所自信地展示自己、與人溝通，從而獲得應得的戰略性上司機會。

Again, if you are interested, just sign up in the link down in the description box below for my quiet to confident program.

同樣，如果你有興趣，只需在下面描述框中的鏈接中註冊我的 "從安靜到自信 "計劃。

Join the wait list and I'll notify you when it's available.

加入候補名單，有貨了我會通知你。

So before we get into the full agenda, I want to tell you a little bit about myself and share a little bit of a personal story as to why this topic of quiet confidence is so important to me because I am an introvert myself.

是以，在我們進入完整的議程之前，我想先向大家介紹一下我自己，並分享一個小故事，說明為什麼 "安靜的自信 "這個話題對我如此重要，因為我自己就是一個內向的人。

I remember straight out of working at my first fancy job at a big four accounting firm.

我還記得，我在四大會計師事務所的第一份體面工作剛剛結束。

I was an auditor and our client was a large public real estate company and my job was to go to this one particular manager in the accounting group at that company and consistently ask him for supporting documents for the work that I was doing.

我是一名審計員，我們的客戶是一家大型房地產上市公司，我的工作就是去找該公司會計組的一位經理，不斷向他索要我所做工作的證明文件。

Now, because I knew that I was bothering him in a way, I didn't want to make it worse by coming across as mean or rude.

現在，因為我知道我在某種程度上打擾了他，所以我不想表現得刻薄或粗魯，使情況變得更糟。

So instead I went the opposite direction and I became super friendly.

於是我反其道而行之，變得超級友好。

I put on this happy face, super friendly, super sweet, super kind, super polite, and I would approach him with this big smile.

我會裝出一副開心的樣子，超級友好、超級可愛、超級善良、超級有禮貌，我會帶著燦爛的笑容接近他。

I thought this is for sure the approach that I need to take if I want to develop a strong rapport with him and be able to have him help me and over time I started to notice this wasn't working.

我想，如果我想和他建立良好的關係，讓他幫助我，我肯定要採取這種方法。

Not only did it seem as though he was starting to dislike me but it eventually got to a point where it felt as though he full-on despised me.

他不僅好像開始不喜歡我，而且最終到了好像完全鄙視我的地步。

Even though I had done nothing wrong and I had only been friendly and nice to him and it finally hit a boiling point where there I remember exactly I walked downstairs because that's where his office was.

儘管我沒有做錯任何事，我只是對他很友好、很好，但事情終於到了沸點，我清楚地記得我走到樓下，因為他的辦公室就在那裡。

I went towards his cubicle and before I could even get close to his cubicle he saw me.

我朝他的隔間走去，還沒走近他的隔間，他就看到了我。

He looked at me and I paused because I started to get scared and really nervous and he just let out a huge scream.

他看著我，我停頓了一下，因為我開始害怕，真的很緊張，他就發出了一聲巨大的尖叫。

He was clearly really stressed and he yelled and this was loud.

他顯然壓力很大，大喊大叫，聲音很大。

I was scared so I ran all the way back upstairs to my manager.

我很害怕，就一路跑回樓上找我的經理。

I remember I was just fresh out of school.

My self-esteem throughout my life at that point had already been fairly low.

當時，我一生的自尊心都已經相當低了。

My self-confidence was not solid and to have someone yell at me at a job that I was working really hard in was just terrible.

我的自信心並不穩固，在我非常努力地工作時，有人對我大喊大叫，這實在是太糟糕了。

I just felt terrible about myself and so I cried going home.

我覺得自己很糟糕，於是哭著回家了。

I eventually got to this of realization as to what could have been the reason why he was treating me and targeting me more than anyone else.

我最終意識到，他對我的態度和針對我的行為可能比任何人都要嚴重。

Essentially I was being too nice and being too nice is something that is very common amongst us ambitious introverts or quiet achievers.

從根本上說，是我太好說話了，而太好說話在我們這些雄心勃勃的內向者或默默無聞的成功者中很常見。

It's just something that we've learned to embody and learn to sort of play out in our So first of all, what is being too nice?

You know you're being too nice when you are subconsciously lowering yourself in front of someone else thinking that you will be more respected, appreciated, or liked by doing so.

當你在別人面前下意識地放低自己，認為這樣做會讓自己更受尊重、欣賞或喜歡時，你就知道自己太善良了。

Rather than seeing yourself as an equal to someone else no matter their rank, no matter their age, you are subconsciously bowing down to them.

無論別人的職位高低、年齡大小，你都不會把自己視為與他們平等的人，而是在潛意識裡向他們俯首稱臣。

That's when you start to feel overlooked and undervalued and this has a significant impact on the way you carry yourself, your body language, your tone of voice, and your communication.

這時，你就會開始覺得自己被忽視、被低估，這對你的舉止、肢體語言、語氣和交流方式都會產生重大影響。

Now if you happen to have this trait you might be wondering, yeah that's me.

如果你也有這種特質，你可能會想，是啊，我就是這樣。

Being someone who's introverted and quiet, we are programmed by society, by our culture, by our families that being who we are is not enough.

作為一個性格內向、沉默寡言的人，我們被社會、文化和家庭灌輸了這樣的觀念：做自己是不夠的。

So that means that we have to overextend ourselves and be polite and kind and sweet to others in order to get people to like us and to approve of us.

是以，這意味著我們必須過度自我膨脹，對他人彬彬有禮、和藹可親、甜言蜜語，才能讓別人喜歡我們、認可我們。

Because being quiet, introverted, shying away, and keeping to ourselves is not an admirable trait or an attractive trait.

因為沉默寡言、性格內向、畏首畏尾、獨來獨往並不是一種令人欽佩的特質，也不是一種有吸引力的特質。

If you want to be able to get the recognition, the respect, the opportunities that you deserve, what matters is how you carry yourself and this comes from embodying quiet confidence.

如果你想得到應有的認可、尊重和機會，重要的是你如何展現自己，而這來自於沉穩的自信。

So quiet confidence is not a loud in-your-face approach to being seen, valued, and heard.

是以，"安靜的自信 "並不是 "當面鑼對面鼓 "地讓人看到、重視和聽到。

It's not something that you can pretend your way to.

It's something that you have to be able to tap into and access.

這是你必須能夠挖掘和獲取的東西。

But it's beneath those layers of fear-based beliefs, those negative thought patterns, the worries, the struggles, the anxieties that we have within us.

但是，我們內心的恐懼信念、負面思維模式、憂慮、掙扎和焦慮，就在這層層恐懼信念之下。

Beneath all of that is where your quiet confidence lies.

在這一切的背後，是你平靜的自信。

If you're quietly confident, you're not going to be easily swayed or influenced by others' opinions and judgments.

如果你安靜自信，就不會輕易被他人的意見和判斷所左右或影響。

Quietly confident people trust in their inner guidance.

安靜自信的人相信內心的指引。

They trust in their inner voice and they lead with this sort of energy where it comes through in their body language, it comes through in your communication, in the way that you carry yourself, and people around you will feel it.

他們相信自己內心的聲音，他們用這種能量來上司，這種能量通過他們的肢體語言、通過你的交流、通過你的舉止，讓你周圍的人感受到。

Because you're comfortable with yourself, they will feel comfortable with you.

因為你對自己滿意，他們才會對你放心。

Quietly confident people accept themselves fully.

So now you're wondering, okay, this all sounds great, Linda.

現在你會想，好吧，這聽起來不錯，琳達。

Now, before I jump into the life-changing approach that has really worked well for me to tune into my quiet confidence, I want to remind you to sign up for the wait list for my Quiet to Confident program.

現在，在我開始介紹改變生活的方法之前，我想提醒大家註冊我的 "從安靜到自信 "課程的候補名單。

This is really for you if you are an introverted, shy, quiet professional who is struggling with your communication.

如果你是一個內向、害羞、沉默寡言的專業人士，並且在溝通方面遇到困難，那麼這本書真的很適合你。

You're struggling with the way that you're being seen and recognized at work and you really want to be able to step into your quietly confident self and be chosen for those strategic leadership opportunities in the future.

你正在為自己在工作中被人看到和認可的方式而苦惱，你非常希望自己能夠沉著自信，在未來的戰略上司機會中脫穎而出。

If you want to be seen as that trusted, valuable, recognized leader, then Quiet to Confident is the program for you.

如果你想成為值得信賴、有價值、被認可的領導者，那麼《從安靜到自信》就是為你量身打造的課程。

So the number one key to gaining quiet confidence is to burn up your pain.

是以，獲得平靜自信的第一要訣就是燃燒你的痛苦。

Face the fears, the anxieties, the inner turmoil, the struggles, the worries, all of the things that are holding you back from moving forward.

面對恐懼、焦慮、內心的不安、掙扎、擔憂，面對所有阻礙你前進的東西。

You need to be able to face them head on.

Face them, embrace them, sit with them, and investigate them.

面對它們，擁抱它們，與它們坐在一起，調查它們。

Now this could be called shadow work or inner child work or just healing work or therapy.

現在，這可以被稱為影子工作、內在兒童工作，或者只是治療工作或療法。

Whatever you want to call it, this is what's needed to be done.

無論你怎麼稱呼它，這都是需要做的。

Think of the phoenix, the whole idea of the phoenix rising out of the ashes.

想想鳳凰，想想鳳凰涅槃的整個概念。

為什麼這是一個如此重要的隱喻？

Because when the phoenix is burning, that represents a shedding away of old belief systems, shedding away of insecurities, of things that are not serving that phoenix.

因為當鳳凰燃燒時，代表著舊有信仰體系的褪去，不安全感的褪去，以及對鳳凰不利的東西的褪去。

It is shedding away a certain layer that doesn't actually belong to it.

它正在褪去實際上不屬於它的某一層。

And so what happens is once that's all burned up, the phoenix is able to rise, feeling lighter but stronger, more knowing of who it is.

是以，一旦這一切都燃燒殆盡，鳳凰就能冉冉升起，感覺更輕，但更強大，更知道自己是誰。

When you're willing to sit in your pain and really acknowledge it, understand the root of where it came from, work through it, and be brave enough to shed those tears so that it can be released, you are going to come out as that next level version of yourself.

當你願意坐在痛苦中，真正承認它，瞭解它的根源，努力克服它，並勇敢地流下眼淚，讓它得到釋放，你就會成為更上一層樓的自己。

Think of anyone who you know in your life or just in general that you feel embodies quiet confidence.

想一想你在生活中或平時認識的人中，誰能讓你感受到安靜的自信。

And then go find out what their story was.

Most likely they embody this sense of quiet confidence because of their struggles.

他們很可能因為自己的奮鬥而體現出這種沉穩的自信。

Oftentimes it's because they've gone through things that have helped them to discover who they truly are.

很多時候，這是因為他們經歷了一些事情，這些事情幫助他們發現了自己的真實面目。

They've gotten to a level of greater self-awareness and self-understanding.

他們已經達到了更高的自我意識和自我理解水準。

And that's what you want to be able to get to if you want to really move forward in your life in a clearer, more confident way.

如果你想以更清晰、更自信的方式在生活中真正向前邁進，這就是你想要達到的目標。

It's to know why you're feeling the way that you're feeling.

就是要知道你為什麼會有這種感覺。

If you're feeling stuck, it's to understand what's the root cause of that.

如果你感到困頓，那就要了解困頓的根本原因是什麼。

What am I choosing to believe about myself that's causing me to feel this way?

我選擇相信自己的什麼，導致我有這種感覺？

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