Any relationship is difficult to maintain, but a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is even more so.

所有關係都很難維持，但一男一女間的戀愛關係尤其難。

Why is this?

為什麼？

While love is a feeling experienced identically, the act of falling in love involves two entirely different processes for each sex.

雖然愛是雙方都同時感受到的，不同性別墜入愛河的過程卻完全不同。

In the case of men, there are seven particular steps men follow for falling in love.

男性墜入愛河的步驟有七個。

The first step, appreciation, is by far the most common.

第一步，欣賞，是最為普遍的。

It's the act of checking someone out, focusing on the physical appearance of a potential mate.

這是打量別人的動作，專注在潛在伴侶的外表上。

Physical appearance is not the most important factor, yet a condition of a man's individual preferences must be met.

外在並不是最重要的因素，但條件必須達到男性的個人偏好。

The second stage, infatuation, involves a need to seduce the target love interest.

第二階段，癡情，開始覺得需要引誘有戀愛好感的對象。

Traditional methods involve asking the interest out on a date while alternative methods may be based on shared interests and hobbies.

傳統的方法包括請對方出來約會，替代方法就是基於你們的共同興趣和嗜好。

If he's rejected in this pursuit, the man will most likely lose interest.

如果男性在這段追求中被拒絕，他可能就會失去興趣。

The third stage is, attraction, where the pursued love interest reciprocates interest in him.

第三階段是吸引力，被追求的對象也對追求者顯示出興趣。

Heartbreak isn't as difficult to deal with before this point, as vulnerability hasn't built up yet.

在這點發生以前，心碎並沒有那麼難處理，因為還沒接觸到感情中的脆弱面。

This is the stage where he attempts to get to know the love interest on a deeper level.

這個階段中，男性會試圖深層了解追求的對象。

A more intense relationship requires both parties to reveal more about one another.

一段更強烈的關係，需要雙方向對方透露更多事情。

Impression, the fourth stage, is simply an enhanced version of the previous stage.

第四階段，印象，只是前個階段的強化版本。

The potential mate becomes an obsession to the man attempting to get their attention in any way shape or form, from buying gifts to showing how fun he can be.

潛在的伴侶對男性來說變成一種執著，男性會試圖以各種方式取得對象的注意力，從買禮物到展示他有多幽默。

Regardless of these obsessive signs, he is still not in love.

儘管對方有這些執著的跡象，他其實還沒墜入愛河。

Conviction is the fifth stage.

信念是第五個階段。

Yet it's far more flexible than the other steps, spanning from stages two to four.

然而這個階段比其他階段更容易出現，從第二階段到第四階段都可能發生。

This is the stage where the man asks himself whether or not he can see himself with the interest in the far future.

在此階段，男性會自問，是否能看見與這個對象的未來。

Considering how difficult it is for the man to establish if the relationship should become more than it is now,

男性會考量如果關係更進一步發展，對他們來說要確立關係有多困難。

this is a background overlying phase, yet, it needs to be completed in order to reach stage six.

這還是在背地裡想著的事情，這需要完成才能到達第六階段。

Reaffirmation is the sixth stage, where the man has successfully met his goal of seducing the love interest.

重新確認是第六步驟，男性已經成功達成目標，引誘到對象。

Only when the potential mate is in this state will he seriously consider whether or not he wants to have an extreme long-term relationship.

只有在與潛在對象到達此步驟時，男性才會考慮他是否要認真的長期關係。

The man needs space in this stage, in some cases he could disappear to weigh the pros and cons.

男性在此時會需要空間，有些例子裡，他可能會消失，為的是要衡量利弊。

If both parties agree, the final stage, commitment, is achieved.

如果雙方都同意，就達到了最後一個步驟，承諾。

Both parties will be committed to the relationship at this point.

雙方到此時都已經忠於關係了。

And considering this is the seventh stage yes, the man is finally in love.

第七步驟已經到來，男性終於墜入愛河了。

It's important to understand regardless of gender to learn how to love and often this involves falling in love.

不論性別，學習怎麼去愛都很重要，而這包含墜入愛河。

Hopefully with these tips, you found an easier path to understanding how romance works in the mind of a typical man.

希望有了這些訣竅，你可以更容易理解愛情對男性來說是怎麼運作的。

Males can be fickle, but if you're into that, keep these steps in mind.

男性可以很善變，但如果你喜歡男生的話，把這些步驟記好吧。

You'll be ahead of those who think they know how love works.

你會超越那些以為自己已經知道愛情怎麼發生的人。

And maybe you'll save yourself a few pints of ice cream as well.

也許你也會省下幾品脫的冰淇淋。

Chocolate can't fix everything.

巧克力不能解決一切。

Maybe "mint", but not chocolate.

也許薄荷口味的可以，但就不是巧克力口味。

Thanks for watching Psych 2 Go, don't forget to comment and subscribe for more!

感謝觀看 Psych2Go，別忘記留言並訂閱看更多影片！

Hey everybody, I just want to give a personal thank-you video for you guys for always supporting Psych 2 Go and making this all possible for us.

嘿大家，我想親身在影片中跟你們道謝，謝謝你們支持 Psych2Go，並讓這一切有發生的可能。

Our vision is to make psychology as accessible as possible so that it promotes self-awareness and it helps you guys grow.

我們的目標是讓心理學越淺顯易懂越好，這樣才能提升自我意識並幫助你們成長。

However, we want to make more content for you guys and would love your support and buying one of these bracelets for my partner, Introvert Palace.

然而，我們想要為你們做更多內容，希望你們可以支持我們夥伴做的手鍊，內向者的皇宮。

Check out the bracelet.

看看手鍊吧。

It's pretty cool, and it even includes Pluto, the link to purchase will all be in the description below.

很酷，而且還有冥王星，購買連結會在下方的敘述。

Well, and I hope you guys have an amazing day, bye!

希望你們有很棒的一天，掰！