How are you doing?

你好嗎？

It's Aileen from Lavendaire.

我是Lavendaire的Aileen。

Today I want to talk about 11 ways that self love will change your life.

今天我想說說自愛會改變你人生的11種方式。

And I promise you: It will change your life, because these are all things

我向你保證。它將改變你的生活， 因為這些都是事情

that have happened to me.

發生在我身上的。

These are ways that I've just become aware of

這些都是我剛剛意識到的方式。

how I've transformed over the years, how self love has really made a positive change

這些年來，我是如何轉變的，自愛是如何真正讓我有了積極的改變。

for me and my life.

為我和我的生活。

I honestly believe that self love and gratitude are the root of happiness.

我真誠地相信，自愛和感恩是幸福的根源。

Those are two things that, if you can practice them daily, then you'll be so happy.

這兩件事情，如果你能每天練習，那麼你會很開心。

Your life will be amazing already, with just those two things.

你的生活已經會很精彩了，就這兩樣東西。

By the way, if you're new here, I'd appreciate if you click "Subscribe"

順便說一下，如果你是新來的，我希望你能點擊 "訂閱"。

and click that bell down below.

並點擊下面的那個鈴鐺。

I make a lot of videos on how to create your dream life,

我做了很多關於如何創造夢想生活的視頻。

so it's a really awesome community here.

所以這裡是一個非常棒的社區。

Alright, here are the 11 ways that self love will change your life.

好了，這裡有11種方法，自愛會改變你的生活。

1.

1.

Health.

健康；

When you truly love yourself, you're gonna take better care of your body

當你真正愛自己的時候，你會更好地照顧你的身體。

and your well-being.

和你的福祉。

You'll eat better, you'll exercise more, just out of respect

你會吃得更好，你會多運動，只是出於對你的尊重

for your own body because you know your body's working really hard to keep you alive

因為你知道你的身體很努力的讓你活著。

and just letting you live your life.

而只是讓你過你的生活。

You're gonna take care of your body in return.

你要照顧好自己的身體作為回報。

So when you love yourself, you prioritize self care because you know that

所以當你愛自己的時候，你就會優先考慮自我關懷，因為你知道

your mental well-being is also just as important as your physical well-being

你的心理健康和你的身體健康一樣重要。

2.

2.

Relationships.

關係。

You may have heard of the saying "We accept the love we think we deserve".

你可能聽說過這樣一句話："我們接受我們認為值得的愛"。

When you have high quality love for yourself, then you set that standard

當你對自己有了高質量的愛，那麼你就會把這個標準定下來。

to accept high quality love from others.

接受別人高質量的愛。

So you start to have low tolerance for people

所以你開始對人的容忍度很低

who don't value you or respect you, because when you respect yourself,

誰不重視你或尊重你，因為當你尊重自己，

then others will respect you too.

那麼別人也會尊重你。

So it's kind of like "Like attracts like".

所以這有點像 "同類相吸"。

Whatever feelings and emotions you have towards yourself, you're gonna attract

無論你對自己有什麼感覺和情緒，你都會吸引到

more of that to you.

更多的是給你的。

And anything that doesn't match that feeling, you're gonna repel it,

而任何不符合這種感覺的東西，你都會排斥它。

you know?

你知道嗎

If you love yourself and someone treats you poorly, you're gonna be like,

如果你愛自己，有人對你不好，你就會像。

"Uh uh, I don't have time for that."

"呃呃，我沒時間了。"

You know what I mean?

你知道我的意思嗎？

3.

3.

Confidence.

信心。

Self love definitely boosts your confidence.

自愛絕對能增強你的信心。

Because you've learned to love, appreciate, embrace everything that you are,

因為你已經學會了愛，欣賞，擁抱你的一切。

then you're no longer insecure or ashamed about any of it.

那麼你就不會再有任何的不安全感或羞恥感了。

You might recognize

你也許能認出

that you still have flaws and imperfections, things that you can work on,

你仍然有缺陷和不完美， 事情，你可以工作。

but you still love yourself regardless.

但你還是愛自己，無論如何。

When you're confident, you flaunt what you've got.

當你自信的時候，你就會炫耀你所擁有的東西。

You feel beautiful, you feel powerful, you hold your head up high and you have more fun

你覺得自己很美，你覺得自己很有力量，你把頭抬得很高，你有更多的樂趣。

in life.

在生活中。

4.

4.

Along with confidence comes more style and swag.

伴隨著自信而來的是更多的風格和氣勢。

When your self love is high,

當你的自愛很高。

you develop this distinct style that is uniquely you, and that is because

你發展出這種獨特的風格，是獨一無二的你，這是因為

you've grown to know yourself.

你已經長大了，瞭解自己。

You've grown to know your tastes, your aesthetics,

你已經漸漸懂得了自己的品味，自己的審美。

and basically you know what you like and you aren't afraid to show it.

而且基本上你知道自己喜歡什麼，也不怕表現出來。

This basically manifests in having a more unique style,

這基本表現在有比較獨特的風格。

being more confident in how you express yourself in your daily life.

對自己在日常生活中的表達方式更加自信。

5.

5.

Self love will also change your relationships with your friends and family.

自愛也會改變你和朋友、家人的關係。

So just a couple examples: Instead of saying yes to people and being a people-pleaser

所以只是舉了幾個例子。與其對人說 "是"，還不如做一個討好人的人。

all the time, you're gonna be able to say no instead, because you value yourself,

所有的時間，你要去 能夠說沒有代替， 因為你重視自己。

you value your time, and you want to protect your energy as well.

你珍惜你的時間，你也想保護你的精力。

Having more self love will also make it easier for you to forgive others who have hurt you.

擁有更多的自愛，也會讓你更容易原諒傷害過你的別人。

Instead of holding any grudges or being angry at someone for a long time,

而不是記恨什麼，也不是長期對某人發火。

having self love will teach you to forgive.

有了自愛，才能學會原諒。

And it's kind of a selfish reason for that.

而這也是一種自私的原因。

It's because, when you love yourself, you don't want yourself to continue hurting over

這是因為，當你愛自己的時候，你不希望自己繼續為之受傷。

anything that's happened in the past.

過去發生的任何事情。

You don't want yourself to suffer at the expense of others.

你不希望自己受苦，卻要犧牲別人。

Even if this person doesn't deserve forgiveness or whatever, you forgive

就算這個人不值得原諒什麼的，你也要原諒啊

just so that you can have a clean slate, you can have inner peace,

只是為了讓你有一個乾淨的環境，你可以擁有內心的平靜。

because you love yourself.

因為你愛自己。

And all you want is for yourself to be happy.

而你想要的只是讓自己快樂。

6.

6.

And this brings me to my next point.

這就涉及到我的下一個觀點。

Having more self love will make you happier.

擁有更多的自愛，會讓你更快樂。

And this is kind of a given, but it's worth mentioning.

這也算是一種必然，但值得一提的是。

Think about, when you love someone,

想一想，當你愛一個人的時候。

you truly want them to be happy.

你真的希望他們幸福。

Think about, if you love yourself,

想想，如果你愛自己。

you truly want yourself to be happy.

你真的想讓自己快樂。

So you'll do anything that you can to make yourself happy.

所以你會做任何能讓自己快樂的事情。

So instead of feeling like you're pulled by societal pressures, what your parents will

所以，與其說你覺得自己被社會壓力拉扯，不如說你的父母會什麼

think of you,

想起了你。

what your friends will think of you, you do what's best for yourself because you love

你的朋友們會怎麼看你，你做對自己最好的事，因為你愛。

yourself.

你自己。

Having self love will give you the courage to step into the life that you want to be

擁有自愛，會讓你有勇氣踏上你想要的生活。

in,

在：

instead of being influenced by others.

而不是受他人影響。

Because you love yourself,

因為你愛自己。

you'll do anything you can to make yourself happy.

你會做任何事情，你可以讓自己快樂。

7.

7.

Self love will also give you more drive and motivation in life.

自愛也會讓你在生活中獲得更多的驅動力和動力。

When you have this feeling

當你有這種感覺時

that you have a high self worth, then you're gonna believe in yourself even more.

你有一個很高的自我價值， 那麼你會相信自己 甚至更多。

You're gonna believe that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

你要相信，你可以完成任何事情，你設置你的心靈。

Having this belief makes you feel more invincible, it makes you feel more powerful and strong.

有了這個信念，你會覺得自己更無敵，會覺得自己更強大，更有力量。

And because of that, you have a lot more drive and motivation to do bigger things in the

正因為如此，你才會有更大的動力和動力去做更大的事情，在。

world.

岍。

You won't settle for any less because you know that you can accomplish so much more.

你不會滿足於任何少的東西，因為你知道你可以完成更多。

8.

8.

Another major perk of self love is that you're gonna care so much less

自愛的另一大好處是，你會少了很多的關心

about what other people think of you and what other people say about you,

關於別人對你的看法和別人對你的評價。

because I know that, when you feel insecure, you're so easily swayed

因為我知道，當你感到不安全的時候，你很容易被動搖

by what other people have to say.

由別人說什麼。

You're easily hurt by what other people say

你很容易被別人說的話傷害到

because you're like, "Oh my god, is it true?

因為你喜歡，"哦，我的上帝，這是真的嗎？

Are they right?"

他們說得對嗎？"

But in reality, no, they're not right.

但實際上，不，他們不對。

If you truly love yourself, then you see your self worth and you're not gonna

如果你真的愛你自己，那麼你就會看到你的自我價值，你就不會。

take that hate from anybody.

接受任何人的仇恨。

Positive vibes only, okay?

只有積極的氛圍，好嗎？

So you're gonna learn

所以你要學習

to keep only the people who truly love you and support you in your inner circle.

要只把真正愛你、支持你的人留在你的內心世界裡。

Whatever happens outside of that doesn't matter anymore.

不管外面發生了什麼，都不重要了。

9.

9.

If you ever fail or mess up, instead of being hard on yourself, you're gonna learn

如果你有一天失敗或搞砸了，與其對自己苛刻，不如學習

to be kinder and more gentler to yourself.

對自己好一點，溫柔一點。

That's the magic of love,

這就是愛情的魔力。

is that everything is always going to be okay.

是，一切都會好起來的。

Think of how you would treat a loved one

想一想你會如何對待親人

when they mess up or fail.

當他們搞砸或失敗的時候。

You're gonna treat them with kindness.

你要善待他們。

You're gonna say,

你會說。

you know, "It's okay.

你知道，"這沒關係。

Try again tomorrow."

明天再試試。"

That's because love is compassionate

那是因為愛是慈悲的。

and love is forgiving.

而愛是寬容的。

Instead of beating yourself up over messing up or, I don't know,

而不是因為搞砸了而自責，或者，我不知道。

just being so hard on yourself, you're gonna learn to treat yourself kindly

只要對自己狠一點，就會學會善待自己。

and give yourself more love because you truly love and care about yourself.

並給自己更多的愛，因為你真的愛自己，關心自己。

10.

10.

When you truly love yourself, you won't need to feel insecure or compare yourself to others.

當你真正愛自己的時候，你就不需要感到沒有安全感，也不需要和別人比較。

Because you love yourself, you can love others openly as well.

因為你愛自己，所以你也可以坦然地愛別人。

So you're more supportive,

所以你更支持。

instead of jealous and envious.

而不是嫉妒和羨慕。

And you know that life doesn't have to be a competition.

你也知道，生活不一定要競爭。

You don't have to be competing with everyone because everyone has unique value.

你不必和大家競爭，因為每個人都有獨特的價值。

Everyone brings something unique to the table.

每個人都會給我們帶來一些獨特的東西。

So you stand strong in who you are

所以你要堅定自己的身份

and you own that.

而你擁有的。

With that, you're confident, but also humble

有了這些，你就會自信，但也會謙虛。

because you won't feel the need to have to prove yourself all the time.

因為你不會覺得有必要一直證明自己。

11.

11.

Most importantly, self love will set you free.

最重要的是，自愛會讓你獲得自由。

Think about it.

仔細想想吧

What can hold you back

是什麼讓你退縮？

when you are your own best friend, genuinely loving and supporting yourself

當你是自己最好的朋友，真心愛自己，支持自己的時候

throughout your entire life journey?

在你的整個人生旅途中？

Literally nothing and no one can hold you back

沒有任何東西，也沒有人可以阻擋你。

when you truly love yourself.

當你真正愛自己的時候。

So you're free to step into your greatness,

所以你可以自由地步入你的偉大。

you're free to be fabulous, you're free to be a light in the world.

你是自由的，是神話般的， 你是自由的，是世界上的光。

You're free to be yourself.

你可以自由地做你自己。

Self love is the beginning of allowing yourself to blossom into everything that you are.

自愛是讓自己綻放一切的開始。

It's so important and I hope that this video shines some light on how impactful self love

這是非常重要的，我希望這段視頻能讓大家瞭解到自愛的影響力。

can be

可以

and how we can all learn to cultivate self love, because it's a lifelong practice.

以及我們都可以學會如何培養自愛，因為這是一種終身的修行。

Now I'd love to know: What ways has self love changed your life?

現在我很想知道。自愛在哪些方面改變了你的生活？

Comment below.

在下面評論。

I'd love to read what you have to say.

我很想看看你有什麼要說的。

And by the way, if you're new here, make sure you subscribe and click that bell to

順便說一下，如果你是新來的，請確保你訂閱並點擊那個鈴鐺到

get notified.

得到通知。

If you're already subscribed and you haven't clicked that bell, do so right now.

如果你已經訂閱了，但還沒有點擊那個鈴鐺，現在就點擊吧。

I'd really appreciate it.

我真的很感激。

And also, if you'd like more videos on self love,

還有，如果你想看更多關於自愛的視頻。

I have a playlist right here, with a ton of resources oneself love and self care

我這裡有一個播放列表，有一大堆資源自己的愛和自我關懷。

because it's so important.

因為它是如此重要。

There's always more to learn.

總有更多的東西要學。

Alright, have a beautiful day.

好吧，有一個美麗的一天。

Love you all so, so much.

非常非常愛你們。

Bye!

再見！