Name: 永遠不嫌晚！重新開始我來證明給你看看.. (It’s Never Too Late to Start Over! Let Me Prove it..)
Uploaded: 2026-02-06T14:30:10.000Z
Duration: 33 min 14 s

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Don't judge today's progress by yesterday's definition of success.

別用昨天對成功的定義來評判今天的進步。

過去簡單式

以前重要的事，現在可能就不那麼重要了。

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Don't hold yourself hostage to the dreams of your younger self.

別讓年輕時的夢想綁架了現在的你。

如果你已經長大了，不再是那時候的自己，那也沒關係。

Don't compare today's version of you to an old standard that no longer fits.

別把現在的你，跟一個已經不適用的舊標準比較。

Yesterday's goals were right for who you were then.

昨天的目標，對那時候的你來說是正確的。

Today's goals are right for who you are right now.

今天的目標，對現在的你來說才是正確的。

The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Shetty.

第一名的健康與心靈成長Podcast，Jay Shetty。

And whether you're cooking, whether you're cleaning, whether you're rushing off to work, whether you're at the gym, whether you're walking your dog, I'm so grateful that you're joining me.

無論你是在做飯、在打掃、在趕去上班、在健身房，還是在遛狗，我都很感謝你加入我。

Thank you for letting me into your life and your ears.

謝謝你讓我進入你的生活和你的耳朵。

I don't take your time for granted and I want to make this the best 30 minutes to shift your mindset.

我不會把你的時間視為理所當然，我希望能讓這 30 分鐘成為你轉變心態的最佳時光。

So if you've been feeling stuck, if you're feeling late, if you're feeling behind, this episode is for you.

所以，如果你覺得卡住了、覺得太晚了、覺得落後了，這一集就是為你準備的。

Maybe you're seeing all your friends get married right now and you're thinking, I don't even know who I'm going to be with.

也許你看到你所有的朋友現在都結婚了，而你卻在想，我甚至不知道我會跟誰在一起。

Maybe all your friends are getting promoted or moving into a nicer apartment and you're thinking, I'm still living at home.

也許你看到你所有的朋友都升職了，或是搬進了更好的公寓，而你卻在想，我還住在老家。

Maybe some of you are looking around you and just thinking, everyone seems to be doing better, Everyone seems happier, everyone seems like they have more going on and I'm feeling bored.

也許你們有些人看著周圍，心裡想著，好像每個人都過得比較好，每個人好像都比較開心，每個人好像都有更多事情在發生，而我卻感到無聊。

If you felt any of those things, I want you to know that what you're thinking and feeling right now is actually the launch pad to your best self, not a dead end.

如果你有這些感覺，我想讓你知道，你現在的想法和感受，其實是你邁向最好自己的起點，而不是死衚衕。

They just feel more unattainable than ever.

只是感覺比以往任何時候都更遙不可及。

We grew up in a world that was all about going to college, getting a good degree, getting a good job, getting married.

我們成長在一個重視上大學、拿到好學位、找到好工作、結婚的時代。

And all these things had to happen by a certain age, then having kids by a certain age, promoted by a certain age.

而且所有這些事情都必須在一定的年齡之前完成，然後在一定的年齡生小孩，在一定的年齡升職。

And it almost feels like we're still living by those metrics, but

感覺好像我們還在遵循這些標準，但

in a world that has drastically changed, in a world that is actually processing itself completely differently.

卻身處一個已經劇烈改變的世界，一個實際上正在完全以不同方式處理自身的世界。

Industries have changed, apps have been invented.

There is so much happening with AI and technology, but

we're still living by the same metrics of success.

我們卻還活在同樣的成功標準裡。

What I want to address today is talk about the emotional response and the thought in your head and the feelings that you're having and talk to you about the research, the data, and

我今天想跟大家聊聊的是，心裡的感受、腦袋裡的想法，以及你正在經歷的情緒，還有研究、數據，

the reflective approach to what's really happening in our lives.

以及用一種反思的方式，來看待我們生活中真正發生的事情。

So the first thought that a lot of us are having right now, and

所以，很多人現在腦中第一個想法，

maybe you've had this one as well, is I am behind everyone.

也許你也有過這個想法，就是「我落後了」。

I'm behind, I've been left behind, everyone's ahead of me.

我落後了，我被拋下了，大家都比我تقدم。

Sociologists call this the idea of a social clock.

社會學家稱這個為「社會時鐘」的概念。

Milestones like marriage, kids or career by a certain age.

像是到了某個年紀，就該結婚生子、事業有成。

But studies show that people who deviate from the social clock often report equal or greater life satisfaction.

但研究顯示，那些不照著社會時鐘走的人，通常會回報說，他們的生活滿意度跟別人一樣，甚至更高。

So we think if I stay on track, I'll be happier.

所以我們就想，如果我跟上進度，我就會更開心。

But the truth is those who deviate are either equally as happy or potentially even more happy.

但事實是，那些走不同步調的人，快樂程度跟別人一樣，甚至可能更快樂。

沒有所謂的遲到，只有你自己的時間。

The social clock is the unspoken timeline society sets for us.

社會時鐘就是社會默默為我們設下的時間表。

Graduate by your early 20s, marry by your late 20s, kids by 30, house by 35, career peak by 40, etc, etc, etc.

像是二十幾歲大學畢業，二十幾歲末結婚，三十歲生小孩，三十五歲買房，四十歲事業巔峰，等等等等。

But what researchers found is that they studied adults who were on time, following the clock, and

但研究人員發現，他們研究了那些準時、跟著時鐘走的成年人，

those who were off time later or earlier than expected milestones.

還有那些比預期時間早或晚達成人生里程碑的人。

The result, people who felt comfortable with their own timing, even if it deviated, reported equal or greater life satisfaction compared to those who rigidly followed the clock.

結果發現，那些對自己的時機感到自在的人，即使跟別人不一樣，他們的生活滿意度也跟那些嚴格遵守時鐘的人一樣，甚至更高。

I really want you to digest this, I really want you to inhale and breathe this in.

我真的希望你們能好好消化這段話，深深地感受它。

Those who deviate from the social clock are equally as happy, if not more happy.

那些沒有按照社會時鐘走的人，一樣過得很開心，甚至更開心。

If you're not married yet and you think you should be, if you haven't got promoted yet and you think you should be, if you haven't had kids yet and you think you should have, that doesn't steal your chance at a happy, joyful, wonderful life.

如果你還沒結婚，但覺得自己應該結了；如果你還沒升遷，但覺得自己應該升了；如果你還沒生小孩，但覺得自己應該生了，這都不會剝奪你擁有快樂、幸福、美好人生的機會。

The key factor wasn't when milestones happened, but how much control and meaning people felt over their lives.

關鍵因素不是里程碑發生的時間點，而是人們對自己生活有多少掌控感和意義感。

What we're struggling with at the root is 30 and 35 and 40 gives us a sense of control.

我們從根本上掙扎的是，三十歲、三十五歲、四十歲給我們一種掌控感。

So when we get to 32 and we haven't found our person, we think we've lost control.

所以當我們到了三十二歲還沒找到對的人，我們就覺得自己失去掌控了。

We think we've lost agency, we think we've lost the ability to choose.

我們覺得自己失去自主權，覺得自己失去選擇的能力。

What we're really worried is about control.

I want to be able to control my life and if everyone's doing something at 30, that means I'm out of control.

我想要掌控自己的人生，如果大家三十歲都在做某件事，就代表我失控了。

You control the things you can change, you control the things you can impact.

你要掌控那些你能改變的事，掌控那些你能產生影響的事。

You control the things you can influence.

It's that which is going to make your life happy.

這就是會讓你人生快樂的關鍵。

Why this matters psychologically is that feeling in charge of your choices predicts happiness more than hitting milestones on a schedule.

這在心理學上之所以重要，是因為感覺自己掌握了選擇權，比按照時程達成人生里程碑更能預測幸福。

Feeling in charge of your choices, that's what we're looking for as humans.

感覺自己掌握了選擇權，這就是我們人類一直在尋找的。

We want to feel like, I know why I'm doing this, but let's take a look at this.

我們想要感覺，我知道我為什麼這麼做，但讓我們來看看這個。

If you make a decision based on a milestone and your only reason is, I think I'm late, you're not going to feel in charge of your choices.

如果你是根據一個里程碑來做決定，而你唯一的理由是「我覺得我太慢了」，那你就不會感覺自己掌握了選擇權。

If your only thought is, I don't want to be left behind, you're not really in charge of your choices.

如果你的唯一想法是「我不想被落下」，那你並沒有真正掌握自己的選擇權。

If your only thought is, everyone's doing it, why am I not?

如果你唯一的想法是「大家都在做，為什麼我沒有？」

You're not in charge of your choices, which leads to bad decisions.

你就無法主導自己的選擇，這會導致錯誤的決定。

I always say to people it's better to be single and deal with the challenges that come with that in your mind and in your thoughts than the challenges of being with someone who's not right for you.

我總是告訴大家，與其和不適合你的人在一起面對挑戰，不如單身並在心裡和想法上處理隨之而來的挑戰。

It comes with so much more baggage, so much more stress.

這會帶來更多包袱，更多壓力。

So knowing you're in charge of your choices will change your life.

所以，知道自己掌握選擇權將會改變你的人生。

Now, people who felt pressured by the clock often reported anxiety, depression or dissatisfaction if they felt behind.

現在，那些感受到社會時鐘壓力的人，如果覺得自己落後，常會感到焦慮、憂鬱或不滿。

But those who redefined success on their own terms tended to have healthier mental well being.

但那些重新定義成功的人，則傾向於擁有更健康的心理健康。

而這就是它在今天如何發生的。

The social clock has loosened since the 1960s.

自從1960年代以來，社會時鐘已經鬆動了。

People marry later, they switch careers more often, they delay kids.

人們晚婚、更頻繁地轉換跑道、延後生子。

And we're going to talk about all of those things later on in this video.

在這支影片後面，我們會聊到所有這些事情。

But the pressure still exists and it's just amplified by social media.

但這種壓力依然存在，而且社群媒體更是放大了它。

The researcher's finding is more relevant than ever before.

這項研究發現比以往任何時候都更加重要。

If you detach your self worth from society's stopwatch, you actually increase your odds of life satisfaction.

如果你不再把自我價值與社會的計時器掛鉤，你其實會增加自己對生活滿意度的機會。

The research proves what we keep trying to avoid.

這項研究證明瞭我們一直試圖逃避的事情。

You're only late if you're living by someone else's watch.

只有當你活在別人的時間裡，你才算是遲到。

It's almost like you're living in New York, but

you're looking at someone who lives in Singapore and thinking you're behind.

卻看著住在新加坡的人，然後覺得自己落後了。

You couldn't possibly be on the same time as Singapore.

你不可能跟新加坡是同一個時間。

Is it weird that Australia celebrates New Year's before all of us?

澳洲比我們都早慶祝新年，這很奇怪嗎？

No, we're just following a different clock.

不，我們只是跟著不同的時鐘在走。

Stop believing everyone else's highlight reel.

別再相信別人光鮮亮麗的時刻了。

Stop chasing everyone else's definition of success.

Stop trying to reach everyone else's milestones.

別再試圖達成別人設定的里程碑了。

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