Name: 如何真正改變你的生活 (How To Actually Change Your Life.)
Uploaded: 2025-11-05T15:12:43.000Z
Duration: 19 min 23 s

過去進行式

I got a DM the other day from this kid and he was asking me, not really asking me, but

前幾天我收到一個小朋友的 DM，他問我，也不是問我，

過去簡單式

declaring that he felt lost and he had no direction in life.

而是說他覺得很迷惘，對人生沒有方向。

to 不定詞

He's 20 years old, he sees me, I seem to have a clear path of where I'm headed and he doesn't know what to do.

他 20 歲，他看到我，我好像有個明確的目標，他卻不知道該怎麼辦。

And it really got me thinking about a lot of things.

Let me be clear, when I was 20 years old, I had no idea what the I was doing either.

我說清楚一點，我 20 歲的時候，也不知道自己在幹嘛。

But it really got me thinking about a lot of avenues of.

但這真的讓我思考了很多方向。

You know, I've had a lot of conversations with people at events or DMs or whatever it may be of people saying things like this.

你知道，我在活動上或 DM 上，或是任何地方，跟很多人聊過，他們都說過這樣的話。

And I feel like every generation has had their fair share of challenges in the past.

我覺得每一代人過去都有他們各自的挑戰。

I feel like it was a little bit more physical, obvious ones like war, poverty, disease, crazy shit which I know still exists in the dark world currently.

我覺得那時候比較多是比較實際的，像是戰爭、貧窮、疾病，還有一些瘋狂的事情，我知道現在黑暗的世界裡這些都還存在。

But by and large I feel like America as a whole, on average, the younger generation, the problem isn't finding comfort in hard times, but

但總體來說，我覺得美國整體而言，平均來說，年輕一代的問題不是在艱難時期尋求慰藉，而是

in avoiding too much comfort and too much pleasure.

在避免過多的慰藉和過多的享樂。

And I feel like the odds are heavily stacked against the younger generation because I mean, first, first of all, there's billions and billions and billions of dollars of research going into how to make a phone, social media, anything highly, highly addictive.

我覺得年輕一代面臨的困難非常大，因為，首先，首先，有數十億、數十億、數十億美元的研究投入在如何讓手機、社群媒體，任何東西都變得非常、非常容易上癮。

And we're given that, giving kids, those at like 8 years old to have them in school, bring them around everywhere in their pocket.

而且我們還給了，給了八歲左右的孩子，讓他們在學校，隨身攜帶在口袋裡到處走。

Social media is creating these like crazy role models of like, do drugs, party look cool, chase after girls, do all this shit.

社群媒體正在創造這些像是瘋狂的角色模範，像是吸毒、開派對看起來很酷、追女生、做所有這些事情。

And it's like absolutely absurd in my opinion.

And I think the ability to abstain from doing the easy, pleasurable thing that's right in front of you.

我認為能夠剋制不去做眼前唾手可得的、愉悅的事情。

Picture a life that you can dream of, asking yourself if a better version of yourself exists, what that version yourself is picturing the plan to get there, and

想像一個你可以夢想的生活，問問自己是否有一個更好的自己存在，那個更好的自己正在描繪如何到達那裡的計畫，然後

actually starting and executing on that plan, I think is such a rare thing right now and so hard for people to stop and even think about, given how much constant distraction there is in their life.

實際開始並執行那個計畫，我認為現在這是一件非常罕見的事情，而且對於人們來說非常難停止甚至去思考，因為他們的生活中有太多持續不斷的幹擾。

And that's what made me want to ask this kid.

這就是為什麼我想問這個孩子。

I was like, do you believe a better version of yourself exists?

我當時想，你相信有更好的自己存在嗎？

But I really, this really got me thinking a lot about role models, like the idea of a role model and thinking about how when I was young I had everything so wrong and I didn't really have a role model in my life helping me don't get Me wrong.

但我真的，這讓我對榜樣這個概念思考了很多，回想我年輕時，我對一切都搞錯了，而且我生命中並沒有一個真正的榜樣來引導我。

he wasn't really, like, in my face, on my case, in my job, knowing what I was doing.

他並沒有真的在我眼前，管我，關心我的事，知道我在做什麼。

He wasn't close to my age or hadn't recently gone through anything I was going through.

他沒有跟我年紀相仿，也沒有最近經歷過我正在經歷的事情。

I thought it was cool to party, to not try in school, to do drugs, to chase after girls, to do all these things.

我覺得開派對、不用功讀書、吸毒、追女生、做這些事都很酷。

My friends literally thought it was cool to like.

我的朋友們真的覺得這樣很酷。

And it's funny because my brain is still kind of wired to be like, yeah, it's fun, you know, of course it is.

很有趣的是，我的腦袋還是有點習慣那樣想，覺得「對啊，這樣很有趣，當然是啊」。

And people probably listening, probably feel the same way.

But to, like, think of going out and drinking and chasing after girls with no, like, connection or value for who the person is.

但是，想想出去玩、喝酒、追女生，卻沒有任何連結或價值觀，去在意那個人是誰。

To not value your education when you're sitting there doing it.

在那裡學習的時候，卻不重視你的教育。

To be wasting my time with an education of which I didn't even know where it was leading me because I didn't think about what I wanted my future to be.

我在浪費時間唸書，但我甚至不知道它會帶我去哪裡，因為我從沒想過我想要的未來是什麼。

I was just following the path that was put in front of me.

我只是照著別人為我鋪好的路走。

To have all these things in front of me that I didn't have someone look at me being like, do you want to be, like, a better man?

眼前有這麼多東西，卻沒有人看著我說：「你想成為一個更好的人嗎？」

Because what I was doing was what boys do, you know, like, playing video games and chasing after girls, thinking it's cool to do all these things, rather than building meaningful relationships, working on my making myself a better, well rounded, more educated man to be prepared for taking care of a family and being the man that a woman that I respect would want to even be with.

因為我當時做的事情，就是男生會做的事，你知道嗎，像是玩電動、追女生，覺得做這些事很酷，而不是去建立有意義的關係，努力讓自己成為一個更優秀、更全面、更有學問的男人，為照顧家庭做好準備，成為一個我尊敬的女人願意在一起的男人。

You know, I didn't have anyone kind of in my face being like, what the fuck do you want to do with your life?

你知道，沒有人會在我面前逼問我：「你到底想對你的人生做什麼？」

You know, if you ask the average kid, do you want to be exceptional?

你知道，如果你問一般的小孩，你想變得傑出嗎？

Do you want to do something great with your life?

你想為你的人生做些偉大的事嗎？

But their actions very rarely align with it.

但他們的行動卻很少與之相符。

And I feel like I didn't have anyone and you don't need someone.

我覺得我沒有這樣的人，但你其實不需要有人。

The responsibility lies within yourself, ultimately always.

責任最終都掌握在你自己的手中。

But I do believe that, like, a role model could be a huge asset for pushing yourself to ask these hard questions.

但我相信，像是榜樣這類的角色，對於推動自己去問這些難題，會非常有幫助。

I mean, like, if you want to be exceptional, what you're doing right now is average or even below average.

我的意思是，如果你想變得傑出，你現在做的事情就是平均，甚至低於平均。

And if you want to continue to be average or below average your whole life, then continue doing this.

如果你想一輩子都保持平均或低於平均，那就繼續這樣做。

But you need to make a serious change and start doing hard shit and letting go of the easy Shit, the comfortable, pleasurable shit.

但你需要做出重大的改變，開始做困難的事情，放下那些輕鬆、舒適、愉快的爛事。

Abstain from that to make a better version of yourself.

戒掉那些，來讓自己變得更好。

I didn't have someone really asking me that.

And it's kind of a, it's kind of scary now that like social media because we don't have role models in a real life.

現在的社群媒體有點嚇人，因為我們生活中沒有榜樣。

now social media is such a vast array of like, who do we look up to, the one with the most followers.

而現在的社群媒體提供了這麼廣泛的選擇，我們該看誰呢？是那個追蹤者最多的人嗎？

你還年輕，就開始使用社群媒體。

If at that time the realm you fall into it is people who are promoting gambling, sex, drugs, and

如果你當時掉進了推廣賭博、性、毒品的圈子，

it sounds like trite to even say those words, but

people are literally like smoking weed, promoting gambling and talking about how to get girls, how to sleep with girls casually on social media.

人們真的就像在抽大麻、推廣賭博，還在社群媒體上聊怎麼把妹、怎麼隨便跟女生上床。

And I really think as a whole, all those things hurt men more than they benefit them.

我真的覺得整體來說，這些東西對男性的傷害遠大於益處。

It doesn't make you cool, it just kind of takes away from values, genuine real values in life.

這不會讓你變酷，只會讓你失去生活中真正寶貴的價值觀。

So essentially, try not to ramble too much.

所以基本上，盡量不要講太多廢話。

This kid asked me that question the many times I've been asked.

這個小孩問了我這個問題，我被問過很多次了。

It really got me just thinking about wanting to share that when I was young, I had no idea what the fuck I was doing and I didn't have a role model.

這真的讓我一直想分享，在我年輕的時候，我根本不知道自己在幹嘛，也沒有榜樣。

And falling into the wrong role model can get yourself into a bad position.

而陷入了錯誤的榜樣，可能會讓你陷入糟糕的處境。

But someone being able to ask you, what do you want with your life?

但如果有人能問你，你想要什麼樣的人生？

Do you believe a better version of yourself exists and take responsibility to take that in action?

你相信有更好的自己存在，並且願意為此付諸行動嗎？

And the reason that question to ask yourself is, do you believe a better version of yourself exists?

而問自己這個問題的原因是，你相信有更好的自己存在嗎？

Is because if you say yes, you are admitting that you have faith.

是因為如果你回答「是」，你就等於承認了自己有信心。

You have faith that a better version of yourself exists.

你有信心，相信有更好的自己存在。

And the only way to move forward in life is by starting and just taking action.

而人生中前進的唯一方法，就是開始行動。

There's no book or 12 step program or perfect way that it's an organizing.

沒有什麼書、十二步驟計畫或完美的組織方式。

And this sounds super trite to say, I know everyone knows that, but people still don't do it.

我知道這聽起來很老套，大家都知道，但還是很多人做不到。

But what you need for action, sometimes people are, what do I need for action?

但行動需要什麼，有時候大家會想，我需要什麼才能行動？

And if you believe a better version of yourself exists, then you already have faith.

如果你相信一個更好的自己存在，那你已經擁有信心了。

So as a young man speaking to most young men, you need to have faith a better version of yourself exists.

所以，以一個年輕人對大多數年輕人的身分來說，你需要相信一個更好的自己存在。

You need to take responsibility for your own life into your own hands.

你需要親手為自己的人生負起責任。

Most likely you're not going to have a role model following you, telling you what to do, asking you these hard questions and pushing you in the right direction.

很可能不會有個人在你身邊，告訴你該做什麼，問你這些難題，並把你推向正確的方向。

所以，你他媽的要從哪裡開始？

Look in your life, see the things that are easy that everybody is doing, what, what in your life is like, calls towards you, that you can just feel as a vice when you're checking your phone all the time, playing video games, eating shitty food, doing things.

看看你的人生，看看那些容易做、大家都在做的事，你的人生中有什麼事物在召喚你，讓你感覺到，就像你一直滑手機、玩電動、吃垃圾食物、做那些事情時，那種沉迷的感覺一樣。

What calls to you that makes you want to do that?

什麼事物在召喚你，讓你想要去做？

Everyone else is also called to and avoid those things.

其他人也被召喚，並且避開那些事物。

And just by avoiding those things, you are already going to be ahead of everyone else who stuck into those things.

而光是避開那些事物，你已經會比那些沉迷於事物的人們領先了。

And then being able to sit down and clearly define the values that are important to you.

然後就能夠坐下來，清楚地定義對你來說重要的價值觀。

You can start with like an ideal person that you want to be defining those values.

你可以從像是你想要成為的理想人物開始，定義那些價值觀。

Like if you say you're going to do something, do it.

就像你說要做某件事，就去做。

You're not going to succumb to the easy pleasures.

You're going to value delayed gratification over easy gratification.

你會重視延遲滿足勝過輕鬆的滿足。

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