Name: 面對感情與離別，我們該怎麼辦？心理師回覆聽眾的真誠提問 (Love, Friendship, and Letting Go: A Therapist Answers Listeners’ Questions)
Uploaded: 2025-09-05T21:01:30.000Z
Duration: 8 min 42 s

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Friendship breakups are as hard or harder than romantic partner relationship breakups.

朋友關係的破裂和戀愛關係的破裂一樣難，甚至更難。

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Because many times our friends have had an access to us that we have not allowed anyone else.

因為很多時候，我們的朋友能接觸到我們，而我們卻不允許其他人接觸到我們。

Hey, y'all. I'm Samantha, a therapist here at Headspace.

大家好。我是薩曼莎，Headspace 的治療師。

And this is Ask a Therapist, a series where I'm going to be answering some questions submitted by you all and our members to see if I can provide a little bit of guidance for those who might need it.

這是 "問治療師 "系列，我將回答大家和會員們提出的一些問題，看看能否為需要的人提供一點指導。

This question comes from Trish, and it's on relationships.

這個問題來自 Trish，是關於人際關係的。

Hi, my name is Trish, and my question is, is it necessary to have a relationship in order to have a fulfilled life?

你好，我叫 Trish，我的問題是，為了擁有充實的人生，有必要談戀愛嗎？

I'm 26 female, and I have never been in a relationship.

經常是在我被朋友包圍的時候、

I feel left out, and I cannot relate to them.

我覺得自己被冷落了，無法與他們產生共鳴。

Even though I'm pretty successful in my life,

I sometimes feel it would be nice to have someone to share my life with.

我有時覺得，如果能有一個人與我分享生活就好了。

I want to healthily approach this, but at the same time too afraid to make the wrong decisions.

我想健康地對待這件事，但同時又害怕做出錯誤的決定。

My previous dating experiences have left me ghosted, or there's always some communication gap.

我以前的約會經歷都是被鬼魂纏身，或者總是有一些溝通上的隔閡。

I wanted to do better and wanted some advice.

我想做得更好，希望得到一些建議。

For all that you have done, for who you are for your friends, and the relationships that you are in.

為了你所做的一切，為了你的朋友，為了你所處的關係。

Relationships are hard, especially when we become adults.

人際關係很難處理，尤其是當我們長大成人之後。

Trying to build relationships and explore vulnerability and intimacy, it all gets tricky, especially in a world where sometimes surface level is the norm.

試圖建立關係，探索脆弱和親密，這一切都會變得棘手，尤其是在一個有時表面化是常態的世界裡。

And you might be a person that prefers to go deeper with people.

而你可能是一個喜歡與人深入交往的人。

I know you mentioned in your question that you said you're too afraid to make the wrong decisions.

我知道你在問題中提到，你說你害怕做出錯誤的決定。

Explore, be on an adventure with yourself.

And that opens up the door to new people coming in, new opportunities, relationships and intimacy comes in many, many, many, many, many, many forms.

這就打開了一扇門，讓新的人進來，新的機會、關係和親密關係以許多許多的形式出現。

這可能是一種浪漫的夥伴關係。

It might be all the things, but it starts with you being you and exploring so much about you and opening yourself up to what the world has to offer.

這可能是所有的事情，但它始於你做你自己，探索關於你的一切，向世界敞開你的心扉。

And I hope that you give yourself permission to do that.

It's also important to remember that you can hold two things at one time.

同樣重要的是要記住，你可以同時持有兩樣東西。

You can yearn for an intimate relationship while also really enjoying yourself, being solo, enjoying your alone time, enjoying the adventure of learning more about you.

你可以在渴望親密關係的同時真正享受自己，享受獨處，享受獨處的時光，享受更多瞭解自己的冒險。

So when that intimate relationship comes into your life, you are greeting them as a whole person who's fully aware of what they want out of life, what is important to them, your own value system, so that you're able to truly connect with someone, let them know the things that you like, let them learn you and be curious about you.

當親密關係出現在你的生活中時，你要以一個完整的人的身份去迎接他們，充分了解他們想要的生活、對他們來說重要的東西、你自己的價值體系，這樣你才能真正與對方建立聯繫，讓他們知道你喜歡的東西，讓他們瞭解你，對你充滿好奇。

My hope is that you open yourself up to the adventure that you have access to.

我希望你能敞開心扉，迎接你能接觸到的冒險。

I'm excited for you and I'm also just really proud of you.

我為你感到興奮，也為你感到驕傲。

And I appreciate you for sending in this question because it is really hard to have this conversation with people.

我很感謝你提出這個問題，因為與人進行這樣的對話真的很難。

So I hope that this was helpful in answering your question.

希望這對回答你的問題有所幫助。

So our next question is from Lindsey and we're gonna be talking about navigating friendships.

下一個問題來自林賽，我們將討論如何建立友誼。

I had to break up with a friend of over 20 years when I was going through infertility.

在我經歷不孕不育時，我不得不與一位交往了 20 多年的朋友分手。

She was callous and ignorant about the IVF process and then she herself got pregnant naturally and was again, completely inconsiderate of what I was going through.

她對試管嬰兒過程冷漠無知，後來她自己自然懷孕了，卻又完全不體諒我的遭遇。

This was three years ago and it still haunts me because not only did I lose her,

那是三年前的事了，至今仍讓我耿耿於懷，因為我不僅失去了她、

I lost two other friends in our group who sided with her.

我失去了我們小組中另外兩個站在她一邊的朋友。

我怎樣才能走出這深深的傷痛？

Well, Lindsey, thank you so much for writing in and my heart goes to you about your own journey and what you have experienced.

林賽，非常感謝你的來信，我對你的心路歷程和經歷深表同情。

Friendship breakups are as hard or harder than romantic partner relationship breakups because many times our friends have had an access to us that we have not allowed anyone else.

友情分手和戀愛分手一樣難，甚至比戀愛分手更難，因為很多時候，我們的朋友能接觸到我們，而我們卻不允許其他人接觸到我們。

They've held our hands through some really horrible things.

他們牽著我們的手，經歷了一些非常可怕的事情。

They have really been there for the most exciting and joyous moments of our lives and then when that comes to an end, it is so, so, so, so hard.

在我們生命中最激動人心、最快樂的時刻，他們確實一直陪伴著我們，而當這一切結束時，卻又是如此、如此、如此、如此艱難。

There's also a grief that comes with it, like in that breakup and it's okay to name that as grief.

悲傷也會隨之而來，就像失戀一樣，把它稱為悲傷也是可以的。

It's hurt because you've been hurt and someone harmed you but there is a grief process that you'll have to go through and the support that you need could range from connecting with your friends that you have now and truly diving into those relationships and you will need time to grieve what was in order to allow something else to come into your life.

你受傷了，因為你受到了傷害，有人傷害了你，但你必須經歷一個悲傷的過程，你需要的支持可能包括與你現在的朋友建立聯繫，並真正投入到這些關係中，你需要時間來哀悼過去，以便讓其他東西進入你的生活。

When you have a hurt that deep, in addition to what you are already experiencing with IVF, there may be a need to talk with someone else, a therapist, a coach.

除了試管嬰兒已經給你帶來的傷害之外，當你還受到如此深的傷害時，你可能需要與其他人、治療師或教練進行交流。

You can always reach out to a therapist or coach on our Headspace app platform but if that's necessary, then do what needs to be done so that you can start to heal yourself from what is there.

你可以隨時聯繫我們 Headspace 應用程序平臺上的治療師或教練，但如果有必要，那就做該做的事，這樣你就能開始治癒自己的創傷。

Another thought that came to mind was what forgiveness looks like in real time.

我想到的另一個問題是，寬恕在現實中是什麼樣子的。

We often hear people say, you should just forgive them and move on.

我們經常聽到有人說，你應該原諒他們，然後繼續生活。

First of all, no and I don't ever wanna talk to her again but forgiveness is not about the other person.

首先，我不想再和她說話，但原諒不是為了對方。

Forgiveness is about liberating yourself from anger that is no longer serving you or from accusations that are no longer serving you to even dwell on, like really, really thinking about what do you need to forgive from the other person and also, there has to be a willingness to explore within yourself.

寬恕就是要把自己從憤怒中解放出來，因為憤怒已經不再對你有幫助，或者從指責中解放出來，因為指責已經不再對你有幫助，你甚至不再糾纏於此，就像真正地、真正地思考你需要從對方那裡寬恕什麼，同時，你必須願意探索自己的內心。

Do you need to forgive yourself for some things that you might have contributed to in this relationship breakup?

你是否需要原諒自己在這段感情破裂中可能造成的一些事情？

I'm not saying that you did but sometimes that exists and in order for us to truly, truly move past and move forward, we gotta set ourselves free or else you won't be chained to the relationship.

我並不是說你做了什麼，但有時這種情況是存在的，為了讓我們真正、真正地走出過去，向前邁進，我們必須讓自己獲得自由，否則你就不會被這段關係所束縛。

You chained to the hurt and that's just gonna be a no for me.

你被傷害了，這對我來說就是拒絕。

不，不，不，不，不，不，不。

There's still so much more life to live, so many relationships to build and it is unfair to the people that are coming into your life to bring that baggage.

你還有很多生活要過，很多關係要建立，如果把這些包袱帶給即將進入你生活的人，這對他們是不公平的。

So you have to make a decision how you wanna leave it, what work you need to do to leave it, all of those things but I believe that you can do that.

你必須做出決定，你想如何離開它，你需要做什麼工作才能離開它，所有這些事情，但我相信你能做到。

I hope that this has been really helpful and I really appreciate you for reaching out to us and asking this question.

我希望這對你有所幫助，也非常感謝你向我們提出這個問題。

If you're looking for additional resources, feel free to check out our collection in the app with Nedra Tawwab where she dives into setting boundaries and navigating relationships.

如果你正在尋找其他資源，請隨時查看我們與 Nedra Tawwab 在應用程序中的合集，她在其中深入探討了如何設定界限和處理人際關係。

And if you have any questions you'd like to submit for a future episode of Ask a Therapist, please reach out,

如果你有任何問題想提交給未來的 "問治療師 "節目，請聯繫我們、