Name: 如果有人侮辱你，就這樣回敬他！ (If someone insults you say this)
Uploaded: 2025-08-09T15:07:22.000Z
Duration: 2 min 4 s

Have you ever been insulted and you didn't know what to say?

你是否曾經被人侮辱，卻不知道該說什麼？

Well, I'm all about reducing conflict and the best way to reduce conflict is to have the right words, have the right tools in your toolkit the next time someone says something that derogatory to you or says something that in your gut feels like it was wrong.

減少衝突的最好辦法就是在下一次有人對你說了貶損的話，或者說了你直覺上覺得不對的話時，用正確的語言、正確的工具來表達。

The next time someone says something to you that is an insult, here's exactly what you say.

下次再有人對你說侮辱性的話時，你就這麼說。

You look at them and with a very calm tone of voice and an inquisitive tone of voice say,

你看著他們，用非常平靜的語氣和探究的口吻：

"That sounded like an insult. Was that your intent?"

「這聽起來像是一種侮辱。這是你的本意嗎？」

Or "That sounded like a dig. Was that your intent?"

或者「聽起來像是在挖苦我。這是你的本意嗎？ 」

Or "That sounded sarcastic. Was that your intent?"

或者「聽起來很諷刺。這是你的本意嗎？ 」

And it's really important that you divest emotionally when you're having a conversation with someone like this because it could be a misunderstanding.

當你和這樣的人談話時，一定要從情感上剝離，因為這可能是個誤會。

It could be that they are really trying to insult you or they really are trying to be sarcastic.

這可能是他們真的想侮辱你，也可能是他們真的想諷刺你。

So get clarity before you respond because what most mostly what happens when you get insulted, you get defensive and then you say something back and then that escalates unnecessarily.

在回應之前要先弄清楚，因為大多數情況下，當你受到侮辱時，你會產生防衛心理，然後你會回擊對方，這樣就會造成不必要的升級。

So the next time someone insults you, don't get defensive.

所以，下次再有人侮辱你時，千萬不要辯解。

Just take a step back, take a beat, take a breath and then simply ask a question and come from a place of inquiry.

退一步、慢一拍、深呼吸，然後簡單地提出問題，從探究的角度出發。

It sounds like an insult. Was that your intent?

這聽起來像是一種侮辱。這是你的本意嗎？

That sounded sarcastic. Was that your intent?

這聽起來很諷刺。這是你的本意嗎？

That sounded like a dig. Was that your intent?

聽起來像是在挖苦我。這是你的本意嗎？

選擇一個，然後看看會發生什麼。

Then you buy yourself some time so you can think about how you're going to respond to what they say next.

然後，你就可以為自己爭取一些時間，思考如何回應他們接下來的話。

But the ultimate goal is that they know that they can't talk to you in that tone of voice or with those words again because you have set a boundary.

但最終目的是讓他們知道，他們不能再用那種語氣或那些話跟你說話，因為你已經設置了界限。

Happy Formal Friday everybody and I hope you don't have to use these tools, but if you do, they're ready for you.

祝大家正式星期五快樂，我希望你不需要使用這些工具，但如果你需要，它們已經為你準備好了。