Name: 想要女性朋友？研究稱，穿得像個假小子，她們就不會感到威脅 (Want female friends? Dress like a tomboy so they don't feel threatened, says study)
Uploaded: 2025-07-17T08:21:51.000Z
Duration: 3 min 31 s

Hey, Bestie, why are you dressed like Carl?

嘿，閨蜜，你怎麼穿得跟卡爾一樣？

Oh, well I'm gonna go see my male bestie and meet his new girlfriend.

哦，好吧，我要去看看我的男閨蜜，見見他的新女友。

不，閨蜜，但如果我願意，我也可以。

Now, I'm dressed like a tomboy because research shows that women who prefer male friends are often perceived by other women as being less trustworthy, more sexually promiscuous, and as representing a greater threat to romantic relationships.

現在，我穿得像個假小子，因為研究表明，喜歡男性朋友的女性往往會被其他女性認為不值得信任、性生活更放蕩，而且對戀愛關係構成更大的威脅。

Oh, so is this to make her feel more comfortable with you?

哦，是為了讓她覺得和你在一起更舒服嗎？

The author did a follow-up study that showed that said woman's gender expression or how she dresses will affect those perceptions.

作者做了一項後續研究，結果表明，女性的性別表達或著裝方式會影響這些看法。

So if you dress more masculine, you're seen as more trustworthy?

所以，如果你穿得更男性化，就會被認為更值得信賴？

Oh, okay, and then if she assumes you're not interested in men, she feels less of a need to guard her partner.

哦，好吧，如果她認為你對男人不感興趣，她就不會覺得有必要保護自己的伴侶了。

I'll also be talking like Carl because past research has found that when women exhibit more masculine biological characteristics, like a lower voice pitch, they're seen as less of a mating threat than women who exhibited more feminine biological characteristics, like a higher voice pitch.

我也會像卡爾那樣說話，因為過去的研究發現，當女性表現出更男性化的生理特徵（比如音調較低等）時，她們被視為交配威脅的程度要低於表現出更女性化的生理特徵（比如音調較高等）的女性。

Well, don't you think this is kind of like, this is kind of ridiculous, right?

Like, why do you have to pander to her insecurity?

比如，你為什麼要迎合她的不安全感？

There's several studies that support her distrust.

Like, did you know, half of heterosexual college students admit to having engaged in a sexual activity with a cross-sex friend, or have at least thought about it.

比如，你知道嗎，一半的異性戀大學生承認曾與異性朋友發生過性行為，或者至少有過這種想法。

Okay, yeah, I mean, I guess I've had friends with benefits.

好吧，是的，我的意思是，我想我有朋友的好處。

One study found that when men were given budgets to create their ideal opposite sex friend, they invested more in physical attractiveness than did women, providing additional evidence that men may view cross-sex friendships as avenues for potential mating opportunities.

一項研究發現，當男性有預算來創造自己理想中的異性朋友時，他們比女性更看重外貌吸引力，這進一步證明男性可能將異性友誼視為獲得潛在交配機會的途徑。

我們當中有誰沒有做過熱模擬？

And given the predictive nature of friendships turning into romantic relationships, and in some cases, male partners leaving the romantic partner for a female friend, it's unsurprising that women are typically wary of other women who prefer to have male friendships, which unfortunately offers us an explanation as to why these women are, like, facing aggression and ostracization from their female peers.

鑑於友誼轉化為浪漫關係的預測性，以及在某些情況下，男性伴侶為了女性朋友而離開浪漫伴侶的預測性，女性通常對其他喜歡擁有男性友誼的女性保持警惕也就不足為奇了，這不幸為我們提供了一個解釋，為什麼這些女性會面臨來自女性同齡人的攻擊和排斥。

Okay, okay, well then, you know what, I'm glad that you're putting in such an effort to make her feel comfortable with your friendship.

好吧，好吧，那你知道嗎，我很高興你這麼努力地讓她對你們的友誼感到舒服。

現在，你的女孩要去吃早午餐了。

Don't do that, or else your guy friend is gonna think you're the threat.

別這樣做，否則你的男性朋友會認為你是個威脅。

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作為公眾眼中的女性，我不得不面對跟蹤者出現在我家、在網上被誹謗，以及不斷有人試圖黑進我的 iCloud。

And unfortunately, we live in a world where data brokers collect and aggregate and sell our personal information.

不幸的是，在我們生活的世界裡，數據經紀人收集、彙總並出售我們的個人信息。

So our names, social security numbers, even our addresses, all of it can be published against our knowledge or consent.

是以，我們的姓名、社會保險號碼，甚至我們的地址，都可能在我們不知情或未經我們同意的情況下被公佈。

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是以，我使用 Incogni 來確保我的隱私不被洩露。

And unfortunately, since my family has been a victim of these stalkers, I use the family and friends plan with Incogni so their sensitive information can be removed from the internet as well.

不幸的是，我的家人也是這些跟蹤者的受害者，是以我使用了 Incogni 的親友計劃，這樣他們的敏感資訊也可以從互聯網上刪除。

And look, yeah, I am on the extreme end of the spectrum when it comes to privacy violations, but your data can be out there and sold and lead to things like identity theft.

聽著，是的，說到侵犯隱私，我是站在極端的一端，但你的數據可能會被公開和出售，並導致身份盜竊等事件。

So these days, I am so proactive about protecting my privacy, protecting my information, and of course, protecting myself and my family.

是以，如今我非常積極地保護我的隱私、保護我的資訊，當然還有保護我自己和我的家人。

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Hopefully, you're never stalked or doxed, but at the very least, you can be proactive and protected.

希望你永遠不會被跟蹤或誹謗，但至少，你可以積極主動地保護自己。