Name: 「臨終的你會想對你說什麼？」| Lauren Deeley | TED (What Would Your “Deathbed Self” Tell You Today? | Lauren Deeley | TED)
Uploaded: 2026-03-27T21:40:20.000Z
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I want you to imagine yourself on your deathbed, but you're smiling.

我希望你想像一下自己躺在臨終的床上，但你臉上帶著笑容。

你的靈魂雖然筋疲力盡，但卻感到很充實。

Everything in my life that I'm most proud of, I can attribute to conversations that I've had with someone very important to me.

我一生中最驕傲的一切，都可以歸因於我與一位對我非常重要的人的對話。

I have this deep, crystal-clear relationship with my future deathbed self.

我和未來的臨終自我之間，有著一種深刻、清晰的關係。

She has deep smile lines from a lifetime spent laughing, leathery skin from spending so much time outside, long gray hair,

她臉上刻滿了因一生歡笑而留下的笑容紋，長期戶外活動讓皮膚變得粗糙，頭髮也灰白了，

and before you think I'm crazy for talking to my deathbed self, there's actual research to back up this approach to making big, bold decisions.

在你覺得我跟臨終的自己對話很瘋狂之前，其實有實際的研究支持這種做出重大、大膽決定的方法。

Hal Hershfield, the UCLA psychologist and professor, has shown that our brains actually treat our future selves as a completely separate person from our today's self,

UCLA 的心理學家兼教授 Hal Hershfield 證明瞭，我們的大腦其實會把未來的自己視為一個跟今日的自我完全不同的人，

and this can make it really hard to make decisions that benefit our long-term well-being.

這會讓我們很難做出對長期福祉有益的決定。

And his research also showed that when we can stay connected to our future selves, we often lead more fulfilling lives.

他的研究也顯示，當我們能與未來的自己保持連結時，我們往往能過著更充實的生活。

So for me, Deathbed Deeley isn't another person.

所以對我來說，臨終的 Deeley 不是另一個人。

And our conversations have led me on a wild path that so far has taken me to a career where I get to help other people talk to their own deathbed selves.

而我們的對話帶領我走上了一條狂野的道路，到目前為止，我是以擁有了一份能幫助其他人與他們自己的臨終自我對話的事業。

而且，我不是那種深夜電視上的靈媒。

I work in financial planning and wealth management.

But hear me out: my career is about so much more than just managing your money.

但聽我說：我的工作不只是管理你的金錢。

It's about helping you envision your future self to get to know him or her or them,

而是幫助你想像未來的自己，去認識他、她或他們，

and then be their advocate so that today you can go make big, bold decisions.

然後成為他們的後盾，讓你今天就能做出重大、大膽的決定。

The first time I met Deathbed Deeley, I was 22 years old,

我第一次遇見臨終的 Deeley 時，我才 22 歲，

and I had this insane opportunity to take all my meager savings and buy a hostel in San Jose, Costa Rica.

我有個瘋狂的機會，能把我微薄的積蓄全部拿去買哥斯大黎加聖荷西的一間青年旅館。

Now, there are about a thousand what-ifs and what can go wrong with a decision like this, so with the sellers on the phone, like an actual corded phone, I sat on a bed, closed my eyes,

像這樣的決定，大概有一千種「如果」和「可能會出錯」的情況，所以當時我和賣家通電話，是真的有線電話喔，我坐在床上，閉上眼睛，

and I asked myself, "What would my future self think?" And then I saw her: laugh lines, gray hair, aspen trees out the window.

然後我問自己：「我未來的臨終自我會怎麼想？」接著我看到了她：笑容紋、灰白的頭髮，窗外有著白楊樹。

and there was this look of deep disappointment on Deathbed Deeley's face.

而臨終的 Deeley 臉上露出了深深的失望。

She got this wry little smile, and this sense of deep, powerful, calm energy filled my body.

她露出了一抹狡黠的微笑，一股深刻、強大、平靜的能量充滿了我的身體。

The choice was clear: I was buying a hostel.

選擇很明確：我要買下這間青年旅館。

Now, fast forward: a few years ago, I got a call from two friends of a great client.

現在，快轉到幾年前，我接到一位重要客戶的兩位朋友的電話。

To protect their privacy, we'll call them Alex and Avery.

為了保護他們的隱私，我們稱他們為 Alex 和 Avery。

Alex and Avery had just experienced the sudden passing of a dear friend just hours after they'd been skiing together.

Alex 和 Avery 在和一位摯友一起滑雪的幾個小時後，剛經歷了這位摯友的突然離世。

And this awakened something in them that they had known for quite some time: the typical plan of work until 65, then retire, then finally live was wrong for them.

這件事在他們心裡喚醒了一些他們早就知道的事：那種工作到65歲、退休、然後才開始享受人生的典型計畫，對他們來說是錯的。

What they wanted was to work until age 55, take a 10-year pre-retirement, spending time with the people they love, doing the things that they love, then they'd go back to the workforce at age 65 in novel, low-stress jobs.

他們想要的是工作到55歲，然後有10年的退休預備期，陪伴他們所愛的人，做他們喜歡的事，然後在65歲時，以新穎、低壓力的工作回到職場。

So we sat down, we put a plan in place that was personalized to them.

於是我們坐下來，為他們量身打造了一個計畫。

And what I can tell you is that as they're moving towards this goal, they are experiencing more joy, more spaciousness, because they're on a path that's right for their future selves.

我可以告訴你的是，當他們朝著這個目標邁進時，他們體驗到更多的喜悅、更多的空間，因為他們走在對的道路上，為未來的自己而活。

Now, back in the pandemic, I got a call from one of my favorite people in the whole world.

現在，回到疫情期間，我接到了一位我非常喜歡的人的電話。

Lil's life had just fallen apart, her words.

Lil 說，她的人生剛經歷了崩解。

She'd been living in Vermont, teaching art, when suddenly the world shut down and her mother passed away.

她住在佛蒙特州教藝術，突然間世界停擺，她的母親也過世了。

So she goes out to the West Coast to visit some friends.

於是她去了西岸拜訪一些朋友。

She stops into a little shop that she'd known for years.

她走進一家她認識多年的小店。

The shop owner was also struggling, pandemic, and offered Lil the chance to take over the business.

店主也同樣在疫情中掙扎，並給了 Lil 接手生意的機會。

Now, for most people, buying a retail business in the middle of a global shutdown would be a hard no.

對大多數人來說，在疫情封鎖期間購買零售生意，絕對是個不可能的決定。

She had no plan, no idea how it would work out, no business experience,

她沒有計畫，不知道會如何發展，也沒有生意經驗，

but when she got quiet and thought about her future, it was an immediate hell yes.

但當她靜下心來思考未來時，內心有個強烈的「好！」

We mapped out the cash flow needs, the runway, the safety net, the investment plan we'd leg into as the business started to succeed, and

我們規劃了現金流需求、緩衝期、安全網，以及隨著生意成功而逐步投入的投資計畫，

now, five years later, I can tell you, the shop is thriving.

現在，五年過去了，我可以告訴你，這家店生意興隆。

From that moment in the pandemic, Lil's life has exploded in abundance, in ways that I don't think either of us could have imagined, all because she followed that one clear yes from her future self.

從疫情那個時刻開始，Lil 的生活充滿了意想不到的豐盛，這是我倆都沒想到的，全是因為她聽從了來自未來自我的那個清晰的肯定。

Now, I believe the purpose of life is to be able to get to the end and look back and say, "Damn, I lived that one." Yeah, my people are like right here.

現在，我相信人生的目的就是能夠走到生命的盡頭，回顧一生並說：「幹，我活過了！」沒錯，我的人就在這裡。

And that starts with having better conversations.

Go find a financial partner who will meet you where you're at, ask better questions, listen, who will help you get to know your future self and be their advocate.

去找一個能理解你現況的財務夥伴，問更好的問題，傾聽，他會幫助你認識未來的自己，並為他們發聲。

And most importantly, go talk to your deathbed selves.

最重要的是，去跟你的臨終自我對話。

Our deathbed selves are so attuned to our core values that when we really take the time to envision and relate to who we will be in that moment, when the veil between this life and the next gets thin, we act according to what really matters to our soul.

我們的臨終自我非常瞭解我們最核心的價值觀，當我們真正花時間去想像並連結到那個時刻的自己，當今生與來世的帷幕變得稀薄時，我們就會根據真正重要的事來行動，以安撫我們的靈魂。

And when we make decisions with that framework, we will all have the joy of looking back on our lives exhausted, smiling, and

當我們用這個框架來做決定時，我們都會帶著筋疲力盡、帶著笑容回顧我們的一生，並